Am i a prude for thinking its inappropriate?

Another thread has got me thinking, actually i've been thinking this for a while, usually after seeing a teenage girl wearing barely anything..

I've noticed quite a few girls aged 12-16 wearing very short shorts (cut offs are what i theyre called :dunno:) plus wearing only a bra and a see through top or very loose ones where you can see all the way up/down.

Not only wearing very short shorts where you can see their bum cheeks but very short dresses/skirts. I even saw a girl about 15-17 wearing one of those boob tube bras and a pair of the shortest shorts :o i just think thats HIGHLY inappropriate attire for in public! It hasn't even been that hot here maybe the highest we've got to is 35 degrees!

My Step MIL said that when she was staying with one of DPs auntys her daughter left the house wearing a top where you could see both nipples and she was 14!

So not only do i think most of what young girls where nowadays is inappropriate but what are the parents thinking letting their daughters walk around like that!?

I was on a bus with DP when a young girl around 12/13 got on wearing one of the examples and i whispered that DD would NEVER be allowed to wear that let alone own them! I then changed my mind and said that perhaps maybe around the house as no one would see her. But i see no need for shorts so short you see their bum cheeks or tops that cover nothing. I mean good on them for being confident in their bodies but no one wants to see it.

So am i a prude?

I don't think you're a prude hon. I think there comes a time when it is the parents job to protect their children. We may not like the fact that scantily clad girls/women are seen as sexual objects but the sad reality is that for some people that is the case. I think a 12 year old girl is too young to understand how others may be viewing her dressed like that so it is up to the parents to protect our daughters from being veiwed in that way and possibly harmed.
Do I think it's sad and wrong that this is the case?- yes I do. But sometimes you need to accept that the world is not the perfect place we would sometimes wish it to be and teach our children about the reality of the world.
At home is a different story as I would hope that my children feel comfortable enough to wear anything (or nothing) at home with us. But teaching them about appropriate dress for outside the home is all part of being a responsible parent and equipping them for how life really is.

Nope :)

No I agree with you

No! I think it's horrible what teens wear in public.

Nope. You'll never see my girls wearing that. Revolting!

I think it is important we teach our daughters to love their bodies, feel comfortable in their own skin, to not hate their nudity, etc etc. But having positive body image DOESN'T need to correspond to body flaunting. I think that is the message that gets lost.

They need to know they are beautiful within themselves, instead of getting that message from the looks of approval of men and friends, from wolf whistles and winks.

FWIW I think the most beautiful and sexy women dress classy, not skimpy.

Susie O'Brien has a blog on today about Deborah Hutton (she's 50) doing a full frontal nude photo shoot for Women's Weekly (or some similar). The blog is all about how we should be comfortable in our own bodies and not worry about photoshopping photos etc.

Certainly teens these days wear different things from what I did. The whole Goth scene was something different - I don't recall that being around when I was younger (or, more probably, I didn't move in circles where that was acceptable).

On the whole, I think your attitude reflects your upbringing. I was brought up in an upper-middle-class suburb, went to top-notch private schools and then onto law at university. It's a fairly sheltered upbringing. My attitude to dress is well in accordance with my upbringing.

If I had a different upbringing, then I would probably have a different attitude.

I saw her nude shot. She looks great for her age. She managed to pose without being provocative. It was well done I think :).

Totally agree.

Young girls these days are wearing next to nothing and it's sending the wrong message. And I am by far a prude!

We make my almost 14 year old do the bend over test before she goes out ( as in if we can see bum cheek when she bends over the shorts / skirt are too short to be worn out in public) and so far we've only had one argument about how I'm being mean and unfair.

If her older brother had his way she'd never leave the house with any skin showing as he gets really stressed out with some of her clothes. Mostly she's a boho mess but sometimes she pulls it together to look good!!

DD2 is growing so quickly that she always wears boarded under her dresses otherwise she ends up flashing her knickers within 2 weeks of owning something new.

hmmmmm rewind 20 years...how many times did I go out of the house wearing what my parents thought was respectable, to only change at my friends house or roll the top of my skirt up so it was hell short???? :lol: My daughter is just 6, but the height of a 10 year old. We have to buy her clothes in the pre teens section. No pretty lacy dresses for my daughter, up the bum cut off shorts are all that are available.

