Is having 3 kids really that bad??

I've told a few people I am thinking about going back for no.3. Every time I've told anyone all I've heard is negative stuff about having 3 kids. How if I have 3 then I will HAVE to have 4. I don't want 4, I only want 3 plus dsd's. My brother went on for about an hour on why you can't have 3 kids. I was excited about going for number 3, now I just feel guilty about it.

Anyone here have 3 kids? Are you happy with 3? Is it really as bad as people say having 3? Is 3 much harder then 2?

Thanks for any replies.

Hi Mum2,

I only have 1 but i want 3 kids. I think 3 is a great number!

With 3 kids they all have a role in the family, oldest, youngest and middle child so no one feels left out lol

Don't worry about what other people think, if 3 kids completes your family go for it!
Im excited for ya!!!!

Best of luck! :hug:

I'm one of 3 and although there are times where 2 will get along better then the other one it's okay. 3 is a good number. Plus I don't think people have a right to dictate to you about your choices.

Is having 3 kids really that bad? God I hope not!!

But I'll let you know soon.. LOL

Ill never know as Ive jumped from 1 to 4 but I think if your happy with your decision why do others feel the need to judge? If 3 is the prefect number for your family, you'll know :hug:

That statement is just way to broad for you to take much notice of. It all depends on the situation.
I think some people think that one will be the odd one out - but that doesn't apply to me - mine are really spread out. It doesn't apply to my GF with 3 either and hers are closer together.

Start telling them you are going for 5 and see what the reaction will be then :rolleyes:

Ah for goodness sake who should it matter to but you & your partner?
I used to get the same thing when I talked about wanting another & it irritated me no end. They aren't raising them, not their problem ;)

Nope, 3 are cool, so are 4 (I ended up with my other ;)) and if you & your partner are happy to do it then go for it :D

ETA - thought I'd answer the original question, lol - we had 'just' 3 for 7 years... I think maybe DD was the odd one out being the only girl. But you could get that in a family of 10, so :dunno:
I was happy with 3, I wanted 4 but that was just me, you know? Yes three are harder than 2 but only as you would expect. Some people think the jump to 4 is harder because then you have to go for a bigger car etc. What I am getting at is there are always reasons for & against something. In this case I think you follow your heart. HTH

We had 3 and it was relativley easy..

we now have 4 and yes the workload has increased but 2-3 was pretty easy IMO

Honestly, I have noticed a big increase in work - but mainly cos my DH travels alot with work so it is just me alot of the time :( Getting out of the house sometimes can be difficult if one wont get dressed, the youngest wants to be nursed or hit his head and DD is having a wanting to wear a dress only day ....:rolleyes:

I also think logistically people think it is so much more - might have to rethink housing, or perhaps car - which for some people is not possible.

I also think that some of my friends that have scoffed at three are secretly a tad jealous we had three, cos their DH's didn't want another one. Remarks like, gee you are back to where you were 6 years ago blah blah.

I love my family and having 3 kids - simple as that. :lol:

Well, TBH, it depends on your life! If you've got a supportive DH, & family, why not?
Its not impossible, plenty of people do it. I always thought 3 to 4 would be harder coz you need a bigger car & everything.
Its hard on your own, but you gotta do what you gotta do :)

I have 3 kids. I found the 3rd was so easy, she just slotted in with our routine. The only downfall for me is the amount of washing :rolleyes:

:yeahthat:

I've found going from 2 to 3 so much easier than from 1 to 2!!! Generally the only thing I find hard is going out on my own with all three and that's mainly cause I have two under 2.

If you asked me today i would say yes, but thats only because Im having a bad day and in reality it wouldnt matter if i had three or seventy three.

Its your choice hun. I wanted to have four but am now totally happy with three.
Only you can decide what is right for you and your family.

