I've got eight weeks left of pregnancy, and I'm getting a lot of comments about, "oooh, you must be so excited about meeting your new baby soon". And yes it will be nice but I'm really not that excited about it yet. I swear, dh is cluckier than I am. I held my new nephew a couple of weeks ago for a little while and I didn't really want to be holding him, it actually freaked me out a bit. The whole baby thing is leaving me a bit "meh" at the moment.
I'm in no hurry for this baby to get here. I love him to bits, the wee little squirmer in there, and he delights me daily - but I am just not that impatient to get him out. I guess I know what's waiting for me "on the other side" and this was a very unplanned pregnancy.
It's not that I don't want him or don't feel bonded - but I am a bit nervous that maybe I'm *not* as bonded as I would normally be at this stage.
I do remember with dd4 having a scan at 32 weeks because of a low placenta and falling madly in love with her face and getting more and more excited. I have a scan on Friday for the same reason and I'm sort of hoping those magical maternal feelings surface.
I thought at first this was just me being all grown up and patient and relaxed about stuff but now I'm beginning to worry a bit that I'm not feeling the "right" things... Maybe I need to get more uncomfortable to get a bit more eager to meet him!
I still have ages to go, but at the moment while I love my bump and feeling the kicks, the idea of actually having a newborn in the house scares the crap out of me! Maybe it will get better as time goes on, I'm not sure, but I don't really have the first idea what to do with a little baby, and keep imagining not holding it's head correctly and horrible things happening... At the moment I'm just trying not to think about "bringing baby home" and hoping those motherly instincts will kick in later on.
it is completley normal to have a rush of emotions running through u. I was the same.. one day i was like "yay!" the next im like "uh oh".
Being a mum is one of the hardest jobs you will ever do in life but the most rewarding. If you dont bond straight away, thats fine... just remember, its normal.
there is no "right" or wrong way to feel about having a baby.
Mayb sit down and work out y this pregnancy feels so different? Are you worried about finances?? Or worried about the every hour wake up?? or that you might not have enough time for your other kids???
U can always come in here and talk to us or even your midwife, thats what we are here for.
Try and enjoy the last 2 months of your pregnancy xoxox
Toomany, maybe it is just that you have so much on your plate? It can be hard to anticipate excitedly the arrival of more work! (Sorry, that sounds dreadful - of course you are going to love and bond with your baby, but given you've BTDT a few times already, you are more prepared than most for how much time and energy a new baby takes.) Plus, being in your final weeks, you must be really tired.
I would say that even if the mummy-joy doesn't kick in when you see bubs at the scan, then it will once you have him in your arms.
Snacks, I think that is just it - I know how much work I'm in for and I'm already exhausted. I keep looking at my trashed house (I can't bend over to pick things up or vacuum) and wonder how on earth I'm going to cope with being a SAHM with all this mess. At least now I get to walk out in the morning and go to work and leave it all to dh Of course, once I'm not pregnant I'll be able to pick things up again!
Hollye, I *am* worried about meeting the emotional needs of another human being, I must admit. I "only" have four kids living at home at the moment, with the eldest having just moved out, but it is already difficult finding time to give them all. Once I'm not working full time, I'm sure it will be easier. Finances, schminances, really - we'll be broke, but I don't really care. (Easy to say now I guess.)
Ss-storm, your post made me laugh, in a good way, because I so remember that feeling. I still don't know how #1 survived - I'd never even held a baby before I had her. I had no idea how to get a singlet over her head for months LOL.
Hunny, wait til you have a little boy!!
Changing nappies was my biggest challenge!! You have to move things around
Once he's here you will be the same as after every one of your other babies. You won't be able to imagine life without him
You have alot going on atm & I really don't think you've had a chance to get excited! You'll get there!
I'm just not that into it. Yet.
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Of course, once I'm not pregnant I'll be able to pick things up again! 
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