Advice for training DD

Hi All

Palmer is nearly 17 months old and my Mum is REALLY pushing me to TT her as she thinks it's disgusting for any child over 2 to be in nappies.

From her day chart at daycare (which she is in Mon-Fri and if we keep her home without her being ill, we lose our place) I can see she is only getting her nappy changed twice a day. I don't know if this is becuase they are busy or if she only needs it done twice. The leader in the baby room is a bit aloof and won't tell much about anything Palmer does.

So with my Mums pushing, I started putting Palmer on a potty, like she (Mum) said to do. Palmer hates it...she can hardly sit still as it is (just in a normal active toddler way, I mean) and hates to sit on the potty. Cries and etc. But nappy changes have been a screaming and crying battle since she was 8 months!

Twice she has been running around nude just prior to her bath and she put her hand to her crotch (she points - as she does when in a nappy too), which I know to be her wee signal, but there was NO time at all to get her to the potty...she looked down and pointed there literally a split second before she wee'd all over the floor, both times.

We are in a rental and it's full of carpet...to be honest, I don't think she is ready if she can't tell me beforehand that she needs to go...and I don't fancy months and months of tring to clean wee out of our rental carpets.

What do you think? Am I wrong? Is she ready like Mum says? I'm confused becuase I don't want her to be in nappies "too long", but I also don't want to stunt her.

I have no advice on the tt - except to say most babies I know are in nappies waaaayy past 2. Do what feels right for you and your dd - making tt traumatic for either of you seems counterproductive to me! My Ds is 15 months and tt isn't even on my radar!

17 months! Don't worry about it, she's still a baby.
From what I've heard most kids are between two and three, often later before they are trained.
My ds is trained at home but still wears a nappy when we go out, he's 2 and 7 months.
I actually don't know any children personally who have tt before two, they just don't have the bladder conrol.
I know it's hard, but ignore you're mum. You are her mum and you will know when she's ready.
Hth xx

She's still only teeny tiny, so don't stress yourself over it.
I bought a potty when DS was just under 2 as he started telling me when he was going to do poos or wees. He would sit on it and muck around but would never do anything on it. I just left it around and one day (he was just over 2.5yrs) he was telling me he needed to go so I told him to get on the potty and he did, did his business and we haven't looked back since. You will know when she's ready, you know her best and don't let anyone tell you otherwise :hug:

Thanks, that makes me feel better.

I actually don't know how wet P is in the morning (first thing) or during her hours at home, as I am not her full time guardian anymore. Well I am, but I'm not. I fell ill in the middle of this year so husband is carer for both me and P. He does all the baby care, keeps me medicated, cleans up my vomit, puts me to bed, all the cooking and washing and works 7 days a week. Another reason that TT is not the very top of our list atm.

We also have the world's most hard to get to toilet. The laundry door opens inwards - into the laundry - and the toilet door is right behind it. Which means that you have to open the laundry door to get into it, squeeze yourself in (very tiny laundry), close the laundry door, which then lets you open the toilet door, which also opens inwards, therefore blocking the way to get to the actual toilet.

Worst. Layout. Ever. There is no way P is able to get into the toilet in time.

I keep wondering if the owners would notice if I took the laundry door off it's hinges :-P