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People keep telling me not to worry and that I won't be rocking DD to sleep forever, she will grow out of it.
But HOW? I really don't see how she will unless I somehow teach her (nightmare!).
So if your bub really did just grow out of rocking to sleep please share with me and give me some hope, LOL.
hi heaven
my ds1 was rocked, breastfed and basically comforted to sleep every single time. i never 'taught' him to sleep.
now...at 21months....he goes and gets in bed, has a kiss and goes to sleep.
at night he has a story and a cuddle, then goes to sleep.
they do change hun, i promise! sometimes it just takes a while LOL
you're doing a great job :)
They DO! I promise xoxoxo
Jack used to love to be rocked to sleep then one day he just decided he didn't want it anymore, he would wiggle and push against me until I put him in his cot. They do grow out of it :)
Unfortunately no she wont grow ou of it. You'll be rocking her when she's 21 ! ..... Just kidding :lol: Ok she'll slowly grow out of it, but she will grow out of it, just like dummies and bottles or breastfeeding. Chin up :hug:
Yup I totally agree. Happened with both my kids :D:
Can't remember when it happened with DS though - but DD doesn't need to be rocked to sleep anymore, and hasn't for ... maybe a month ? She's 1 today. So its not tooooo much longer for you ;)
Now we are onto the put in cot and stroke back/pat bottom to get off to sleep. DS only needs us to sit there with him and he falls asleep at night.
oh hun.. i know how u feel. I felt exactly the same. DD was rocked till just after 6 months old. I thought it was never going to end. But it did. I have NOOOOO hope what so ever of rocking her to sleep now. (trust me, ive tried lol) they do grow up very quickly :(
So yes.. i can promise u, she WILL grow out of it.
I dont rock Z but I do cuddle him to 90% sleep - and I love it. It takes him 5 - 10 mins max to fall asleep now too, which I think is nothing at all!!!
With my first I did the whole put down so he can self settle from a young age etc - but I was by myself (DH in Iraq), we had just moved to Canberra with my first baby away from everyone, so I just listened and tried to do everything my MCHN said. Luckily DS coped with it all really well.
Don't wish it away just yet hun, it really does go so fast.
I got to the point where rocking to sleep just wasn't working anymore, as DS is just far too aware and would keep pushing away to look at everything. Now I feed to sleep, which (mostly) works.
Great to hear that bubs do grow out of it though :). You're doing a great job SJ!
That's what I needed to hear. She will grow out of it on her own. Well she better!! LOL. And not too much longer?? Pretty please.
I enjoyed rocking her to sleep when she was a bit littler but now she is just getting way too heavy and I can't keep it up!! Plus, she wakes up too easily, and hardly ever lets me put her down!! It's like she wants me to keep rocking her the whole time she's asleep!!
have u tried rocking while she is laying down in her bed???
Yep, can't even get her to look sleepy, LOL.
I usually just bounce on the fitball with her, easier on the arms and back.
heaven, i have a rocking chair and i just sit back at night and watch tv while i rock ds2 to sleep. have you tried a rocking chair?
i find it really relaxing and he doesn't feel too heavy in it.
Aww hun it will happen :hug: Just cherish her bieng so small and actually lying in your arms for long periods! :)
Good luck hun xxx
I've rocked all my bubbas to sleep, and with DD3 did it until she was about 16 months. She pretty much showed me she was ready by trying to get out of my arms and into the cot. When she did self settle, I'd always want to pick her up and give her a cuddle.;)
Heaven Hun I'd love to say my DS grew out of it but he didn't... he just grew so big that and I couldn't rock him to sleep any longer LOL although I would have:redface:. LOL. Like some others have said DS was BF and "held" until he went to sleep every night and unfortunately he only got worse, Once h was in his cot he had to be "patted to sleep" we ended up getting professional help BUT...Now he sleeps the night through 6.30pm to 7am in a single in his own room. Every child is different and while you might have some bumpy times as we did you will get there! :D:dance:
The thing is, she's not so small anymore, my arms are dead!! LOL. So then I end up using the HAB for her sleeps and I don't want to have to bloody carry her around for the rest of her life!! LOL.
Oh no Bronzdbebe, what did you have to do?
