Overdue and over it!

[Powelly]

Hi There,

I'm currently one day over due with my second and I know it sounds rediculous, but I'm losing my mind! My DS was born 9 days early, a fantastic labour and a nice surprise. The last four weeks of this pregnancy have really sucked and I'm starting to feel anxious and really quite down that it's still dragging on. I'm petrified it's going to go on for day after day until someone tells me I need to be induced.

I keep asking myself, what is really wrong??? I'm petrified about losing the baby, I know how much can go wrong towards the end and I just need him to get here safe. I feel so dizzy, tired and heavy and am not sleeping well as my mind just won't shut off or I need to pee or I feel sick. Every little twinge of pain is over-analyzed and I'm basically driving myself insane :-(

Anyone else feel this way? How do you let it go and just go with the flow? I have my next appt on Wednesday but even that feels too far away. Sorry, just struggling with this one.

[Beach Mama]

hun, I went 11 days over with DD and was induced and then with DS we were trying for a VBAC and he was 14 days over. It was a long wait. Those 14 days seemed to drag longer than the rest of the pregnancy but I kept telling myself that.....babies know when to come out..... No woman has ever been pregnant forever... I was allowing DS to choose his own birthday. All those mantras helped!
As for "needing" to be induced I would be asking exactly why especially if it is at 9-10 days over, as hard as it is waiting you don't want to risk all the complications that inevitably come with unnecessary intervention. Good luck hun - just focus on the fact that this baby is going to be in your life forever and waiting patiently (with a touch of impatience ) will make it all worthwhile as you will be holding your bubby soon! xoxoxox

[SiarasMummy]

I am 39 weeks tomorrow and for the last few months everyone has been saying 'Oh, I can't see you going overdue, I think you will be early'. Personally I am a bit sick of people saying it because nobody knows when it will happen and when I keep hearing that it kinda gets my hopes up when I know it's silly.

I am also the same analyzing every single pain, last night I was having tummy pains and kept feeling the need to be sick and I thought 'this must be it'. I stayed awake till really late trying to figure out if there was a pattern to the pains (which there wasn't!) and then realised how ridiculous I was being and went to sleep.

I think you just need to take each day as it comes, try and find things to distract yourself and like the other post said, just remember that nobody it pregnant forever. I may need the same advice in a weeks time, I am already driving myself nuts and I'm not due for 8 more days!

[lozzy_mac]

Everyone said I'd be early. But here I am at 40+1, still waiting. I was born two weeks late, so not really surprised.
I am trying to remind myself that I am not in control and get used to it! haha

Powelly remember there are still lots of wacky pregnancy hormones determining your moods- dont beat yourself up over the way you're feeling. Put in place some good strategies for dealing with the massive emotional rollercoaster that the next few weeks is going to bring, no matter when bub arrives! Try to use this time to do positive things, things that will help you take your mind off it. I splurged on a massage today, felt sooo good
I was trying to analyse everything and was constantly checking for mucus plug, but then I realised that there is not a single sign of being in proper labour that cant happen well beforehand, and when it starts it might just start with a bang! So theres no point analysing all the signs that might just be 'late-pregnancy' signs anyway!
My plan for the rest of today is to
1) get off the internet, its not helping!
2) repack my hospital bag
3) handwash a few extra things I've been given for bub
4) have a nap
5) walk up and down the stairs a few times!
etc etc

and you know, it might just stretch on until induction, and I know thats a bad word around here, but its not the end of the world- it has gotten plenty of babies out safely, and while it does increase the CHANCE of more intervention, nothing is certain anyway. We have great professionals looking after us and no matter what, they are just as determined as we are to have a happy healthy baby at the end of it!
When I was born, I was induced at 42 weeks, and was delivered just with gas, and I have grown up perfectly healthy and happy! (well ok, I have my issues, but I tell you, not one person would suggest that it was because I was induced lol)

anyway, stay strong, enjoy the last few days of having your little one within you, cherish those kicks

[~Stoked~]

I know how you feel! I'm 40+4 today and not expecting to go anytime soon! DD was born at 40+3 and DS was born at 41+5 so I've never had an 'early' one. One thing that does help me is planning things for a week or so away.. Getting hair done, visiting beautician, massage etc. Then you have something else to focus on other than the birth of your baby. I also really like the idea of my baby choosing his own birthday. I always wonder when it'll be!
It's so hard to remain positive at the very end, especially when you're so uncomfortable and even sleeping is a drag! But you really won't be pregnant forever and you'll be holding your little baby in only a matter of weeks now, that's not long at all!
All the best! Can't wait to read your BA x