Kitchen Tea WDYT????

I was invited to a friends kitchen tea which is a going to be a tupperware party!!! I am not invited to the wedding and the kitchen tea everyone is asked to bring a donation in an envelope for the bride to buy herself some sort of tupperware!! Then we are asked to buy something and then she will recieve all the benefits from the party!!! I feel a little offended that we have to give a money donation to the bride for her to buy herself something from the party!!! What do you think? Or am i just being silly!!!!! I would feel horrible inviting people to my kitchen tea etc if they are not being invited to the wedding?? I am not offended that i was not invited as i know how expensive wedding are these days.

Thanks

I would never invite someone to a kitchen tea for a wedding, but not invite them to the wedding. And to also expect them to donate money and give a gift :shakehead:
Are you really close to this person? Would she be offended if you declined the invite?

I invited heaps of people to my kitchen tea that I wasn't able to invite to the wedding, but I didn't ask anyone to buy me a present it was more I wanted them to be involved. Pretty much none of my friends were invited to our weddig cos we had over 100 people with family alone.

With a Tupperware kitchen tea the general way it's run is that the bride to be is the host, and guests can make a donation or buy a gift for the bride IF THEY WANT TO. It should never be a demand - I'd say the person writing the invites didn't think about how it would be interpreted.

I think it sounds a little crude, but then so much about bridal showers/baby showers seems to be about getting as much as possible. I wonder if the bride is even aware people have been asked to bring money?

I am not offended that i was not invited to her wedding i just thought i was a bit over the top to ask for money!!! the invitations says
" Instead of bringing a present, all you have to do is bring an envelope or card containing money as a gift. This money will be added to the usual credits!!"

I just think that it is a bit rude!!!!!
I have already said that i would go, so how much should i give her i was thinking only $5 or $10 because honestly i would rather buy something for my house and then she can enjoy the benefits fromt he amount that everyone spends!!!

And yes the bride is aware of the invitation!!!

In that case, $10 MAX!

I really dislike the whole concept

I like the idea of a tuppaware party with the bride getting the host benefits, but instead of bringing cash would it not be nicer for everyone to bring a favourite recipe that they can furnish a special recipe book as a gift for her. Much more personal and voids the issue of how much to spend.

Just my 2c (incase anyone out there is wondering what to do for a kitchen tea);)