How long do I keep doing this?

My DS is almost 2.5. For the last almost three months he has been nappy free during the day, except for naps and night time. He has probably taken himself to do a wee on his own 5 times and pooed maybe 5 times as well. Daycare three days a week and he has accidents almost every day, sometimes 2 times a day, and they take them every 30 minutes.

I have had enough, I don't have anymore energy to take a child every 30-45 minutes every when I don't see any progress. My DD took 8 months and I wasted months doing the same thing, nappy free and no progress. I took a month off and put her back in nappies, them we tried again. My son will sit on the toilet and go almost every time I ask him, but he will still have accidents.

In short, I don't think he's ready. I want to put him back in nappies for a while because everyone else says that it should take weeks of nappy free for them to get it, not the months and months AND MONTHS it seems to take my kids. Daycare say that it will confuse him to put him back in nappies, but the kids, bless him, isn't toilet trained AT ALL. Catching wees and poos because I tell him to go to the toilet isn't toilet trained in my opinion.

Do you agree, or is daycare onto something?

I agree with you, put him back in nappies and try again in 3 months! I waited until my Ds1 was almost 3 to even begin TT, because I had a newborn when he was 2.5 and it was all too hard- despite pressure from daycare and others. I'm so pleased I waited! He was wee trained day and night in a matter of days and poo trained within weeks.

Yep, exactly what Amaunet said. Even down to having a newborn at 2.5 ;) Sound like he isn't ready. I'd go back to nappies.

I am going through similar. DD2 decided herself that she wanted to use the loo so I went with it.That was over 3 months ago on Saturday I made the choice to put her back in nappies. She has maybe had 5 days all up with no accidents. It has been exhausting (with a newborn)and frustrating because she knows what to do but won't stick with it. She has happily worn the nappies choice again and I will wait till she decides she will try again and hope she sticks with it I guess.
I would put him back in nappies and wait till he gives you signs he is ready.

Yep agree with the others. We tried and tried, gave up, then one day he just took himself off to the toilet as if he'd decided he was ready. Never looked back. I think of how hard we had tried and all that time we wasted when we just should have waited lol.

we used cloth nappies, so for each of DDS (3) regressions we went back to pull ups, rather than nappies, so it was still different.
But she just clicked, at her 3rd birthday and is now dry day and night, with maybe 1 accident a week

Meh. Liebs was in and out of nappies when he was 2.5: his childcare wanted to TT him and I wished them luck (I'd tried a month before and he wasn't having it: he knew what he was doing, he just wanted to do it in a nappy). I was very laid back about it, DH and childcare less so.

So he went back into nappies for a year, then decided to use the loo. It did not take him months to do it, it took a 2-second decision. No wee problem at all, the odd night wetting but it was the odd one.

Can I go against the grain and say leave him nappy free but with no pants on at home. Don't take him to the toilet at intervals. I don't see how that helps him learn bladder control. Explain when he feels wee in his tummy he needs to run run run to the toilet and then demonstrate this a few times yourself with exaggeration so it's a funny game.

Then watch him like a hawk and when he starts to wee, grab his hand and say quick run run run and take him to the toilet and let him finish there.

Both mine were toilet trained within a week doing this at 2.

As for poos, we had to do lots of talking about poo and explaining the need to go and how poo lives in the toilet and both mine used to cry over saying goodbye to poo but it took maybe three weeks and they were trained.

For us nights have come slowly after days and just assessing dry nappies and when to take the plunge.

Good luck!

I do firmly believe some kids don't get it until older. So if this isn't working then I would probably go to pull ups so you can still encourage some toileting.

Thanks so much ladies. He doesn't want to wear nappies and we do lots and lots of nappy free time at home (with both me taking him to the toilet and we not taking him but racing him to the loo when he suddenly looks like he's going to go, so I know he's not ready, but was hoping magically that maybe I was wrong!

Arcadia I know you are right about some kids being older. My DD was months and months after other kids the same age at our playgroup, but then was the first to be completely night trained shortly after she was day trained. Just when you think you can manage anymore, kids suddenly change!

Thanks so much ladies. He doesn't want to wear nappies and we do lots and lots of nappy free time at home (with both me taking him to the toilet and we not taking him but racing him to the loo when he suddenly looks like he's going to go, so I know he's not ready, but was hoping magically that maybe I was wrong!

Arcadia I know you are right about some kids being older. My DD was months and months after other kids the same age at our playgroup, but then was the first to be completely night trained shortly after she was day trained. Just when you think you can manage anymore, kids suddenly change!

Put him back in nappies, he is not ready. You watching him and racing him to toilet is just that! Boys take longer generally to get and want to do it.

DS1 was 3 years 7 months and had 2 wee accidents in total both as got side tracked on way to toilet by someone being at door. Poo's he wouldnt do in toilet for 5 days and would demand a nappy then finally one day happened with lots of encouragment. DS1 on his 4th birthday announced he was a big boy and doesn't need a nappy for bed and we have had 4 accidents on a year! Last to be TT off friends but first by far to be night trained. (night is a developmental shift and they need to be aware to wake up, no one can push night TT)

DS2 3 years 2 months's wee easy enough a few accidents but not much BUT poo he will not do in toilet, he even puts own nappy on to poo! He has been TT wee for 5 months!!!!

Give him nappy free time when you can at home but don't add stress to your life to watch hm grab and run! Hugs hang in there it will happen!

No child will train til they are ready. Trust me.

Both my older DD's were 3 or just over. Was not happening no matter how I tried before then. DS spent a lot of time naked. Then when he'd wee I noticed he like to wee on things :lol: so I made a game of it & got him to wee on a rock in the garden, or ants or something. Worked for him, lol. He was trained by about 2.5.

DD3 just clicked by herself. Before 2.5 she started, in the last 2 months or so the only accidents have been while strapped into the car on long trips. Still night nappies though.

If he doesn't want nappies, can you try MCN pull ups? They are undie style so look less like nappies. DS decided out of the blue at Xmas that he'd only poo on the toilet (2y8m), but it wasn't until March that he tried to wee on there...pretty much trained in two days. I just showed him his undies and told him occasionally that whenever he wanted to try weeing on the potty/toilet, he could. And when he got good at it, he could wear undies instead of nappies. No pressure though. He now wears undies at night too, but has had an occasional accident overnight....

My opinion...Leave the potty/toilet seat out, remind him that he can try whenever he wants, let him see you go, but otherwise, put him back in nappies til he's ready. No pressure. Ignore day care. :)

oh we have just gone through this!!

DS has just decided in the last 3 weeks that he wants to use the toilet. took an accident a day for a couple of days until he got it. then it took another week to work out to poo in the toilet. but during this whole time he has remained dry at night for 3 weeks with only 1 accident. if he wakes during the night he even ass to go. I say put him back in nappies until he is ready. he doesn't sound ready. so frustrating. I think toilet training is by far the hardest thing we can do as parents. I agree with the others though. maybe pull ups during the day if he wont go back in nappies

good luck xx