Did you have sex after having your first?
I'm sure it all depends whether or not you had tearing. So i had second degree tearing and some grazes.
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Did you have sex after having your first?
I'm sure it all depends whether or not you had tearing. So i had second degree tearing and some grazes.
7 months. I had a 2nd degree tear and was BFing. We did sort of try a couple of times but it hurt and I was nervous.
About 13 weeks.
My PP bleeding with #1 lasted 12 weeks though.
I think if it hadn't it would have been sooner :)
6 months and I only had a slight graze! :rofl: gotta feel bad for DF though. Lol
that was cause I was scared though and totally disinterested.
3 weeks and I had an epi for my first bub. We had a go because I had read that it was best to at least try to have sex before your 6wk check up JIC something wasn't right you could bring it up then instead of waiting, having a problem and then trying to find the time to make another Dr's appointment.
It was a few months here to cause I was nervous and still tender. I had a second degree tear as well. You'll know when you are ready to go again.
5 weeks and 6 days for same reason as Trill! :lol: And then Not for a loooong time. I can't seem to be interested while BF'ing overnight, i am convinced it is a hormone thing!
DS was 4 mnths before we DTD after he was born
Think it was about 5 weeks, only cause DF couldn't hold off any longer :rolleyes: it did hurt like the blazers though, and did so for quite a while after. Use lots and lots of lubricant! It was a weird feeling though, it hurt but inside it felt really numb..probably TMI you didn't need to hear! Lol
I had an epi and quite a few stitches so I didn't really want to do anything until the stitches had dissolved.
Thanks ladies. I'm asking because its our 6 year anniversary at the end of August. We were seperated for our 5 year so we didn't get to celebrate it very well so this year i wanted it to be really special. DP thinks it may be too early but honestly i feel fine. I'm not sure if my stitches have dissolved yet, they don't hurt :dunno: and DP won't check them for me and i cant see down there.
I also want to before my 6 week check up so i can bring up any issues if there are any.
I still havent and DD is 6 1/2 months. Totally not interested and nervous i guess. I didnt tear but i dont look to good after bub :( super strech marks
We tried at 8 and 12 weeks, and i really wish we hadn't... Ouch! DH is eager to try again soon, but i am going to give it at least another few weeks. I should have taken pictures of my stitches to remind him, as he seems to have forgotten how bad it was! I had 2nd degree tears going up towards my urethra, rather than down through my perineum, as well as some labial grazes. I couldn't even sit down on the toilet to pee until 6 weeks so i don't know what i was thinking at 8 weeks!
I think with DD we waited about 8wks... And then we took it really really slowly...
This time, we will prob wait about the same - I hadn't thought about trying to see if there were any problems before my 6wk check!
Best part of a year. But then I was single after I was about a week pregnant (booted the man out in rather 'interesting' circumstances before I knew I was pregnant), so I had to actually meet someone worth sleeping with first.
For a long time there I could say "last time I had sex I got pregnant" .... ugh.
Going to be a while with this one too - I'm sure all the bits are functioning, but we're in a small house, baby is in OUR bedroom, and we have a toddler that doesn't sleep well roaming the house that doesn't like it when mummy goes behind closed doors.
I could feel my stitches with my finger( Yep, TMI) so that's how I knew mine were dissolved. :p
Waited a couple months with both.
I think it was about 4 or 5 weeks after my 1st. Once I stopped bleeding we went for it.
At least a year (yup poor DH). I had 4th degree tearing and was in NOOOOOOO MOOD to be DTD, but i think it was more physiological for me too thinking that it will hurt really badly.
Luckily, it sounds like you have already recovered =)
Goodluck and have fun!
After I got the all clear from my 6wk Post Natal check.
It was slow and steady and back into the swing of things with a month or so after that.
I also had an episotomy so it healed well.
I had a 2nd degree tear with my first and we waited 6 weeks (the stitches on the outside were gone within a week but at about 5 weeks I found there was some stitching rope and a knot when I wiped (though mine were dissolvable too) ... sorry TMI so I think the stitching went inside a bit and it was just as the stitches inside healed that last little bit came away so I would be careful. It was a bit of a scary experience the first time, but we were just very careful and it was fine.