I have no problem with nudity per se.
I do have an issue with the sexualisation of children/teens or any one for that matter (strippers etc).
So I see nothing wrong with someone skinny dipping, but I dislike micro skirts/shorts and extreme push up bras and see through tops.
To me the whole point of wearing clothes like that is tantalise/tease people.
Why would you want to do that to strangers?

My nieces are 12 and 13. Compared to some of their friends they dress conservatively! However, they both wear shorts which in my opinion are far too brief to be worn in public. Seriously, if your arse is hanging out the bottom, they're too short!! My 13 year old niece in particular looks far older than her age. She is very tall (dad is 6ft 8in!) and well developed. I have seen the way grown men look at her. The attention she receives, even when dressed 'appropriately' is already of an openly sexual nature. I don't believe she is aware of the attention she is getting, although she looks very mature she is not particularly mature in her personality. My concern is... she and her sister and their friends are wearing clothing which attracts attention and invites men to peer at their body. But at 12, 13, 14.... they are not yet mature enough to deal with, or to even understand the nature of the attention they are garnering. A recipe for disaster in my opinion! The clothing (tiny shorts, tops with bras on display) suggests a sexual maturity which these girls don't, and shouldn't, yet possess.

I am certainly not suggesting that a woman who dresses provocatively is 'asking for it'. The idea of blaming a woman for sexual assault because of her clothing appalls me. But I do think that we, as mothers, should protect our children form an adult idea which they simply don't understand, or which they may believe they can control but which we know they can't.

I have spoken to my sister about the clothing my nieces wear (ah, yes... the padded bra my 12 year old niece wears under skimpy singlet tops! WTF??). But she fails to see a problem and tells me that this is what they like to wear and what all their friends wear. I have also spoken to my nieces about their clothing choices, but they simply tell me that they like it and it's comfortable.

Coincidentally, yesterday I was discussing the issue of short shorts with a girlfriend who came over for a swim. We both have 8 year old DD's and both were wearing short board shorts with their rashies. When do short shorts become inappropriate? At what age? I think they are fine for any age at the beach or the pool, but I have taken my DD to the supermarket in hers. Neither of our girls is developing and they are both quite small for age, but we had both reached the point of considering whether those board shorts are appropriate away from the beach or the pool. When do you think they are no longer appropriate?

And do they then become ok again at a later age? Because honestly, I have no problem with a woman in her 20's wearing short shorts or skimpy clothing. She is mature enough to know and understand her own sexuality and sexual attention and if she chooses to dress in a skimpy way... well, all good for her! So , do you think skimpy clothes are ok on girls/women who have reached maturity?

Everyone has said the same thing about every generation. And some generations have been worse than ours if you look at the fashion. Class and education have nothing to do with it. What gives me the irrits is women who aspire to be that way as adults yet pick on teens for doing the same. Pot kettle black much? Giving your children a healthy body image and self worth is more than just preventing them from wearing certain clothes or we wouldn't have so many women with eating disorders be it overeating or not eating at all. No my children dont wear slinky clothes. But they also don't see their mother doing the same or better yet admiring those that do. And I would rather teach her that it just looks gross rather than telling her about a message it gives. Because really women should be able to wear whatever they want to and not fear the wrong attention. But we still haven't evolved. And we still make excuses for men like they are some poor helpless animal not in control of their impulses. Rubbish.

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And do they then become ok again at a later age? Because honestly, I have no problem with a woman in her 20's wearing short shorts or skimpy clothing. She is mature enough to know and understand her own sexuality and sexual attention and if she chooses to dress in a skimpy way... well, all good for her! So , do you think skimpy clothes are ok on girls/women who have reached maturity?

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Yes, women in their 20's + can dress how they want BUT, I think it is setting a bad example for younger girls. I have a few short skirts for the summer and a couple of minor cleavage tops, but some of the things I see getting around these days. Seriously, is it really necessary??

nickle- you have to laugh at young girls saying the clothes are comfortable- as if shorts going up your crack constantly is comfortable!!

I remember many, many moons ago tottering around in short shorts and massive platforms thinking I was the ants pants- I'm sure if questioned i would have said that was comfortable too :rofl:

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When do you think they are no longer appropriate?

And do they then become ok again at a later age?

So , do you think skimpy clothes are ok on girls/women who have reached maturity?

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IMO they are swim wear so i think they are always appropriate, you see little girls wearing just bathers. However bikinis for little girls is ridiculous and not necessary!

