Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss November 2009

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WTH oh silent reflux sound awful, good you knew what you're looking for though. hope it works out.

Wow it's hot, i was naughty today :redface: I let my class go at 1pm not 4pm. I was so stuffed, my feet swelled up and I could hear my heart beat I was going with or without them today. I haven't got a phone call so I'm hoping it ok.

DF is off to his place for a day trip today, I bet he'll be so tired when he gets home at 9pm. I'm trying to stay awake but no promisses.

I really do hope summer cools down a little or heat followed by a couple of days of warm if it's 39+ till squeak is born I don't think I'll make many more weeks of work. :wall: can't change the weather can we.

WT Hope - Thanks for the welcome. Poor DS that sounds so painful!! Hope the meds sort him out soon.

Greenslw - Sounds uncomfortable. I'm sure your class was thrlled to be let go early. I'm sure they understood too. I'm in the exact opposite boat here. Winter has arrived this week and it has gotten very cold. It even snowed here yesterday! Even with fleece jammies and my wood stove going I can't seem to get worm. I'm having a terrible time regulating my temperature.

Twin Sister,
last week I would have done anything for a day of snow! Our ducted aircon broke down just before a long week of quite hot weather hit Melbourne. Admittedly I don't have it anywhere near as bad as Greenslw in Adelaide as it's always hotter there than here but man it was difficult. Today I get to hang around at home and wait for the aircon techs to turn up and fix our system (second year running for this to happen!)

Greenslw, having just said that, I just saw a weather report for Adelaide - 41 tomorrow and Thursday. Oh hon, I feel for you. Maybe take a bucket to class with you that you can fill with cold water/ice to cool you during the day. Do you have a 'go home' temperature there? Very good to see you've dropped your hours at work now, I admire you ladies who work through pregnancy. I'm on my third and have not worked in any for various reasons. Though I did do a couple of weeks work recently for my sis which was good fun.

zstar good to see your ultrasound went well and congrats on the little boy result :) Glad everything is going well for you!

AFM - the bump is going haywire here. She is very active and is clearly visible in her kicks these days. I've picked up a sinus infection which is driving me nuts but at least it hasn't descended into my chest to become the chest infection DD1 has just gotten over. (or the swine flu her father, my ex, has recently spent time in hospital for)

trust everyone is doing well. TwinSis, hope you can warm up and for everyone else suffering through heat in Aus, hope you can cool down!

Anyone suffering the heat over there is welcome to come visit me and cool off in the snow! DS is very excited about it. he's seen snow before but this is the first year he's old enough to appreciate it and he's having a lot of fun playing in it.

Twin Sister, :) thanks for the invite, my Dad, Brother and SIL with my two cute nephews live in Alberta Canada. I love the idea of nights in the snow and days in Australia. I spent a Chrstmas there -37C is not for me. Pretty but freezing. were are you again? Baby Brain.

Smallfry: swine flue wow that's a bit too close to home. Gladd DD1 is picking up. Are you on any meds for your nose. I hope it stays north and doesn't decend to your chest.

ATM haven't popped my nose outside yet since coming to work it was 27C at 8.15am and it's suposed to be 43 today. I'm going to stay inside as long as I can.

Last day of teaching Saturday :leap: I'm so looking forward to having my weekends back again. I'll still be at my other job for another 27 work days (much better than 7 weeks) but the end is comming.

Squeak has been a little less active this week, less big movements and more little ones. I woke up last night with an incredible stabbing pain in my side, little darling :rolleyes: had it's foot in my ribs. I guess there is less and less rome in there.

Have a great day ladies. stay cool / warm

I'm in Terrace British Columbia. Since BC is on the coast we thankfully never get -37 degree weather, but we do get lots of snow as I'm pretty far North. When I was in Vancouver (also on the coast) it never got very cold and we saw barley any snow, but it rains there TONS. I think I'm preferring the snow to the rain.

So today i bit the bullet and went and got the swine flu vaccine on my doctors recommendation. He said the risks of me dying form swine flu complications were greater than the risk of miscarriage form the vaccine so I decide to do it. I made sure they gave me only the unadjuvanted, thimerosol free one and requested the same one for my DS. it's a relief not to be stressing over it anymore, I think it will all be ok.

