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I've been reading "I didn't know I was pregnant" stories and thought I would ask.
What's the longest you DIDN'T know you were pregnant?
I found out at 3 weeks with all my pregnancies. As soon as that sperm touches my egg I start vomitting, lol.
That's why I find it so strange that you can deliver a fullterm baby without knowing.
One of the members here she found out at 16 weeks!! I know cause I was with her for her scan. We were expecting a peanut of the screen and lol we were certainly surprise.
My friend was 3 weeks off delivery when she found out. She was on lot of medications at the time. She only found as she was booked for a hysterectomy and they couldn't operate as her baby was nearly due. Eek!! She only put on 2 kg and was told we period would stop due to her medications so she was none the wiser
DD1 about 5 weeks AF a week late so tested. (Surprise bubba)
DD2 3 weeks 4days going on holiday and wanted to know before we left so attested
DD3 4 weeks tested day AF was due
I have a regular cycle so missing AF is a big give away!
I don't get it either, when a baby moves in the beginning of the third trimester I don't get how you couldn't feel it!
Love that show, I knew around 4-6wks with mine but have a friend who thought she had appendicitis and ended up delivering her daughter lol.
Regards,
Dianne
My last pregnancy in my 6th week, was on the pill lol. Totally oblivious until my GP insisted it could be a possibility for my horrid reflux and burning in my belly. lol.
6 months. I'm not going to go into the hows and whys here because it was quite traumatic for me, but I can completely understand how some people don't know for the entire time.
I found out at seven weeks with DD.
3.5 weeks for DD and 5 weeks for DS as i kept getting negatives with internet cheapies.
An old friend was 11 weeks with her son and 8 weeks with her daughter.
My SIL didn't know with her first until she went into labour at 38 weeks.
A woman who gave me first aid when i fainted at a bistro a week later found out she was 7 months pregnant, she honestly didnt look it she was quite slim.
a good friend of mines DIL had no idea until she fell off a horse and went to the hospital. they think she was term (due to bubs behaviour) but really have no idea exactly how far along she was.
Mine have always been planned so I've tested and found out just before AF was due.
My Mum didn't know she was pregnant with me til 4 months - and then I was a month early - so she only had 4 months to get her head around it!
I have found out before AF with all my pregnancies. With Moo I couldn't understand how that happened as he gave me such a hard time, he was so active! Then when I was pregnant with Buster I could see how people might find out much later as he gave me no trouble at all!
4 weeks 2 days, and this is my 6th pregnancy :p
With DD I didn't find out until about 3 months in - I'd missed a couple of periods, wondered about it but chalked it up to being stressed (I was being sexually harassed at work and was fighting with management at the time) and thought nothing of it. Went to the Dr after missing the third and she insisted on my taking a pregnancy test "just to rule it out" - nearly fell off the chair and burst into tears when she said it was positive.
I couldn't understand with either of them how people would not know, they were both very active babies and I tend to get horrid morning sickness from about week 11-12 for the rest of the pregnancy. Talk about being backwards hey?
The girls I knew early on before AF was even due but with ds it was 8 weeks as I had no symptoms and felt fine. I didn't actually feel pregnant until 16 weeks when he started kicking. Can't remember why I even tested but I guess because I finally realised AF was late, I was lucky to get into my ob in time as it was over Christmas and he has his first check up at 10 weeks.
I know someone who didn't find out till 14 weeks - she thought she had a hernia and when she had a scan to confirm they found a baby instead. She was a woman who had been married for well over 10 years already by that point and her and her DH didn't want kids so it was a huge surprise for them. My own mum didn't have her last pregnancy confirmed until she was 20wks. She was 38 and she thought she was starting to go through menopause. As for me, I had a suspicion with my first because I just felt so wretched and it was the only thing it could be. We weren't trying either as we'd only just gotten married and we wanted to wait a while. But it would have been about 5 weeks and I had it confirmed at 6 weeks.
To scared to test with my 1st incase it was positive so when I went to the Dr I was 8-9weeks although I expected a week after AF didn't arrive. With no2 I had no idea or suspicion when I accidentally found out at 6weeks and with the rest I was just under 4weeks as I was trying with them so that made the difference. I can understand how people wouldn't know but also think a lot of cases of I don't know aren't genuine. I was a midwife when a young girl delivered at home of a term baby. She had no idea until the baby was half out. The Dr told her when she was 5months pregnant she was not pregnant just fat.
