This is to all the Ladies out there that have experienced the joy of seeing a :bfp:
Apart from the obvious DTD :bd:
What hints, tricks &/or tips can you offer us TTC'ers to get that elusive :bfp: ???
Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
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This is to all the Ladies out there that have experienced the joy of seeing a :bfp:
Apart from the obvious DTD :bd:
What hints, tricks &/or tips can you offer us TTC'ers to get that elusive :bfp: ???
Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
I have no advice as we only DTD once and we fell pregnant, id say maybe instead of trying maybe just be careless. Decide around the time you are ovulating just dont use anything and see what happens. If you are worried about it and thinking about it, it just wont happen.
I got to know my cycle really well, knew when ovualtion was going to occur and told Df what days we would be DTD (yeah really romantic, lol).
Ovulator predictor kits can also be good if you have an irregular cycle or just want some extra help to know the right time.
I used OPK's so I knew when I was ovulating, also I can not recomend Pre-seed enough!! Its awesome stuff.
DH "going" first and then me... theory being dipping the cervix into the pool of sperm and sucking them up to where they need to be LOL. It seemed to work the first two times.. but doesn't seem to be working trying for #3! (yet!)
I didn't know my cycle, so we just DTD every 2 days til we got the BFP, lol. We were both taking preconception tablets and were trying to eat healthy. Iron and Zinc is good for guys, so DH unhappily ate lots of green vegetables, and happily ate lots of bacon. My mother sent me an article about avocado being good for preconception, so I ate salads with avocado too. I remember reading somewhere that soy was bad, so neither of us had any soy. We still drank, couple of glasses of wine each week and DH a few beers on the weekend, as we decided it was better that we were happy and relaxed. We got the BFP second cycle after coming off the pill, and first cycle of actually trying.
Put DH on Menevit!!! 3 months later BFP:D
AND gave up diet coke - I felt soooo much better - no idea if this helped or not tho
We stopped trying so hard, the more we thought about it the more frustrated I got & nothing happened.
Each time we "gave up"as such we got a BFP! seems relaxed is a good way to go..for us anyway.
This is what actually annoys me about others freely commenting on your due date, I'm due 01/01/2010 & keep getting the "oh, what bad timimg" ahhhh yeah, we tried & tried for x amount of time, got more & more upset as it didn't happen. Then were over the moon when we relaxed & let it happen....but yeah could have timed it better grrrrr.
We had been trying for 6 months and using a maybe baby but when we gave up, booked a hotel in the city, got drunk as on jagerbombs and danced all night (obviously not just in the club haha) it seemed to do the trick lol. I used to get cranky when ppl used to tell me to just relax though lol
Love it Ladies, keep it coming! Your advice is making my positivity increase... few hours ago all I could think about was how the universe was against me having a baby.
Erin, back in high school I was in the youngest bracket and Mum wouldn't let me do something cause I was x age and the other girls were older... I would always say, why couldn't you have me in August??? Only now do I realise it doesn't happen like that.
Nattyfred, sounds like a great night. I haven't had a drink for 6 months, frozen margarita ****tails are looking good this weekend :)
That's exactly what I did too! I often O-ed hours later (manually - :shhh: ) which I think really helped! Sorry if TMI!:
I also dropped 18 kgs in the 12 months prior to conception - which certainly helped me. When I got pregnant I was at about 92 kgs (quite good for me!) and feeling very healthy and active.
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So the consensus seems to be relax, have a couple of drinks and then O. No wonder one night stands can result in pregnancy, lol.
hmmm relaxing and alcohol seem to make a few mentions lol
I got preggers on a road trip holiday where we just kicked back, drank heaps and generally just had a good time :o
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we we fell pg with DD it was also....
because we were reallllllly drunk and i happened to O that night!!
we had been trying for almost 2 years for DD...so it was a suprise!
ATM we have just started using Menevit, i am taking elevit and some extra iron (as i am anaemic still). and also we just BD everyday in my fertile period. can't say it's working though...hopefully soon lol!
hmmmm maybe i should just buy some tequila and an OPK?!
for us? when i got rather... amehm itchy poor DH didnt want to look at me hehe im sure it was the shock of going from next to nothing to 'back away slowly do not make eye contact and RUN!" hehe i think though while you can temp, work out your body to a tee, sometimes just relaxing and letting go of and expectation can help- for us it was a "what'll be will be" from aug-jan then "try with every thing" from april onward. early Oct - we got a BFP and it was fun making it too - even if i was a weee bit tipsy ;)
We were completely sober, it was the middle of the afternoon on our day off together. It was really good (sorry if TMI) and because we usually do the withdrawl method this particular day i was about to O and if he had of pulled out it would have killed it so he said stuff it. We were both so relaxed and just had fun that we didnt even think about it.. 10 days later i got my BFP.
Sounds good to me Cassius... Cheers!:
Count me in too girls! Cheers! ;)
With DD1 & DD2, both times we were drunk LOL. DD1 was planned, DD2 was not quite planned. With this pregnancy, we were just so in the moment that we didn't use protection one night. I thought I was about 5 days away from ovulating and thought it was safe. I guess not.
For us both times - an overseas holiday! Lots of relaxing and drinking and lots of DTD ;)
With both DD and this preg DH and I went at it like rabbits, throwing away all of the O date info etc, just went with what my body told me, which was to BD several times a day, everyday and if I didn't feel like it we didn't do it! They say that gives you a high likelihood of a girl, but I don't mind another little priness to add to our family! :)
GL hun I hope you find what works for you.
