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I'm sure EVERYONE has seen this website but I had to post it to keep it going. Please have tissues handy and if you have friends/family who just don't understand what you are feeling ... this will hopefully help. :( I'm sorry if it made anyone sad.
Empty Arms
Heather
Oh how sad.. my heart goes out to all of you. I feel sometimes other take for granted just how easy it is for them to have children.....and i will never fully understand the heartache you go thru....
All i can say is...goodluck and my heart goes out to you.
I dont know what to say....just so touching.
I just viewed this site today. I held my little boy close and cried.........
Guys, just to let you know, we don't usually allow links at all, but in light of the very special nature of the above link, we will allow it to say.
Thank you for sharing Heather. It is a beautiful presentation.
Thankyou Heather. This was sadly beautiful... :hug:
Hi Heather,
That was great, sometimes I feel i just bottle everything up and just go on like normal - however i have begun to realise that after years of IVF you do need to just sit down and have a good cry and this helped me get it out. We do become stronger on the outside but on the inside I think you never really do.
Thanks for a good cry I needed it.
Hi Heather,
as Lucy has said, this link has been given the ok to be posted. But it's actually been posted many times before, but the link has, up til now, always been removed. Now that we have permission for it to be here, I'll be making it into a sticky.
Thanks Leis for being the first person ever to post the link here, and heather for reminding us how beautiful it is!
Hi all,
This is the first time i have ever seen this. It really makes me feel lucky that i am not on my own. I just had the biggest cry ever and know that alot of you that have watched this have also had a big cry too. It is a very emotive way of explaining our fight.
xoxoxox Gina
Thanks for keeping the website up, I was wondering if you'd allow it to stay. I think even after connecting with woman and some men on these infertility websites, I don't think anything has made me feel like I was total understood until after I saw this website. I've thought of emailing it to family and friends but I don't think I could open myself up that much. I did decide that if I ever become preg I would continue to educate people on infertility and then send out this "empty arms" website....
Heather
That is so sad, Im speechless
WOW - that just completely epitomises the thoughts and feelings that my husband and I have gone through the past couple of years. It certainly did make me cry – a lot - but also makes me feel less alone in this journey. Thank you so much for posting.
Thank you for posting this website and to BB for allowing it to stay. This really does epitomise the journey that so many, us included, go through to realise our dream of one day being parents.
I'm not sure what to say.....how sad, it certainly made me cry.
Thank you for posting this link, and mods for allowing it to stay.
Ive seen it before but still looked again. Its lovely!!!
Yeah, it is really well done. I have seen it a few years back and showed a friend who said she wanted to be able to understand, after watching it she cried and told me she had no idea, and has since been much better with the whole thing.
I just can't stop the :cry: but I know that that website has helped me to understand just how heart wrenching infertility is. My heart breaks for each one of you going through this.
lv Spring
No worries sush.. I am glad that people enjoy it.. I haven't looked at for a very long time as it makes me very emotional.... Come to think of it.. I don't know how i even found that website....Glad it is now a sticky..
Leis xx
that's so sad thankyou for sharing
When I first discovered BB, this was one of the first links I saw...it was heart wrenching to watch but it explained what was happening to us so beautifully.
I showed it to my family, to help them understand our pain...and it helped immensely.
Thankfully, after three years of TTC, we finally have a pregnancy...but every day I think about those three years...the pain certainly subsides, but the memories are still there to remind me of the journey that many of us had to (and many who still do) endure...
oh my gosh,
im so glad this was aloud to stay posted, i just watched it, i cryed and cryed, i still have a lumpin my throat. what a wonderful way to explain our feelings to those who dont understand the pain of infertility and being "childless". it so descriptive, but brief at the same time. wonderful, thanks for posting it. I have email the empty arms link to my mum and my sister who i think will appreciate it because i cant explain how i feel to them with out getting upset, so i never actually get to explain it to them myself. thank so so so much. I would also like to say, to any moderators thanks for letting it stay, i also think that little links like this are helpful and that its good that exception can be made...
georgette
oh gee how sad i cried my eyes out and felt so sad like is it ever going to happen for me i :pray: it does happen for all of us good luk :heartbeat:
;This is the first time I have seen this, thank you so much. My husband and I have had 16 miscarriages, with 12 years of treatment. No-body really knows how you feel, or what to do or say to you. Our path or journey may be over it may not, but please treasure those little darlings for all you have as I treasure my husband with all that I have, and I feel I'm a lucky one, for having a fantastic husband. Focus on what you have, not what you don't have and together you can overcome anything.:
That is so beautiful and so sad all at once.
