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Okay, so I am probably hormonal and emotional, but 50% of the people I have told so far are like "Oh my God, are you happy about it?", "Your a glutton for punishment aren't you", "should I be happy for you", give me a break, just one word will do "Congratulations". I've already got two, I know it will be hard work, I'm not stupid....but another baby is a joy and the best gift of all....
Okay, rant over.
well, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! from me!! :)
I've only one child so far but I'm sure those kind of statements would be very annoying!
Congratulations - I hope you start hearing some more of that soon!
Hey, congratulations, hope you are getting some rest.
Don't mind what others think, it's really none of their business whether you have a child or 10. Just tell them to take a long walk off a short pier. :)
I know exactly what you mean. I have told people about this baby and I get their reaction of 'Really?' followed by complete shock and a little rant about me having another baby and usually at some point they ask 'Are you happy about it?' and I say 'Yes' and then I get 'You don't look very happy' - well that's because I have just had to listen to you carry on for the last 5 mins. You didn't say congratulations, you just carried on about me having another baby and how hard it is going to be and asked me if I own a television. Grrr!!!
Boo Boo - I am completely feeling your pain. People are rude. I feel like sending them all a memo that says - 'The only appropriate response to a woman telling you that she is pregnant is to say congratulations. Any other reaction just makes you an idiot.' I've been getting shocking reactions about my pregnancies since I got pregnant with my second. It's because I choose to have my babies close in age. It is a choice. It is planned and it is rude that every second person asks me if I know what contraception is.
Sorry, I kind of turned this into a vent of my own.
Congratulations on your pregnancy :)
I'm thrilled for you Lauren.... I agree... tell them to take a long walk of a short pier!
A baby is a wonderful blessing, why can't people just hold their tongues????? I'd never dream of reacting that way to ANYONE telling me they were pregnant, whether they already have one child or 100.
One of my good friends was pregnant with her third and the whole of her DH's family stopped speaking to them...... WTF? She ended up having a miscarriage and they all said "well, it was for the best, you can't afford the two you have". Again, WTF?????????
What is WRONG with people.
For what it's worth, CONGRATULATIONS! Wonderful news.
Sue xxxx
LOL wait till you encounter the looks from perfect strangers when you venture out with your 2 children and an enormous baby bump - the looks that so clearly show they think you're mad...or even better when bub is born and you have all 3 of them and people seem to think you're a time bomb and are waiting for the kids to all have a meltdown on you. Or the older ladies who all say "gee you have your hands full..."
It's not that bad, really! I love it! CONGRATULATIONS!
firstly :hug:
secondlyCONGRATULATIONS!!
:cheer: :cheer:
:confetti: Congratulations! :confetti: a wonderful gift indeed.
Well firstly, Congratulations on your wonderful news! I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months!
Onto the big issue. Its damn rude and I was so far over it by Haz that I learnt to preface the disclosure of my pregnancy with everyone with "I have some wonderful news" so that there could be absolutely no confusion that this baby is very much wanted a loved. Sadly it didnt get rid of the television comments but you make fun of people who say them and they soon stop talking to you about contraceptives! Joke back with them about how your relationship hasnt moved into the old couple falling asleep in front of the TV stage yet. I remember DH got to the point that with the blokes he worked with he would just tell them 'You're just jealous coz I am actually getting some'.
They are making a joke at your expense, makes them fair game imo!
That said, I have been on the other side of this equation where I have congratulated someone who was not exactly excited by the news, so that was awkward, but he couldnt be happier with his now two little munchkins so I don't regret assuming and offering what support i could.
Don't you know you are only ALLOWED to have two?!!! :p
I've had the same reaction as you from some people and I'm just choosing to only really listen to the people who say congratulations and how glad they are.
Hope you have a wonderful pregnancy :hug:
CONGRATULATION on this exciting time .... (tell other to go and jump)
I must be mad as well :) as i have a ds 10 ds 2yrs and pregnant with my 3rd and im turning 40 next week ! BUt im loving life and anyone else can go and you know what!