My BFF used to dress very skimpy in school, she wore very short skirts and little tops. She is now 24 and is horrified and embarassed at the outfits she wore. She agrees that she was immature and wore the clothes for attention. I feel that alot of teenage girls are like this.

Honestly, when i see a 20 something year old wearing skimpy clothes i don't think anything, actually no i mostly think "oh i hate her she looks awesome i wish i could pull that off" :lol: They walk with that confidence in themselves where as teenage girls they walk around wanting boys to look at them.

Saffy - I just laughed at your post :lol: i often see girls picking their shorts out of their butts! And the girls who have bigger thighs are more likely to have them ride! How is that comfy! :o I wear short shorts around the house and thats as far as ill go as i have horribley white legs!

I'm a hypocrite.

I used to wear thigh-skimming skirts in my late teens, the shorter the better and that was seen as very risque at the time. We're talking late 80s here. It wasn't to garner sexual attention, it was to rebel. If I'd wanted male attention, I would have grown my hair beyond the number 2 cut I had at the time :)

At the time, I was in the minority hence why I'm calling it rebellion.

I don't see skimpy clothes these days as rebellion, I see them as mainstream - just like tattoos used to be a rebellious statement and now is mainstream. I also think that they are part of the sexualisation of children. Hanging around my teenage DSD and her friends was eye-openingly appalling. A very large topic of conversation for them would be who was pretty, who was not, who was hot, who was not. Nauseating. If there's anything that makes me feel like an old fart, it's music videos. SO overtly sexual. Compare them to vids from the 80s/90s - the latter are so tame by comparison.

So yeah, in my best Little Britain voice, "don't like it."

Rouge, I agree with much that you say. And I certainly don't excuse men who can't control their sexual impulses. But I do recognise that we live in a society which has sexualised butts and boobs. Should men be able to control their impulses? Absolutely! But if they all did, there would be no sexual assaults or molestations and sadly that is not the case. And so knowing this, don't we have a responsibility to put our daughter's at least risk by ensuring they dress in a manner that doesn't suggest that they are more sexually mature than they are?

As for the pot and the kettle... I think a mature woman who understands her own sexuality and the sexualisation of the female body who chooses to dress in clothes which show her body... well, I think that is her choice. A woman in her twenties will more likely understand the sexual nature of the attention skimpy clothing may bring her and will more likely be able to recognise and deal with it. Honestly, if one of those men who ogled my niece approached her, she would have no idea how to respond. She probably (hopefully!) wouldn't recognise a sexually suggestive come on, particularly from someone older than a teenaged boy. I worry that if a man approached her somewhere public and with people around, she would feel the need to be polite to an adult and messages would become rather twisted and confused!

I know that every generation has been the same, that teenaged girls have always been eager to grow up. But as the mother of two girls and the aunt of two more, I want them to be safe and to enjoy their childhood for as long as possible (yes, like every generation of parent's before me!).

ETA Yes, fionas, I DON'T LIKE IT!!!

I've not read all the posts, just going by the first few ...

I think when you reach certain points in your life your attitude adjusts.

When I was 16+ I was super fit and had an amazingly sculpted body, abs to boot, toned arms, great legs and I proudly wore clothes that revealed my physique. I didn't care if people made judgements, I looked good so I wore what I wanted because I could and most of those who judged me, frankly, couldn't measure up! I wore the same types of clothes until my body "softened" :rofl:

When I look at teens today, my first reaction is prudish "geez love put some clothes on" then I remember that I did the same at that age.

Now my upbringing was sheltered, my parents were super strict ... BUT they supplied me the clothes, I didn't work as a teen. When I did start working I learnt the hard way about appropriate dressing.

I think the kids dressing like mini tramps is terrible but its the parents who buy the clothes for the younger ones, you can hardly blame unemployed tweens for their fashion sense!

Older teens , well I think its part and parcel of their exploring their youthfulness and sexuality. I don't agree with it but who am I to judge when I did the same.

oh yeah

nudity and sexualness (is that a word) should be seen as two different things

Nae x x

I get what you are saying. And I too don't like it. Whether its on a toddler, a tween, teen or twenty year old. And regardless of understanding ones sexuality the fact is the reason behind why a teen does it or why a twenty year old does it is no different. They just rationalise it with maturity. Which IMO is bollocks. They are both wanting to impress other men and are made to believe that more skin = hot. It's even been said in this thread. To get a man to love you does not mean you need to pretty much tell him what you would look like naked without actually being naked. My point is the focus on women being objects starts with our generation and it's sadly more the women who teach it to the next generation.

