To wean, or not to wean ... that is the question

DH and I have decided to try for bub #3. Given I've just turned 38 I'd like to "try" sooner rather than later. Our DS2 turned 12 months last week and I'm still BFing him approx 3x daily.

But so far, no sign of AF. Twice in the past couple of months I thought AF might have been on its way, but nothing. I actually fell pg with DS2 while BFing DS1 - no AF then either, but I obviously O'd. If only it would happen again :D.

So I'm wondering if I should "force" the issue, given no AF, and wean DS2. The pros are sort-of obvious, but it's the cons that make me hesitate. DS2 loves his morning and night "boobie" and I'm really quite against weaning before they're ready. The only reason I'm even thinking of weaning is to force my body into getting prepped to conceive again.

I needed clomid to conceive DS1 as AF was all over the shop. Hard to know if DS2 was a fluke or not. I wonder if I could take clomid and still BF?

Thoughts? Sigh ... maybe I'm overthinking this - I need to go to bed!

Hey AndiE,

Maybe a "dont offer, don't refuse" approach would be good, It might reduce the amount of feeds slowly and naturally giving you more chance of ovulating but still leaving it up to your little man?

How long have you been on 3 feeds? OFten that's few enough to bring back af, though it can take several months. You could try Polly's approach to the 3rd feed and see how you go. Do you have a timeline in mind?

I'm not sure about clomid and bf - there's a thread in the breastfeeding forum with contact details for finding out about medications and breastfeeding. You would have to get your cycles back before starting clomid however.

Been on three feeds for about the past two months, give or take. Occasionally it's four feeds, occasionally it's just two - but more often than not it's three a day. I always BF DS2 first thing in the morning, and then just before he goes to bed. The third feed is usually before his first nap of the day.
DS2 is happy to take milk from a bottle, so weaning shouldn't be too hard when the time comes (if it's me that forces the issue of weaning). No timeline as such Marcellus, just conscious that at age 38 conception "could" become an issue. And that's the only reason I'm thinking of weaning him.

Just hard to know if my cycle is "up the putt" as per before DS1, or if BFing is simply delaying the return of AF.
Think I'm going to just sit tight for another month or two and see what happens :D