As long as you and your husband are thrilled that is all that matters.... and cmon i think you two know how babies are made lol
Congrats again and dont worry about the negative comments.... even though i know they can be hurtful
xx
Hehe I've had the reverse, every man and his dog would take one look at us with our 3 foot tall mop of golden curls in tow and ask us when we were having another one? And of course the another one turned out to be a boy so now I appear to have a nice boy/girl pair. I'm almost 35 so I don't look too old or too young to be having kids, so noone comments on age, and with a 2.5 year age gap noone comments on how close they are either. All is good :)
Thing is though, my eldest is SO much older than the other two that a lot of people aren't actually aware I have 3 kids. We talk more to parents of the playgroup and kindergym kids not the school parents and they are two different circles.
Enjoy your pregnancy and get a T-shirt printed with some smart alec comment on if it keeps happening ;)
Really???
Some people are strange! Anyone would think you were onto baby #23! Forget them....
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
:happyforyou:
Wishing you a Happy and Healthy 10 months!!!!
Geez, we've just announced number 3, and I've had a few comments similar - but most have been re-worded like "wow, you must have some stamina", which I actually like ;).
A massive congratulations - for you shall have more cuddles, kisses and love from three bundles :D.
Far out Boo Boo! :wall: Some people are just idiots.
Congratulations darling one! :loveshower: Wishing you all the very best. :goodluck: :hug:
Congratulations from me!!
wat?? r u srs??? well... CONGRATULATIONSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!! thats great news and as long as ur happy who cares.. if u can do it with two ull be fine.. and i think ppl should have a filter between their brains n mouths lol they probably didnt realise wat they r saying but regardless it still upsets u just smile and think positive thoughts :)
Totally agree with you Boo Boo, any baby is a gift!! Don't let them get you down they are probably just jealous.
Huge :hug: you lucky thing!
Boo Boo - I've been getting the same thing from some of hubby's family. My FiL went on to say to hubby "And how will she cope with 2?"
FiL is normally very supportive, but it really did get to both of us.
I've also had the other side of it too, the "when are you having another one?"
I'm lucky that most of our family and friends know how hard it has been for us to even get to this point where we're having another baby, so they know already that it is very much wanted.
Boo Boo, I'm sending HUGE congrats out to you & your family! It doesn't matter what they think, even if it does hurt. They are just the ones who will be missing out on the wonderful developments that are happening inside you because they can't be happy for you.
Massive congratulations Boo Boo, that really is wonderful news. Don't let the comments get to you hun really I think for some people its hard to comprehend having more than one baby ... even when they themselves have had more than one.
huge congrates on another baby hun! how exciting.
i've been coping the same thing, gluton for punishment, how am i going to handle a 16 month old and a new born? seriously people need to get over it, they arent the ones who are doing it so i dont see how its anyones business
I hear ya, I got negative reactions from each of my pregnancies after the first. The worst was when we found out we were having twins and someone offered their commiserations:o
Huge congratulations on your pregnancy!
CONGRATULATIONS :D
i had trouble with thing like that on my side with bub 1 an 2. with DD my parents were strongly against it until around 34 weeks when my health started to deteriorate with a genetic heart disease then they became supportive and would say things like we know you both will get through this although they always hated the name i had picked out for her. with DS they would continue to tell me i couldn't handle DD that i wasn't a very good mum and wouldn't b able to afford another and again hated the name my partner had chosen for him. 3rd time round before i had even concieved they were on my case asking are you pregnant yet? when are you gonna get pregnant etc LOL it was strange and they dont seem to have any problems with the 2 names i've picked out this time. his family was always very supportive and are a very clucky lot ^^
Congratulations!!!
People are crazy! I think they should mind there business no matter how many someone has but wouldn't you expect that comment more when people have heaps of kids, not 2?? Far out must be because you already have the "perfect pidgeon pair", "why on earth would you want any more?"
