Persuasive & encouraging words needed for my bestie ....
Hi ladies
Bit of background - me - was told my DS would be big - and he was a good size at 4.125kg. However, was then told my DD was going to be biggish too - and she came out 3.57kg.
My friend - her first bubba came out at 3.995kg. She is 37wks with her second. Her husband and her are biggish people - hands, feet, that type of things - not just weight. She had a scan at 32 to check placenta as it was previously low - and bubs measured 35wks
Our conversation then was - me saying it doesn't mean her DD bubba is definately big, just a guesstimate and not to worry, she can birth 4kg, she can birth a 4.5kg if she had to :)
Anyway,, she just had her 36 wk check, she is going through midwife clinic like me - but Ob does 36wk check - he told her that they wouldn't let her go over if she got to her due date cos of bubba's (potential!) size.
Second conversation - I asked her what reason did he give given her DD1's size, she had her naturally w/o any real complications (small haemorrhage but that doesn't relate to bubba!!), what were his concerns - she said she would just do what they want her to do if she goes to term and be induced and that was all he said - the size of baby being the reason ????!!!
Third conversation - re induction - I have had synto drip twice and tried to tell her encouragingly how awful it was not being able to move, risks I now know etc - (my contractions wouldn't get regular after 3 days, waters had broken 36 hours earlier and I was none the wiser - look out this time :p ) - ....
I am looking for some other pearls of wisdom I can share with her without being like a totally pushy friend and isolating myself totally - basically don't wanna p$$$ her off as she is one of my besties, but I am concerned.
Any help appreciated ;)
Sam
