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Welcome ladybirdf, congratulations on your pregnancy.
Loulabelle, good luck with the u/s. I hope all ur news is good.
I am trying to decide whether to go back and get the u/s they(the hospital, who I haven't seen since 24 weeks) wanted me to get at 34 weeks to check my placenta has moved away from the cervix. It was 2 cm away at 19 weeks. My MW isn't at all concerned whether I do or don't. The OB I spoke to at one point in my preg basically wasn't at all concerned either. I am not concerned. It might be nice to see the baby. DH would really prefer me to go get it done, which for the sake of his mental health might make me go and do it :) otherwise, very happy over here and other than more aches and pains from carrying relatively big, I am loving this pregnancy.
:baby: Babies Born :nappy:
eutra_phalia - baby boy born November 20
Sara - baby boy born sleeping 16w3d November 22
Jennifer13 - baby girl Hannah born January 4
Bella29 - baby girl Madeleine born January 10
:pregnant: Babies On Their Way :bellyrubs:
HotI - January
*Ash*- February
loulabelle - February
...Em - May
Cricket - May
ladybirdflies - July
BellyBelly - August
hi girls! wow, new thread! everytime we get a new one i feel so happy! HB continues! :loveshower:
LadybirdF: Welcome :hello:
Bella: i'd get it done. I would want my DH to feel totally cool and confident and if this is the way to eliminate that, then go for it! just keep your ears closed to any off the cuff negativity from the sonographers (and tell your DH that too). they can be insidious.
welcome ladybird and congrats on your pregnancy.
bella, I'm with cass, its important that our partners feel comfortable too. Ask your mw to recommend a good place to get it done. They often know which places are more prone to scare tactics etc. I'm sure you're placenta will have moved anyway, it didn't have far it had to go to be considered safe.
Eutra- thinking of you xx
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Thanks girls. I think I will too. If only to keep him happy. We talked properly about it and whilst I could see that he would bend to my wishes if I pushed it, but I don't want to push him on a "non" important issue iykwim?
In other news, I went and had some blood tests done with my GP on Monday and he called me today to say that my B12 was really low and that my ferritin(one of the forms of iron that we use) was really low too. So I had a B12 shot this morning to kick start it and am now on some tablets to up my levels. He says it is why I have been feeling to exhausted lately. I just thought it was because I am in my third tri, with a busy toddler, trying to be a good wife and mum. Apparently that doesn't help lol, but it has more to do with the other stuff. So looking forward to feeling more perky :) He was pretty cheeky tho and asked my DH if I had been pretty grumpy lately... our GP is a friend of DH's so I let him get away with it :) DH came away saying he wasn't sure what answer to give that wouldn't get him an elbow to the stomach :) cheeky buggers both of them! Mind u it is nice to have a GP who doesn't bat an eye when I ask for synto scripts or even when we discuss things needed for the HB. His wife had 4 hb's so he is pretty well kept in line at home I think. :)
Anyway I needed to have a whinge to someone about all that today, so thanks for listening. Made me realise when I reacted badly to the news this morning, that I am not well prepared mentally for the "if something goes wrong" scenerio of this birth. I need to get my head in a good place to cope with complications and negative outcomes, without losing my positive outlook. Any ideas are welcomed if you have strategies ladies.
xx Bella
Hi all! I've popped in only once or twice before, but I just thought, if we're keeping a list of home-birth babies, you can add me to the list. Baby #6, due May 21. :)
Bella - about the "what if's" of homebirth, I think it is a good idea to sit down with your midwife and discuss what can go wrong, how you will know, and what you/she will do if such a thing happens. That way you know what the plan will be, and personally, that helped me stay in a good mental state. I wasn't just sitting there with my ears plugged and my eyes closed saying "nothing bad ever happens... la la la..." :) Know what I mean? But, I wouldn't spend a great deal of time thinking about the "what if's" either. After you discuss the possible complications, remind yourself that birth goes beautifully the vast majority of the time, when your body is allowed to do its thing.
Congrats Cricket! I've added you to the list.
Bella- I can't even get motivated to prepare for an - everything-goes-right-birth. i am cool about the pregnancy thing, cool about the baby at the end, but am happy to just ignore the whole bit in the middle- except my decision that i'm not leaving home. In one way, i think i did all these things to prepare last time and got screwed over anyway so why bother. And i don't even feel like bringing it up with my midwife.
