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I have been trying to ignore them but im growing worried as to what it means.
Once a fortnight i have a dream about my father. Either its we are one big happy family or i am meeting him after all these years. I wake up feeling the same every time i feel angry and disgusted.
If it means he will try and re enter himself in my life i don't want him to. Or is it that i really need to deal with the issues i have with him?
You need to deal with the issues. Dreaming helps you to sort out issues, it also brings issues that you need to deal with into your conscious.
Dreaming is a way of your subconscious telling you that your mind is trying to process something. In this instance I would say it's more unresolved issues toward your dad you aren't dealing with and they are coming up in your dreams. I used to dream of my dad causing me pain then he would die in my dream and since talking/yelling/laughing with him on occassion it's really helped me to move forward in life. The power has shifted he no longer holds sway over me and knows it and we can now get along for small periods of time without killing each other :). But I no longer dream of him.
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The fact that you are preg too might make these issues come to the surface a little more. Where you come from, what you are creating and all that.
When I was preg with DS I wasn't really on good terms with my dad, but I wanted to be for DS....everything was brought to the surface when I was preg, and now I'm happy with our relationship.
Yeah I agree with Mini Max... before I was pregnant there was a lot of things I "thought" I had dealt with but obviously just had just pushed it to the back of my mind ya know Then when I had her all these things I went through in my childhood just came rushing back and it was extremely confronting. I am sure most, if not all mothers will have had the same experience. Maybe it's something to deal with now for you, so you can enjoy your new baby without stressing about things kwim
Thanks ladies.
I havent been ignoring your responses just not sure what to say. I am really hoping its just something that will occur during pregnancy. I don't even know where to begin to address my issues with my father, i never want to see him or even talk to him. It just makes me sick that in my dreams he acts as though everything is fine, and in some of the dreams everything is fine to me but others i still feel the pain and the disgust i have for him.