Tell me I'm not the only one!!

Who's nearly 3 year old is driving then bonkers!!
WILL NOT EAT! She lives on fruit, cheese sangas and oven chops and nuggets! WILL NOT try anything new and will not eat what I cook for tea!

WILL NOT TOILET TRAIN! She tries a megga tantrum at the point of hysterical if I try to get her to sit on the toilet or potty...

WILL NOT GO TO BED! She has to go to sleep on the couch and I move her.... She gets hysterical if I put her to bed awake... Yet goes down fine for day sleeps.., have tried music, laying with her, night lights....

Is my DD destined to wear nappies and sleep on the couch till she's 21?!?

How did you get through or achieve the above??

Help please :)

I hear you!

DS1 doesnt eat a wide range of food. Bannanas is only fruit, loves sandwiches and toast, nuggets and chips and pasta and rice! Other things are hit and miss and vary!

TT haha he likes to go to toilet, eg takes off nappy climbs up turns around flush get off!! If we sit him on their he screams blue murder! Potty is a hat!!!

Sleeping is ok for him generally goes to bed easily at night most nights has not had a day sleep since he turned 2 grrr

Just so you see you are not alone

Thanks Feeb!! :)

Do you have my daughter? Sounds so much like mine, I think I might go and check her room to make sure she is still there.

Nope hun it's not just you. :grouphug:

Yes I think you have my DD2!! I have to bribe her to go to bed (and stay there!)

She actually told me she likes me changing her nappies :wall: After that we took away the potty and the toilet seat and stopped making any reference to the potty/TT at all. Totally ignored it. So yesterday she asked to wee on the potty, she did and today she did 2 wees. Maybe try the reverse psychology approach - if she thinks you don't care about it she might do it?

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Do you have my daughter? Sounds so much like mine, I think I might go and check her room to make sure she is still there.

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Rofl! I wish mine was in her bed already!

Mine does not respond to bribery, which is very very annoying! Not even a freddo frog or a sticker will get her to use the potty. Though she is now telling me after she has done a wee, so hopefully we will get there soon.

Day sleeps are a thing of the past unfortunately, but at least she goes to bed at night ok.

I hope it is possible for a child to grow and be healthy on a diet of olives, bread and butter, sausages, chicken nuggets, and bananas. Saves on the grocery bill though.

DD2 wouldn't be bribed to use the potty either - she just didn't care enough about anything.

Bed is different though I can bribe her with the threat of not going to dancing/swimming/Nannas/friends place etc the next day - she will respond to that.

I find myself soooo frustrated all the time... I don't want to be that mum... :(

Big big :hug: hun xx

Food is a big issue here too. Apples, bananas, cheese and baked beans. Amazing what you can hide in baked beans! Of course she loves lollies, chips etc, and would live on them if I let her.

dsd was the same at that age, although she was tt already by then, the not eating or sleeping was so frustrating. she was with us 3 days and 2 nights a week and they were ever so frustrating. Most weekends she wouldnt eat the entire time she was with us, every few weekends or so we could manage to get her to eat 'snackies' (cheese, bikkies, dip, nuts - a plate of nibblies) but other than this she just didnt eat. she did it at her mums as well, just not to the same extreme.
Bed time was screaming, crying, carrying on for hours or she would just stick her fingers down her throat and throw up (what she was throwing up we still havent worked out as there was never any food in her) so i had to change the bed and her, get the washing started etc etc and then she would proceed with the tantys. she did grow out of the not eating at 5, and bed became manageable at around 4.
Hugs i do so feel your pain

DS is only just 2, but he's always been picky with food. He's a nuggets, chips (hot chips), cheese, apples and doesnt wanna try new stuff (tried him with something new today and he just doesn't wanna eat it)

Then again, my DS is picky with everything, to the point of not wanting to talk!


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I find myself soooo frustrated all the time... I don't want to be that mum... :(

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Oh Hun :hug: I can totally relate... Different issues but same type of thing.
Personally I find 3 SOOOOOOO much harder than 2...

She will get there, sleep was and still is an issue, often DH will fall asleep in there with her... We have no magical trick, (sorry) but we talk a lot about going to bed during the day and how Happy Mummy is when she doesn't keep getting up.
Tonight however she was yelling out for me for over an hour for various things (I go in each time)... It's easier if I can spend the time settling her making sure she has her toys/light/music/been to the toilet etc (all the things she calls me back for)

It will pass, I hope!