Next appt is at my place, and DH will be ther, so maybe i will be more comfy then. I think we are going over my hospital notes of my last birth so maybe that will help.
Anyone heard from Eutra?
I'm here! Still baking this baby! Had a m/w visit today and all is well - just playing the waiting game. I've been getting lots of pre-laboury stuff on and off and am trying my best not to be disappointed when it stops and be positive instead - thinking of it as my body preparing etc etc :) Hoping to meet this little bub really soon but I think it will be at least another few days.
Welcome ladybirdF and congratulations to Cricket!! :)
Bella, that's so great you have a good relationship with your GP and no issues getting a synto script etc etc :)
HotI - I hope going through your hospital notes is helpful in preparing for your upcoming birth xxx
Hey girls, thanks for the replies. It isn't that I don't know what would happen in case of emergency stuff. I have played those scenarios over in my head probably too much. My background is as an emergency nurse and DH is an emergency Dr. In that respect I know that the ppl around me will go into action and take care of me and transfer me to get me safe, and get my baby safe. It is more the little stuff. The insidious stuff where you loose your choices because of say thick mec or me getting exhausted etc... Last time I was forced to transfer mid labour because I went thru a Birth center and despite the OB I spoke to a few days before agreeing to it being ok for me to stay there till 42 =3, when in labour the OB didn't and I was made to TF. When I did TF it made me feel like I had lost all control and so I just kinda gave up fighting what was happening to me if that makes sense?? So anyway, not that an OB is going to do that this time. But if there were a clinical problem, where I needed to TF, then I need to get myself to believe that I can still effect changes to my circumstances. I don't just want to give in this time. does that make more sense? I don't want to get hung up on it. I just don't want to be completely un prepared.
xx Bella
PS- hey eutra, thinking of you. Happy birth blessings babe :) Will be waiting to hear a happy announcement very soon
Bella: thankfully this time, you wont lose any choices as your IM will still be by your side, and they are very very good. Of course, the TF is just theory. I am sending you also, beautiful birth blessings for the time when it comes and am confident that it will go beautifully xx
Eutra: what Bella said....happy birth blessings for the coming days :loveshower:
Eutra: happy birthing.
Bella I'll be back later to respond
Eutra - thinking of you over the coming few days. Looking forward to hearing some great news soon!
I'll also BBL to update... Haven't forgotten, just been busy!
I saw your green light on Eutra!! Hope you doin ok and you will meet your little one soon.
What did/do you have on your list of things to have on hand for the birth?
What snacks did you want (if any)?
What food did you have for your support people?
HotI:
didn't have any snacks as didnt really feel up to eating, although I had tea just as labour was kicking in well i ate it between contractions but was full enough from that so didn't have anything else. Only thing I had was juice and water. Didn't have any food for support people but they said they were right, DH did ask them did they want a drink but they told him not to worry about them, they made a cuppa after i had DD just before they left.
Eutra: goodluck with your birth can't wait to hear the good news
em - how long was your labour, and how long was the midwife/s at your place?
for labour i had some snacks ready but didnt eat them (the midwives helped me snarf them though lol). i had pretzels and jellybeans...om nom nom! and a bottle of gatorade JIC i got a bit dehydrated. but labour and birth was so short no time for any of that!
we had prepared a meal to eat with the midwives. we bonded over food and knew that they would stay at least 2 hours postpartum and to add labour/birth time etc etc. So we did a simple minestrone that was defrosted when i started to feel that maybe it might be soon. DH took care of all that and they had a scrumptious dinner while i blissed out in bed with Marta :)
Hi all
Just an update from me on the HBing front. Can't believe we're less than seven weeks to EDD...
I had my m/w visit last Monday, and I'm down to fortnightly visits now. Baby's growth has slowed down and I'm measuring about a week behind, which I'm not surprised about. I think this bub will be another quite little girl. I obviously don't grow big babies! Just about everything ready to go. All I need to get is a birth pool and some of the birth supplies on the list and I can relax!
Baby is very firmly head down still and is alternating now between facing the LHS and the RHS, but completely anterior. Good birthing position! I think it might be all the stairs I have to walk up at home. You can only feel the bottom of her head above my pubic bone she's wedged in so tightly.