Thank you lovely ladies for all your support. And huge hugs for you that have also gone through this. Weirdest thing though, for the past year people have been asking us when we are having another and then when we say we are they are all shocked and speechless...just can't please em!!!
xxxxxx
You could turn this back on them by saying....people kept asking when we were having another one so we obliged :rofl:
Congratulations! :confetti:
I know exactly what you mean! I have had SO many comments like that! Especially because I was 15 weeks pregnant when DH and I tied the knot. I got everything from "Gee your starting early!?" "HAHA you've really pulled the handbrake now!" "Enjoy your life while you still can - because the fun stops when bub is here" etc etc
I think people think its funny to pay you out because your having a bub but little do they realise that the comments are unwanted and can sometimes come across really rude. Just smile and walk off. Most of the time its just jealousy ;)
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Hey! I resemble that remark!
Gees, that is ridiculous!! I have two and want a third and would be expecting a congrats at the time too! What is wrong with these people?? Well anyway, from me, a huge CONGRATULATIONS!!!
LOL u are that remark Bending Reality :P
Hugggggggeeeeeeeee Congrats hun :)
I have also discovered people can be extremely rude, and I myself am OVER IT!!!! I decided Yesterday that from now on if they think it is ok to be rude to me, I will be rude back. Dont let others make you feel bad, make them feel bad for saying awful things, and hopefully they will think twice next time. And for what it is worth, my Mother has been hounding us for 7 years to get pregnant, once we did she did not say Congrats (still hasn't) and splashed across Facebook that she is so happy that she is going to be a Grandmother, and everyone congratulated her WTF??? How's about congratulating the ones that "got" pregnant lol. Basically I think it is not them trying to upset you, they are just morons, but you have a special little baby on the way, and THAT is all that matters. What about years ago? It was the norm to have millions of kids, and yet "3" is too much? Ridiculous!!!
Wishing you all the best xx
congratulations, I think it's wonderfull news. I would assume babies are always happy news unless told otherwise. I hope you have a wonderfull pregnancy, I hope in some round about way no one is surprised when I decide to have bubs #3 I think hubby's already understands i'm not finished despite his favorite comment 'I was happy with 1' (fyi baby #2 let out a scream last time tht comment was made, as if to say hey!)
For us a I think the shock and amazement will set in if I manage 4 :lol:
he he I should also mentioned I just talked him into buying a 7 seater :Lol:
Congratulations! :) At least we are all happy for you ;)
I'm due to have #3 and I was told by a Mum of 1 today that I don't know what I'm in for with 3 kids! Not sure how she knows that? But anyway... Just taking it one day at a time here :)
Aww congrats Baby!! Dont listen to all those rude people out there. You have been given the most precious gift of time, and at the end of the day you are only going to feel bursting with love for your little family. They will bring you the greatest joy, the saddest of heartaches, and the most frustrating times to come, but I promise its so worth every minute and every comment in the end.
I am currently on bubba number 5 and I wouldnt change a thing even if I was given the chance.
Enjoy it hunni and a huge CONGRATS from me!!!:grouphug:
BooBoo I have copped all the flak to and it has been from my mum. I am on baby #6 and instead of "woo hoo I'm gonna be a nanna again" i got "oh no" and "don't you think you are to old to be having any more kids" Luckily I was on the phone telling her or she would have been in trouble. It doesn't matter how many babies you decide to have it is your decision and everyone should be happy for you. My sister on the other hand told me "congratulations and you should have your own reality show" lol.
Well from me a big CONGRATULATIONS and hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and birth
oh :hug: although i dont have any children born yet, i can sympethize - because im young people are like "oh yourre throwing your life away" bla bla bla bla. even sometimes when they dont say it, i can tell theyre thinking it (or maybe thats just me being a crazy pregnant woman??:ROFL:)