DH does not want to be there for the transfer : (
Hello,
Am feeling a little bewildered and confused. We go for our first FET on Wed, but DH does not want to come into the room while the transfer is happening. He is taking the day off to travel down to Melb but says that for him the transfer is just like me going into the doctors, and why does he need to be there for that? He came to the transfer on our first stim cycle, which was good.
To me the transfer is kind of the closest thing we get to conception - and I want him to be there for that. I am now questioning if he really wants kids if he does not want to see the transfer. But I also dont want to put heaps of pressure on him to come if he really does not want to. We are doing IVF mainly because of sperm issues, and so I dont what to make him feel more guilty for what we are having to go through than what he already does (not that he verbalises it though). I just want to feel positive at the moment and not racked by doubts when we are just about to put an embie in :cry:.
Has/is anyone else in a similar situation where DH does not want to be there for transfers. What have you done and how have people coped being there for them by yourself (even if DH is just out in the waiting room)?
Thanks
FG