DS capable but refusing to TT after being almost there fo the 2nd time

I thought I had written a thread on DS and his toilet training but I cant find it :dunno:

Anyway...

At about 18 months DS was almost completely toilet trained. Then out o the blue, for seemingly no reason at all he decided he didnt want to sit on the potty anymore. We just went with it thinkung he'd pick it up again in a little while.

A couple of months ago he was showing interest again and I managed to get him to sit on the toilet with a step/seat thing after bribing him with a tiny piece of chocolate (*hide* I know, I know). He was doing really well. I gently weaned him off the rewards and he kept going for a couple more weeks, although he still refused to sit on any toilet other than ours. Again, just went with the flow. All seemed fine. And again out of the blue, for seemingly no reason at all, a few weeks ago, he decided he doesnt want to sit on the toilet or the potty. He just wees straight on the floor without a care and will happily help clean it up.

:wall:

Why!?!?!

Is this normal for him to just change his mind and I need to just keep going with the flow?
I KNOW he an do it, he just doesnt want to.
The big boy argument doesnt work, he says he wants to be a "little boy".


*sigh* I know he wont be in nappies forever but its more than a little frustrating to get so close and have him change his mind again.

Oh I know how frustrating it can be. I've just come out the other end of TT our two boys, who took 10 months each, back to back. DS1 got it quite quickly too and then got lazy and didn't want to go to the toilet. So he'd wet his pants and happily sit or play in them wet. Although, he didn't want to be a little boy or go back to nappies. I got so sick of cleaning up messes. I think I backed off a bit and then got him to take more responsibility - getting clean underwear and pants to change into and putting the dirty ones in a bucket and eventually he just started taking himself off to the toilet, when I stopped pestering him so much. DS2 had a phobia about sitting on the toilet to do poo. Argh!

I'd say, if he wants to be a little boy and go back to nappies again, I'd just let him for now. He won't want to stay in them forever and if you force the toilet issue, he'll probably resist it even more and it will become a bigger issue than it is now.
They're so contrary at this age and want to do everything on their terms! I hope he gets interested in the toilet again soon.

So I think at nearly 4 he might actually be doing it!!!
He has been great 99% of the time with no undies for a few months. But Ive just started with putting him in undies the last couple if weeks and we've had 3 accidents. The rest of the time hes really good. Tues we walked to swimming - 20min walk - had his lesson, came home on the bus all accident free. We skipped yesterday as we were on and off buses all day and I thought it might be a bit much to expect him to hold it that long. But back to it today and nappy came off at 7am, we have been out to the shops for a play and some lunch with a friend and home. And just now he was playing outside and ran in to go to the toilet.
We're going to try going to playgroup nappy free tomorrow..
He will happily use other toilets now too.

Eeeekkk!! Please let this be it. Lol

I have really cracked down on the independance thing insisting he learn to dress himself as he has never shown any interest in that either. And also told him that he cant wear nappies to kindy as they dont have anywhere to change him.

Hoping the confidence boost of doing some things for himself and the motivation of going to kindy next year is enough to keep him going. And possibly the jellybeans Ive been bribing him with last long enough for him to stick with it this time :hide:

Im calling it - with 1 week til his 4th birthday, DS is day toilet trained. It has taken longer than most kiddies but finally being patient and letting him do it in his own time has paid off. I was begining to worry I had let him down by not pushing it more but now I think he really just had to get there by himself and I did the right thing.

:bluecheer:

DD1 didn't train until after her 4th birthday - it took over a year to get her to finally get it. It was a long year LOL Her problem wasn't that she couldn't, she just didn't want to. And its hard to motivate someone who won't be motivated by anything.

I'm glad he's putting it together :) DD1 is 5 in August and is still in night nappies - she wants to wear them until she is 15. There solves my teen pregnancy fears I suppose.

That was the problem here too. He just had no interest. He has been *almost* there about 4 times since 18months old and lost interest everytime. :wall: but this is the furthest weve ever gotten and he is super proud of himself now so Im fairly sure it will stick. Hopefully hes still interested after we wean off the jellybeans LOL

He has been asking to go to the toilet when hes going to sleep too but Im not sure if hes just using it as a stalling tactic or not. Ive told him we'll get the hang of daytimes first then work on night time so for now he can do wees in his nappy at night.

It feels so surreal to look at him and know hes in undies and a "big boy" haha