"I just knew I had lost the baby" - what gave you that feeling?

I often read that people just knew when they had lost their baby. How did you know?

ITs hard to explain, but i just knew something wasnt right, i just had that "feeling" it wasnt going to end well, with my first mc, i had no idea, i had a hb then at 11 weeks it all went downhill, but with the 2nd one it was 6weeks 2days, so maybe my body knew cause it had been there before, i also had a dream a few days before that i was in labour and the baby didnt make it, the dreamwas quite physical as well, like i felt like i was pushing the baby out, if that made sence.
Sorry not much help in answering the actual question, but i think we have such a poweful intuition that sometime we just know.

I would have to agree with Anila on the intuition thing, there was no exact reason why for me just a series of little things that all sort of added up, I also had a few "weird" experiences that really quite scared me and had me thinking that something was wrong, I was also REALLY aprehensive about going to my scan (where I found out my bub had no HB) but I had no reason at all to be, just something in my head/body that was niggling constantly "this isnt gonna be good"
I hope that makes sense!

I didn't know until I started bleeding, but once I saw the bleeding, even though it wasn't much then, I knew what was happening. Of course it got worse over the coming days, but as soon as I saw it my heart iced over :cry:

I think that people who just *know* they're pregnant, without testing, are the ones that *know* when they miscarry - I don't know why, I don't think its just because some are more in tune with their bodies, because I'm not in tune with mine. LOL, sorry, not much help to you :)

I just knew something was wrong - people kept telling me I was just paranoid, that I was young and healthy so there was no reason why I would miscarry but I just knew - and when I started to spot - I knew that I was right. It upset me that peple weren't taking me seriously, including my doc!

I think a mothers intuition begins as soon as we are pregnant, as we are all mums, even if it's only to our angel babies!

I didn't know. I had a little bleed at 11weeks 5 days and right up until I had a scan at 12 weeks I was talking to 'him' telling him to hang in there. When they told me his heart had only stopped beating the day before I was devastated.

I was sus when my morning sickness didn't start (usually at 6 weeks). I also felt really strange/silly when I was organising a midwife and making plans.. looking back it's almost as if I knew. Then when I started spotting I just knew it wasn't good. I tried to convince myself that spotting can be fine (I had it with DS) but my gut just knew i think. I was very apprehensive going for my scan at 7 weeks and I'm usually really laid back about my scans... I just knew it was going to be an empty screen. Didn't make it much easier actually seeing it tho :(

Oh everyone, this thread is making me so sad, I just think we need a group hug :grouphug:

For me, I had an instinct with both of my angel babes, that there just wasn't something 'right'. With my first pg, I had spotting, then bleeding from very early on. I had a dream about my baby, and it just felt like he was saying good bye. I had several u/s which all came back ok. But at the last one at 18wks, I just knew it would not be good news. He had passed away the week prior. I had a very simial experience with my second pg, though not as bad bleeding or cramping, but I also had a dream with this baby and again it felt like he was saying goodbye. He was warning me that he would not be earthside with us and was saying hello and goodbye. We found out at 11 weeks that the pg was not to be.

With my next two pg, I did not dream about these bubs, and I just knew it would be ok. Although I had spotting with DD's pg and I was absolutely petrified both times, deep down I knew it would be ok. I feel the same with this pg. Although I have dreamed of this baby, it was a very differnt feeling and she was an older bub (not that I truely know she's a she, I just *know*, lol!), she was sitting up and playing with toys. It was a happy feeling and I just have a feeling it will be all good and she will be with us soon.

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At about 7 weeks, I had a few very sharp, very different pains to the normal stretching pains. The night before I m/c at 8 weeks, I just felt it, it's like everyone else has said, I just knew it was going to happen. A few hours later I started cramping and bleeding, and even though DF said there was hope, I knew our baby had gone. I just didn't 'feel' pregnant anymore, itms? That weight in my belly, the tingling in my boobs, and something I still can't explain, it all just went.

