Does he 'need' to spend time away from us?
Kynan seems to be a sensitive little boy & needs lots of reassurance in new situations. He can get startled/scared quite easily, like at mother's group if someone talks to him and pulls a funny face at him he'll start crying, same if he hears the other babies squealing or making any loud noises, or if he thinks I'm too far away from him. He'll cry too if someone he's not used to holds him and he'll quickly gets inconsolable. Also if we're out shopping he'll be in the hug a bub and get excited & laugh when we walk past people, but if anyone comes up and deliberately tries to get a smile out of him he'll cry (I'm sure no one believes us when we tell them he's usually such a happy & easy going baby! LOL).
I don't see any problem with any of this, I think his reactions are only natural but I seem to be getting a lot of comments from other people about it... such as "ohhh you haven't left him yet have you", like he wouldn't be like this if we regularly left him with people he doesn't know.
TBH I've never really felt the need to be apart from him. As long as I get some 'me time' occasionally I'm happy but I've never felt like I need to spend this time out of the house, away from him completely you know? But perhaps that's where I'm different... When asked what the hardest part of motherhood has been the other mums said it was not being able to do all the things they used to & having to give up that 'freedom'. I really don't feel like I've had to 'give up' anything! Some things have changed and some things need to be done differently now that we have Kynan but I feel that he's added so much to my life, not taken anything away from it!
Anyway. So do you think it's necessary that he spends time apart from DH & I? He always goes out with us, shopping etc and we go to mother's group regularly and we'll be taking him swimming soon with other bubs so it's not like he never gets to see other people. We don't have any family near us either so we don't really have anyone we'd trust to look after him.