Smug/Crap

I was reading a thread called this ages ago, (I think started by Rouge) but I can't find it anymore so I'll just start a new one. I think it's a great idea. So often as parents, we find it easy to talk ourselves down, worry about what we are doing 'wrong' and focus on the negatives. It seems that if we dare celebrate the positive aspects of our parenting, we can be met with jealousy, anger and sarcasm. So, here is a thread to post things you're happy/proud about in your life as a parent (or just in general) and the things that are crap. It's just a fun idea for a thread, to show that no matter how it may first seem, nobody is 'perfect.'

I'll start.

Smug:
-My DD sleeps through the night!
-I lost all my baby weight plus extra by 4 weeks PP.
-Although it was hard, my DD is still thriving on my breastmilk.

Crap:
-BF is still a bit of a struggle.
-I have had to put DD down crying and leave the room to shower, because I needed a break.
-I never get any housework done, not because I can't but because I don't want to.
-My belly is covered in big purple stretchmarks.

Smug:

- My DD can count to 40, recognises numbers in all sorts of random orders. She's 2 1/2
- She knows the letters of the alphabet and can read her own name

Crap:

- She's clever enough to do the above things but can't figure out to do wee or poo on the toilet!!!!!!

PZ - Congrats on losing the baby weight so fast! Well done! Hope bf gets easier for you :hug:

(Crap:
-I lost the weight because my marriage fell apart and all I did was BF and not eat.) ;)

I find that if I post smug stuff, they stop doing it. But it also works with the crap stuff... so,

Crap:
DS is putting on full-scale, three-act broadway productions every dinner time.

SMUG

My DS2 (21months), runs to bed at night when you tell him "goodnight" & can say the alphabet and count to ten
My DS1 is just the nicest little boy
21months & still BF
Never put on more than 5kg each pregnancy & lost all and more after each baby


CRAP

DS1 was 2 before he slept through, DS2 still doesn't sleep through
DS2 woke every hour at night for the first 12months!!
My boob's are not where they are supposed to be :wall:

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DS1 was 2 before he slept through, DS2 still doesn't sleep through

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That's not crap, that's average

Unfortunately I can name waaayyyy more crap than smug, so here are just a few...

Smug...

DD is just the most lovely little girl in the world. She is gorgeous to look at as well as gorgeous inside. She melts my heart. :heart:
DS1 went the whole night last night without a nappy!
DS2 can make me smile even if he's being a little **** head!
I always get comments on how beautifully behaved and well mannered my children are in public. (Unfortunately that behaviour doesn't carry over to in private!)
I have BF DS2 trouble free for almost 8mths. And I love it.
I have the most kind hearted and considerate DH ever. I am more in love with him now than ever before. He rocks my world.
I am lucky enough to be a SAHM.

Crap...

My children are allergic to sleep. All of them. Last night I was up 10 times to them. I kid you not.
My DD is the.biggest.whinger. And a tattle tale. I know it's an age thing too, but she's always been such a whiner.
My DS1 will.not.eat.dinner. Ever. I can't remember the last time he ate any bit of a meal I have cooked him, let alone all of it. He would have been a baby.
I don't get enough time alone with my man to dote on him and give him what he deserves.
The everyday battle or monotony and boredom I am having from being a SAMH
I'm fatter tahn ever and hate it.

I will stop there....I could go on and on!

Smug...

DD loves singing and she could do the actions and sing her own version of Twinkle Twinkle by about 5 or 6 months old!!
DS has a great vocabularly and can talk really well
DD goes to sleep sooo easily!! I just say its bed time, she walks to bed lays down drinks some of her bottle and closes her eyes and goes to sleep in about five minutes!!!
DS is such a sweetie and I love how he says I love you all the time and is really loving towards everyone :)
Both my kids are just adorable.. lol like, really they are!!!

Crap..

DD is starting to really throw some juicy tanties!!!
DS is smart, but whenever I try to sit him down and go through numbers and counting or letters he starts mucking around and being silly, I havent found the way he learns yet and Im afraid he will be like that in school :(
I have only gained weight since having kids.. I have lost a tiny little bit recently, but its nothing on what I gained!!!

Oh and DS will not eat dinner.. dinner time sucks at the moment!!!!