I have 3 but like Lulu my first and second are spaced out by 9 years... so maybe it doesn't count :dunno: short answer: 3 for us feel right. It does get crazy but it's also lots of fun. Never a dull moment. It's fascinating to observe so much variety in your gene pool! Our blend of personalities are so diverse too... it all fits together nicely. ETA: um, yep, to be honest it's not all a bed of roses... the noise is incredible... but it's worth it.

IMO 3 kids is fine as one of the ladies said each play a part in the family. And id say the average family have between 2-4 kids. I'm one of 4 and my mum at times had trouble but she doesnt regret how many she had.

But its really none of anyones business, have as many kids are you want! :)

My 3 girls can be gorgeous one minute, feral the next - but I love them anyway!

My youngest 2 are only 18m apart, wich is a bit close for my liking, and I probably would've preffered my eldest to be at school (she was only 4 when #3 was born).

It can be crazy at times, you learn to just grin and bear it. The main thing that gets to me at this stage (I have 5, 3 and 18m) is that sometimes I just don't have enough hands, which means 'high risk' outings like swimming and the beach are off the agenda unless I have someone else with me.

Since being pg with #3 we had moved interstate away from any family and friends. I find sometimes not having that support hard, but mostly I am independent and would prefer to do it on my own without unwanted advice and interference anyway. ;)

I love my family of 3 DD's, and wouldn't change it for the world.
3 is it for me!! :dance:

To be honest i have found it harder with 3. Having them close together so oldest one wasn't even at kindy when youngest was born was hard. Having no family around to help is hard. It's very difficult to get any kind of break in the day as you're very lucky if they sleep at the same time. The house looks like a bomb site and i'm tearing my hair out some days. but i wouldn't change it. if i knew before i had 3 what i know now i would still have gone for it. 3 times the smiles, 3 times the snuggles (but also 3 times the tanties).
So you can only know yourself. if you want 3, go for it, if you don't you'll only be left wondering. It is hard now but i'm hoping it get a bit easier when they get a bit older. At least next year my oldest will be in school full time and my middly will be in kindy 2 days so i am looking forward to that :-).
good luck with your decision
Julie x

WHAT????? Is there a rule saying you cant have 3 kids!???? Unfair...we are planning ttc#3 next yr. Boohoo. I think those that are neg are either jealous or had a neg time with their 3rd child!

You go and have that 3rd bubba! :hug:

xxxx

Oh.... I forgot to add amongst the housework and mounds of washing - that my #3 is the most happy, flexible, easy going little bub - such a joy - I can wake him at a moments notice after a 20 min nap if I have to go out and do the school run, or stretch him out an hour if it is too early to get him to bed to last until after eg swimming lessons - thank goodness!!!

They really do just fit in.

I find in funny now in hindsight when I talk to new mums of #1 how they won't leave the house cos of baby X's routine, or needs a sleep (BTDT so that is not judgemental in anyway) - with 3 you have to get out and get on with life - I think that influences their nature too.

Good luck and go for it. I won't guarantee that you won't lose the plot from time to time, as I have, but I will guarantee you'll get extra hugs and more love.


I am in the same position as Willow and I find getting out hard with all 3 too. A really supportive partner is a must.

I think for me, three is scary because it's when the kids outnumber the parents! At the moment I can take one & DH can take the other & we're set, with three one of us will need to grow another set of arms! We do want three though, we figure we need a challenge in life :lol:

I've decided to go for number 3. Thanks ladies.

Mum2OneSweetBun - Thank you

CrazyLady - Thank you

Arimeh - LOL Good luck with everything.

rhyb - I don't know why do others feel the need to judge, it's not like it will effect them in any way. Good luck with your four :).

Lulu - LOL. I already get "them" comments. I'm 1 of 9 kids so I've been getting them all my life, 'don't your parents have a tv' ect. Now I get "are you going to take after your mum" ect. Maybe I should say I'm trying to break my mums record.

jasp - It shouldn't matter to anyone but us. We do all the caring for our kids, we don't get anyone to babysit our kids or anything else. I am going to follow my heart. Thank you.

aussienic - Thank you

SamiH - Thank you

bjrose - I got a supportive DH who helps heaps. We don't have family that can help but the 2 of us do okay together. Thanks.

