Comments on Your Belly Size!!!

When i was pregnant i was quite big towards the end (as wide as i was tall) but obviously that is all part of pregnancy, as tummy must grow!
I was never self concious about being pregnant, and have never obsessed over my weight. However.... I would always get comments like; "OMG You are massive" or "You r just HUGE". This started to annoy me towards the end, esp when i was 6 months preg and people used to say, OMG you look like your 9 Months! Did you get these comments late in pregnancy and Did it bother you?
What would your come back comments be in reply to other peoples sarcasm!(so to speak) ?? :)

(sorry, i hope i have posted this in the right place)

This is something I'm not looking forward to - complete strangers thinking they can walk up to you and comment on your body! I swear if anyone does that to me I'm going to make a remark about their belly.

"Well, at least I have a baby in here - what's your excuse?"
"So, you're carrying yours in your backside, are you?"
"Better a fat belly than a fat head."

I'm trying to come up with a really, really good one that will just have everyone looking at me in awe, but it's not hit yet. Then I'll be wanting someone to comment just so I can use it LOL. Ah well, I have a while before I really start showing yet, so there's still time!

I am 22 weeks and no-one notices at all. I feel left out. I am SO PROUD of my bump. There just isn't a whole lot of it just yet. I feel i have to apologise for lack of bump - like i'm not REALLY pregnant (except i have loads of symptoms and there IS a baby in there!!!)

Maybe it's because it's winter (baggy clothes and coats). I DO look pregnant in my bathers.

I would always get comments about my size and I always got huge. At BIL wedding, I was 27 weeks and was really big and his MIL asked me how long and when I told her she nearly fainted LOL.

I remember I was in the pub once and I was about 37 weeks pg with Lindsay and was standing next to another local who had this really huge beer gut and he made some comment about my belly and I just told him I was giving him a run for his money - and he soon shut his gob LOL. Luckily though we know this bloke pretty well or otherwise I would have slapped him I think.

Oh Yes, I was queen of these comments when I was pg. Especially with Tehya, and yes I'll admit it I was huge, I was carrying heaps of fluid and my belly was enormous. I am usually a fairly thin person so yes it did stick out on me. But really if a person was just fat you wouldn't go up to them and say Geez your big, or comments like that. It got so that from about 7 months on the comments were getting ridiculous patience had worn thin. I would often turn around with a smart a$$ comment back, as would my mum or whatever girlfried I was out with. I remember being out at the shops one day and this group of women actually turned in their seats to watch me go down a travelator, I just looked at them and said "yes I am pregnant" LOL I was nearly full term. Or when some one would say Geez your huge, how much longer, I would say either Oh I've still got 6 months to go :) Or yeah I was due 3 weeks ago :) The look of panic on their faces. Of course I wasn't always that nice.

Then you get people who would comment of the shape of your bump, Oh your having a girl/boy. FOr those who said I was having a boy I would just say well I hope not the scan said girl. One woman I know argued black and blue with me that Tehya was a boy. Clearly she was wrong.

I started showing around 12 weeks and there was another girl at work who was about 8 weeks ahead of me and everyone comments how she always looked tiny and didnt look pregnant at all. Even when she left for maternity leave a few weeks ago when i think she was around 34 weeks people always said how she was tiny and just had a belly. Even though i know, well i think, those comments arent directed at me showing all very early in my pregnancy i cant help but wonder.. my work place is very nasty so i wouldnt be surprised. Most of my friends say from behind i dont look like im pregnant.
But if anyone says anything to be directly like, wow youre getting fat i say the same as Ryn "Least i have an excuse!" ;)

Ryn; "Carrying yours in your backside" LOL love it, i must remember that one for next time!!!
Gigi; Never thought about people who dont have a belly!Guess that would be annoying too!
Tulip; IKWYM about everyone being an expert on your baby, its usually those who dont even have kids that comment.
Trish; "Bump" wise everyone was telling me i was having a girl, but they were all wrong anyway!
Kell; Yes i remember being compared to another girl a - a friends sister, who was also preg at the same time as me. I was "huge" because i was small, her sister wasnt showing cos she was quite a lot taller than me. Towered over me actually, so i would assume that someone who is tall would carry it better that a shorty like me!
Emma; Dont worry, People are most likely jealous of your cute belly.
Sherieb; Giving him a run for his money!LOL thats a good one.