At work recently a 48yr old found out she was pregnant when she was around 20ish weeks. The dr told her he must have ovarian cancer and raced her for an emergency scan but turns out the abnormal growth was a baby lol. Her husband and grown up children raced to be with her when they found out.
I knew at 3 1/2 weeks with mine, but my mum didn't know until she was 5mths with me. I was a placenta previa baby and my mum would still get AF every month (or what she thougth was AF but was more than likely breakthrough bleeding from the placenta position), she went to the Dr because she didn't know why she was feeling so wretched. I was born at 8mths gestation so a very quick 3mth pregnancy for my mum, added to the fact she spent the last 3 weeks before I was born in hospital confined to bed due to possible placental abruption.
My mum was 36 when she had me and my brother was 11 and my sister 8, so I certainly was a surprise baby :)
The lady next to me when I had DD1 was 42 & thought the symptoms were menopause. Her other DD was 21. Noone picked up on it til she was in labour. Some babies are less active than others.
DD3 was my latest, at around 8 weeks. My period was all over the place, from 3 weeks to 8 weeks apart & had been like that since it returned when DS was 9 months old. Being unplanned I didn't pay any attention to any symptoms til I woke up one day & the smell of washing powder made me run for the toilet. M/s kicked it at about 6 weeks with all the others.
DS was my earliest at 3.5 weeks.
My MIL was also about 6 months with her 6th. She really didn't expect it! She was still getting AF til then.
This was like my mum's last. At 47 she thought she had ovarian cancer but the scan revealed she was 17 weeks!:
I hope this question isn't offensive, but those who know someone who didn't find out til they were like 20+ weeks - were they quite big ladies?
After 2 babies I just can't comprehend not realizing...
With my first pg (which ended in miscarriage) I found out at about 11 weeks. I didn't know because DH (at the time only my boyfriend of about 3 months) hadn't told me that the condom burst...silly man! When AF didn't turn up for a second month, and there was no other real reason for me not to have a period, I took a pg test.
With DS1, I was about 7 or 8 weeks. DD was only 7 months old and still breast feeding when I fell pg, and my period was really sporadic, so I just didn't really take into consideration I would get pg yet.
The other three pg's (1 ending in m/c) I was very early, 4-5 weeks.
As for people not knowing until VERY late in pregnancy, how would you not feel a baby moving inside you?? I can't comprehend that, because I always felt like they were trying to claw their way out of me by the time I was about 26 weeks or so!!
It seems incongruous with my experience of pregnancy, but obviously it can happen. It must be incredibly distressing and traumatic, though, to suddenly be having a baby!
With IVF there's no chance of a surprise, so it's not happened to me.
With Ianto, I easily could have gone quite a while not knowing he was there (*shudder* Imagine if I hadn't and what happened still happened...). He was a very slow-moving bub, never kicked me that hard, and I would probably have shrugged the kicks off as gas or something like that.:
I have trouble getting my head around someone making it to term without realising too. I think though that it has been drilled into me since I was bout 8 years old that if you have sex there is *always* a chance you could be pregnant...So if I felt off, not quite right, strange feelings inside me, then period or not, contraception or not, it would always be one of the first things I would consider, at least to simply tick it off the list. I would also expect it to be one of the first questions a care provider would ask me, or any woman, with unexplained symptoms.
I'm not going through menopause - or old enough to assume I am, or having any fertility issues to make me question my ability to conceive either.
My friends DIL was very slim. Bub just wasn't a big baby, and she didn't show, just looked a little bloated. Bub also didn't move much. Some babies aren't big movers, another friend who knew she was pregnant and had a live baby said it was normal for her to go days without feeling her son.:
This same friend (with the DIL) is also a midwife and cared for a women who was in labour and didn't know she was pregnant. She was late 40s, and also thought she was going through menopause, putting on weight, feeling tired, period stopping etc.. even whilst labouring she kept repeating "I'm NOT having a baby". It was very traumatic, but she couldn't have had a better midwife, my friend is amazing and was with her the whole way, she didn't leave that womans side until many hours after her shift. and she felt ok to do it, because the woman had named the baby, so that was acceptance.
the thing that is really crap about it all, is it is required us midwives report it to docs because of the "no antenatal care". But on the flip side, that does ensure they do get the extra support around them. and you would be surprised who comes out of the wood work with old cribs and blankets and food for the mum. A village really did help the woman that day.