Rainforest- I was just telling DH yesterday we should look at rocking chairs!! But they're pretty expensive hey, and then what if it doesn't work, lol. She needs pretty vigorous bouncing, haha, no idea how you can go to sleep like that.
It's not even so much the rocking that's bothering me coz it only takes her 5 mins or so to get to sleep but then I can't put her down or she wakes up and every time she stirs I have to rock her again or she wakes up crying :doh:
Have u thought about going to a sleep school? I went.. it was great. It had nothing to do with CC and now DD is a self settler, with no tears (95% of the time).
heaven- we bought my rocking chair from ebay when i was pg with ds1. from memory i think it was about $300 but it has been one of the best investments we've made- the cushion is nearly worn out from overuse!
i wrap ds2 up really tight in a big thick polarfleece blanket, sit in the rocking chair and rock him till he's really asleep and then manage to be able to put him down without him noticing, i think partly cos he's wrapped up so thickly iykwim? so he doesn't seem to notice the transition. might be worth a try for you?
Mayb the op shops would be a good place to look for a rocking chair?
When i saw the MCHN last she suggested sleep school for a day stay but I'm a bit scared, I don't know what methods they use.
I think I will look for a rocking chair! Thanks rainforest!
Well when Zane got to big to rock i used to sit in a chair put a pillow under his head and lay him down on my knees and bounce him that way (I know very funny!) and then like you DD about 5 minutes later he was asleep so i would lay him and the pillow in his cot I'll add at this point that he was 12 months and the pillow was very flat. Then he got to long so I would just pat his back in the cot till he got to sleep, but if he ever woke in the middle of the night he couldn't settle himself we had to help him. It reached boiling point for us when he started getting molars and DH was away for weeks on end and i could have spent half the night settling and then by the time I got back to bed and nearly asleep he would wake again. Now by NO means what so ever am i saying this will happen to you as I said earlier every bub is different. So 2 months ago (approx) we got the Baby Whisperer out and she went through some techniques with us and now Zane goes to bed at about 6.30pm to 7am the next day, he does wake in the night but I no longer need to go into him all the time, obviously there are still nights where his cry is "pain" so of course I'm in there in a flash. He also climbed out of his cot so we moved him to his single bed and he doesn't come out of his room he knows now "sleep time" is exactly that, Same as for his day sleeps. I guess what i'm trying to say is that even if she doesn't "grow out of it" then there is help available to you if you need it, Just don't suffer in silence like I did. My GP put me onto the baby whisperer and I'm in brisbane, i'm sure there would be something like that in your area or something similar if you feel like thats an avenue you might like to explore. Huge Hugs Hunni, whether she grows out of it or not I promise you won't be doing it forever!!
Love S xox
Thanks BB. Is that the woman I've seen on sunrise before? I'm in Brisbane too.
I'm not sure hun it might be, As I said my GP reccomended her, but chances are she has been on TV? Her name is Rene Ree's?? I'm not sure if I'm allowed to "advertise" her details to you on an open forum so I'll PM them to you.
I found her service to be absolutley fantastic!! She comes to your house and goes over all aspects of parenting with you so diet,sleep,disipline(for those older ones) stress and coping stategies for parents etc. She does not use contolled crying if that is what you are worried about? I would not have coped with CC, She works with you and your baby to get a method that will work for you both, obviously there is some crying involved but in our case it was because we were all so over tired and stressed out and it wasn't just DS, i jumped on the crying band wagon too and she did not make me feel silly in any way more normal if anything. She is expensive she cost a little over $300.00 and was here for 2 1/2 hours so a little pricey, but I can honestly say I owe her my sanity and would recomend her to any parent who has difficulties with their bub/toddlers/kids sleeping.
You might not feel though you are ready to take a step in this direction yet, so please don't feel like I'm pushing you, thats the last thing I'm doing, Just offering another option....
Thanks BB I got your PM.
You're right about not being ready though. I need to get more motivated first. At the moment it's not enough of a problem for me to be persistent enough to do something major and I feel like I'd give up iykwim? So that would be a waste of money, lol. So my plan is I'm going to try the stuff from the no cry sleep solution book first. Hopefully that works but if not then I have other options, thankyou!!
I also highly recommend a rocking chair... even though my babies have all grown out of being needed to be rocked to sleep it was a good investment and I still enjoy using it :)