I am 25 weeks and my belly is growing slowly. The top of my belly there is nothing its all carrying very low and long ways i think it lays longs way cause my belly shape feels as if its heads on one side all the time

Walking along the street, a woman passing me said "wow, your almost due?" and I said "I've got 15 weeks", she said "to go?!"....I just found it got boring more than anything, being expected to explain myself to complete strangers....it's very tiring!

I haven't had any comments from strangers... but friends and that are all excited to see my belly, no-one has said anything about it's size, except that if they haven't seen me for a bit, they comment about how much it's grown, always in a nice way though.

I am yet to be offended... but we do have three months to go!!

Hehe, I get those comments all the time too...mostly about how big my belly is (but also that it must be a boy/girl because of the way it's positioned/sits). I KNOW my belly is HUGE (I've put on 12 kgs already at 29 weeks and it's all in my belly - I'm 77 kgs now!!!!) but people still have the urge to tell me that anyway. Maybe they think that I don't notice this bump sticking out from my tummy?!?!??! ;)

I guess you can't win...someone is always going to say something, whether it be that your tummy is 'too big' or 'too small', 'very high' or 'very low', 'very round' or 'very flat' etc. ;) I've heard it all with my close friends who have had babies recently.

I love your comebacks Ryn! How cool!! :) I must remember those and try to think up some others...hehe...

What gets me the most is people wanting to touch my belly...I don't mind my friends/family/close workmates touching my belly at all...but when someone I don't know or a workmate who has rarely even spoken to me before goes to touch my belly it's a bit weird... Do you girls get that too?

yesterday i had two strangers ask me how far along i was and when bubs is due.
It actually felt really nice that other people other than friends family & work collegues have noticed. It felt really good to be able to smile and be proud of what i was telling them.
I have had many comments from friends and family about my belly size..
"you are sooo tiny"
"you dont look 7 months"
etc

its doesnt bother me at all. I know bubs is the right size cause my ob says so!! thats what i tell em! hehe
And i know they only mean well. Im so proud of my belly and i love dressing up and making myself feel pretty. :p

With my last bub, he was transverse (sideways) for all barr the last 2 weeks, and as I am only very short, I looked really rounded like a beachball, and when he stretched, you could actually see both feet poking out!!, when he actually turned, I was HUGELY all out front, and he would kick under my boob (it is really hard to hide it when you are sitting in a waiting room, and your boob is jumping up and down lol) I got comments about how I did not look very pg at all though, because of the way he was laying, I just looked fat, so when i got asked by strangers, I just told them I had pigged out on too much on chockie grinning at the same time of course lol.
But yes, I love Ryn's "carrying all in your ass" comment, priceless!!

Yep Ally you are probably describing what is happening currently for me......:) Only a few minutes ago I was rubbing my tummy, as I had a BH and a gent from work said "ggeezzz are you OK, not in labour are you......." ...:doh:

Sherie, I'm with you on that. We don't walk up and touch any other persons belly so why touch our preg belly. I know that most people just think that it's beautiful but atleast ask before touching, the same goes for when bub is on the outside.

My FIL who is a very big man (around 150kg) used to say as I walked in hello fatso, of course I was quick to reply with the same thing back or atleast mine will go soon :)

Trish. LOL re FIL comment. There are a few overweight men at work who call me fatso, I put them in them place by saying "...yeah maybe, but at least my weight problem goes away in a few month...!!!" I don't mind people touching my tummy, as long as they don't pat it really hard - bizarre behaviour of some people hey.

Ah gotta love the comments, yeah right! I always got how small I was with Lucie and made me sooooo paranoid, and everyone swore I was having a boy too! This time I have total strangers coming up to me and saying stuff like 'Wow you are going to be busy, that can't have been planned can it'. How rude! I need a really good comeback because, yes it was planned (like I care what strangers think anyway though!)

My cousin is quite looking forward to calling me fatty... that doesn't bother me so much, just strangers doing it, or malicious comments would.

Wheatie, could you not just just turn around and tell people that just because they weren't sure how it happened doesn't mean everyone's as ignorant and your babies have both been very much planned and wanted.

I love making rude people feel stupid!

My SiL is really short and showed very early, I'm tall and don't have much fat on me, but it will be a while before I really show anything I think. Ah well, just have to keep telling myself that it just means fewer people who want to touch me and baby!

I love some of the comeback comments here!! Very clever... and I reckon they'd put anyone back in their place.
I'm only a little'un, and carrying very small... so I get all the 'Is your baby ok?' style comments, follwoed by 'Are you really sure?' when I say he is just fine. Just as annoying I would think!