Twin Sister,
I think If it was winter here I would have got the vacine too my brother and nephews all had swine flue a couple of months ago. Really nocked them around. I really like Vancouver, the mountiains in the distance is so different from Australia. Edmonton is pretty flat not as pretty and driving is so scary.

I'm looking forward to seeing Canada in the spring in a couple of years. We're going to get off in Vancouver, go to Vancouver Island and drive to Edmonton. probably May 2012. Lots of time for saving.

Hi girls. I hope everyone is doing well.

I started losing my mucous plug last night. It kind of freaked me out as I'm not quite ready for bubs to come yet. As keen as I am to meet her I think I need at least one more week. But at my 38wk appointment this morning my midwife assured me that losing the mucous plug doesn't mean anything as labour it could still be a month away (I know I want more time, but not that long lol). Also, bubs has moved back up and is no longer engaged at all (was 3/5 engaged at my last appointment). But the midwife did say that sometimes they come back up if the bladder is full, which mine was getting close.

At least the weather has cooled in Adelaide this week. DH and I were finally able to paint the nursery on the weekend :dance: as it was cool enough. We'll be getting carpet in this weekend and then its just a matter of setting up the furniture. I can't believe I'm so close to meeting my girl.

Hey HannahD, sounds very exciting for you! Midwife is right, can take a while after the plug comes before the baby does. I was around two weeks with both of my daughters.
Good luck!!

Hannah, I had DD1 the day after I lost my plug LOL although I'm sure you don't want to hear that!! With E though I never lost the plug, so I wouldn't get too worried either - your midwife is right bub could still be a while away yet.

Can't wait to read your BA - good luck hun!

Hi ladies,

Not sure if anyone remembers me, it has been ages since I last posted. I have been laying low for a couple of weeks since my amnio. Actually we have had a pretty crappy time. Thankfully all is well with the baby- before any of you guys start to worry. It started just after my amnio, when my mother found a lump in her breast and has since been diagnosed with breast cancer. Then a couple of days latter my uncle (dad's brother) was killed in a car accident when he was working in NSW. Apologies for not posting for ages.

Recently I had my 20 week scan, and thankfully everything looked great. I am feeling bubs move lots now which has put my mind at ease quite a bit. We decided not to find out the gender after the amnio and we were asked again at the scan- now it is doing my head in not knowing. It will be great to have a surprise however I am worried that if it is a girl she will have no name as DH and I are having a hard time agreeing on a girls name. Thankfully boys are sorted.


Greenslw- we have been hearing about the heat wave in adelaide, must be very hard. Great to see your ticker progressing well.

Z-star- I know I pm you after your amnio but congrats on your little man. Hopefully you guys are having no arguments re: names.

HannahD- like megs mum I went into labour a day or so after losing my plug, although I am sure the midwife knows more about it than us. Good luck getting the nursery finished- you sure are cutting it fine.

WTH- sorry to hear about DS reflux hopefully you are starting to see some improvement with the meds.

Smallfry- I too am appreciative for the change in the weather. It was challenging for me (even with our aircon working) to keep DS inside.

Hope all the other mum's to be are doing well and I look forward to chatting with you all in the future, fingers crossed that things slow down a little for me know.

Cheers

I have just officially started maternity leave. OK baby, give me a week to clean this place up, then you can come.

Josh's mum - so sorry to hear about your mum and your uncle, my thoughts are with you. Great news on the scan/amnio, bet you're enjoying all those little bumps, your little one is giving you.

Hannah - With Ds1 I lost my plug only days before he was born, with Ds2, I can't remember losing it with him at all, but I was induced post dates as well.

Megsmum - :hello: nice to see you pop in

:hello: to everyone else. I know that I will miss someone if I try to do persies for each and everyone of you, so now that I have a little more time, I'll try to pop in more often.

AFM - still going along just fine, have next Ob appoint on Tuesday, so guess I'll find out from there what is going on.

