Help with this reoccuring dream please? thanks!

Hi girls,

Wonder if you can help me with something. I keep dreaming of my friend James and I really would love to get some clarity as to why I keep dreaming of him and cant let go. Ive known him since I was 17, we always had a thing for each other but never acted on it due to timing. At one stage we did get together, when I was 25 or so and we saw a lot of each other and I told him that I thought he was my soulmate, however he didnt feel thatway and we just continued being friends. Then years later I met Jeffrey got married etc. I lost contact with him about 5 years ago and lately for the last few months he keeps appearing in my dreams, in context as the one who got away, he always comes back and says he still loves me and I always dream getting back together with him and telling him I love him. Ive tried to find his numbers/email to contact him and I cant find him and our mutual friends are no longer in contact either so im at a loss. but I get this overwhelming feeling which I hope is not true that he is no longer with us???? Not sure if you can help but it feel good to let this out so thank you for listening

I personally feel James is still earthside. This dream is about your unresolved emotional yearnings. What is it that you felt he gave you that's missing from your life right now? When you get an answer, keep asking, dig a little deeper. The repetition of your dream is telling you it's a deeper issue. When you recognise what you're missing you can go about finding/creating it in your life right now.

BTW - if you set your intent powerfully, sooner or later your paths will cross and/or you will hear about/find out about him some way. However if you do this before you have resolved your own emotions it could end up complicating your life. My advice = do the work first. :)

i too think he still is with us.

I used to be having reocurring dreams, just like you about the one which got away.

I didn't let it go and kept googling his name, finally had seen a mutual friend (whom i hadn't seen for years) and asked if she knew anything about him and told me that he was married and had a good job etc..

i haven't seen him in my dreams since!

Keep searching for him, he may need your help!!

GL

Thanks so much for your answers girls I really appreciate it :)

Marydean - your words are so true, I feel hubby does not give me any emotional support that I need and we have spoken about it, but it still doesnt change. His family are not that emotional iykwim? they dont show it much? Julia doesnt even hug or cuddle him much at all, whereas my family and I are very much cuddlers and I love you etc. He shows me in doing things around the house and providing, hes a doer.

Honestly I would be happy to see him and see how he is but at the same time im so ashamed at who I am at the moment with my OCD and what I look like. I really need to work on that for me not for anyone else.

:redface: yes Im a googler too TD, I cant help myself! If he needs my help I would really love to help him, I do hope all is ok with him. How did you stop thinking about what could have been?

Thanks so much for your help girls!

Bel
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Honestly I would be happy to see him and see how he is but at the same time im so ashamed at who I am at the moment with my OCD and what I look like. I really need to work on that for me not for anyone else.

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Don't be silly Bel. I'm not the same person (physically) as i was back in my uni days when i missed the opportunity too. But i am the same and even better person mentally and i'm sure you are too. Do you think he has retained his physical attributes too? I don't think so. And we all know that when people fall in love or make friendships/relationships it ain't skin deep because then the friendship/relationship wouldn't last very long if you aren't connected mentally. So don't beat yourself up over the physical attributes. I'm sure you are just fine!

How did i forget and not see him in my dreams any more?? Well, i had heard news from him and they were all good and he was married! and well, so am i! so i just let it go. I think you are still seeing him in your dreams, because you just don't know what he is up to. If had heard news of him, you'd let it go too.

Then on the other hand, i keep seeing "another" one that got away in my dreams constantly. I can't get any news from him as he has passed away. **big sigh** I saw him in my dream again last night, he was soooooo handsome as ever, in his grey suit and broad shoulders. We got engaged in my dream and he was hugging me from behind. I didn't want to wake up **sheds a little tear here**. I woke up and looked up and told him that i loved him **sheds more tears**. i can't let this one go though!

But i truly love my husband too. He is fabulous. But i can't help think "if he hadn't died, would we have....."

xxoo

Thanks so much for your post TD. I pmed you about your thread about your dream must have been at the same time you posted this! That must have been an amazing dream.

I understand how you feel, I love my husband but cant help thinking what *might* have been. But I understand and know what I have with my hubby is real and what I am thinking of what might have been or how I think of James now may not be *real* obviously I am thinking of him without any faults just remembering the awesome feelings. If I do hear how he is going im sure I can get over it and let go.

TD and Marydean

You know what I think it is about this dream which is deeper thank just missing him - I just want to be the person who I was when he knew me, I still want my husband and my kids but want to have No OCD no anxiety and be confident again. This is what I am missing. I want to thank both of you for leading me to this path of realising this.

Bel
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You know what I think it is about this dream which is deeper thank just missing him - I just want to be the person who I was when he knew me, I still want my husband and my kids but want to have No OCD no anxiety and be confident again. This is what I am missing. I want to thank both of you for leading me to this path of realising this.

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So glad you had the a-ha! Your higher self is whispering to you - you *can* heal this in yourself, you *can* move forward into a more fulfilled life. :hug:

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James??? Mine was a James too. Are you sure it wasnt my James?? :p

You know you can get beat OCD and anxiety and depression. You are a strong woman, Bel.

I hope you can get some news of him soon.

xxoo

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Do you live in Sydney TD???? um how old would he be? I think he is 38 now. EEEk!! LOL is he the one still alive???

Thanks for the support in beating the OCD, somedays I feel strong some I feel so weak with it. :rolleyes:

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I live in Melb and my James would be my age, 33.