I think that rather than stressing or getting upset about the thoughtless things people say (as of course it's not good for baby!), maybe we should think about what it's like from a non-pregnant person's point of view?

We all know that creating a little human is a wonderful miracle, and I think people are naturally fascinated by a pregnant belly! I know I am - and that's because I know the joy of feeling that little "alien" growing inside me!

Yes, there are a lot of malicious people out there, but I'm sure that the majority are just trying to be "nice", in their own funny way - they're just not all that good at expressing it tactfully.

I was TINY with DD, although I started showing really early (as I have again this time), and many jokes have been made about my shape when pregnant, but I don't care - I actually think the jokes are funny, and I know they're not being nasty. In fact, I think it's amazing how two people can be the same number of weeks along, but look so different.

So why not just go along with it and enjoy all that extra attention you're getting?? It won't be long before bubs is going to take the limelight!!

*LOL* I got heaps of disbelieving 'are you REALLY that far along?' when I'd go to feis at 6 months pregnant with a smaller belly than most of the non-pregnant women there; but when I popped at 32+ weeks, I got tons of 'wow, you're huggggge' comments. *sigh*

Sometimes, when you don't "show" very obviously, and no-one notices, it can be a real pain. Last week my car broke down near a intersection at 6pm (it was dark). I had to push my car (in neutral) by myself a couple of metres before i had to admit defeat. It was not easy to get help, as i don't look pregnant. But it was impossible to both steer the car AND push the car at the same time, so i panicked and stood in the middle of this busy intersection bawling. (I already had bad back pain from lifting lots of heavy boxes, yes, we are moving house without a moving van so my car was stacked with boxes.)

Eventually, a guy came to use the pedestrian crossing and he came and offered to push the car for me around the corner. Afterwards i tried to thank him and of course when i told him i was 5 months pregnant he looked at me in a "yeah right" kind of way.

I guess the grass is always greener, but i figure i am going thru the same aches and pains that other women just as pregnant as me are going thru, but don't get acknowledged as being pregnant. I long for the beautiful belly i see in the photos of other BB members. Becos i'm short, i thought i would be enormous the entire time, i didn't count on being ill. I weigh 2 kgs more than i did before conceiving, lost heaps due to illness early on, i worry baby will be undernourished (which is ironic really, as all my life i have battled the weight like a yo-yo and have often been overweight for my 5ft2.)

Every women's body seems to react a bit differently to pregnancy and also to subsequent pregnancies (which people mention you show earlier) - there is nothing wrong with being different, i have no idea why people in general have all these half-assed theories and feel so compelled to put those thoughts onto pregnant women. (Gawd, did i say stuff like that before i got pregnant? i hope not!!) As for strangers touching your belly, ugh, i would hate that. I like people to use manners.

I am fascinated by pregnant bellies right now but try hard not to stare too obviously, as i wouldn't want to offend anyone. I think they are beautiful and it amazes me the special passenger they have inside.

I *lurve* my belly! I'm only 23 weeks but wore a fitted top to work the other day and was told I look 'full term'...I was quite pleased with that as I am quite proud of my belly! I'm wondering how big I should be though.....looking at some of the photos on this website makes me feel extremely big....and it's all belly. Anyway.

I think the vast majoirty of people that comment are just trying to find a way to say something nice about the fact that you are having a baby.

I am not going to get worked up or even frustrated by people saying I look big or small or whatever. Apart from the very few outright rude people I have heard, people mean well, sometimes we just don't think before we speak.

The belly is just there so people comment on it. It is the simplest way to bring up 'You're pregnant' again.

How right you are! I really don't think everyone's that mean - it's just their way of bringing up the subject.

As for touching my belly - well I'm not all that touchy-feely, so am not 100% comfortable when it happens, but I can definitely understand why someone would be drawn to touch someone's pregnant belly. I don't think you'd see the same people walking up to a non-pregnant person and doing the same thing - they'd probably get their heads punched in anyway! LOL

I say we should all just stop stressing about that kind of stuff and enjoy the extra attention! (Yes, I do like to get attention!!) It might also be a good way to recruit some extra helpers - you could say your back's really sore (thanks to your big belly) and could they PLEASE go and buy you a coffee....! Of course they will jump at the chance, because they just felt your little miracle kick! LOL.