Josh'smum, glad you cleared up early that all was well with baby, I immediately was worried! Very sorry to hear about all the stress with your mum and your uncle though. A very hard time for you and your family. My thoughts are with you.

Mollycat - hooray for maternity leave!

Greenslw- glad your weekends are yours again. Not too long now for you! My nose cleared itself up after threatening ear infections for around 12 hours, long enough to make a docs appointment and then sleep it off and cancel the appointment! No need to take anything in the end which was good.

Question - has anyone found that they've started getting headaches again? I can't work out why I'm getting them again. I had them til around 18 weeks or something (daily) and then they left but in the last week or so they've come back again as a daily thing. Doesn't seem to be food or weather or drink (or lack of) related. Can't work it out.

hi everyone

I thought this thread had died but i just found it...

joshsmum - great to hear from you. sorry about all your ups and downs. i hope things settle for you very soon!

mollycat - wahoo! i can't wait for my last day to come...long way off yet! yeah for you.

hannahd - good luck with everything.....

greenslw - you are on the work count down too...lucky you

big hi to everyone else. afm - all going well. he didn't move much on sunday and monday but is back to his normal kicking around self which suits me just fine. my tummy is getting bigger all the time and i love it. i am working long hours but seem to be coping well for now. it is such a special time having this bub in my belly. we are so lucky. hope everyone is well and happy! i turned 34 this week. getting on. mum made me a wicked icecream cake loaded with mars bars, cheery rips, boosts, bountys, crunchies and so on. then covered in ice magic - same cake she made me for my 13th. those were the days. so looking forward to meeting my little mate. be good girls!

Oh Hannah I hope you are ok I guess bubs comes when they're ready not when we are although it can take up to a week, :hug: look after yourself and yaya for the cooler weather. Hope the baby's room is done and you are relaxing.

Welcome back Josh'smum. Glad your 20wk scan went well. thanks for the cool wishes thank goodness the heat left. and without too many bush fires

Mollcat yaya for maternity leave enjoy your time off. hope next ob appointment went well.

Smallfry gald no meds and it cleared up. I get headaches on and off are you drinking enough water? that was my issue.

zstar when are you ending the dreaded work? my bubba seams to have quiet days. I get so tired did you? I think it must be growing.

ATM having a nice LONG weekend and haven't checked my work emails I'm only in work one day this week :D but off to an all of unit day Wednesday at the botanic gardens I don't have to do anything just enjoy :D great.

I've been reflecting on 3 months off and need to do some number crunching cos I"d love 6. But not sure I can afford it. and with childcare going in terms I need to decide one way or the other BUGGA not so flexible even when they are infants!

Hope you are all well.. :grouphug:

zstar, that cake sounds spectacularly tasty :) I turned 33 the day you posted :) happy birthday to us huh?!! I didn't get a cake but DH took me to my favourite vegetarian restaurant for dinner and it was so good that I rolled back to the car afterwards!

Hannahd, how're things going with you? Still waiting?

greenslw sounds like a great way to work - one day each week would be great (well, assuming it was able to pay the bills it needed to anyway!) but it certainly sounds like you need it. Not long now!
Re headaches, I think I drink too much water and that may be what's bringing on the headaches but I have ob appointment in a couple of hours so I'll ask her about it when I'm in there. I've started drinking a bit of gatorade/powerade during the day to see if that helps as I've been drinking 5 - 6 litres of water a day and another couple overnight (makes for great sleep interruptions!)
I reckon if you're able to take 6 months off it would be worth it. I know a number of women who have ended up extending their maternity leave because they've done the math on childcare and decided it was cheaper to stay home for longer. I used to have my two in for a day a week and it cost close to $100 after subsidy from government.

AFM, ob appointment as mentioned and I'll be up for the wonderful glucose test to check for gestational diabetes. Can't believe I've hit 28 weeks now. Time flies. My daughters are loving the growing belly and give it hugs and kisses all the time to let their little sister know how much they love her already. It's very sweet. Still trying to decide on names, though I already have one picked DH hasn't quite agreed to it yet. Fingers crossed there because I already think of her as being named that!