With DS (my second pregnancy) I had no tearing at all and so we were fine after 6 days. Honestly, not tearing felt like I hadn't even given birth by the next day. It was a completely different experience to DD1.
If you are feeling fine, there shouldn't be a problem, just take it slowly ;)
*praying I survive the next birth..whenever that is..unscathed* I couldn't even walk properly for about a week after having DD, I was hobbling everywhere like an old man it hurt so much and if I walked too much it felt like my insides were going to fall out!:
Even now DTD hurts at first if we don't do it regularly (every couple of days), must need to be kept stretched out or something...lol
2 weeks after episiotomy.... hurt like sh*t. We stopped and tried again at 3 weeks, All good :-) When your ready, your ready darl :-)
I haven't torn with any of them but the whole hard-head-banging-on-the-inside-of-your-pelvis thing must cause internal brusing or something, for me that takes about a week and a half to stop hurting, same as any bruise.:
We waited til 6 weeks for both. Mainly because of the bleeding. I had an episiotomy with DD1 and couldn't walk properly for weeks, so I'm in awe of you ladies who could DTD 3 weeks after! I had a 2nd degree tear with DD2 and the healing was so easy compared to the epi, so if I wasn't bleeding we probably could have done it earlier. If you feel like it, why not try? :) You can always stop if it hurts too much. I do suggest that you use a lot of lube though. It wasn't until about 6 months after birth before I could DTD without lube. All the hormones can make you quite dry down there. Congratulations on your anniversary :) xx
we almost went there at about 5 weeks but DH insisted we wait and it didnt happen till 8 weeks and it hurt for a while after that but we just did it to get into it lol
9 months. Bled for only a couple of weeks, not evem but had a c/s and absolutely NO interest whatsoever while Bump was BF hardcore overnight etc.
ETA: But I also had below zero libido while I was pregnant too, so the poor guy didn't get any for about 16 months!
This time though, have raging libido, so who knows lol Hopefully for him, all goes well and will be back in the saddle within a couple of months lol
Trust me, it was nothing fancy ;):
It was about 15 weeks for me. I had a ventous delivery and had a very sore pelvic floor. I also bled for that long (combination of post partum bleeding and my body adjusting to the newly inserted implanon).
I think it was about 3 months after. Was in no mood whatsoever & we were both too tired to even care!
Well my doctor that put the stitches in said they dissolve within 2 weeks, and I've had a look down there with a mirror and they have dissolved (will be 4 weeks on tuesday) I also had a bad tear 1cm off my anus, and one graze.
At 2 weeks I had a dildo cam used on me which was VERY painful, so I wouldn't say I could do it at 2 weeks, but I think it would be okay to do it now, it looks a bit tender still down there but i can pretty much see my uterus without having to open my legs too much :D So Im sure I wouldnt feel much anymore.
Congratulations by the way!! I missed your birth announcement.. So happy for you!! :D:D
Can't exactly remember but about 8-10 weeks after a second degree tear.
4 months. I had internal bruising from forceps and an epi which hurt for ages. Even just the thought of sex made me cringe. All better now though!
I thought you had to wait the full 6 weeks so we waited 5 weeks and 6 days :lol: I only had a small cut but I was still tender. with my 2nd, 3rd and 4th.. Well I think by 4 weeks were semi back into it. but I had c/s with them so it could have been different..
It was/ is the same for us. I am soo not interested. We DTD about 3 times when preg, and about 4 times since birth. So about 7 times in the last 22 months!:
3 weeks with number 2, I had tearing and stiches but all was ok by the 3 week mark. With DS1 we waited almost 6 months but I also had other complications as well.
Whatever feels right to you. Take it slow, relax and tell your partner if you're uncomfortable.
4 weeks for both
number 1 no tearing or grazes
number 2 second degree tear
With DD I had an epis and we back into it within 3 weeks and exactly the same with DS :redface:. We just couldn't wait any longer and we had no probs at all.
It was under 2 weeks. Pretty gentle at first. I had a first degree tear and 2 stitches.
However whilst we were having sex so soon after I would say it wasn't until about 4-5 weeks that all was back to normal in the DTD department.
Two months, and unfortunately for me it took 12 months before it was at least semi-comfortable for me. So hoping next time around won't be so bad!