Its not so much the comments about my previously pregnant belly in general for me, as i did love the attention, but it was the NASTY comments from jealous friends that i didnt appreciate. A couple of friends who were (and still are) trying to get pregnant, were throwing nasty comments my way, as i assume that they were jealous because they couldnt fall pregnant. I dont understand why they would do that, since they knew that i had tried 7 years and IVF to get my miracle.
I was never nasty to people who were pregnant (before me) just because I couldnt fall pregnant at the time. I was happy for them, and gave them good positive comments.
I basically wanted to feel good about my pregnancy and wanted others to be happy for me, not make me feel miserable about something that i had waited so long for.

Sorry, just babbling a bit now!

I think I'd be really mad if a stranger tried to touch my belly, I'm not at all touchy-feely. But in the UK I think people are ruder.

Must admit, I do know that some people are going to find this hard, and I don't mind the odd jokey comment from them, but I would have a problem with a stranger saying something rude, even if they didn't mean it that way. At least I can blame it on hormones! Nice comments I could live with, but I hate comparisons at the best of times so belly-comparisons will not go down too well.

Yes, I am with you Ryn!!!

Michelle - I don't need to be told to stop stressing. I've simply expressed my opinion...

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Its not so much the comments about my previously pregnant belly in general for me, as i did love the attention, but it was the NASTY comments from jealous friends that i didnt appreciate. A couple of friends who were (and still are) trying to get pregnant, were throwing nasty comments my way, as i assume that they were jealous because they couldnt fall pregnant. I dont understand why they would do that, since they knew that i had tried 7 years and IVF to get my miracle.
I was never nasty to people who were pregnant (before me) just because I couldnt fall pregnant at the time. I was happy for them, and gave them good positive comments.
I basically wanted to feel good about my pregnancy and wanted others to be happy for me, not make me feel miserable about something that i had waited so long for.

Sorry, just babbling a bit now!

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i understand what you're saying ellyboo.

i too aim to be happy for other people when they have good news, even if my own stuff is not so good. So the last thing you expect when it's the reverse, is to hear those nasty comments. Some people are just 100% "it's all about me" and cannot put themselves aside one minute to concentrate on somebody else.

i took five years to conceive so i hear you about the being patient bit.

it really DOES help when others around you can be a bit pleased too.

I am so glad that the IVF worked for you, that process sounds like an incredible marathon, so congratulations just for surviving that process.

Oooh, I can't wait to have a huge belly! :D Only yesterday did a get a comment from a lady who works next door saying 'oh you're not even showing yet' :( Well, I am only 11 weeks!

Just out of curiosity, where did you ladies first start to notice a belly developing? Was it down low or higher up close to your bellon button? The small bump that I have seems to be just under my belly button so I think it's just fat LOL :bellygrowing:

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When I was pregnant with my son James... My family nicknamed me oompa loompa because I walked/waddled everywhere I went.
But, because I was working in a public sector at the time, I was seeing members of the public all day everyday. People would comment on how big I was... Some older women would tell me that I was crazy for putting on so much weight as I would find it hard to get rid of after the baby was born.
I was seriously all baby... I lost weight when I was pregnant with him due to MS daily throughout my entire pregnancy.
When it was announced at work that I had given birth to James and he was 9 lbs 7ozs, the same women commented to my workmates that they knew I was going to have a big baby !!!
People should keep their mouths shut when it comes to pregnant women... who cares how big or small their bellies are... what matters is that they are baking a beautiful, healthy baby in there... Something everyone should be proud of.
Lisa

I always quite enjoyed people commenting on my bump. I'm not really sure why, I guess though I never really got any insensitive comments, but it did annoy me when strangers would touch it! :eek:

I was in maternity pants with Indah at 10 wks & even had to pass on my Maternity tops to my work mate by 15wks as my boobs & belly didnt fit anymore!
I work in a large factory with Ladies & men from all corners of the globe...
They all had advice, stories etc for me...
I dont mind people touching my belly (when preg) it made me realise how truly amazing growin a baby is!
I hated my family all asking if it was twins (Coz I took that as i looked FAT!) & was wondering at the first scan if a 2nd heart beat would be found... But I guess I just kept growing & growing.... I didnt care my body was doing what it needed to, too make our princess....
when at 5 days over I was at the shops & the lady asked when I was due & said 5 days ago, she panicked, was mortified handed me my change & siad... "Quick get out of here!" Like I was gonna have it there & then!

I'm 25 weeks and the size of a 33 week pregnant women because I'm having twins. When I was 16 weeks, I had a customer at work ask if I had an elephant in there! I was not amused.