The effect pregnancy has on a woman's sex drive varies for each person. Some women find they have an increased sex drive, others find it decreases. What did you find to be the case?
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The effect pregnancy has on a woman's sex drive varies for each person. Some women find they have an increased sex drive, others find it decreases. What did you find to be the case?
Everyone keeps promising me that my sex drive will increase now I am up to the 16 week mark......but it is distinctly lacking! I am not joking when I say we have only managed it once or twice since conception (and even then it was out of me feeling guilty!).
Poor DH has gone from 3 or 4 times a week to nothing!
Urgh @ the thought of sex. I was very anti-sex during my pregnancy with Kameron and I am again now. Keep telling andrew that i don't want to give the baby a headache ;)
Love
Wow you gals make me feel like a fiend ;)
My sex drive has dropped off recently leaving me feeling a little sad for partner and myself! Mind you at 26 weeks and v. swollen belly its more due to inconvenience than lack of desire!
We have obviously a very active sex life... with sex every day or second day most the time unless somethings up. (like too much work, illness or he has back injuries playing up).
And here I was thinking dropping to once a week was bad?
Thanks for sharing I feel a lot less guilty now!
Kaety
ha ha once a week! Since i wrote that we have maintained twice a week and im at 31 weeks now!
wonder if i will drop to once a week soon??
sex drive? what sex drive?
when i was pregnant with joshua i didnt want to have sex at all.. if i scaled my sex drive from 1 to 100 it would of been minus 50 !
Lesley
Wow!
Now I feel like the fiend!
After I got over the MS, I couldn't get enough of DP. The only reason we haven't for a while is he had an operation on his stomach, and his muscles are still sore. It's driving me nuts!
Probably TMI, but I never used to like my nipples being played, and now Dp can actually get me off just by sucking on my nipples! (Sometimes anyway) That's going to make breastfeeding in public very interesting if Brandon is the same! :)
Don't worry Susan & Kaety you are not fiends ;) I was as horny as a toad let me tell you! Why do you think Marc can't wait for me to get pregnant LOLOLOL!!!!! And why do you think he agreed to TTC so quickly he gets sex and lots of it LOL! And I have to put up with it :lol:
And a beautiful thing to note about sex & pregnancy, is that I read somewhere that when the mother orgasm's its like the baby gets a hug. Awwww isn't that sweet...if they only knew lol therapy for life! J/K!
So my friends, if you are a fiends, then we can be fiends together.
*hugs*
Cailin
Well our babies must be feeling pretty loved already then! :D:
Fiends of a feather, stick together?
:)
It's really quite crazy, DH and I had THE most active sex life.. very adventurous (sp?) and everything. We concieved I am sure by being kinda adventurous and afterwards saying- hold your legs in the air so the little guys can get down there!! LOL- obviously it worked... anyway!
Now i have spurts where on a weekend I cant get enough of the wonderful Duff and we have sex about 4 times a day, but other times we have gone for ten days without sex. Poor Dh must be so confused!! I feel like I am being a bad wife when i just can't do it sometimes, but Dh is very understanding.
Here's hoping it goes back to normal afterwards!
LOL Susan I must have missed your post before ;)
Pee don't worry it only gets more confusing *after* the bubs arrives LOL!
I am glad I wasn't the only one with a good libido when pregnant LOL!
*hugs*
Cailin
Hmmm.... well, I just cast my vote as my sex drive being low but I am only 12 weeks so I am really hoping that'll change!
Neil and I have had sex twice since we conceived. Once, I felt sorry for him so I told him to be gentle. I hated it. All I could think about was whether or not we were hurting the baby (I know you can't but the thought won't go away). The second time, he was drunk and I had a rotten cold. He persisted so I thought "why not?" but had to push him off cos I couldn't breathe! I was seriously out of breath and I thought my chest was going to cave in. I think he was worried that he had killed me, :lol:.
So I dunno when we will give it another try. Neil now has my cold (I say it's his fault - he hassled me! :lol:). I can tell it is getting to him. I suppose I just have to relieve him in "other" ways until I feel up to it (heheheh).
ROFLMAO Debbie ;) I can't remember if I was like that in the beginning or not. I think I remember telling marc that we couldn't have sex till after the 12 week mark, I think I was terrifired of an m/c and had spotting at 8 weeks. But I think after that well you couldn't stop me ;)
*hugs*
Cailin
Well I voted for changes frequently. I really really want to sometimes, but as soon as we get close my brain says "No, you'll hurt the baby". Totally irrational I know, but can't get past it just yet.
I was exactly like that Sarah! During the first trimester it was a no go zone, and then alternated until the final few weeks when I went a bit crazy :) ...we're back to no go zone atm though....