Smug: My DD sleeps 10+ hours every night.
She tells me when she wants to go to bed by giving me her bottle and saying "bot bot"
She talks very fluently and knows how to say "whats that?" "who's that?" "mumma what doing?" "pup dog" "call daddy"
She dances with me to my music and even sings along.
She has the most beautiful big blue eyes

Crap: DD won't eat real food and still wants up to 4 bottles a day
She still has an umbilical hernia and may require surgery
Because she does have much hair she is often mistaken for a boy
Often have to argue the fact I AM her mother!!
Couldn't give DD a sibling and she loves babies (beat myself up about that all the time :()
My belly, sides, thighs and hips are covered in horrible stretch marks from pregnancy.
My belly skin sags and have to wear shapewear to hide it and be able to wear nice clothes
I suffer from anxiety and the smallest things set off an anxiety attack (we went into the city to have lunch for fathers day, DP picked a place that id never eaten at and the food was different from what id eaten and i didnt want to eat there, it should have been a simple no but i had a massive anxiety attack :()

Love this thread!

Smug: DD2 is totes the best talker I've ever seen for a 2yo. Everybody comments on it, all the time, I really enjoy it :)

Crap: They're eating potato chips for dinner and watching cartoons while I work on uni stuff. My bad.

Smug
DS1 can identify a frog by its call.

Crap
He can’t wipe his bum.

OK... I'll give it a go...

Smug:
DD is gorgeous. She's been sleeping through the night since she was about 4 months old (2 1/2 months corrected age!!)
She's got a beautiful smile, can clap, say what sounds like 'hello', Dada, nana (which is mum), lala.
She can wipe her eyes with her feet. AND!! Make it look easy.
She can sit by herself for half an hour.
And my little girl survived a life threatening birth defect.

Crap:
She is stubborn. Very very stubborn. If she doesn't want to do something, you've got no hope.
She's a shocking teether. The neighbours know when she's teething!
She was prem and it affected our breastfeeding relationship, resulting in her going on to formula when we came home from hospital at 6 1/2 weeks
My body is ruined, my boobs, hips, a few on my belly, bum, thighs and CALVES and are stretched because I gave birth to a massive 3lb 12oz baby! lol

Unfortunately that's all I can think of for crap.

Smug

My kids are awesome! :D

Crap

Everybody thinks they turned out that way in spite of our parenting because they believe there is no way our parenting would work :wall:

Great thread PZ!

Smug:
My 23 month old DD is fully toilet trained :) 18 months with out any knickers:lol:
She is a sweet and caring little girl who boobie feeds everything!
She can count to 10 and knows 6 colours
DD has the most beautiful manners

Crap:
The kid DOES NOT sleep! (she slept thru the night from birth until some big developmental leaps set in) :(
She has her mothers temper when she gets frustrated
She will not eat when we are out places, like today been out from 8:30- 4pm and would not eat a scrap of food!

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That's not crap, that's average

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I should mention DS1 slept through "sometimes" starting at age 2 at almost 5 he still wakes once or twice (most nights) along with DS2 whom wakes once or twice also - is that crap enough he,he.

Smug: - Very soon I will have 3 children in school.

Crap: - 3 children in school means I might have to find part time work :eek:

Smug
DS1 is a very caring loving thoughtful little boy. Fetches toys for his brother and is often requested for at playdates where many a girl has given him a kiss. No allergies even though both parents have heaps
DS2 is a very easy baby when awake and well rested - gorgeous to look at and took to breastfeeding perfectly! Eats his solids well and adores his big brother

Crap
DS1 - tantrums (need I say more)
DS2 - at 4 months (he is now 6) he stopped sleeping well at night. Feeding every 2 hours and at least once every night refusing to resettle for around 2 hours which is resulting in approx 4 or 5 hours of sleep for mum every night

Smug:- DD just turned 3 and can do 24 piece puzzles by herself.
She has the most amazing vocabulary
She is very independent

Crap:- refuses to eat anything I cook except for my spaghetti bolognaise or lasagna even things she used to scoff down.
She is the most stubborn kid
Can hold on most of the day (2 nappies used a day) and if naked will go to potty by self but put clothes on her she refuses. And not because she has trouble undressing

MadB, I want a smug one from you please!

Smug:
That despite all the warnings I got for carrying my babes too much, co-sleeping feeding on demand and being gentle I have two fantastic, well adjusted little humans to share my life with. They are willing to believe in themselves because I do.
That same gentleness has shown my DH who previously had polar opposite parenting beliefs to mine that gentle parenting is the way we want to go forward together and he's so amazing in the stuff that he's learned and how he wants to show the kids.
That DS is happy to BF his babies
That the 6weeks of teething that each of my children went through to get 20 teeth each before 13months old went to prove how wrong my ILs were about their teething starting at 4 months
I am doing my very best
I found this site 6 years ago and it has shown me the type of parent I can/want to be

Crap:
I still have days where the wheels fall off and I don't feel like doing my best any more.
I've just dealt for 3.5years with Night Terrors with DD....and now DS has started but they more like 'you ain't seen nuthin yet....' (on the smug side though, my DD knows exactly what they are and what to/not to do)

Smug: DD1 can read and write her name and the word dad and speaks quite well for her age.