Gawd.....Now I can't stop crying...
I cried ... because its us.
I wish that everyone we know could understand.
For many years, I have had a ...problem... with IVF. Please read fully before you judge me. It stems from a combination of the fact that my mother and her 6 siblings were all given away and adopted shortly after birth; and that people are waiting until they are 40 and endangering their health, or have had abortions that have made it difficult to conceive. My little catholic church taught me this was sinful, both to abort, and to wait so long. This is what I have grown up believing.
I want to apologize now for the attitude I have had.
I have never shown it here before, but I still harboured it in my heart. I never knew the pain, of waking up with that longing. Or the cost. Or of seeing my friends with babies. It has always come easily and naturally to me. My daughter was a surviving twin, but even then I did not grieve because Her twin never got bigger than a blueberry.
The images that came to ming were of a woman, sinking to her knees at the bathroom bench, with the realization of not being able to conceive, and I felt this overwhelming guilt knowing that while I didn't feel it, someone close to me had.
I am sorry I have been so callous. I am sorry I have been so ignorant, and I am sorry I have something cannot share. I have never felt so blessed to have my children. And I will never look at them the same way again. Thank you for your link. :cry:
My grandmother was unable to have children.
My grandparents (mum's adoptive parents) will always be very special to me. My mother had FAS, and patent ductus. But they loved her anyway. They gave her a home, and I truly believe that if my nan had been able to have babies, my mother would have been worse off, for she would not have met her.
PS. Incidentally, if you Google "empty hearts broken hearts", you will also find a story abut a woman and her son Shane. also worth reading.
i think this is good for friends and or family of those TTC.
it is hard to understand how hard it is and i have been on both sides.
had 3 boys no probs. also had 3 mc during this time. now after 5 years had another mc. i at least know i can fall preg and have a baby, i just don't know when. i have a deeper understanding now of the heartache in the journey to conception.
thanks so much for this link, it makes us think about our words and actions
janet
That is a beautiful video. It truly describes how my DH and I have been feeling. Watching our two sister in laws get pregnant with babies they didn't want. I have listened to them complain about backaches and weak bladders all the while thinking I would kill or gladly die for just one tiny kick inside my empty belly. I don't know what else to say except for thank you for posting this link! :clap::clap::clap:
my partner and i watched this.
he had tears in his eyes, i think he's realised how hard it is for some people.
and how hard it is for me to deal with what i have.
I haven't watched this for a while - so I was not as upset as I was the first time I saw it.
I was sitting here going "yep, yep, yep." to all the statements that were made.
We are still in the position that we were when I first watched this 2 years ago.
I'm glad she created it.
It's tempered with the realisation that not everyone gets it - but if some understand, that's a start.
i truly wonder if she ever filled her empty arms
it is very beautiful and eye opening
I just watched this and cried. It's beautiful and sad and true
I do hope they did.:
There is an ageless quality to this piece. I am so so grateful to have found it on here.
It is a beautiful presentation.
I'm not sure I'm brave enough to email it to "friends" and family yet. I'd love to though.
I'm so sick of the insensitive comments.
Sometimes it's good to cry.
I hope she filled her empty arms with a miracle OR resolve.
We're still on the journey but hoping for one OR the other soon.
I will be happy with either.
Thanks for sharing it.
Amazing! I cried and cried!! it sums it up perfectly!
I was just about to photocopy chapters out of my "getting pregnant" handbook to give to my family but i think i will send this link instead!
THANKYOU
XXbELLA
wow I had no idea :( Thanks for sharing that. I have always taken having kids for granted. I will not be doing that anymore.
Hugs to you all who struggle.
Thanks MM84, it helps to know more people may understand and respect what LTTTCers can go through.
Thanks for putting this up Heather and to those allowing it to stay. Many people have been trying TTC a lot longer than me but I am going through a lot of that right now. Its good to know we are not alone although very sad but videos like this keep us going and trying and trying. Also helps our families and friends to understand what we are going through.
:pray: for all in this position. xo