With Noah... I knew right from the get-go that something wasn't right. My DH would often find me crying because I felt something was wrong with my baby. I'd had scans which showed the baby was fine... the heart beat was able to be heard and as far as the Dr's were concerned, he was doing great in there. Everything came crashing down at the morphology scan. My DH was shocked because everything I had said to him was right.

With my MC in 07, I got my BFP and instantly I thought that the baby wasn't there to stay. Just a silly gut feeling. I even asked my mum how she felt when she miscarried as I thought it would happen to me... I cried when I told mum this and she told me the bub would be fine. A few days later I started spotting and a week later I lost the baby.

With my 3rd loss, I was kinda shocked when it happened. I'd only just got a BFP a few days previous.

Agree with the OP - just intuition told me with all my 4 m/c that they wern't going to be earth babies. Then I started bleeding & knew it was all over from there.

Whilst I was anxiousl& a whole host of other feelings when pg with DD - I knew she was a sticky one :)

I never knew. I don't have that sort of intuition I guess, I don't have it with my other children either...

Hello...

Firstly I will say YES I am a newbie to the site. My name is Tess and thought I would reply to this thread.

Althought I can say I didnt "know" I can most definatly say in the last few weeks I knew something was up... and it grew right up until into labour I was telling the midwife that I just had a hunch it wasnt going to go as planned.

Hugs to those who have lost, my heart is with you all.

I believe its ur intuition telling u. I had never been pg before and didnt even know anyone that had a miscarriage but right from the start i was saying that i felt like something was wrong.. i just didnt feel pg. Whenever i told ppl they wld just say im silly and too start being positive or i wld cause a m/c. It was very frustrating. But since I had never been pg or knew what a good feeling pregnancy was like i just assumed that it was just me being paranoid. I started spotting at 9 weeks, went for a scan and found out that baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks.. around the time i did the hpt. I felt like yelling at everyone 'See!! I told u!!'. Im glad that after a m/c u can request an early scan cos thats all i ever wanted with the last one but no1 listened to me.
A womans intuition is very strong.. we defintely dont give it enough credit.

I kinda knew something was wrong, but I definitely didn't expect to be told he was dead. I thought at worst he'd have to be born early, at best there was nothing wrong and I was worrying too much again. :cry:

I just knew. And when my m/s dissoed I was convinced.
2 weeks later I started to bleed.
I had a missed m/c.

I just had a feeling it was my frist pg and i just knew i kept calling the dr to ask for a scan and he kept saying no and when he finally said yes i found out that i had a missed misscarriage and it had been three weeks since the baby had passed.

Pregnant with my 4th child i felt from the begining something was just not right even going into the 12 weeks scan i was expecting something not to be normal and i was right even when the cvs and amnio said all clear i still felt uneasy and did not feel good about buying baby clothes i kept telling DH lets just wait to buy the pram and when the 19 week scan gave us a definate answer i knew i had to say goodbye and i was prepared because i had been expecting it.

With my first pregnancy I had no idea. I didn't know what to expect, and just thought it would happen lah-de-dah. However, I remember saying that I felt no connection whatsoever for a baby inside, and I also had no m/s which everyone kept saying "it's just 'cause you're so healthy". Yeah right! lol.

I had acupuncture (just to help balance my body at the time) and the next day I had the tiniest amount of spot bleeding. I knew this wasn't good, and it all went downhill from there. Apparently the baby never formed weeks ago and I believe the acupunture helped my body realise this (blighted ovum). I had told pretty much everyone because it was after the 12 week mark and we just presumed everything was fine, that was one of the hardest parts for me, that and the fact that I really had no idea.

The next mc I knew all along. It just never felt right and even though I was trying to be hopeful little signs like the lack of symptoms, some cramping and just no connection had me knowing it would never eventuate.