She can ride a motorbike alone, pour her own drinks and had no issue going from a cot to a big girl bed before she turned 2.

DD2 has an amazing vocabulary for her age and already speaks in sentences 5+ words.
She can count to 10 and is recognizing letters.

Crap: they both have a know it all attitude and throw massive tantrums to match.

DD2 spent the first year of her life attached to me and screaming if I moved out of site.
DD1 will jump, climb or move anything to do what she wants, giving me minor heart attacks.
Both are very fussy with food at the moment.


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- Sent from my iPhone, more than likely while I should be doing something else!

Smug:
I have BF DS1 for over 3 years and still going and tandem feeding both of them for 20 months in 2 days time!!
Boys get along well at times
Kiss and cuddle each other lots which is cute
DS1 amazes me every day with his speech development eh has come a long way since we were told to see a speech therapist over a year ago!
DS2 is cheeky and funny
DS1 went into a bed no trouble at 25 months
Both use an ipad and iphone with ease getting in and out of apps and videos they want

Crap:
DS2 bites DS1 and pinches.
DS1 not interested in TT
DS1 wont eat any fruit unless puree tubs apart from bannanna
DS2 wont eat any fruit apart from purree tubs apart from bannanna and strawberries.
Neither are great at eating vegies
DS2 wont sleep in cot

Smug:
DS3 is 21 months has a vocab of over 600 words.
He can count to 10, and 20 but all numbers between 13 and 16 are 'T-teen' as he can't quite pronounce them yet lol
He can recognise all the letters of the alphabet, and tell you what words begin with some letters.
He can find about 35+ countries on a world globe (one of his favourite games since his uncle showed him Australia when he was 16months old).
He has an awesome memory and will randomly start talking about things he did or people he saw 6 months ago or more (his memory is better than mine!)
He can navigate my smart phone, to find photos, watch videos (mostly of himself and his brothers) and call people for a chat.
He loves babies and tries to kiss cuddle and look after them.
He can't quite manoeuvre the mouse but will show you exactly where to scroll or click to get to what he wants to see on the computer.
He also has a great sense of humour :D
He is still breast fed at 21months, I stuck with it after a painful rocky start and it took about 2 months to become easy but we're still going strong!

Crap:
He has never slept well at night, although we are now down to between 4 and 6 wakes a night which is an improvement.
He has a super short attention span, he generally has never played on his own for more than 5 mins MAXIMUM. He requires constant attention and entertainment, which means my house is scary messy/dirty most days.
Too often for my liking I am cranky and easily frustrated :(

Smug:
DD1 is doing well at school, pretty much top of the class with reading, writing, maths
DD2 is out of night nappies!!! She was also brilliant with toilet training herself well before the age of 2.
Both girls are great little artists (now see crap point)


Crap:
The girls bring home way too much artwork, we are drowning in the stuff.
DD1 takes forever, and I mean forever, to eat it. It is so painful to deal with and then she is hungry 15 minutes later (really has not changed since a baby)
DD1 still wants me to wipe her bum (unlike her little sister)
DD2 wont sleep through and comes to our bed too early and just wiggles (would not care at 4 or 5am, but midnight is getting too much)
Both girls fight over music at night

SMUG
Both of my girls are generous, kind-hearted and accepting of other people
They've both got rhythm! AND know how to sing and dance and enjoy it!
We spend time together doing family activities and enjoying our time with each other

CRAP
Sometimes I'm a shouty mummy. And sometimes DH is a shouty daddy.
I failed somewhere with DD1 because she shovels her food like a 19th century pig farmer and *still* wipes her nose on her sleeve sometimes
DD2 watches more telly and eats more junk food than DD1 ever did at the same age

Smug:

DD is kind, considerate and generally thoughtful of others
She loves playing the piano and is doing very well - even starting to make up her own tunes
She's curious about the world and loves learning
She's polite and well behaved, all our friends think she's a pleasure to have around

Crap:
She can be opinionated and a bit of a know it all
She has a short attention span and is easily distracted by other kids
She hates following instructions at the best of times

Smug :
* Every time I get him out of his cot in the morning, he's always smiling so brightly at me
* He's such an affectionate little boy, always coming to give me hugs.