Hi to all of you - joshsmum, twinsis, mollycat, zstar, hannahd, greenslw ... and those I've missed. :hug:

Hi all

I had my 37w appointment yesterday. All still going well, but bub is not engaged yet. I asked my Ob if he would induce me, but until bub decides to engage he won't consider it.

Sooooooooooo, I'm now in the process of encouraging bub to engage, I want to deliver before my due date for a number of reasons, (firstly it's my MIL & Sister's birthdays, and I can't handle the thought of bub sharing the date with them - (shudder), I want to be home before Christmas, and as my Ob says, this is such a special baby, he can understand why bub needs to be on the outside. On top of these, both my boys were overdue, and I don't want to go overdue again.

Hannah - How are you going, must be sooo close for you now. Can't wait to hear your news.

Smallfry - wow, 28 weeks, won't be long your bub will be here.

Sorry everyone else, was going to try a few more persies, but I'm being hassled for the computer (teenagers, grrr), so I'll try and get back later.

Hope everyone is having a lovely day.

Hi everyone,

I've just popped on while I have a quiet moment to let you all know that Amelia Grace arrived at 10:43pm on Monday 30 November. She weighed 3.53 kg (7lb 7oz), measured 49cm long and her HC is 35cm.

She was certainly in a hurry. Contractions started at 12:25pm Monday and within 2 hours were 3-4 minutes apart. My waters broke at 6:45pm and I had to call DH home from work. When we got to hospital at 8:00pm my cervix was only 2cm dilated - not encouraging since the contractions were almost on top of each other at this point. Got to delivery suite at 9pm and after only 35 minutes of pushing, Amelia was born. Her birth was completely natural, drug-free with a physiological 3rd stage. I was able to BF a little straight away. I ended up with 2nd degree tearing due to it all happening so quickly and did have gas while getting stitched up.

Mum and Dad are certainly very proud and I am so in love with my gorgeous little angel.

HannahD :cheer: Welcome Amelia Grace :cheer: and well done mummy. Wow that's a quick labor. Ppl say quick means pain hope you did ok.

Smallfryplus well doen on 28 weeks (almost 29 now) hope your glocose test went well.

Mollycat so how do you get your baby to engage early? I totally understand re not sharing a b'day. DH is on the 9th of Feb and baby will come prior to that!

ATM: recovering from a lovely baby shower yesterday. I got so spoilt. all my friends were there, mum ran a pretty good day 4 games and lots of bubbles (not for me) but it was great.

DH has been working on the nursary and it's only one coat of paint away from "let me at it" can't wait to start setting up.

:grouphug:

Huge congratulations on baby Amelia Grace, HannahD! That's fantastic news :) Well done!

Baby shower sounds like it was good fun Greenslw. I've got all my friends telling me I have to have one but the only time I can conveniently have one is when I'll be 37 weeks!! Is that cutting it fine?! I didn't have one for DD1 or DD2.

My glucose test went really well. I stuffed up and put honey on my weetbix for breakfast shortly before doing the test so we were worried it would make me fail it. Thankfully it didn't, I got a sugar reading of 7.6 and it just has to be below 8 so we were happy with that. Vitamin D on the other hand... I've been told off for neglecting to take those tablets! Otherwise, everything is going beautifully, including the massive thing in front of me that it sticking out further and further every single minute!

Our nursery has everything in it, just doesn't have anything where it is meant to be and has a few additional things that need to be moved out of it. I figure I'll get it done as soon as possible rather than when I'm too huge to move around easily. I washed two huge loads of baby clothes the other day and thought it was everything done but then discovered a massive box of clothes that I'd forgotten about. For some unknown reason I kept pretty much everything from DD1 and DD2 when they were little. So, more washing to do and then I'll start sorting everything out into sizes and re-store the bigger clothes. My sis laughs at me now and then and says it would be really funny if she turns out to be he! It would... but not funny in a good way!