I'm now 10 weeks pregnant and it feels totally different this time. Although I still freak out at every sensation, and who knows I might lose this one too, but I am not afraid and have a good feeling that everything will be ok. We'll see...lol

With both my m/c, I had a dream that my baby died. In the dream, they were toddler-age, very cute little kids, not pregnancies or newborns, and they died, very sad. With my second m/c, I think I knew from the beginning that something is off, I just could not get happy. Even when we saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks, I still could not convince myself that there is a living baby there, just did not feel this connection. Very different than when I was pregnant with my daughter. With her, I just felt her even before I got the BFP.

With my first pregnancy I never even considered the posibility that it would not eventuate to a real baby. I knew way before my test that he was there and we were so excited to see him and his HB on XDP's birthday. That scan went perfectly... Or so we thought. Turned out that his HB was 127 @ 10w5d but it did not seem to concern the tech. Exactly one week later I lost a clot... Two days later I went in for my D&C.

With DS I was told I was not UTD lol. I had constant m/c dreams but he was a sticky.

I felt more pregnant with my M/C than with my son lol.

The last one I only told a couple of ppl I was UTD because I was afraid that it wouldn't stick. I was going to hide it until it was obvious to everyone the was a bub a cookin'.

I just knew it from the beginning. I kept asking mum if she had such a sore lower back so early, and she said it was just my uterus growing and not to worry. I was still worried. The next thing was DP's bad reaction to this unplanned joy...... I wondered how I was going to get through this, and just couldn't picture a happy outcome. Next was the dream. I had a dream about our little girl (I KNOW she was a girl) and she ran up to me, (I'd say she was about 18months old) and jumped into my arms. I remember a feeling of not wanting to let her go, and just holding her so tight, until I woke up. That was my goodbye dream.

The final straw was the spotting. When it started, I kept trying to cling to hope, but deep down inside I just knew this baby was not going to make it. It was my first pregnancy, so it was hard not knowing what to expect or how I should feel. I had a scan, saw a heartbeat, heard 'everything looks ok' but I still didn't believe it. I remember feeling relieved that baby was ok, but still had a feeling of impending doom.

I was right. Our baby was lost at 7wks 6 days. I woke up in the middle of the night with horrible cramps. Now I realise they were contractions. I passed our baby alone in the bathroom, and cried and cried and cried as I held her in my hand.

This pregnancy is different. I don't have the same fearful feeling as the first time. This pregnancy was planned. DP is supportive, even excited. My symptoms although vague, are much more than I experienced last time around, and I haven't had any goodbye dreams. However, in all of my dreams I'm heavily pregnant. I think this is a good sign. I can sense this baby has a different personality to the first.

Only time will tell if my predictions are right, and that this baby is going to be ok.

i sort of knew with all 3 of my lil angels with my first it was the back pain that got me it was excruciatting and then i felt really weird for a couple of days like i knew something was wrong but i just tried to ignore it with my son he was a twin and i never knew but i had some bleeding and cramping and started getting fevers and migraines when i went to check they told me all was fine and admittted me due to the fever but found out later that day that there was 2 in there and that one had passed away and my last one i was 12 n a half weeks and for some reason i didnt feel like i was normal and they checked and he was gone and i didnt bleed so i had no idea.. funny thing though i always had dreams a couple days before that i had lost them... weird to say the least but i sort of trust my sub concious now.. :(

I didn't know. Because it was a molar pregnancy, I still had all the pg symptoms, which actually were worse than they were with this sticky one. I never ever got that feeling that the baby was gone.

For me I had a really sensitive nose before I found out I was pg (which was a big tip off) then I couldn't stomach the smell of meat and it was like that for a few weeks then all of a sudden it didn't worry me as much (first clue). Then I was booked in for a dating scan when I thought that I should be at least 6weeks 2 days and I was so nervous and had a really bad feeling in the pit of my stomach, had the scan and was measuring 5 weeks (no biggy) and no heartbeat which isn't unusal. Came back 3 weeks later and still no heartbeat worst day of my life, but after the first scan I just knew with all my being that it was not going to end well.