Ok, I'm going to go against the grain here and say I don't really see it as a big issue.

From where I sit it is just another form of teenage experimentation. It is one way that these girls are learning about and exploring their own sexuality, they are curious to see the effect that they can and do have on the opposite sex (and probably old fuddy duddies like us) and learning how to use it. Now, I'm not saying that it's a good thing, but in my eyes it just another way they are learning about the world and the way it works.

If I have an issue with anything related to this topic, it is grown men who outwardly drool over these young girls - in my opinion that is inappropriate and what we as a society should focus on. We should be teaching young boys about respect for women etc and condemning the men who believe it is ok to objectify young girls and women rather than telling girls to dress differently.

And as one poster said, even if as parents you don't let them out of the house wearing those clothes, you can't stop them changing into them once they leave. And if you refuse to buy them those sort of clothes, there's nothing to stop them cutting their jeans or borrowing their friends clothes. Ultimately, if a teenage girl decides she wants to experiment in this way, you're not going to stop her. And if she's anything like I was as a teenager, the more you try to stop her, the further she will push the boundaries. What you can do is empower her. Help her to see that the sort of attention it creates isn't necessarily the attention you want to be getting from men. But let her reach that conclusion herself.

JMO

This is an area that I often have a bit of an internal debate about, in regards to my own teenage daughter. At what point does her need for self expression and autonomy cancel out my need to impose my moral or cultural sensitivities onto her? Is it an age based thing? Does it depend on her maturity - and what is maturity anyway? I suspect a lot of what happens during the decade between 10 and 20 is about removing "parent" as the main frame of reference and substituting "society/peers/social mores" as that reference point. Hence the need to adopt the "uniform" of one's peers (learning about social acceptability) or your own "unique" dress sense (learning about individuation away from the group) rather than what your mum thinks you should be wearing.

I also think we do girls a disservice when we see skimpy clothing and straight away assume it's about "flaunting" or sexuality. It may be about dressing in a way that is acceptable to her group of friends, or it may even be an asexual act of power ("I'll dress however I ****ing want to, thanks"). Really, it's not fair (and has never been fair) that boys/men can strip to the waist when the weather is hot but as girls/women we are supposed to keep our lust-inducing flesh carefully behind a screen of clothing. WTF is that about?

BUT by the same token, girls/young women wearing skimpy clothing *has* been sexualised in recent times to a much greater degree than in the past - in advertising, in music videos, online, on the telly, etc. To a certain degree this inculturates or invites boys/young men to adopt a more objectified (and even predatory) view of women, and in some social circles more so than others (I'm thinking now of some of the choicer conversations overheard in a military setting). It's specifically those individuals (rather than every male on the planet) whose gaze I'm interested in shielding my teenaged daughter from. Not because she's not entitled to flaunt her emerging sexuality in ways that she feels comfortable with (because she is), but because she's not yet armed to deal with the reality of sexual objectification.

AND finally, let's not forget that young women are still subject to a whole load of pressure to meet various cultural ideals, whether it's a certain degree of hairlessness, or a certain degree of not-arguing-back-ness, or a certain level of attractiveness, and mashed up in there still, all these years down the track, is the one about "nice girls" being the ones you want to take home to mum and dad. And "nice" girls don't dress a certain way, do they?? I can't blame any young woman for wanting to bust out of that, but I also don't want anyone judging my daughter badly over an extra inch of flesh.

Great post, MD.

I see what you are saying. But I guess in my experiences I see more women objectifying themselves than I do men. And baring skin shouldn't be a problem.

This reminds me of a male teacher we had in high school. On hot days we would all have water fights. We were a small school and everyone was close. So boys and girls were friends. Not much sexualisation went on. Not by other schools standards anyway. The male teacher called a meeting with all the girls asking us not to wear lacy bras to school when if we were going to throw water at each other. The boys were disgusted as were us girls. They didn't throw water on us to see our bras. And we certainly didn't choose sexy bras for wet t shirt competitions. We were all having innocent fun. Yet it was tainted by one perverted man. Who was led by another prudish teacher. Who funnily enough dressed in short skirts and low cut tops to school and you could see her bra. Without her shirt being wet! She was the one who instigated the whole thing because she was worried how he felt. I have to wonder if it would have even bothered him I she hadn't made such a raucous about it. In the end she ruined some innocent fun and made all of us think he was a pervert.