I've booked in to the hospital in case I need to transfer and I need to have one more appt with my GP to organise Group B strep test and a couple of scripts to have on hand. It's getting exciting!
My backup midwife is coming next Monday and I catch up with all of the m/ws at the HB get-together on Thursday. This month's topic is siblings at birth, so I'm looking forward to it. DD is very excited at the countdown - she ticks off 5 weeks until school holidays, six weeks until Xmas and seven weeks until her baby sister arrives. Hopefully in that order!
Can't believe you're so close now Jennifer! Didn't you only have your 20week scan last week!! Sounds like everything is going really well.
Eutra- happy birthing, I wonder if its happening right now? So excited to hear the news.
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Hi ladies!
I hope you don't mind but I'm going to stalk this thread for a bit. I'm not pregnant at the moment and not sure I will be any time soon (as in we're not trying at the moment, not the basic uncertainty of whether TTC will succeed!). But I would have loved to have a homebirth the first time around, just wasn't organized or informed enough, and I thought maybe seeing what you guys were discussing would give me some clues about what I need to do for a possible next time.
It would also be nice to get to know some other BB members. :)
Hi and welcome EmmaJane! :hello:
This thread is lovely as anyone can pop in (whether they are about to "pop" have "popped" or dream of someday "popping" :)).
Jennifer: *squeallll* so so close now :dance:
Hi ladies - no baby news from me :( DH is on leave now so we went out for a fancy lunch today which was nice. The downward pressure on my pelvis/cervix is so, so strong today - walking, sitting, standing is so uncomfortable it's making me nauseous...I hope that's a sign that baby is really close...I've had a few contractions on and off today but they just drop off after an hour or so. I have our next midwife appointment on Thursday afternoon and am tempted to ask if she would consider doing a cervical exam...I have a feeling she'll talk me out of it but it can't hurt to ask right? :)
Welcome EmamaJane!! :)
Jennifer - fortnightly appointments now! How exciting!!!! Not long now for you! :)
EmmaJane, i was a stalker here way before i had a bub on board. Welcome!
Eutra - baby is just getting in the right position. You don't need any exams, bub and your body will let you know when it's time. :hug: Glad you enjoyed your fancy lunch. I deliberately planned some fun things in the couple weeks after 40 weeks pregnancy with my DD so i had things to look forward to, and if i missed them i figured i would be ok about it cos i would have baby. Planning our fav restaurant again this time!
Eutra the exams really just don't tell you anything. Sounds like your body is doing everything right tho. Hugs for the unconfyness.
Oh Eutra!! How very exciting! So close now to holding your little baby!! This last bit can be the worst,but hang in there. Do something to nurture yourself and hopefully we will all be reading your BA very soon :))
XX Bella
Hi girls :hello: Glad Cass said above that anyone can pop in ;) I've got some questions about home birth, I mainly would like to know how you got over any fear of anything going wrong (if you had any)? both dh and I were pretty keen on a home birth for ds but ended up at the private hospital as it had such a fantastic reputation. I had a beautiful 100% natural waterbirth and our stay at the hospital was also fantastic. The whole experience was fantastic and in hindsight we are glad we went to the hospital for our 1st birth as the care from the midwives was fantastic. But now we know what we are doing with breastfeeding etc and the birth was so quick and dare I say it easy I think we would ok at home for #2 yet there is still that fear in the back of my head of a 'what if' something did go wrong :o That would possibly make me less relaxed and things may not go as smoothly as the first time. I've thought about home birth stacks since ds was born and even more so now that I'm thinking of lowering our health insurance because I don't know if #2 is ever going to happen... So why am I even asking about a home birth :rolleyes: OK so maybe I'm just thinking out loud so that I'd be comfortable with the home birth idea if #2 does happen and I've dropped the health insurance. Other things I have considered are that I would really want ds involved, where he was born they wouldn't have a problem with it or with him staying with us at the hospital either but at home he would be so much more relaxed and in to it iykwim. Thanks for any advice :)
Eutra: not long now how exciting!
