Nasty VENT that's eating me alive

I'm so SICK of seeing preg/birth announcements and pictures of baby bumps. I just don't care, I don't wanna see them. I've gotta hide from BB and FB because they're fricken everywhere. Doesn't anyone remember that I'm supposed to be having my baby soon? Why hasn't everyone elses world stopped the way mine has?

Honest to God, if one more person gives me some inane comment trying to get me to feel better, I'm gonna lose it. Just accept that I'm upset, give me space to deal with it. I'm tired of feeling embarrassed and swallowing down my grief because it might offend or embarrass someone. My baby was a person too, just as deserving as consideration.

I'm so angry that I don't even know if it was a boy or a girl. I can't even give it a name. In the eyes of the world, I have nothing. And I have less every day.

No words just big huge :hug:
Vent away :comfort:

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:hug: babe, you are allowed to feel angry or upset and I can totally understand your feelings about seeing pregnant bellies, I felt exactly the same.

Regards,
Dianne
Emmanuel born sleeping @24wks
Trisomy 13

:hug: I wish I could do some magic trick or wave a magic wand to give you what you want :comfort:

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Don't be afraid to offend people with how you feel. It's valid and it's real. TBH if anyone got offended about you not wanting to see preg belly pics etc, I'd be shocked :comfort:

I hate all the updates on facebook too, vent away,

You have every right to grieve anyway you need too, hope you have support from Hubby :hug:

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I understand your pain - a much younger friend just smsd a pic of her engagement ring...I am nearly 35 and have never had a serious relationship, so hun, I totally get your anger, totally.

Im not gonna give you a hug or tell you im sorry....Im coming over to your corner so I can throw monkey poo at everyone for ****ing you off.
Much more fun...bit smelly must admit but fun :D

i reckon that grieving is important. no need to try to make you feel better, you gotta cry for your baby; it's only right and i honestly hope that ppl are giving you the space to do that...although my experience has been quite contrary: i think grief freaks alot of people out...but meh, their tough sucks. this is your baby...

Massive :hug: There are plenty that know how you feel and you're completely valid for feeling this way. I'm so sorry Keike.

Oh honey...

I'm so, so sorry that you're going through this :comfort:

:hug: nothing will make you feel better babe and here's a big up yours to anyone who thinks so. Grieve as you like. If other people are uncomfortable about it it's their problem.

I hide the FB belly posts myself. There's a limit to what I can deal with. Accept your limits without apology to anyone. It's surprisingly freeing.

I've just inboxed u keike. Xx hope my suggestions helped honey ...


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sending my thoughts and hugs to you and your precious little angel baby.

Went away darling, that's what we are here for. Sadly, most of us understand your grief & we are all here to just listen & be there for you. xx

Keike - oh my lovely girl I am sorry you are feeling that way, but you know what? You can feel how ever you want, they are your emotions and your feelings so please don't worry you will offend anyone. I agree that sometimes time away from FB and BB are required to keep sane...I know you can only be happy for everyone else for so long before you want to thump your head against the wall, stamp your feet and feel ripped off thats it not you. Hugs babe I haven't got anything else for you even though I feel similar some days its never the same for everyone xxx

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Been there, hun. sorry you're feeling like dogs balls xx

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There are no words honey, so I'm giving you huge marshmallow squishy :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

*hugs* and I'll join maz in the poo throwing.

:comfort: No words hun, just here for you :hug:

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Stuff everyone else, until they have stood in your shoes they have no right to tell you how to grieve or feel or how to deal with your loss! ANd be sure to tell anyone who is giving you a hard time exactly that- its not like you stubbed your toe, you lost your child, tell THEM to suck it up and if they cant support you through this then to bugger off.

As for how you feel about your bub.. maybe pick a name that is neither boy or girl, something that symbolises how you feel about your bub, something to represent him or her for you to be able to reference your baby other than "the baby we lost.." maybe that might help you to feel like your giving your bub an identity- it certainly wont bring him or her back, but it might help to give your little bubba a name xxoo Please PM me if you need to. xxoo

Zahra... stillborn at 35 weeks
Darren lost at 18 weeks

:hug: thinking of you.

Sending you lots of :hug: and :comfort:

Be kind to yourself !

Thinking of you xoxo

Yell and Scream for as long as you need. We are all here to listen. Just listen.
Huge hugs.

big :hug: vent away. i agree with maz, stinky poo to them!

Another with no stupid and upsetting words that only bug you more. Just an enormous and heartfelt :hug:

:( Huge huge huge hug to you****

sending you big hugs, i do understand how you feel ive felt the same way many, many times and yes i am one of those who is posting my belly pics on fb and everything but thats my way after i lost my son at 25 weeks and was left with really nothing of him i cherish every moment now and thats my way of clinging to a "perfect life"
Anyway enough rambling just theres 2 sides to everything and i hope that didnt come across the wrong way or anything because you have every right to feel the way you do.

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/oh hun ....

Thank you everyone, y'all mean a lot to me :grouphug: I wasn't trying to pick out anyone in particular, most of the time I love seeing all your preg bellies, you're gorgeous!

I spent most of the day looking up unisex baby names, and printed out a list to go through with Professor. We already have some baby names picked out for girls and boys, and we've decided to have a 'tradition' where one name is unusual and one name is from the Bible. So after discussing it for a while today - and I'm surprised how quick we came to an agreement, the names just jumped out at us - the names of our 4 garden babies are:

Finley Elkanah
Devon Tekoah
Quinn Micaiah
Addison Shiloh

I'm going to have a look at some commemoration websites and order something with their names, maybe some bears or something. They're so much more real now, they're people because they have names. I feel calmer now :) :grouphug:

what beautiful names you have given your babies :hug:

I absolutely adore the names you have given to your beautiful babies :hug:

Keike, I'm so sorry you're feeling like you're having your nose rubbed in it... I can definitely understand. Hide those posts and vent away babe, whatever keeps you sane - you need to grieve the way that suits YOU, if people can't understand that then they're the ones with the problem. It's not that you're unhappy about *their* happiness, you're feeling ripped off and asking 'why not me?' and that's a completely valid feeling!
The names you and the Professor chose for your little babies are beautiful. I'm so sorry that Finley, Devon, Quinn and Addison couldn't stay with you and be born safe into your loving arms. Thinking of you. xx

Beautiful names you have picked out hunni and i didnt mean to sound over defensive before and ive never admitted this before but yep i do over expose my pregnancies because i am covering up something and i am ashamed to say this but i do resent my earth babies because i want anthony and i cant have him here. Anyway not about me but i just re-read my post and it came across a little defensive when i didnt mean it to.
Thinking of you regularly and sending lots of happy, positive vibes your way xoxo