Tinkerbell - Thank you. Dh does the washing so that's a plus for me.

Willow - Thank you

tan32 - Thank you. I hope you are having a better day today :hug:.

Bathsheba - Thank you

trying4baby88 - Thank you. Yes I know I would never regret it if I have another one.

my-three-monkeys - Thank you

PlonkeeMumma - Thank you

Vixstar - Thank you. I'm going to LOL.

BekZ - Thank you

Monday - I'm up for a challenge too :).

Go for it!! Who cares what others think or say ;)

We want 4 !!

I have 3 winkies andI love it... it did help in someways that my oldest was at school when the youngest was born, but that also meant poor baba couldnt sleep whenever she wanted as I had school pick up and drop off...

I always say the 3rd comes out knowing it place in the family, it knows its the 3rd and therefore learns very early on to slip into a rootine very easily...
it knows its the 3rd coz when your UTD it wouldnt be a quite place to be, as you always talking to the other 2, and yelling at them whenever they are fighting ( or I was anyway lol)...

having 3 is great I wouldnt change it for anything, do whats right for you and your DH, its no one elses business...

I would love 4, but BHL has changed his mind and wants to stick to 3, it breks my heart to know I wont have anymore children, but at the end of the day 3 an't so bad ;)

we are about to embark on #3 due in 7 weeks :D so will know how hard it is then lol
but like lulu and bathsheba our oldest is 7 years older than dd who just turned 2.

we are lucky well i am that ds goe sto school so i only have 2 at home during the day.
but we will also be using day care so that is an extra expense so i can work, i need to for my profession otherwise i loose my registration etc etc.
we bought the bigger car but mainly becuase hubby wants to do 4wding lol

cant wait for the fun to begin lol

Goodluck with ttc #3!!!

And all the best to the mums expecting number 3, you'll love it

I know exactly what you are saying Mum2... anytime I tell someone we want a third they look at me like I am mad. I take it as encouragement... maybe I will have 4, or 5. ;)Never rule it out I say.
Maybe it is because we already have 2 boys?? Maybe having 3 boys really is that bad? :p

I have really liked reading everyone's posts...it seems I come across so few 3 child families in real life, it is nice to know so many are out there and doing just fine. :D

We've decided on 2 if I can get a second one. Any more than that at the moment would be too much, we can't upgrade house or car to accomodate. The plan is 2 before I finish uni, then once I've finished, working and the house is paid up or we have saved enough for a better place, we might have one more before the clock ticks out. It really depends on how you feel within yourself, your family unit and whether it is right for you. If it is GO FOR IT! :)

We are probably going to try for #3 next year, as well, after the whole first year since I had T, I kept saying I didn't want any more - well, I guess I've changed my mind a little :lol:

Someone once wrote on another forum I visit about having a few children, or having them close in age, and I'm paraphrasing, but she said: "Yes, there are days when you'll feel like you can't cope, but people with no children have days like that too, so don't worry."

And I thought, that's so right! It kind of made up my mind for me... although I must admit I'm yet to stop taking the pill ;) Just not ready *quite* yet!!

Geez, growing up as a kid in the 70's & 80's it was actually rare a family of 1or 2 kids ... it was usually 3 or more ;) ... so, how did everyone suddenly change their minds a couple/few decades later :think: ... Boy oh boy, next it will be why did you have a blonde kid instead of a brunette or visa versa :rolleyes: ... i know i'm so sick of people not minding their own business, our lives & choices are so different to each other don't these people that question get that, augh :doh:

Mum2, to be honest i think sadly there are some people who feel some jealously & maybe they actually wish they could have 3 BUT for whatever reason don't !!

I come from a family of 3 children and we were never regarded as a large family as some people are making out 3 are these days.

........................ Mum2, you GO HAVE ANOTHER BUBBA to make " 3 " :dance::dance::dance: