I'm watching The Project and they were talking about many people having regrets and stressing about them.
So, what are your regrets?
I will come back later and tell mine :)
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I'm watching The Project and they were talking about many people having regrets and stressing about them.
So, what are your regrets?
I will come back later and tell mine :)
LMS _ I don't have regrets, sure I have things I wish I didn't do but I don't regret them as they have made me the person I am today. I have certainly learnt from some of those things though. For me life is too precious to regret things, that certainly doesn't give me the right to go around doing and saying what ever pops into my head. It does however make me think about things and the concequences my actions may have on my life and on others.
I regret the times I have knowingly or otherwise hurt others with my words or actions.
I regret not sleeping in more before I had kids, I regret no saving more and getting more done around the house while we had 2 full time incomes with no dependants. That's about it.
TBH I have hardly any. I'm so freaking happy it's not funny and it's all the dumb stuff I've done that has got me to this point.
The ones I do have are mainly to do with hurting other people.
My mother found one of my friends after he had taken his life (never been sure why he chose to come to our place to do it) and he was wearing his headphones. From that point on she hated the sight of them. I am ashamed to say that once when we were arguing (because I had done something stupid and she wanted me not to) I stuck my headphones in my ears and turned up my music because I knew it would distress her.
I teased my mother once and made her cry - she was tired and sick that day and I could have just kept my mouth shut instead of laughing at her.
I shared some of my drugs with a friend once. He became a junky.
I have regrets but nothing that affects me today.
I regret the way I broke up with my first serious boyfriend - I embarrassed him and made him worry about me when he was away on holidays and it ruined his holiday. That was really stupid. (but we are almost friends now)
I regret changing schools a few times in high school - I would cause all sorts of drama and then bail before I had to deal with the consequences. I should have toughened up and taken what a deserved.
I regret that I used to enjoy hurting people with my bad attitude when I was a teen and always reassured myself that the reason I was like that was my Dads fault. I guess I regret not taking responsibility and excusing myself.
I'm a very different person now though and I think that I wouldn't be if I hadn't been aware of how much I regretted these things. I took responsibility, attempted to mend a few bridges and I've grown from it.
I don't have any regrets that I dwell on though.
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My marriage. I'd love an optimistic way to look at it, but there are none...
my regrets are more about what i didnt do than what i did.
I regret not taking off to work on a tropical island when i had the chance, i regret being such a stinge with my money that i didnt rent a place out with a friend and have a party house for 6mths i always wanted to and had the opportunity for years but i wanted to save my money instead of wasting it on rent, just things like that. however i dont really do regrets as such, these are just things looking back i should have done. i wouldnt be the me i currently am though i suppose. The only thing i ever did that i regret is take up smoking, cos staying off them is hell.
I can honestly say that I have none, I firmly believe that all the experiences you have in life (good and bad) shape the person you are through your life (not become as I don't think you ever stop evolving....)
I am certain there might be things in hindsight I could and should have done better, but at the time I was influenced by whatever was going on at the time. When I've been a wally I've apologised and learnt from it so it's all part of the journey through life I think :)
Admittedly there was a bad upstyle hair-do I had done when I was attending a Wedding at the tender age of 13, looking back at the photos - it certainly falls into the regrettable category :rofl:
I firmly regret not paying more attention to myself and my mental state a year ago. I'm not sure what exactly I would've done differently, but I'm pretty sure anything would've had a better outcome that our current situation.
I regret not standing up to Professor while we were courting, and not understanding Aspergers and realising where he was coming from. It set the tone for our whole marriage and things happened that I feel guilty about to this day, even 6 years later. I wish I had trusted him more.
Most of all, I regret not being nice to myself, or confident in myself. I've accomplished some things that are amazing to me, even while hating myself. Imagine what I could've done if I'd had the confidence?
There is something I really regret that happened back in 2005. In the scheme of things it was not bad, but to this day I still have not forgiven myself
I regret not telling people that I loved them.
Or love them.
One in particular - but I've said it now... Just waiting for the fallout.
A very wise woman once said to me- it's not what you do that you regret, it's what you don't do.
My plan is to do everything.
Absolutely no regrets here, each choice I've made, albeit wrong or right, has given me the knowledge/lessons I've needed to be exactly where I am today.
Even something that has happened over the last month or so, I could have regretted it, but I don't, how it plays out, is how it is supposed to play out in the scheme of things.
I regret not finishing high school. I regret not listening more and talking less.
I regret that we teased Nell in primary school. What the hell was I thinking?
I regret that I hammered my mum all the time about what a crap job she was doing she was doing as a parent.
I'd love to say I don't have regrets but I do have a few. The choices have made that affected me I can live with and they are lessons. I regret the things I did wrong that hurt other people .
I agree! And I think it's unhealthy to dwell on regrets anyway!!! We must always keep looking forward.....:
I agree with this. I don't dwell on regrets. I used to be like that in my teens and it's exhausting and depressing! But if a memory comes up then sure, there are things I regret.:
I see regret as simply not forgetting everything that happened in the past and I think this is healthy because not building upon your past is not learning.
I think that to have no regrets is to have no conscience. We all hurt people sometimes and only sociopaths don't feel bad about it. There' no point in dwelling on them but by the same token there is no wisdom to be gained by ignoring them.
I agree.:
For the most part i am very happy with how my life has turned out. There are some friendships i wish i never had but without them i wouldn't be who i am now and i wouldn't know what i do now.
But if i died tomorrow my biggest regret would be that i never tracked my father down and told him how much i hate him and wished he wasn't my father.
I regret not traveling more before settling down. Now we will have to wait until the kids are older before doing any big trips again. :)