very naughty..

[tellytubby]

Good Morning Ladies,

Well I've just been very naughty lately in regards to work. I have two jobs, one as a supply teacher the other as an assistant in a day care centre. Days when I am not required for teaching, I work the afternoon at the day care centre.

Without doubt i prefer working at the day care centre because its so easy going, fun, and they are very caring when it comes to my pregnancy. My work as a supply teacher is really giving me the *****s lately because it means every morning I wake early, to make my lunch, have shower, put makeup on, get ready etc when i dont even know if im working! This never used to bother me but now i'm at the point in my pregnancy where i feel i do not have the energy to do this.

This is how ive been naughty.... yesterday i left a message at the school to say i wasn't available for any teaching beacause i had a drs appointment (which is a total lie), and today i just switched my phone off completely so they couldn't contact me. My DP doesn't know about my naughty antics. But i feel i should probably let him know. This isn't the first time ive done this either, ive done it a few other times over the past weeks.

I dont even know why im telling you guys this. Hmm.

Is any one else guilty of doing something similar?

The good news is DP and i have discussed everything and I'm finishing up teaching in 2 weeks time, to just work part time at the day care centre.

Ohh I feel sooo guilty!!

Sorry this was long and boring..
Any thoughts on my poor choices??

-tellytubby

[Catastrophic]

Dont feel too guilty! I had to give up work at 3months due to complications, and my job wasnt entirely easy (assistant in nurse - alot of manual lifting). . . and honesltly have no idea how you ladies still work this late into pregnancy!! My hat goes off to you!

[misty]

I wish I could do that with my work... if you are feeling really guilty about it though, maybe you should ring them up and simply explain that you cann't do it any longer due to your pregnancy.

[Liz]

Hehe - I used to temp - but not as a teacher.. and I HATED waiting for the phonecall in the morning. I wouldn't do the lies and uncontactable stuff too often, coz it can give you a bad rep and ruin getting future work from them!

I agree with misty - if it's really getting on top of you, just tell them Perhaps you could say you're now only available 2 days a week or something?

[shell_belle]

ha ha ha I do the same thing! I am a relief teacher in Perth, and quite often lately I have been turning my phone off in the mornings. I will only work now if i know about it the day before. My dp knows and is cool with it, I will be finishing work in 3.5 weeks, I will be just over 30 weeks then although I could go longer, it is school holidays here.. did that make sense??

[tellytubby]

hehe!
Shell belle you just made my day!

Yes its school holidays here in two weeks aswell, which is when i am giving up (i'll be 34 weeks first week on term 4). Im sooo glad to hear i'm not the only teacher who is guilty of it.

Thanks for your reply, i really appreciate it!
-telly tubby

[KatieRabbit]

Hi Telly Tubby
School hols are three full weeks away in WA but I would just let the school/s know that you are no longer available (or the agency). They don't mind- they have a list of people to call on. I will be 34 wks at the same time as you but am meant to be teaching the rest of this term but it is getting hard. It is a demanding job where you can't sit down much and many people want constant attention! So don't feel guilty! Take care.

[tellytubby]

Deirdre,

Thanks for your reply. Yeah, I think i might discuss it with DP tonight and ring up the agency tomorrow to let them know i am no longer available. It is a demanding job which is really starting to get me down.

Its now 7:13am. Ive had a shower, done my hair + makeup, packed lunch and had breakfast - now i need to see if i get a job or not! Good luck with finishing up at the end of term. I bet your counting down the hours - i know i am! hehe

Thank you for all of your replies, I really appreciate it.
-tellytubby

[Dragonbub]

Hey Tellytubby - dont stress. The main thing is that you are doing what is right for you. I know that it can hurt your reputation, so I agree with the others in that you should just let them know. But I am sure you are not the only one guilty of a "white lie" here and there due to the sheer exhaustion of pregnancy! I have told a fib or two about OB appointments so I can leave work early, and I am sure there are lots of other women that have done the same - it is perfectly natural. But definately better to get rid of the guilt and come clean - better for the conscience! Congrats for making it this far by the way...

[Jessy]

Hi telly tubby.
From about 25 weeks on, i felt like this too. Had two jobs and preferred one waaaay over the other.

What made it worse was that for the job i didnt like, was that i didnt really have all that much motivation to go and there wasnt much supervision or responsibility so it was too tempting to go home early, or not go in at all. I did this naughty thing quite often to the point where the lying and dishonesty gave me pretty bad guilts and anxiety.

I broke down and told my DH and explained that I couldnt work there anymore. So i told work i needed to "slow down" and just went in 1 day a week and finished up there at 33 weeks. DH was VERY understanding, although the extra money could have helped! I felt soo much better as soon as I just did the one day, and even better when I left all together.

I kept working in my other job, up to the start of my 38th week.

And now i am work free.....

My advice, do what is best for you. Explain the situation to your work if you feel the need ( if you feel it might damage your rep.) But all the worry and anxiousness is not worth it IMO. We all worry too much about work I reckon!!!

Take Care

Jessy