11 Miscarriages and we're still holding together!
My husband and I, if it were not for the love we have between us, would definitely have been broken by now, with everything we have been through over the last 8 years and 11 miscarriages!
In 1997 we lost our first baby, a little boy, at 25 weeks. His heart was not developing properly and he passed away 6 minutes after he was born. In 1998 we started trying again. I started taking Folic Acid and exercising, whilst changing our eting habits. I thought it would all just happen for us. Three miscarrigaes later and we went to seek professional help in 2000.
Our first Gyno told us it may just take more time, so we went to see Ruth Sharky, a Naturopath on the Gold Coast. We had just gotten married. We did everything she said, took the tonics and drank herbal teas till I turned green, and still had another two miscarriages during those 12 months.
Back to the Gyno in 2001 and he placed me on Chlomid for 6 months to try and regulate my periods, which by this time had stopped completely. We waited these 6 months until we tried to conceive again, which I did. This time we went through to 15 weeks before losing this one. After this, I took a much needed break from meds and Dr’s, it all got the better of me and my husband, no matter how hard he tried, just couldn’t understand.
In 2003 we decided to stay away from dr’s but look after ourselves, see another naturopath and see how we go. I lost 5kgs and fell pregnant with twins. At 13 weeks I went for my ultrasound and their little hearts were beating! We lost them the very next day, I was devastated. I went to counselling after this time and was placed on anti-depressants for 3 months. I was told to cease other medications and let these run their course.
In 2004 we moved from our friends and family out west. We started seeing another Dr, who seemed to know what he was talking about about and diagnosed me with PCOS, by this stage my weight had ballooned by nearly 20kgs! In 1997 I was 78kgs, I was now tipping the mid 90’s. This move was a great benefit to our marriage, we spent a lot more time together and we were able to work one job each, not three or four, and still be able to put aside a bit of money. I was put back onto Chlomid and finally the weight, and the periods started evening out. I felt like someone had prescribed me happy pills! We lost two babies over the next two years, but we had a different view of the whole thing, we didn’t tell anyone, and we just silently hoped things would work out, but if they didn’t we were still going to be ok. That is exactly what happened.
Early 2006 we decided to move back to NSW to be closer to family. My brother in law had just had two children and our sisters had gotten engaged. So we came home. At this stage we had come to the conclusion that we were not meant to have a family, we went to counselling and after a short period of time we came around to the idea and started investigating adoption.
My Mum was not convinced, se researched an ex IVF Dr from Sydney who had just moved to the area, and she paid for me to go and see him. After an hours consultation I walked out crying and my husband held me and was grinning from ear to ear, there was still hope! I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. 6 months later I have lost 7 kgs and suffered another miscarriage, but I now know, until my sugar levels, weight and state of mind have all been treated, this is the way it is going to go.
Love my husband, love myself and be happy, great things will follow! I have now been taking metformin and chlomid for 4 months, and so far things have begun to settle down, including my moods! Our Dr is still very positive and I have another appointment with him in May. One day we will have the baby we have been dreaming of, I am now more than ever, certain of it!
If anyone has a story, or any questions they would like to share, please feel free, it wasn’t until my best friend put me onto this website that I realised help is out there! xxx
