I've told a few people I am thinking about going back for no.3. Every time I've told anyone all I've heard is negative stuff about having 3 kids. How if I have 3 then I will HAVE to have 4. I don't want 4, I only want 3 plus dsd's. My brother went on for about an hour on why you can't have 3 kids. I was excited about going for number 3, now I just feel guilty about it.
Anyone here have 3 kids? Are you happy with 3? Is it really as bad as people say having 3? Is 3 much harder then 2?
Thanks for any replies.
Last edited by AwesomeFoursome; October 31st, 2009 at 02:40 PM.
I'm one of 3 and although there are times where 2 will get along better then the other one it's okay. 3 is a good number. Plus I don't think people have a right to dictate to you about your choices.
Ill never know as Ive jumped from 1 to 4 but I think if your happy with your decision why do others feel the need to judge? If 3 is the prefect number for your family, you'll know
That statement is just way to broad for you to take much notice of. It all depends on the situation.
I think some people think that one will be the odd one out - but that doesn't apply to me - mine are really spread out. It doesn't apply to my GF with 3 either and hers are closer together.
Start telling them you are going for 5 and see what the reaction will be then
Honestly, I have noticed a big increase in work - but mainly cos my DH travels alot with work so it is just me alot of the time Getting out of the house sometimes can be difficult if one wont get dressed, the youngest wants to be nursed or hit his head and DD is having a wanting to wear a dress only day ....
I also think logistically people think it is so much more - might have to rethink housing, or perhaps car - which for some people is not possible.
I also think that some of my friends that have scoffed at three are secretly a tad jealous we had three, cos their DH's didn't want another one. Remarks like, gee you are back to where you were 6 years ago blah blah.
I love my family and having 3 kids - simple as that.
Well, TBH, it depends on your life! If you've got a supportive DH, & family, why not?
Its not impossible, plenty of people do it. I always thought 3 to 4 would be harder coz you need a bigger car & everything.
Its hard on your own, but you gotta do what you gotta do
I've found going from 2 to 3 so much easier than from 1 to 2!!! Generally the only thing I find hard is going out on my own with all three and that's mainly cause I have two under 2.
I have 3 winkies andI love it... it did help in someways that my oldest was at school when the youngest was born, but that also meant poor baba couldnt sleep whenever she wanted as I had school pick up and drop off...
I always say the 3rd comes out knowing it place in the family, it knows its the 3rd and therefore learns very early on to slip into a rootine very easily...
it knows its the 3rd coz when your UTD it wouldnt be a quite place to be, as you always talking to the other 2, and yelling at them whenever they are fighting ( or I was anyway lol)...
having 3 is great I wouldnt change it for anything, do whats right for you and your DH, its no one elses business...
I would love 4, but BHL has changed his mind and wants to stick to 3, it breks my heart to know I wont have anymore children, but at the end of the day 3 an't so bad
we are about to embark on #3 due in 7 weeks so will know how hard it is then lol
but like lulu and bathsheba our oldest is 7 years older than dd who just turned 2.
we are lucky well i am that ds goe sto school so i only have 2 at home during the day.
but we will also be using day care so that is an extra expense so i can work, i need to for my profession otherwise i loose my registration etc etc.
we bought the bigger car but mainly becuase hubby wants to do 4wding lol
I know exactly what you are saying Mum2... anytime I tell someone we want a third they look at me like I am mad. I take it as encouragement... maybe I will have 4, or 5. Never rule it out I say.
Maybe it is because we already have 2 boys?? Maybe having 3 boys really is that bad?
I have really liked reading everyone's posts...it seems I come across so few 3 child families in real life, it is nice to know so many are out there and doing just fine.
We've decided on 2 if I can get a second one. Any more than that at the moment would be too much, we can't upgrade house or car to accomodate. The plan is 2 before I finish uni, then once I've finished, working and the house is paid up or we have saved enough for a better place, we might have one more before the clock ticks out. It really depends on how you feel within yourself, your family unit and whether it is right for you. If it is GO FOR IT!
Is having 3 kids really that bad??
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Getting out of the house sometimes can be difficult if one wont get dressed, the youngest wants to be nursed or hit his head and DD is having a wanting to wear a dress only day ....
so will know how hard it is then lol
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