Cherished: I got over the 'what if something went wrong' with the fact it's the same with hospital birth, like what happens if something went wrong on your drive to hospital? Sonreally I seen no difference if if so somewhat safer at home. And really my MW had everything needed for an emergency anyway. And I felt safe and trusted her, and given I got to choose how long I had her there for whereas in the hospital you are sharing a MW and don't have someone there that knows you and could possibly tell before things got bad iykwim.
If something goes wrong, my midwife and i will probably detect it earlier than if i was in hospital, and we will deal with it. Hopefully, we can work through it at home, if not we will get extra help. The things that went wrong last time for me, went wrong because i was in a hospital.
Went swimming this morning with my DD. it was lovely just walking laps of the pool holding DD as she was kicking and blowing bubbles. Still want to get to the pool by myself too so i can swim some laps.
Welcome emmajane and cherished. You're both very welcome in here.Ive always stalked this thread and its made made my decision to hb a very easy one.
Cherished, what the others said. Your midwife would be trained to pick up everything. They are there for just you, 100% of the time. You just don't get care like that in a hospital.
Eutra- sounds like things are getting nice and ready down there. One of my strongest signs that labour was on its way with Ds was those uncomfortable pains down below. It'll happen really soon :)
Afm, had my midwife appointment this morning and have booked and paid for my birthpool.yay! I'm measuring about 3 weeks behind but mw said given I don't have big babies she's fine with it. Me, feeling a little anxious. I think with my placenta being weird and now measuring behind is just making me worry and think of the worst case scenario. Thankfully my lovely midwife called the ob who will be doing my scan and asked if I can go in at 28 weeks instead of 30-32. So I'm going to book it for 2.5-3 weeks and hopefully that will be all good and I can know that I'm growing a healthy baby. Ill be able to officially know if I can hb or not. It just sucks that my last two pregnancies were so wonderfully boring but I didn't hb!
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yay! It's getting busy in here. Welcome Emmajane, and big hugs to my buddy, cherished - it's lovely to see you in here. I felt a bit sad reading your comment that number 2 might not happen :( I really hope that isn't the case. In relation to fears about something going wrong at home - I have always had total faith and trust in my body and my midwives. I agree with the comment (by HotI?) that an issue or problem may actually get picked up quicker at home where you are one -on- one with a midwife. My current midwife carries with her : hand-held doppler, syntocinon, oxygen with bag and mask for neo-natal resus, IV fluids, and non-emergency equip like urinary catheters, local anaesthetic and suturing material. I live 5 mins drive from our local base hospital.
Hello Eutra! I hope you are well, and in labour as I type! Happy, peaceful birthing. I can't wait to hear all about it.
Hello to everyone else.
Arte, I have been thinking of you lately because my midwife trained and worked in NZ before coming to Australia. The NZ system sounds awesome.
I finally had my first appt. with my midwife. She is wonderful and fabulous- and it was love at first sight! hehehehe.....which is a relief because I was getting desperate and couldn't have handled the possibilty that we would not gel. She is highly professional and organised - which is important to me. She said that it takes her an hour to get to my house, so she wants me to call her as soon as I go in labour. I really admire her as a person too - she does volunteer work as a midwife in third world countries - some of her stories/experiences are amazing. can you tell that I really like her?! The cost is 3 grand - which is a relief, as that is the amount that DH and I had set aside. So, it's all good in my neck of the woods :)
Yay for mw being wonderful ash! Also, you're looking mighty fine there ;)
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Hi ladies, hope you don't mind me popping in to ask a quick question... DH & I are strongly leaning towards a homebirth for when we decide to go for #2 (aren't planning for a few years but lol) and I have been seriously wondering what would happen if you tear down there?? Sorry if it's a silly question but the reason I went private last time was for peace of mind with having the best medical care if something happened from my known OB and all I needed was a stitch after all and I am really curious of what you would do if you tore at home?? And also is it possible to notify your local private hospital of your birth and if need be would you be able to be seen by a chosen OB or something? Anyone know how that works?
Anyway... Thanks for your time ladies!! And good luck to all you Mummies soon to have a beautiful homebirth :)
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Danni, your m/w can take care of tears as long as it's not too bad. I can't book in to my private ob or private hospital, because there's no shared care. But I have booked in to the closest public hospital in case I need to transfer as a private patient. If I need to see an ob then I can request an ob and I have two recommendations, but I will be limited as to who's available if I go in as an emergency. I have seen a m/w and ob at the hospital and they have my details and birth plan on file. It was simple and I have actually had nothing but supportive comments from the hospital staff (and hopes that I wouldn't see them again!).
