I'm too ashamed of my house to invite people over.
I live in a tip and I'm too exhausted and demoralised to do anything about it.
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I'm too ashamed of my house to invite people over.
I live in a tip and I'm too exhausted and demoralised to do anything about it.
Having people over is annoying anyway, I much prefer going to meet somewhere then have people over, all that happens is more mess and washing up is left behind:)
Seriousley though, it does suck when your house is out of control. Could you hire someone just to get on top of it for you and then you just keep in maintained after that?
Yep, me. Luckily my friends understand and we meet at their houses lol
CHAOS = Can't have anyone over syndrome.
Yes. Not today but certainly it gets like that on occasion. I think that once your children get older it gets easier to get on top of it but the years after they get mobile and before they start school are the hardest.
Have you ever had a look at Fly Lady? She has a program that involves baby steps to build routines.
Sometimes I just focus on the public areas. If the kitchen and lounge and bathroom aren't too scary I just shut the doors to the other room to keep it all hidden. Of course a child always vanishes into a closed room or my children throw themselves in front of a door and scream "you can't go in there. Mummy hasn't tidied since the dinosaurs were alive" :redface:
:lol: Not ashamed as such, but this house does get more of a clean the night before someone comes over than it does any other time! :redface: I would just about die if someone popped in unannounced on most days.
Oh yes!!!!!! I am completely embarrassed at the state of my house, and front yard :redface: Perhaps we should make friends with each other IRL and only have ourselves over :D
You wanna know what I find really annoying?
I'm going to tell you even if you don't care :p
The my home is so messy game. You know the one where you go over to someone's house and you compliment them on how lovely and tidy it is and they say 'oh no it's such a mess' like they didn't tidy up for you and you pretend not to know that they've tidied up. I've given up playing.
:ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:
Pretty sure I've done this! But in my defense I figure my version of 'clean' might not be someone else's version of clean so I figure if I pretend like I haven't been cleaning and they notice something I've missed, then I've totally fooled them into thinking that this is my 'messy' too.... or something!:lol::redface: Can't believe I even just wrote that in public!
My house is usually tidy (not today, today it looks like we've been burgled) but it hasn't been "clean" for a while and I hate it! I'm seriously considering a cleaner when I go back to work! So yep, I'm ashamed! I know it's bad when my mum asks if I'm ok and offers to come and help lol
Oh, I hate that too. I always clean franticaly before someone is coming over and if they ever say the above I usually respond with, you should have seen it half an hour ago. I did this just for you:):
I hate that game too Onyx. My house really is usually messy and if people spring a visit on me, they see how terrible it really is, so I really hate it when they say their house is a mess and know what my house looks like!
My house is usually a tip. Some times, like today, I have one or two rooms fairly tidy and feel on top of it. But the rest of the rooms are hideous. I just shut the doors to those rooms and pretend they don't exist.
I am getting to a stage where I don't really care, or maybe it's just that I have found friends I don't feel the need to rush around like an idiot cleaning for before they come over. It is too much for me to worry about if the dishes are done and the floors vacuumed before people visit. I would rather have my friends at my house than not. Several of them have said they rather it be messy cause then they don't feel so bad when their kids trash it. Which is true, I know when I go to their houses, I feel more comfortable when it's not sparkling clean so I don't feel terrible when my kids tramp in sand or tip over the train set!
I am naturally a messy person. This is because I am quite lazy by nature. My house is always untidy and all my friends know what to expect when they come over. Since having DS I'm trying to make more of an effort because I'm at home so much but it just doesn't seem to happen. I feel that if I have 1 room tidy to start the day then everything is O.K. At the moment my kitchen and bathroom are classified as 'stable'. Last week they were 'critical'.
I'm with you Amaunet. My house can be tidy but not clean. If I get a job that I am applying for I will definitely be considering a cleaner. I just can't be arsed doing the nooks and cranny's.:
Yes! At the moment I'm trying to paint out the kids bedrooms and the rest of the house and packing up items not needed as we are going to sell the house. The boys try to do their bit and tidy the lounge (well move their toys all to one corner does that count lol)
Also going through my annual chuck out I've thrown out toys and getting rid of things that have been sitting stored away like old cd's, why keep it when it's all stored on other devices these days lol. I have the kids new bedroom furniture awaiting in the garage so trying to get dh to paint the rooms so I set things up (he won't let me help paint!!)
*raises hand*
The thing with this house is you can clean until the cows come home and it still looks messy because we have so much crap!
I'd like to cull but can't be bothered...
My house looks like a tip 99% of the time because I'm just too tired to clean up once DS finally goes to bed! The kitchen is usually the only clean room of my house.
I'm SO glad i am not the only one!
I have the tiniest house and those BBers who have been to my house have seen that my living area is open planned so it can get VERY messy, with toys, clothes, magazines, dvds, shoes.. urgh you name it and you will be sure to find it. I do a massive clean up once a week on one of DPs days off so he can help or atleast look after the kids. Having a dishwasher now means no dishes laying everywhere which is one thing that used to bug me.
There are only 3 people who have seen my house at its worst and thats my mum and two of my closest friends which i know they dont care.
Yep same here. My house looks like a dump. I'm actually taking a week off work to try & do something about it. That gives me 3 days when the kids are at kindy from about 8.30 - 4 ish to:
Clean & declutter entire house
Check FB & BB
Eat, nap, watch a movie
Visit a potential school for DS
Doctors appt for DD
Go to gym
So you can guess which item on the list is most likely not gonna happen :lol: I have set myself two tasks though - the study and my clothes. The rest can wait.
I try to keep on top of it Flylady style but it only takes one or two days of sick kids/ sleepless nights/ just being lazy & you're back to square one. I have more important things to do than spend all my life cleaning.
We do the massive cleanup when visitors are coming thing too. It's the only time the house looks half decent - just don't open bedroom or cupboard doors!
We do have a cleaner :redface: But only once a fortnight.
]It's always a little unnerving to go to someone's pristine (by my definition) house and hear them say "Sorry about the mess"
If your house is really messy, you escort your guest very quickly to the clearest spot and you do not, under any circumstances, draw attention to the mess.
ETA - when we were little, if we saw mum cleaning we'd ask: Who's coming round tonight?
Yes! Most people we know have seen it at its worst tho. My friends know me too well to expect more! If there isn't toys and clothes and papers every where they normally comment!
We have an old house, plus we are fond of clutter. Even if cleaned, it does not look tidy, especially the evil carpet.
I am not a fan of when someone is complimented on a lovely home, they take all the praise and then you find out later that they have a cleaner. Nothing wrong with cleaner (MIL is one), just admit to it, so the rest of us don't feel like crud for our homes ;)
My friends all have pristine homes and I was at my wits end trying to understand why I'm such a failure. Then I found out they all have cleaners and I was fighting windmills.
My house isn't a tip, but it's small and there's stuff without a place to go and it's sort of dark and not very cheery plus I don't have enough chairs so I rarely invite people over. However, last year ds' party was rained out so at the last second we had to have everyone in our tiny living room. I realised that having people over is not the end of the world and it is nice to have friends so I've invited friends around a few times since then.
i think my kids will say the same. i am working on decluttering but it is a work in progress.:
I was out all day yesterday and when I came home, I honestly had a fleeting 'omg the house has been broken into' moment but sadly, that's just how I left it!
We were going away for a weekend. The house wasn't spotless and DH said "We can't leave it like this". I asked 'Why on earth not?" and DH said "What if someone breaks in? What are they going to think?" :o
:rofl:
maybe they'd be moved to clean up, then?
Yep was for a while, bit better now. I make sure the beds are made, breakie dishes cleared before we get in th car to school and then I run back in and give the kids bathroom sink a wipe and check the toilet isn't festering. I can then cope with unexpected visitors
Mine too :( I hate it.
nope, I'm not ashamed at all =) I always have a empty couch space - for someone to sit, a clean cup - for them to have a drink, the loo if not clean, isn't disgusting, and if needs be there are clean sheets and a blanket in the cupboard if they stay. everything else doesn't really matter. besides, with company like me, who cares what the place is like ;)
Yep. And what's worse is I am a Martha Stewart at heart. So when I tell you my house is a mess even if I've tidied it up it not a game. It's the voice in my head saying YOU FILTHY PIG! HOW COULD YOU LET THEM SEE YOUR HOUSE LIKE THIS? YOU THINK THIS IS CLEAN? YOU'LL NEVER GET IT CLEAN BECAUSE YOU'VE LET IT GO TO THIS HELLISH FILTH! Yes the voice is shouty. And its probably my mother. This is my demon. I am a clean person trapped inside someone who has lost all hope of ever achieving what once was. And it kills me every day.
Yes.
And worse, a friend wanted to see me today to give me some awesome baby stuff. But I've been hardcore nesting and the place looks *amazing* for the last time possibly ever, and I made her meet me at a park so her kids wouldn't trash the place.
I'm probably more ashamed of having done that....
Yup! My house is always messy.....I am in the process of throwing things out and organising a garage sale so there isn't so much junk!
Heaven has seen my house a mess she is the only person ever other than my mum to see my house how it was twice!
I too look at others houses and just don't know how they do it :-/
I'm that person that always excuses people for the mess. I did it yesterday.
This is me too. I hate drop ins. If anyone is coming over I will clean like a maniac and still won't be comfortable because there will be hand prints on the wall somewhere, or cobwebs on an outdoor chair. We won't even discuss the state of the garden causing me anxiety.:
Glad you haven't visited me for a while lol:
But Miss u xxx you would tell me it's a bomb anyway
Hehe, I don't care what your house looks like, like I have told you I come to see you not your house...:
If I had people visiting me tho - I rush around like mad trying to clean. That's just me tho :-)
that!:
I know beautiful.
My house will not poison anyone. If the washing up is up-to-date, the toys are tidy (and away, mostly) and paperwork isn't taking over the coffee table, bonus. I even dusted earlier in the week - but that was more to see the TV.
Beyond that - if you want to criticise, you're not my friend. Even my mother doesn't criticise any more, and has stopped doing "jobs" for me - if my house isn't good enough, she should leave rather than passive-agressively criticising my housework skills (which it is, btw, some people are like this, others are not).
Clean tablecloth means you were not only expected, you are also highly valued. And are not bringing children to make it even more of a mess than it was to start with.
I did do a big tidy yesterday ready for Liebling's friend to come for a playdate. But that's because children go all over the house and see everything. They currently have out all the hotwheels track, all the Brio, some Lego has already been put away but the Clicks blocks haven't... and they're taking turns on the DS to drive Lightning McQueen (telling me it's my turn to "play on the computer" - bless!). At least the treasure hunt stuff is tidied up. We will bake this afternoon before we go to the park - and tidy that away too, so I look like I'm on top of housework. And the vacuum can come out again tonight.
My house is a disaster. I have embraced the feral life but I still find myself apologising for some reason I cannot understand lol.
Even if I could vacuum without blowing a fuse, it wouldn't make much difference. I've got a family of 6 packed into a tiny house with barely any storage so it's only natural that there is stuff all over the floor.
Just the other day I had a brain snap and cleaned up in my bedroom and discovered all the stuff on the floor was acting as a draft excluder because there is a gap where floor meets wall that I was unaware of. Stuff was returned to the floor where it shall remain ;)
Thank god I'm not the only one. I tell everyone that my house looks like a bomb has hit it but they don't believe me until they see it and u can see that 'Aah u weren't kidding' look.
I got a cleaner quote thing done recently , their per hr rate is more than what I get paid. Given i want someone that uses natural/non-toxic stuff. But I can't justify it, so now I'm 'depressed' and the house is still a mess. Can't win!