How many feel guilty for not feeling guilty??

I just feel like such a bad mum coz im not one of those mums that "cant BARE to be away from their baby!" i have to work, i have to get things done, she is seriously better off with Nana who will fuss all over her than with me who will sit her on the floor and get things done or send her off to DC wile at work (or not work and be broke)
I just feel bad that i DONT feel guilty coz i seem to be able to walk away from her and leave her without feeling all that bad!!
Dont get me wrong i LOVE her to death and if i didnt have to work it would be soo soo awesome but i do and im just trying to make the moast of everythign i guess!!
and now she's growing up and doing so many new things i feel like imnot around her enough to be the one to see all her firsts when realisticly i work 20 hours a week which is NOTHINg really lol
im just being so stupid lol
vent over hehe

i hate being away from DD while i work - but i don't feel guilty about doing it! she is looked after, she is happy - i walk away, i work, i go home and enjoy my little girl! my only issue is that work is so boring and i actually miss the ongoing conversations that i have with an 11 month old that can't talk properly! lol

i know i need to work for financial reasons so i dont' feel bad about leaving her - i just miss her company.

I'm a part time uni student, so only on campus for roughly 6-8 hours a week, my mum babysits my 7 month old while i'm gone, I don't feel guilty because I know i'm doing something to create a better future for my girls

My girls go to their dads every second weekend, and well i will be honest and say i enjoy my time off from being a mum.

I miss them a heap dont get me wrong, but i dont feel guilty about enjoying time to myself. It keeps me sane otherwise i would be doing my head in.

I don't feel guilty when I am at work.. I sometimes do feel guilty when I am just at home when DD is in DC, but only when she cries when I am dropping her off ;)

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i dont feel guilty about enjoying time to myself. It keeps me sane otherwise i would be doing my head in.

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I feel the same - I need time to myself every once in a while, even if I just leave the kids with DH to go to the shops for an hour or two. Being a mum is 24/7, so you need to take time for yourself without feeling guilty about doing so. You know your DD is being looked after well while your away so there's nothing to feel guilty about.

Gosh No!!!! LOL. If that makes me a bad mother because I can't wait to get away from them sometimes then so be it, I'll cop it on the chin. Seriously though, when they were little babies I didn't like to be away from them for too long at all, but as they got older I realised that they need the break away from me as much as I need it from them so there was never any guilt and I sure don't feel guilty for not feeling guilty LOL.

Not at all. I know how much I love my children. But to keep me insane, I need 'me' time as well. I am no longer working, but I still enjoy going out for coffee, for dinner, to see a movie etc. When I go out, I leave them in very capable hands of either their grandparents or other family members. So no, no guilt here either.

I haven't started work yet, but when I go to poker once every now and then with DH and we've left him at my ILs place, I never feel bad because I know that he's being well looked after and that they dote on him anyway :p
:hug: gorgeous, don't worry at all :)

I completely understand how you feel. Although I'm still on maternity leave I absolutely LOVE getting out of the house & away from Moo when the opportunity arises! I've only been able to leave him a handful of times & it's just been the best thing to have a cuppa with a friend or see a movie without any interruptions. I've only ever left him with DH which means I'm not worried at all & enjoy my time "alone". I think Moo gets bored with just me too so we all win!
Don't feel guilty, sounds like you're doing a great job. You obviously trust who she's with & know that's she's having a great time with her Nana.

i have no issues leaving DD1 at her grandparents or at her daycare day a week at all, i get some peace and queit!! num,mum,mum,mum!!!
DD2 is a different kettle, she's yet to be babysat by anyone, i leave her and go out at night to visit friends when shes asleep to get some me time. i'm just not ready to leave her just yet

I have a 3mth old and have to go back to work (have already started) and whilst I miss her, I find it quite nice especially the drive home and there. Its my "me" time as I dont get this very often - I also leave her with her Nanny and go and have a coffee with my gf's I think without this I would go crazy...