I feel the same way as LS, pregnancy was always always always the first thing I was taught to worry bout when feeling off (once I was sexually active, obviously!). For my experiences of pregnancy, it seems unimaginable that someone could not know. I used to be quite cynical about the whole topic actually. BUT, now I see it this way; these women, their bodies obviously handle pregnancy very, very well. Better than most. No huge bloated belly, aches or pains, braxton hicks, prelabour, SPD etc. Just a bit more tired and a bit of weight gain! I'd imagine it would be a huge shock, and while I can hardly comprehend not knowing I was pregnant and going until term, I'm no longer cynical of people who have.
Both our girls were very well planned so I knew as AF was due. Had an inkling and the test proved I was right.
My cousins daughter didn't find out until 20 weeks with her second baby though! It was quite a shock for all involved!
About 3.5 weeks for both with a hpt both planned so I was looking for it ds didn't move much but it was still strong when he did
My mil found out at 3 months with her first she was told she couldn't have kids which obviously was wrong because she had 2 in the end
I didn't have MS (well, not really - and it was triggered by pregnancy vitamin tablets the odd time it happened!), didn't really gain any weight, or even a "that's a baby bump" size bump until just after 8m gone, so if it weren't for missing period and kicking it would be 8m for me (as I had kicks, it would have been... 16-17w, from memory). And if the placenta was near my skin rather than my organs so I didn't see the kicks, and if I didn't want a baby so was tracking my very erratic periods, I'd be noticing at term. OK so Liebling was "late", but he'd be "term" when I noticed, even if he was still inside for another month.
And no, I'm not fat. I was also in pre-pregnancy clothes at 40w. I did look a bit fatter and couldn't fit into size 8s, but had size 12s in the wardrobe that fit beautifully so wore those. But I dare you to tell me size 12 is fat!
For me, 5 weeks with my angel baby.
DD was not a mover so I can see how some people may not feel their baby move or pass it off as something else.
A friend found out at 16 weeks. She had an inkling but all the tests (blood and urine) kept coming back negative.
A friend of mine with PCOS found out at 26weeks. She had been taking hpt and they were all negative. Placenta was anterior too (on front wall) only found out when she did because she went to drs and was sent for scan. She and her DH though they would find a 8-12week bub, 26+ weeks instead!
With mine I have always known before 5-6weeks. But I didn't show or have many movements before 26 weeks so I can understand how others might not know. (size 12-14 here and have been since teens)
No me personally, but someone I knew didn't until she went to the hospital with bad stomach cramps and was in labour. We had all been looking at her thinking she'd gained alittle weight, and there was one moment when I thought her belly looked round like a pregnant person.
I'm not sure she wasn't in a little denial though because of various things going on in her personal life at the time andleading up to it.
I don't think it has anything to do with size.
I get it. I was still wearing my size 10 jeans long past 20w. I have feelings when I'm not pregnant that feel exactly like I remember kicks and tumbles although they obviously are not. All you then need is to skip morning sickness instead of periods.
I was only 4 weeks but completely oblivious - thought I had a horrid hangover that wouldn't go away (and maybe a UTI from peeing alot) from a really really big weekend......aaaaah, memories of the last of my nightclubbing life!
I was nearly 7 weeks with my first. Went home sick from work at lunchtime one day and as I was driving home I suddenly felt better and it dawned on me - two weeks late for AF, my boobs were on fire, I was exhausted and now I was sick but only in the morning...
My DD1 wasn't much of a mover and I had no morning sickness. I remember saying to DH that I could see how people missed a pregnancy. If you had irregular cycles or there was a BC issue (like failed depo), I wouldn't be that surprised that people could miss it, especially up to the third tri and even after if you don't carry big.
8 weeks. It could have easily been longer. I'm not overweight but I've never shown at all until at least 20 weeks and probably not noticeably to others until around 24. I can definitely see how it could happen.
I recon it would be nice to bypass the first trimester and find out in 2nd tri less waiting