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I'm doing a parenting course ATM and one of the things they said is that the "odd" years are generally the tough ones and the "even" years are the ones where they want to be helpful and are more pleasant.

Or was it the other way round? :rofl:

Sorry not really much help to you...

We have massive bedtime issues here too. You're not alone.

I refuse to let the food thing get to me. It used to. A lot. But, I figure, no child will starve themselves if there is food available. I refuse, absolutely refuse, to make separate meals, so if she doesn't eat dinner, she doesn't eat it. She has to go to her room and sit quietly though if she doesn't. It has gotten to the point where as soon as we say dinner is ready, she will sometimes go straight to her room without even looking at dinner. I offer no other food choices for the night. At least 50% of the time she goes without dinner. She is still growing and appears healthy though.

If only I could now get into this headspace about potty training.

My three and a half year old is an angel . . . Hang on I dont think those words go together!! Lol
dd, ripped open 3 supposed chrissy presents because I was cleaning the sparwe bed room.

one which she already has and she promised to clean up if she can open these pots and pans coz pink is her fav colour in the world.
I made her promise to pack it up if I let her open it after an hrs worth of tears and ascreaming.

pots and pans still on the floor.

food? Is chocolate considered food?

mum I want something . . . Man those words are scary coz it usually means she wants to pull out another humgus mess.

oh and sleeping arrangement? I think she will be cosleeping with us until 21 also.

Must be terrible threes right? What else can it be? Hehhe huge hugs hun

Oh hun i am right there with you.

DD1 and food :o, i had fail safe meals but even those seem to be out the window at the moment.
If she was allowed to live on Feta, Fruit and Teddy Bears biscuits she would, she even has days where she wont touch nuggets or her favorite spaghetti.

The TTing all i can say is in her own time, DD1 started TTing in summer last year just after her 2nd b'day, of her own accord and she has only just now been fully TT'd.
I put a potty in the lounge, allow as much nappy off time as she wants and made a potty chart.
Outside of that it's all been at her discretion.

Going to bed, DD wont have day sleeps anymore and hasn't for months but there are nights she will be up til 9:30+ just relaxing watching TV with her dad and cracking it when we go to put her to bed, other nights you could say go to bed and she would just go in and put herself down.

I guess all we can do is remember "this too shall pass"but that doesn't mean it's not frustrating.. i get attitude already and she's driving me BONKERS.

ROFL. People say its terrible two. I have always found three more challenging. They seem so set in there ways and the tanties can last so much longer. This too shall pass ;)

Food - Most of the time with DS2 food is pretty good so I'm thanking my lucky stars with that one.

Sleep - He doesn't like to go to bed either. he likes to falls asleep on the couch or besides me (either in my bed or while I'm watching tv on the lounge). A couple of times he went to bed ok at night in his own bed but it didn't stick so that was annoying. I just go with it. Luckily once he's asleep I can move him to his bed without fuss. I know it'll pass and DS1 had a thing when he was little where he wanted to watch a movie before bed and fall asleep to it in my bed.

TT - If my boy wasn't doing the whole TT thing then summer was going to be the big thing. Easier to clean messes, run around with undies, or none on. Luckily for me he is now only since the start of Oct. With DS1 since his birthday is in summer I found it easier ( and he was quite easy to go on the potty too which helped), where as DS2 is my winter baby It's too cold to run around with just undies on, etc, and didn't really like the potty and absolutely hated the big toilet for a while.

It'll just happen one day, like something clicks in their minds and they realise it's not such a bad thing to sit, wee, or poo on the potty, etc. Summer is coming up so maybe she'll like having undies on then, and it's cooler too. Good luck with that. TTing can be so stressful for them and us. :hug:

Yeah, the 3's are quite challenging, I agree.
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Is my DD destined to wear nappies and sleep on the couch till she's 21?!?

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I see a period in her future where she won't, but she's sure to regress around the age of 17 and take up similar habits, at least until she's 21! ;)

In all seriousness, I hope you find some answers to the issues you're having. Re toilet training, I'd forget it for a little while and come back to it after a period of not bothering. It might just 'click' in the meantime, but at least it takes it away as a point of contention for her. There's very little a three year old can control in her life, and what she puts in her body and how she puts it out is pretty much it!