HannahD, big congratulations on the arrival of Amelia!:cheer: :hooray: :happyforyou:

Sounds like you had a fantastic labour, well done. Enjoy your newborn baby cuddles, wonderful aren't they? :D

Smallfry: glad your suger is fine too :D I think you should have a babyshower. and Make sure you do nothing! I don't think 37 weeks is too late if that's when it fits that's when it fits. One of my friends had her little girl 2 days after her shower but still squeezed it in. I think you need to do it once. I don't think i'd do it again though.

Did you come early or late in previous pg?

MONDAY is going so slow. I got in early cos I have to put in 3x time sheets for everyone! I hate rostering and timesheets it's too hard. especially when staff don't always get it right.

I'm now sitting here madly doing the sums for staying at home a bit longer. The annoying thing is childcare, it goes in Terms so It's either April or July when the end of May would be more ideal for me to go back to work :doh: I don't really know what to do. I can survive comfortably on three months away but 6 is pushing it big time, I know I wont have to pay for child care but it's the mortgage, food etc that is scary and DH can't pitch in anymore than he is now. So take my meger wage out of the pot and it's frightening.

I think this is mother guilt talking. Still I guess I need to do all the sums and see.

Congrats HannahD on the arrival of your baby girl! Enjoy!

Big hi to everyone else. I have been lurking and not posting. Slack i know! Have had a cold for 10 days and now have a nice coldsore coming out of my nose. Just can't seem to get on top of things. Anyway, such is life. Hope you are all well and happy!

Congratulations HannahD! enjoy being a mummy - it is sooooo much fun(but tiring!)

greenslw - have you read the book mother guilt? My mum lent it to me a while back. It made so much sense. I recommend it. Sounds like some really tough decisions for you regardless of guilt though. The timesheets sound like a nightmare.

I went over with both my girls so expect to again with this one. Guess 37 weeks isn't too late afterall then is it? :) Only thing is that I'm not entirely convinced with my due date, it was changed several times and from earliest to latest spans 9 days... Should still be safe enough and if I have her two days later like your friend that wouldn't be a bad thing!

:cheer:CONGRATULATIONS, HANNAH ON THE ARRIVAL OF AMELIA:cheer:
:happyforyou:


:goodluck: Mollycat and Pash - looking forward to hearing your news next... :goodluck:

Congratulations Hannah - Welcome Amelia:cheer::cheer: Enjoy your special little girl

Thanks WTH - Hopefully by the end of next week :crossfingers: I will have some news.

Had my appointment yesterday, and bub is starting to engage - not enough to make a date for an induction - but if bub continues the same way, I'm sure he will give me a date next week which is only a couple of days before the EDD anyway, but will guarantee I'll be home before Christmas - and we get to avoid "that" date. (and it will be before he closes his office for Christmas as well)

Bub is still measuring quite small - from the scan yesterday just over 5lb, it will be interesting to see just how close that is when bub finally arrives. I don't think bub will be very big though, I'm not really that big in the belly myself.

Congratulations Hannah on the birth of baby Amelia well done! hope you enjoy all the baby hugs

im about 8 weeks pregnant with twins and im so scared i have lost 3 babys in the last 13 months and i had some spotting about 4 days ago it was light red and watery and then turned to this yucky brown coulor and every few day i get it no more red just the brown and i get some pain but not much at all the doctor sent me for an ultrasound about 3 days ago and they both still had there heart beats but im scared i will lose them i also have this thing wrong with my blood its called factor 5 leiden where it clots up heaps bad so the doctor has put me on blood thinners and i dont know if thats why i have this brown spotting i go for another ultrasound in one week but im so worried that something has gone wrong

Hi Rachie, welcome and congratulations on your pregnancy. I've read a little about factor 5 on the forums here in the past. I recall seeing quite a few who went on to complete their pregnancies and have healthy little babies. I can't begin to understand how difficult it would be for you going through what you're facing now. Although I've had two miscarriages, there was nothing they could tell me about why and I have also had two successful pregnancies so they just told me they were random miscarriages and to keep trying.