I cant explain and it made it no easier when the Dr couldnt find a HB but yes, I knew that the pregnancy was not going to end the way id wanted!

I had no idea the first time, tripped into that scan so super happy, came out shocked and crying. I lost a twin with Tiger, so was bleeding at the hospital and decided to just send some super love to the baby I thought I was losing, and then felt really peaceful - told DH we were still having a baby and everything was going to be fine. So far, Tiger's just perfect. So I got more of a sense when things were going right, rather then when they were going wrong. Even now when my fear gets the better of me when I connect to Tiger I feel peaceful.

I knew throughout my 41 week pregnancy that something would not go right. I "see" things and I saw a lovely road with nice trees, flowers and a park each side of it ending in a huge brick wall. I tried to work out this "vision" the other thing I have been "seeing" for many years is an outdoor funeral with a white coffin and lots of people both hubby and I know at it. I have never been able to work out who's funeral until now. I had seen my daughters funeral.
I have only ever paid a little bit of attention to the things I "see" sometimes just telling friends if I see danger or good stuff for them.
I should have paid more attention to the things I see then I might have been able to save my lovely Ellen.

You will always wonder that Kate but Ellens life was planned by someone/something great than you! Whilst we should/could all take more notice of these feelings we have, we can never be sure that doing something could have changed the outcome!

I don't know if this counts, but from the very first day of my previous cycle, I had this constant worried feeling that I just couldn't shake. It just felt like I was constantly worried about something and I had no idea what.

Fast forward to 11DPO when I got my first, but faint BFP. At 12DPO it was a little darker, but still very faint. They only got fainter as the days went by...then I got AF (2 days before our 1 year anniversary when I was going to tell him he was going to be daddy mind you!). I never got bloods done to confirm, but the doc told me it was most likely a very early loss.

I'm sorry if I am out of place as it was never a confirmed pregnancy, but we have been TTC our first for 10 months now, and that was the closest to our baby that I have ever been.

I don't think I had a 'feeling' something was going to go wrong...I didn't buy anything for Josh though, thinking I will do it later when I know he'll definitely be OK. Maybe I was doubting my pg without realising it??? The only thing not going in my favour was a big fibroid in the uterus and the OB said I will most likely deliver a bit early. I was feeling quite sore aroud 16-17 weeks but I thought it was the fibroid so put it down to that. When I went into labout at 21 weeks I still didn't think it was labour, rather the pain from the fibroid (that's what I thought they were treating in hossy, turns out they didn't tell me what was happening so I wouldn't get stressed out). I do remember the morning before Josh was born, it was something like 1 am in the morning, I just had the most dreadful feeling and felt scared to be alone in the room (I had the whole room to myself, there were 4 beds). I felt like someoe was there with me, it was really weird. I had to ask one of the nurses to put the light on for me.

With our first loss, I started wondering when the pregnancy symptoms disappeared. I even posted a thread asking if it was normal. That was about 8-9 weeks. I hadn't bought anything yet. I was holding back. The day of the OB appt was the first day I started looking at things like teddies. Then we found there was no HB and we went into shock. What's struck me in hindsight was my first reaction to the BFP, apart from shock, was to tell DH if this didn't stick, he was going to have to take Menevit next time. I had spotting at 6wks, but had a scan and saw a HB, though it was only 97bpm. No-one said anything about that though.

With Leo I spotted again at 6weeks and scared we were going to lose him. I was terrified until I felt him move, then I'd get scared he wasn't moving enough. I even wondered at one stage if he might be deaf, because he didn't seem to be as active or responsive as other people's babies. I've gone over notes I made during the pregnancy and I keep saying I hope the baby is OK. All the scans were normal. I don't know if it's my normal paranoia or if I knew all alone that there was something wrong. I had a hard time visualising a newborn - it all seemed so abstract to me. I could only "see" a toddler. I've since found out Mum was worried all along, but she doesn't know if it was because of the previous m/c or instinct. She had a bad dream the night I went into labour and couldn't settle all day.