For eating, keep offering healthy food choices and let her choose from the selection. So if you know she likes the staples, offer her a plate with some of those and some new things. Completely expect the new things to be rejected every time, but it won't stay that way forever. Again, not making food a point of contention will go a long way to how you feel about it, and that will probably help her. As long as you're happy that whatever she is eating is healthy, don't stress about the variety (or lack of it). Eat with her, to show her a good example of eating behaviour.

Good luck!

BONKERS??? Some days its complete TORTURE!!!

Food? yep.. everything is yucky.

Hormonal, moody, slamming door drama queen here! Want her?

Been thinking about the food one... DD was fussy for a while, then she started cooking with us, small tasks to start with, but now she can peel, chop veggies and grate... Tgey all taste soooo much nicer when she has made them. (same with DSS actually and he is 13!)
We currently have a batch of zucchini cheese and carrot muffins in the oven, she will demolish them for lunch, if I made or bought them, chances are she would not be that keen!


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SJ - i wish that worked for us, the girls have always helped cook but she still doesn't seem interested at the moment, think maybe your DD can have a word with her at the zoo :rofl: DD will be so pleased to see her again.

Slightly off topic but....

I watched a program a while ago about kids and food... There was the theory that if 'cool' kids like the foods that you don't like and you saw them eating it, you would start eating.
The producers set up school aged kids with food like veg and salad and some nicer stuff and watched how the ate both before and after their TV idols came for lunch and ate the veggies and encouraged them to as well.
The kids that 'hated' broccoli started eating, not just at school, but at home too! It was really interesting

Don't know how well it would work with 3 year olds though!


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Maybe we should petition giggle & hoot to ditch the bird seed and start eating 'dinner' as part of their bedtime routine ;)

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Maybe we should petition giggle & hoot to ditch the bird seed and start eating 'dinner' as part of their bedtime routine ;)

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He he that would be great.
I have a fussy eater too. I also don't cook separate meals, so if DD doesn't want what we're having she doesn't get anything. Hasn't harmed her yet.

Re the sleeping, I think I can offer hope. DD is 4 and 1/4. She has coslept with us all her life and until recently refused to go to her own bed and would sleep on the couch in the living room while DH and I watched TV, etc. If we tried to move her, she'd wake up and come back...
But three nights ago, she decided she wanted to sleep in her own bed and has slept there ever since. She does come into our bed in the early hours of the morning, but the night time routine is a lot easier now. I truly believe that all children will want to sleep on their own in their own time, I think that as a society we expect this far too early...

It will pass.

Food- sigh DS2 is actually better now we have stopped stressing about it. Some nights he eats a great dinner other nights he doesnt touch anything- but come 8.30 and he is staving. Last night he ate 2 tomatoe sauce sandwhiches (4 pieces of bread) and 4 slices of bacon, cold rice rolled into balls and a big slice of cheese but wouldnt touch dinner. We bake alot and that helps get them interested in food. 1 food that everybody devoures is the lactation cookies made with choc chips and about 2c oats not 3- its also great cause the batter is just as good for them :lol:
TT- I too would leave it alone for awhile, then offer a reward everytime she goes- a sticker, a marshmellow whatever works.
Sleep- that is tricky. Consistancy is the thing. We have walked the hard road here. Gone from everybody in 1 bed to 2 adults, now 2 adults and the baby with 2 boys in their room (they share)
We have a star chart. You get a star for eating your dinner, staying in bed (kinda)-perhaps falling asleep in your own bed is a better way to put it? and at the end of the week they can choose an outing, at the end of the month they can choose a toy (from a few choices).

:hug: your not alone

I'd like to know how to get through the same things! DS is only 15 days younger and he's been doing the same things - toilet raining is a no go, he will pull his nappy off when outside though and happily runs around with nothing on his bottom half! Bedtime is usually ok, but only if he gets to run around outside all day.

Food - he'll eat fruit, biscuits, sausages, pancakes, jam or vegemite sandwiches and wheatbix. I have started getting him to eat pureed veggies for lunch now though - he won't touch whole ones and definitely won't eat them with dinner. Lunch time is the ONLY time I have been able to get him to eat the pureed ones. I give him a container of them with a spoon and send him outside with it he'll usually eat some of it.

Not much help sorry.