Firstly, I am venting, so don't feel that you have to give advice or make a comment. I just need to get my thoughts and feelings out.
Okay, I just found out last night that depending on when Gumdrop decides to arrive, that DH will not be able to be around for the weeks after the birth. If it comes TOO late, well then he may miss the birth itself.
His bloody work is looking to send him away for about 10 days - probably to London. Unavoidable. Yes, they know that I''m about to pop..........
I was induced at 41 weeks with DD, and wanted to avoid induction with this one, as I wanted to experience a natural labour, but this has really thrown a spanner in the works. A week ago I was quite calm about the possibility of going even 2 weeks over, as I really didn't want to be induced. Now I am stressing that my only real support won't be here.
I have an OB appointment tomorrow and I think that I am goin to have to ask him to book me in for an induction next week. Bugger!!!!! I just then have to hope that something happens naturally in the next week.
All day I have been weighing up what is more important to me, the natural labour or having the support of my husband through the birth and subsequent weeks. All our family and friends live interstate except for my parents, and they will be looking after DD. We have no one else to look after DD, mum doesn't drive.....there are so many factors that make me think that I am going to have to discuss induction. BUGGER!!!!! BUGGER!!!! BUGGER!!!!!
Oh you poor thing, can he refuse to go? Having had 2 inductions and a natural I would prefer natural but if it was a choice between having DH there or not I would go the induction any day. I would rather have my DH there both for my support and to bond with bubs.
Good luck whatever you decide.
A friend of mine went through a similar thing. Her DH works offshore on oil riggs, and he missed the birth of his first DD. She had asked her OB to induce, but he wouldn't unfortunately. I hope if you choose to be induced, that your OB allows you too. But I'll keep my fingers crossed that gumdrop (cute name btw!) comes early for you.
Life can be so cruel sometimes! What a decision. I know whatever choice you make, it will be the best one for you at the time. *hugs* and I hope that Gumdrop comes naturally before your DH goes away. That would be the ideal scenario. Maybe try some natural induction methods to see if you can't kick it along?
Krist, I'm sorry to hear what you have to put up with especially when you're almost there. I hope that you will go into labour before you DH goes away, that way will work for everyone. It's really inconsiderate of your DH's work to send him away knowing that you are around the corner for a newcomer! I hope everything works out in the end for you...Hugs
Kirst, I'm in a similar situation with my DH being sent away (shorter trip) near the end of my PG, however there is absolutely nothing my DH can do about it as he is in the military and can be locked up in military prison for non-complying.
However, I'm not so sure that the same rules govern civilian life. Unless it's the case that your DH really *wants* to go on this trip (for career, for opportunity, etc) I would recommend you obtain a medical cert stating he is needed at home as a carer for you and see if he can wriggle his way out of the trip.
Good luck with whatever happens.
Last edited by AnyDream; August 12th, 2007 at 09:08 AM.
DH may not be here!!!!
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