You don't have to do any of the above, it's totally up to you. I did it because it seemed easier to take care of it and then not have to think about it.
hello girls! ahhh so lovely to have all the chatting!
Ash: woo hoo woman! looking hot!!! (and GREAT news about the MW being totally awesome! now to just sit back and enjoy the rest of the journey!).
that sounds like she does really cool work in developing countries. who does she do that through?
Cherished: welcome gorgeous!!!! our fears were overcome when i spoke to a dear friend of mine that is a midwife at a major hossy here in Melb when she told me that many of the birth 'emergencies' are actually detected well, well in advance. she told me that when things go wrong, they tend to build up over time (we are talking hours at times!). so she told me that with expert and total care (like what you get with an IM), there is no added risk to birthing at home. the other thing to consider is distance from hossy. but again, birth complications are rarely a hurried affair, and your IM will pick up anything as she/he will know you and your baby so well, they can pick up the slightest shift. so unless you live in whoop whoop 100s of kms from nowhere, i reckon you are AOK :).
I loved being at home and pottering in the garden and reading stories to DD1 when i was in labour with M...no need to think about when to leave...
Danni: hi and welcome! your IM can take care of most things Post Partum, including stitches. they come well prepared with all the suturing stuff etc. etc. You will most likely find that there are no shared care arrangements between IMs and OBs. some women have chosen to start their care with an OB or hossy and then switch over after a certain point (depending on their reasons for starting out with an OB...ie keeping some costs down...like scans, pathology etc). but then again, some IMs might not be able to take a person on if left to later in the pregnancy as they are popular people, and much like a private OB do book out quite quick in some areas. Just food for thought: you can still have all pathology (ie BTs) done when HB, as well as scans etc and Strep B etc etc when planning a HB.
Just popping in to see if there is any word from Eutra. Hope your body is opening up and your bub will be here soon (if it's not already!)
I have been going to the local pool and walking laps of the pool with my DD. AFterwards i find that my tummy baby is vey peaceful and relaxed. Does anyone else find this? Hopefully, i can get to the pool when DH is home so i can do some swimming too.
Bub was lying sidewards, then i think went bum down and now i think he/she has done a 180 and is head down again. I see my midwife this week (unless she is busy with Eutra :lol:) and will see what position she thinks bub is in.
I have started getting some of my personal things ready in a bag, and choosing bub's first outfits/blankets etc. I am questioning where to put the birth pool (again). ATM, the idea is to have it in the kitchen (very practical- close to water, outside door for draining, not carpetted) but the lounge/kitchen are kinda open plan and near the front door if anyone was to 'drop by' (not likely but you never know). I have thought about getting a screen or room divider to have around the pool which would give it a more enclosed feel.
My most recent plan is to have the pool in the study (which is basically a small empty room atm except for one desk). This would allow the support people to chill on the couch, use the kitchen etc and not have me right there. It would be more private for me, and i could set it up earlier (cos it's not in use day to day). Disadvantages are water would have to be transported or hosed through the window, waste water out the window might need to be pumped out (rather than gravity), the floor is carpet. And this room is closer to DD's bedroom.
What do you think? How did you decide where to set up?
Hi ladies! Hope all of you are well - great to see how busy it's been in here!
I'm so so excited to let you all know that baby is finally here - little boy Caspar Francis, born 8:55pm on Sunday night. He shares a birthday with his daddy!! We are so so in love with him already and loving getting to know each other. Haven't yet had a chance to post in BA's but wanted to post here because I know you were all waiting for news :)
Bub was born at home - labour was 45 hours from first contractions, two tiny grazes so no stitches needed. Will come back and post more details soon! He hasn't been weighed yet but is 51cm
long, head circ 36cm and we think he weighs about 3.5kg but will check properly today when our IM visits.
Love to you all xx
CONGRATULATIONS eutra on the birth of your little boy :)
Congratulations eutra! I'm thrilled for you and dh. What a great birthday your dh must have had.love the name too.xx can't wait to hear more.
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Congratulations Eutra!!!! Caspar is such a cool name!!!
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