Can't take much more of this
Me again......
I don't know how much more i can take. I am having MAJOR problems with my toddler and 6 week old and i feel like i'm not coping. Today has been a really bad day (which seems to be the norm these days).
Firstly my 6 week old son is sooooo hard to settle to sleep, taking on average around and hour or more to get to sleep. I wrap him, feed him, burp him, rock him, put white noise/music//radio on and nothing helps. I find that he just starts to drop off to sleep and then he jerks himself awake even though he's wrapped. This goes on for over an hour, he just can't seem to get past his light sleep into deep sleep its a NIGHTMARE! on top of that he has lots and lots of wind. I've been up since 1am because he was just constantly farting and grunting in discomfort. I tried rubbing his tummy, bycicle legs, legs to chest and today i even tried infacol drop but even that didn't help. He finally slept from 6:30-8:30am and then spent the next three hours unsettled and gassy again. He slept over lunch but i'm trying to settle him again now and its been over an hour again. I'm ready to pull my hair out! I've been googling like crazy trying to find why he's so hard to settle/gassy. He's breastfed so i'm thinking maybe its something i'm eating? I think i am a bit lactose intolerant so i'm going to cut out dairy for a week and see if that helps... but honestky i'm just grasping at straws. I just don't know what i'm doing wrong, he's just sooo hard to settle.
On top of that my 2 year old is constantly throwing very very loud tantrums and hitting/scratching/throwing his toys/drink etc. I'll just get my 6 week old of to sleep and my toddler will throw a fit about something and then he'll be wide awake and i have to start all over again. My toddler isn't speaking much yet so i have to spend the day guessing what he wants and trying to avoid a tantrum and i just don't have the time and energy for it.
I just don't know what to do :crying: i feel so out of control and exhausted. I keep snapping at screaming at my toddler because i've just had enough. I cant help feeling resentful and i feel terrible for feeling this way.
I called my hubby today in tears and he came home for a bit so i went for a drive and had some 'me' time which helped alot but i know he can't do that everyday.
I thought being a second bub my newborn would be more settled but if anything he's worse than DS1.
I'd like to hear from other mums of two (or more). How did you cope? When does it get better? Do any other mums have any advice/words of wisdom? I know i'm not the only mum to go through this and i know a lot of people are far worse off and i should be thankful that my boys are healthy but i'm feeling so overwhelmed right now :cry: