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Just wondering when everyone shared there news? I am 12 weeks on Tuesday and having the First Trimester Screening / Scan on Monday afternoon. We have only told our parents, and my 2 sisters, and I have told my closest friend where we are living atm. When did you tell everyone? When does the "safe period" actually start? I've heard 12 wks, 13 wks then I heard recently 18 wks. I've been really sick and getting quite a belly now, although it just looks Fat! it's getting hard to hide.
I think it is up to you! We waited until after the 12 week ultrasound as we wanted to make sure everything was ok. It wasn't, so we waited until 16 weeks when we were cleared - by then I was starting to have a little belly and some people had actually guessed!
I wanted to wait 12 weeks, but my dh couldn't keep his mouth shut so we started telling some people around the 8 9 week mark. The high risk time is in the first 12 weeks but really it's risky till that baby is in your arms. You tell when you are ready
With each of my 3 boys we told people around 12 - 14 weeks depending on who it was that we were telling.
We told family first and a week or so later told people that werent quite as close to us.
It is hard - obviously you get to the point where you cant hide it anymore.
I have recently heard 16 - 18 weeks is now the safe zone ( not sure if that is the case ) but i wouldnt have been able to hide being pregnant at that stage. I show alot earlier than that.
I think if the test is all clear we'll tell family, then a few people later next week. The rest will find out quickly I'm sure.
I told Mum the day I found out (she was standing next to me when I got the call), then my dad, and DH told his parents too. But they were sworn to keep it a secret until 8 weeks when I let close family and friends know (that was after the 1st scan) and I had intended to tell everyone else and work after the 12week ultrasound (ours was booked for when I was 13weeks) that way I knew everything was ok especially as we had miscarried earlier that year, but ended up having to tell work at week 11 as I was having to run to the bathroom every afternoon to throw up from week 10 and it was getting a bit obvious (especially when they all knew we were trying...had been for 3 years at that point). If I get a round 2, I'd probably do exactly the same (but hope I don't get sick and can wait til the main ultrasound).
For me I didn't want people to feel sorry for us if it did go bad and have those looks and awkward moments when talking to them.
Tell people when your ready and comfortable.
DF told his mum when I was about 8/9 weeks, I didn't tell my parents until about 11 or 12 weeks because I knew their reaction wasn't going to be positive, so kind of held off as long as I could without shutting them out completely! Lucky they live 6 hours away so we don't see them that often.. I told my supervisor at work before I even told my parents! Lol. The people I work closely with (only 2 of them!) I told when I was about 14/15 weeks, and no one else at work has a clue yet (or they might just aren't game to say anything!)..except for one person who I used to be quite friendly with, still am we just don't see each other that often anymore, who guessed a week or two ago, she must have noticed my slow expansion!
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This is the same for me Bec, will see how feel after the scan on Monday. =)
Everyone I knew knew that we'd been trying for a year and I was just too excited so I told everyone straight away (I was 3 weeks). I also figured that if something had happened that I would have wanted sympothy and understanding from everyone.
we didnt want to hide it, we were so happy and proud of ourselves as we have been ttc#2 for nearly 7 yrs, so when it did FINALLY happen we wanted the world to know that no matter what happens we love this baby and very proud of him/her for blessing us
i went on to miscarry @ 9wks and i was a little worried how i was going to handle people saying sorry and stuff but it wasnt really like that, i went back to work for the first time last week and everyone was so lovely, so in away they have helped me and they all keep telling me that my little bubba is and will always be with me and thats always nice to hear :D
DD1 i told at 6 weeks
DD2 i told at 7 weeks
DS i told some friends at 5 weeks and then family and other friends were told at 19 weeks once we knew the gender
We told our immediate family at 12 weeks and a few close friends, then everyone else at 16 weeks.