Would you be upset?

[SiarasMummy]

This is partly a vent. I went to my OB appointment yesterday and it was an OB I hadn't seen before.
Whilst I was lying on the bed with the OB feeling my tummy, she started asking questions about my previous pregnancy etc and I was happily answering her questions.
She mentioned that I had high BP last time but this time my BP has been perfect and I replied 'Yeah I lost a lot of weight before this pregnancy, so being that bit smaller has probably helped keep my blood pressure down this time'
Then she asked 'How did you manage to lose a lot of weight after your last pregnancy?'
I said 'Well I lost a lot straight after the birth as a lot of it was fluid, then I dieted a bit on my own and I then joined weight watchers to lose the last few kilos'

She said 'Oh, good on you, sounds like you did well. It does look though like you will have a very saggy belly after this pregnancy'
I was a bit annoyed at this comment but I didnt get upset, I just replied 'Well, I guess I will deal with that when it becomes an issue and if I lose more weight and it's still bothering me I might consider a tummy tuck'.
Then she helped me sit up on the bed and when I did she pointed at my tummy and remarked 'Oh I can see you already have a bit of excess skin on your stomach'

Uuuuummm thanks for pointing that out but I thought I was here to check if my baby was healthy NOT to get advice on my appearance!

Now I don't have a lot of excess skin, and nobody has even thought to mention it before so I don't see why this Doc thought it was appropriate to even talk about it! Am I being too sensitive or am I right in thinking an OB should only discuss baby related issues and not take it upon themselves to hand out remarks about peoples physical appearance???

As if a hormonal, emotional, 38 week pregnant woman needs to hear those kinds of comments from ANYONE let alone their OB!

[Charlotte91]

I'd be a bit sad, really. That was a really un nessasary (sooo can't spell that word!) comment from your OB.

Your OB was in the wrong.

[skybie]

ive never been overweight, infact im cyrrently under weight and have been for nearly two year, but i have got the biggest mummy pouch EVER!!! all squishy squashy skin that refuses to snap back. its part and parcel of pregnancy and your body type.
very very very unecessary for your ob to point it out.
maybe u and i can go for that tummy tuck together

[BeautifulMadness]

oh gosh, thats rude....i woulda burst out crying or walked out and complianed

[lissy]

Hmmm I had a similar thing with a midwife during my antinatals. I had hardly any belly until 24 weeks then I popped & had massive stretch marks. I had several comments about how putting on weight will cause that & keeping the weight down would've prevented it.
I think yes we may be a little oversenstive sometimes, but there is certainly quite a bit of insensitivity on their part too. they see so many mums they forget I think.

[SiarasMummy]

When she made the comments I just thought 'what was the point of that?' it was not offering me advice or anything it was purely just pointing out something that was going to make me feel bad about myself. I just don't know why she thought that it was necessary to mention it.
All of this came from a Doctor that was probably a good 30kg heavier than me and obviously didn't take any pride in her own appearance. But yet she found it okay to comment on her patients appearance!

[Just Me]

That's awful! It is unnecessary and unprofessional to make comments like that. Just because you are pregnant, it does not give any one any more right to comment on how your body looks than when you are not pregnant

[Purple Penguin]

That was very rude of her, some people just don't think before they speak.

[Heaven]

omg I would be majorly offended!! How rude!! Just check the baby thanks!!

I was offended when less than 24hrs after having DD2 the physio commented 'hmm...you still have a pretty big tummy'. No **** woman, I just gave birth, but thanks.

[NaeNae]

hmmmmmmmmmm,

Its a tough one hun, while the comments are rude you WERE talking about it openly and freely so maybe she was making the comments just as conversations as well as observations.

If it was just mentioned out of the blue I could understand your being really uipset but you were talking about your weight and sagging in a part of weight loss not to mention childbirth as well. given the entire story I personally wouldn't be upset by it

Nae x

[helle]

Rude!! And so not medically related to anything?! Saggy skin never killed anyone...

[SiarasMummy]

I know what you mean, yes I was talking about it and yes I said that I had lost a lot of weight when she asked me about my previous BP issues but that was why I brought it up, not because I wanted her opinion on how my body looks.
If she had left it at the first comment I might not have been so bothered but to have pointed at my stomach and made a useless remark about my tummy just seemed very rude to me.
Not to mention my Hubby was in the room as well and that made me feel even more embarassed to have my flaws pointed out in front of him.

[Lolpigs]

I know what you mean, yes I was talking about it and yes I said that I had lost a lot of weight when she asked me about my previous BP issues but that was why I brought it up, not because I wanted her opinion on how my body looks.
If she had left it at the first comment I might not have been so bothered but to have pointed at my stomach and made a useless remark about my tummy just seemed very rude to me.
Not to mention my Hubby was in the room as well and that made me feel even more embarassed to have my flaws pointed out in front of him.

never mind your hubby loves you for you regardless of your flaws :-) it was a fairly funny thing to say even though you were talking about it, it was a bit to personal for someone you havent met before.

I would have just asked her if that comment was medically necessary, that is usually enough for ppl ike that to think twice. She probably didnt think before she spoke.