Well I think for us.. it was the one month I didnt think we'd get pregnant, because dh was going away in the 'O' time.. but one thing we did different was we dtd every morning before dh would go to work and I'd go back to sleep with a few pillows under my bum..
Before that we were doing it at night or arvo every day for a few months and nothing happened.
Also, stress less and dont think about it. But I am one not to follow that rule, because it is darn right impossible to forget something that you want soooo badly!
What worked for us was that I went on a 2 week business trip, came back and we DTD that evening I returned and I ovulated that next day!
Also, DH was taking zinc supplements.
Erica xx
CBG - great topic!
My DH was taking Menevit and I was taking Elevit, we DTD the day before I thought I would O and then every single day for about 4 or 5 days. I would also put my legs up for 30 minutes afterwards, which really hurt!! I am pretty soft though - hee hee. That is pretty much it for me, I am a real believer in the legs up thing though as we fell twice in as many cycles. Ooohhh, I had also been off the pill for about 12 months so I would say that was well and truly out of my system.
:ROFL:ROFL at that.:
I went to the dentist. She said, you should get your wisdom teeth ripped out. So I booked in for that. We didn't stop trying and it was at the back of my mind but it wasn't as urgent that month. We also relaxed, had a few drinks to celebrate our anniversary and DTD as we had been doing probably every 2nd day. I was pretty sure I had o'd the day before but didn't really think much of it after 8 months of BFN's. I did a test just before having my teeth ripped out (the day AF was due based on when I thought I'd O'd) and got a false negative. Two weeks later I started feeling sick, my AF still hadn't arrived. So I did another test (a faulty one) then another and finally gst a BFP. Turns out poor bub got a dose of general anaesthetic (he's fine!). I'm thinking DH should get his teeth ripped out when we start trying for #2 in Feb.
I also used POAS ovulation tests to get to know my cycle well but it wasn't working - almost a year. It was good to know I had a regular cycle and to pinpoint exactly when I was ovulating as it was at a different time than expected.
The thing that worked for me in the end was a round of treatments from a Chinese Doctor. A few sessions of acupuncture and a committment to taking herbs daily left me feeling physically awesome and falling pg first cycle!
LOL! Sounds like a plan to me, especially as it seems that I am due to o next either just before or right on new years eve! lol:
The only other idea i can suggest is to DTD outside of the timeframe you think you are meant to be ovulating. A few of my conceptions were waaaaay outside the supposed 'fertile window'... one was on day 22 of my cycle! also try doing it earlier... remember that sperm can live for up to a week.
Get fit! Really get stuck into the exercise and healthy eating. 4 hours of huffy puffy exercise a week & I got my BFP!
I agree. Several people I know were obsessed with when they were ovulating... They would go crazy then, and not any other time of the month. I take the idea of one of the other writers and listen to your body... If you feel like it - go for it!
For me with #1 relaxing wasn't going to cut it! My secret to getting ds involved a fertility specialist and keyhole surgery (lap)! (Even though my endo was so minimal the fs said it wasn't affecting my fertility, after it was gone -> bfp!)
Luckily my first pregnancy seemed to give my body the shake up it needed, and to get #2 the formula was
1) EPO and lots of water
2) dtd every day for at least 4 days
3) opks
4) lying still for as long as I could post-dtd
Goodluck CBG, I hope you get your bfp really soon! xx
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i fell pregnant with DS, lots & lots of alcohol involved.
DD we tried for 16 months and then i said i couldn't do this anymore, its obviously not ment to happen.. My MIL was coming up for the weekend so i decided to stop TTC & put everything away so she didnt no we were TTC. works out i fell pregnant the weekend she was here LOL
ok, can come back in here now with our 'BFP' story...
basically as i mentioned DH started taking Menevit...big difference he reckons in terms of (and sorry for TMI) but the quantity and consistency...who knows?!
also, he went away for 3 days and i don't know, maybe the heart strings grew fonder or my ovaries got a fright that they were being ignored as i Od the day after he got back and the night after we DTD...nothing like a romantic 'interlude' lol :redface:
we also did the old wives tale of lifting the legs for a bit...not for long as i am lazy lol.
DH refers to this baby as the 'menevit baby' :rolleyes:
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That's hilarious!!!!!
Right, sneaks off to the chemist for some Menevit :D
This is a great thread!
Gosh... with DS1 there was NO way it was planned i was on Depo Provera Injections so me and XDP were obviously not using protection! i didnt find out i was UTD untill we went camping with XDPs family and my symtoms started kicking in, because i was on depo i thought there was NO way i was pregnant. 3 days after getting back to reality the symptoms were still there so brought a HPT and got a BFP! went to the dr to confirm and i was already 10weeks!
#2. It was mine and XDP's anniversary MIL and FIL had DS so we stayed home that night had dinner, drank and DTD. XDP was to drunk and "forgot" we werent using protection and well we had an accident! about 5 weeks later found out i was UTD.
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My name is Yules.....and I got pregnant while drunk :) (with Max that is - SURPRISE!)
I had also lost weight prior to getting UTD wit him.....With Darcie (you might remember) I was using OPK and the last one in the pack (which are really expensive here) stuffed up, so in the end I didn't actually know when I was o'ing. It was our anniversary, so again a few wines, a bit of a play on Guitar Hero till the wee hours of the morning...more play ;) and welcome Darcie!