ETA: And I know I'm rambling.. but like others I don't think it's completely cut and dry. I think there are genuine people out there who have fun with clothes, aren't looking for "attention" or anything like that. But sometimes I see such double standards when women judge younger women, yet either did the same or continue to do the same as adults. There are so many aspects to the argument, so many variables that can be argued. It just sucks that we can't be ourselves no matter what we wear, do or say without stereotypes following us.

I just want to be clear that I don't judge young girls such as my nieces who wear short shorts and tops which reveal their bra. I agree, as a PP said, that they are exploring and experimenting with their emerging sexuality or often just wearing similar clothing to their peers in order to fit in. I don't judge them for this in any way, I simply worry that many young girls, like my nieces, don't fully understand that by presenting themselves in a way which suggests sexuality (be it because of music video's, advertising...) they will often incur attention they are not yet equipped to deal with.

rouge, fantastic posts.I 100% agree with you. wish I could rep from my phone.

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I simply worry that many young girls, like my nieces, don't fully understand that by presenting themselves in a way which suggests sexuality (be it because of music video's, advertising...) they will often incur attention they are not yet equipped to deal with.

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I totally get where you (and others) are coming from with this point. But... shouldn't we be condemning the inappropriate 'attention' rather than person wearing the clothing or the clothing.

Young girls often get innappropriate attention regardless of how they're dressed (I have memories of being whistled at walking past building sites in my school uniform). I think these attitudes we're displaying are just illustrating how repressed women still really are in our modern society, and how we as women often contribute to that repression without even realising it or thinking about it.

totally agree miss e.

I have strong memories of encountering very much unwanted attention regardless if how I was dressed.

saying young girls do it for and enjoy the attention is only a stones throw from from saying the are asking to be raped. I think most girls wear what they do because peers do and because its what's considered fashionable at the time.


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doesnt bother me at all and i would call you a prude but from reading the other replies i can see im the odd one out

I must be in a very modest town but I have never seen any young girls walking around with nipples showing or bum cheeks hanging below their shorts. Short shorts and see through tops with pretty bras underneath don't bother me in the slightest though, although on very young girls I do sometimes wish they were in clothes more suitable for playing and less suitable for posing but that's just me. I wore see through dresses at 16, that was just the fashion then, so I can't judge young girls these days.

Thanks everyone for your comments.

I respect each of your opinions. Some have made me see them in a whole new light but i still stand by my opinion of that some girls especially younger than 18 should be walking around dressed the way they do. It may be the fashion and the stores may sell them but they don't have to wear them and there are much nicer clothes that will make them feel good about themselves.

Some may think i am being judgemental and you know what i am human, we all judge, some of us silently and others openly.

MummaBee, love your honesty.

Miss E, I completely understand where you're coming from, although I certainly don't condemn young girls who dress in skimpy gear. I think the men who ogle these young girls need to be more respectful of the girls, and of women in general. I will raise my son to be respectful of all women (and of other blokes!). But, as a mother and an aunt, I can't change the behaviour or perceptions of all men. So, in order to protect my nieces and in future my daughters, I would prefer they dressed in a more covered up manner. Not because there is anything wrong with their bodies, certainly not because they are 'asking for it', simply because I can foresee, as an adult, that the attention they will most likely receive in their tiny shorts and lacy bra is not the sort of attention they will understand or know how to deal with.

I am certainly not a 'prude'. Nudity is a daily occurrence in my home and I personally don't mind a top which shows off my cleavage! (It's fairly impressive, my cleavage!!) But I am an adult and if my boobs attract attention, I am confident that I know how to deal with it.

I would love to live in a society where women of all shapes, sizes and wardrobes are afforded respect but unfortunately we live in a society where the female form has been overtly sexualised.

I am one of the worst hippocrites here.