I always used to be pretty horny, and during the first trimester my libido increased tenfold! But from 2nd trimester and onwards my libido totally dissapeared... and still hasn't come back :smt009
Oh dear! I hope I don't lose my libido forever.
I keep saying "Bring on second trimester where I will turn into a sex-crazed vixen who wants to roll around in the sack in wild abandon at least twice a week" :lol:
Poor DH is starting to suffer!
*bumppity bump bump*
*hugs*
Cailin
Sex, my poor DH no way! He didn't get it for the whole time I was preggers WITH BOTH. Poooooor DH. PS not gettin' much now either.hehehehehehehehehehehe :funny: well I thought it was anyway
Both our sex drives were very high in early pregnancy up until approx 13 weeks then it slowly died down where we were DTD once every 2 to 3 weeks, which is unheard of for us, for the last 2 weeks approx 37 weeks pregnant my sex drive has come back back still not DTD much as Mark is too tired from his long days, which can be frustrating for my hormones LOL
Take Care
Deeanne
My sex drive changes all the time.
But DH has been not been allowed since i had the bleeding scare at 18 weeks.
Ive been as horny as hell and DH is loving it. \:D/ Once I got past the 18 week mark and was starting to feel normal again it was all go for us.
Jo :D
*bump*
This is a great topic, its not talked about very much, yet sex plays such an important role in our relationships with our partners!
My sex drive has decreased quite a bit since being pregnant, I am finding that very frustrating, as I love sex.
I still try for once a week with hubby. My main issue is that when we do have sex, I cant reach orgasm.
Has anyone else had this problem??
My poor poor DH didn't get sex from the moment William was conceived till 6 mths after he was born....ooopppssss :shock: LOL, now he's getting strapped to the bed I'm just so :rolleyes: rrrrrrrrr gimmi gimmi gimmi
I voted mine changes frequently.
At the beinging on my pregnancy i was also on my honeymoon so se drive was definatley increased.
Then i was not interested at all.
Only to become interested again by week 20 but DH had issues with it!
Now I don't know if im coming or going!
I already had a higher sex drive than DP before pregnancy, so it's hard to say how much more or less i'd have been HAVING sex based on when i was WANTING it, IYKWIM.
We were afraid of miscarriage and didn't DTD for the fisrt 12 weeks (i was also v. tired and nauseous). Then we did it once but not again until i was about 16 weeks. Then we did it quite alot for us (2 or 3 times a week) for a month or so, then nothing again for a while. It's been quite sporadic. Recently he's been put off my how big and wriggly the baby is, as he can feel it very easily now.
Which is a shame because i would like to DTD and tempt it out.... :lol:
Hx
My sex drive was low for the whole pregnancy
My sex drive (which at the best of times isnt that great) exploded!!! It was amazing!
Too bad the DP was weirded out having sex with a preggo- arghhhh!!!
Lol. With me it very much depends on if my bub is girl or boy.
With all my boys I've been horny as, but with my girl I hardly wanted it at all.
Very confusing for DH as we usually both have a reasonably high libido.
DH hasn't had it since late feb early march. Only tonight we are getting into the grove but miss 6 weeks old has interrupted.
I've heard that. It's probably an old wives tale but when pregnant with boys you want it more but with a girl it drops:
totally fluctuates for me. some weeks have a strong drive and then others I completely forget about it!
Lol I know, but in my case it's true. I have friends that it's the complete opposite.:
Nothing happening here at all. I think I am too scared lol
My sex drive has been the same prior to pg but we have avoided sex due to my history of m/c. So we did nothing in the first trimetser, I think we tried in the second but no go for me then once in this trimester. I was the same when pg with my DD too. I can't remember once we had DD what happened but probably avoided sex due to being sleep deprived and also I think we waited until 6 week check up and for locia to subside...
For me its dropped dramatically. We went from every day or two to now maybe once a week. And that's only ever if DF initiates it. If it were left up to me he'd probably get nothing! A big part of it is that I've been so tired the whole pregnancy, but also I get a bit weirded out if I feel the baby move and it totally kills the mood. It's a shame for DF cause he loves my pregnant body so it's extra difficult that I'm not often in the mood to DTD.
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I found in the begining of the pregnancy i was the same, then second trimester i would yell at my husband to get off me if he even tried lol. Now at 34 weeks, he got the idea to just leave me be and not even try, but my sex drive is through the roof and i find myself looking in my top draw for relief lol. Hope my husband doesnt see this haha
DD: DTD nearly every day.
DS: barely once a fortnight. Even then I didn't want to! :D