Crap:
* He never answers his name when I call him by his name
* He just doesn't eat healthy (maybe half an apple here or there)
* He doesn't feed himself
* He doesn't let us feed him
* He doesn't eat full meals
* He barely says anything. Most he says is oops and no, and that's about (tonight he said mum mum for the first time in a long time!)
* He chucks the meanest tantrums when he doesn't get his way

More crap than smug, yep story of my life :( Makes me feel like crap *sighs*

Smug:
- DD can say Bird (although it sounds more like Turd)
- She signs for "finished" and "clean"
- She has a smile that lights up a room, and is not stingy with it.
- She feeds herself with a spoon, and is awesome to take out to restaurants
- She matches lids to pots
- We made it to Nine Months breastfeeding together.
- She sleeps in the car, carrier, arms, our bed or cot, and responds well to new places (so is easy to travel with!)
- She keeps her socks on
- She sleeps an 8-10 hour stretch at night

Crap:
- She sleeps for 30 minutes at a time, unless we have to be somewhere when she wakes up
- It's hard to keep up with her insatiable mental appetite for "things" to explore
- She spews in the night and I don't notice :redface:
- Her crap is seriously CRAP right now :sick:
- She prefers the pram to the carrier.
- While she loves boob, there is just option. Bottles = crap. Dummies = crap. EBM in a teacup = fun for a while, but not a source of nutrition.

Smug - Both my girls are growing into beautifull little girls
- DD1 is yet to show us anything that resembles the terrible 2's.
- The only word DD2 will say is mumma and I love it.

Crap - My girls are growing up way to quickly.
- DD1 is always sick and we have to wait up to a year for her operation.

Smug: I got a sleep in this morning!
Crap: I had to put DD1 in front of the television and fall asleep on the couch next to her to achieve the sleep in :redface:

Smug:
We bf to 19 months after a VERY rocky start and then biting/extreme pain at around 15-17 months. He never had any formula at all, despite all the problems and for that I'm really proud of myself.
DS is in cloth nappies during the day.
He has great language skills which means I can usually negotiate/reason/verbally plan ahead with him what is going to happen and he usually complies
We don't really have tantrums from DS, he just goes to bed to suck on his dummy for a few minutes when upset and then returns saying "I happy now!" :)
He is inquisitive and curious and loves learning new things and words which he remembers months later without reinforcement :)
He is developing good social skills and will share with others nearly all of the time and can make friends with random older children we see at the park etc
He will spontaneously use his manners about half the time without prompting!
He shares my love of Shaun the Sheep ;)
He shares my love of books ;)

Crap:
Wish I'd started having kids earlier as he may be my only now :(
Wish we'd kept feeding until he was 2 - he weaned because life got crazy, not because it was my choice or really his either :(
He is still not sleeping well and it drives me bonkers :( Wish I could just accept that he is not a great sleeper because then I wouldn't turn into the crazy-mother-from-hell most nights. I also wish that we'd tried co-sleeping a lot learlier as it doesn't always work well now when we do it.
We don't have close family support - they all live hours away - so it's usually just me and DP.
I hate answering questions about when we're having another :(

Smug...

DS is the funniest little boy ever, he is forever cracking us up with his hilarious personality
He's slept 10+ hours every night (bar maybe 4 tops) since he was 8 weeks old
He has a routine you can set your clock by, which makes life far easier
Hes saying mum, dad, nan and bub and knows who all our pets are and will point out lightning McQueen when you ask him 'where's lightning?'
He's finally starting to stand unassisted
He adjusts to anything we throw at him like he's been doing it for years

Crap...
He is a professional tantrum thrower
You cannot alter his routine without serious consequences
I need to get my act together and feed him more nutritious, home cooked meals
I should WANT to spend more time with him rather than HAVING to
I just gave up BFing after 10 weeks without even trying to give it a good go
My PND still rears it's ugly head more often than I should allow and I take it out on DS
I'm not happy with my body and I can't keep blaming it all on being pregnant
I don't think I will cope with 2 babies under 15 months
I don't spend nearly enough quality time with my df


Man I could go on forever with the 'crap' bit

Smug
Moo is a very gentle little boy, doesn't get in other kids faces or hits out at anyone
Is becoming very social
Is the cutest kid ever ;)
Knows his alphabet
Knows most colours
Can do puzzles that are 3+

Crap
Didn't sleep through until he was over one
Likes things to be a certain way and doesn't like change, think he is going to be very stubborn!
Only says about 20 words
Is going through a stage where he refuses to eat dinner