Age 14, if my skirt couldn't be classed as a belt, it wasn't worn (and yes, my mother was still in charge of buying all my clothes at this point in time). Strappy tops, micromini skirts and high heels worn to school (for some reason not fastening the top button of a shirt underneath a tie was a uniform offence, but ignoring the whole thing and doing whatever I wanted was fine, even when classmates pointed out what I was wearing to the teachers). I knew exactly what kind of attention it would get me, including in the pub where I'd sometimes go for lunch, and liked it - and knew how to deal with it. Don't think because a girl is young and showing flesh she's completely daft, although she does look it. And it does feel good, you've got to admit that.

Actually, I don't think I did the see-through clothing until I was about 17. And not to school. Also, hot pants are more comfortable than they look, in their defence.

Nowadays, I reckon people should cover up a lot more. I cover myself up a lot more too, even though my figure is probably better than it was all those years ago (even with the post-baby tum). The main reason for it is this: the type of attention you get for your body is just physical. Sure, it buys you a few drinks. But is it worth it? The type of guy who will have an accident leering at a young scantily clad girl isn't the type of guy who wants to discuss intricacies of quantum physics (although we did have a points system for near-accidents caused by whorish outfits).

That and I actually look a darn sight more gorgeous covered up - so do most people. But this has the added bonus that people listen to what I'm saying. And guess what - I still get bought drinks in the pub, but this time by guys who will talk quantum physics with me. Result. And that's why I cover up - and why I'll be enforcing far more modest clothes on my daughter (should I have one) when I'm buying them.

I agree with your point, TFB, and I guess that's what I was trying to say too.

Let's teach our girls what it is like to be a woman, not just a body (but including a body too). To be loved and enjoyed not just for our appearance but who we are.

I'd be more pleased if my daughter experimented with the right personality and interests and attitudes that suit her, as she moved from teen to adult, than if that process merely involved clothes.

Then again, perhaps the clothes are reflective of that process, who knows.

I work in a shopping centre and our shop looks out into the centre..... the outfits i see walking past are just horrendous sometimes... i shake my head at what i see.
i actually saw a pregnant womans crotch one day cos she had on one of those dresses that are short at the front and long at the back. so at the front where her belly was pulling the dress up even more i saw even more.
i think young girls are showing off too much skin. it must be hard for parents at the moment because thats all that is around. and i see girls in the bathrooms all the time doing their makeup and getting changing into something less appropriate.

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Then again, perhaps the clothes are reflective of that process, who knows.

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For some girls, I think this is the case. Yes we should be teaching our daughters to be loved and enjoyed not just for their appearance but for who they are, that goes without saying, regardless of how they dress. But I think TFB has made a really good point (maybe unintentionally) - she went through the whole process of the short skirts and attention getting outfits to get to that conclusion. As much as we want to teach and protect teenagers, sometimes they need to learn through experience and experimentation (god knows I did, no matter how hard my mother tried to teach me what I know now).

And my earlier point - young girls often get that undesirable attention regardless of if they're wearing a very modest school uniform or hot pants. It's part of life and a part of life they need to learn to deal with, because chances are as adults they're going to encounter it too, even if they're dressed modestly. Crossing the road is probably more dangerous to their well being than wearing a pair of hot pants.

Personally, if I have a daughter I won't tell what she can and can't wear. Yes I will encourage her to dress relatively modestly, but if she wants to wear hot pants and little tops, I know from my own experience that there is no way I'm going to be able to stop her. And that if I try to stop her chances are I'll just be pushing her away and unintentionally fueling that innate need to experiment, which could ultimately mean she takes her experimentation to even greater lengths.

JMO

I have to say though, that even when wearing micro mini skirts as a teenager I abided by the "legs or boobs" rule and I hope I can pass that message onto my daughter. I think women look a lot nicer and sexier if then choose one part of themselves for their outfit to focus on but I think current fashions disagree with me on that point.

I think its hard to blame a fashion craze on an individual.

Its not one particular girl wearing these clothes in attempt to be sexually promiscious - it just so happens to be the fashion at the moment.

Don't get me wrong, I'm somtimes disgusted in what I see some of the girls of today wearing but like I said, its not just one particular girl, its a very large majority of them.

In terms of parenting our Daughters to have self respect etc... I'm sure that most of the parents of these girls once had thoughts exactly the same as what most of you are having now. But I guess you have to look at it in terms of your Daughters growth as a teenager. We all wanted to have what was current be it nike shoes, mobile phone or the current fashion clothes.

All we do hope and pray that this current fashion craze is dead, gone and BURIED by the time our Daughters are tweens/teenagers ;)