Have you spoken to your doc about the bleeding continuing? They should be able to let you know if it's 'normal' for the condition you have and the medications you're on. I pray that you will find some peace and that your two beautiful babies will be strong and healthy and will stay with you for another 30+ weeks.

rachie - bug hugs hun.I'm sorry to hear of your previous losses. It can be very nervewracking indeed being pregnant again after loss. I have my fingers xd for you, and wish you all the best for your upcoming scan. The regular contributors in this thread are wonderfully supportive and will give you all the support you need and more :hug:



Just popping in to say a big congrats to Hannah on the arrival of your precious Amelia Grace (GORGEOUS name!) :cheer: Sounds like a wonderful birth - enjoy getting to know your new baby girl. So happy for you!

Hi to all my other lovelies too - hope you and your bubs are going well :hello:

Mollycat - gl for the imminent arrival of your little one - can't wait to read your BA

We're all doing very very well, can't believe our little miss is already 6 months old :o She is still such a lovely happy chilled out bub who just keeps getting more gorgeous every day *gush* :)

Twinsis - how are you going? Haven't heard from you in a little bit. Is everything ok?

jenushka, good to hear everything is going so well :) little ones are so much fun! I can't wait to hold this next one in a few months time!

hi rachie and welcome

sorry for you losses and big congrats on your twins. it is a worrying time and your spotting certainly woudn't be helping you. i had some spotting early on and its not nice. good sign that is didn't continue with red red so stay positive. you will find great support here. the girls are amazing. i hope you have a healthy pregnancy! take care.

HANNAH = congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful daughter. I have been in torrens house without email access for a week so only just saw your news - so wonderful - had been wondering how you were getting on.

xx

Smallfryplus thanks for the book idea, I'll check it out. THE TIME SHEETS ARE IN! :leap: one more thing off the list. Funny about EDD they are always a little confusing.

Mollycat wow baby engaged how exciting. Hope you're home for Christmas :goodluck:

Rachie goodluck hun, such a scary time BB is a great support.

ATM oh 5 days off is great I'm only at day 3 and I feel like a queen. Maternity Leave can't come quick enough. Only 16 days to go or so. (4 weeks) but I can see the finish line and with some LONG weekend on the way I'm so happy. I'm having the whole week after Christmas off bar one day. Then two full weeks to tidy my desk then OFF!

Been so sore at night latly, when I turn cos my back hurts bubs must not like it and hang on to something, my belly goes so tight and it hurts, I wimpered last night and DH rubbed my tummy (small but so important) Mind you then he got up for work, CRASH BANG. Opened the blinds bang crash, stomp stomp. I did Saturdays for 6 months and he slept through it, There is a BIG diff in noise levels!

Anyways I'm left relaxing at home on my own, it's his work do tonight so I'm sure he'll be tired. I'm driving (cos I wont be drinking) but have put an exit time of 11pm on the table, as a guide. I think that's fair. I slept till 10am (after being up till 2.30am) so I'm hoping with a slack day I'll make it.

Have a good weekend
:grouphug:

Hi all :)

I need to be in here.....
I am quitely ****ting myself! I have been fine until this morning and now I am starting to panic... *breath in, breath out*

I got up to the loo this morning and I had a little bit of air in my vagina (Sorry tmi) that usually happens when AF shows up and there was heaps of CM when I wiped.... I know this is not somehting usual ppl panic about, so I know I HAVE to be in here.

Sorry for the me post...
Tanya

Hi Tanya

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR PREGNANCY :D

The increase in CM is usually a good sign - it means your estrogen levels are rising, as they do with PG. I noticed in my recent PG that I also got a bit windy - not from the "usual" spot - and this was on the days when I had more CM.
I'll keep my :crossfingers:, but I am pretty optimistic for you.

How far along are you - have you had any scans yet?

WTH ;)

Thanx WTH... I can't remember how far along I am .... LOL... only 4 and a bit weeks. It really hadn't sunk in until today I don't think.

I don't know how I am going to get through the first half of this pregnancy without panicking at every little thing!

Tanya - I totally understand your worrying - and I am truly sorry for your losses. I was the same with DS (deliriously naive with DD, as she was my first PG). This thread was an absolute Godsend for me and I was an ultra-high maitenance patient for my poor OB.

It's early days, but every day is a step in the right direction.

Good luck, hun :goodluck: