dissapointed and need to vent

so i have one week to go till AF is due and i was feeling pretty positive, u know a little nautious, quite tired etc etc so with my confidence in hand i bought a HPT that claims it can show pregnancy one week before your expected period...
i took it to the bathroom with me this morning and took the test.... i stared at that little stick willing the test line to come but no surprises really, it never appeared...
today and yesterday ive been having AF cramping and i just know theres no little bubba inside me....
its so hard to go from pretty certain i am to certain i am not in such a small space of time, i am so depressed right now i just can't stay positive anymore...

Noni - the TTC journey is hard and very emotional. I think it took me a good three months before I stopped being so disappointed that either I'd see a :bfn: or AF would come. If you haven't already, I'd suggest joining one of the TTC threads. The girls in there are amazing and are all going through the same thing. They give wonderful advice and support. Give it time it WILL happen. Each time AF arrives, it's just one month closer to your :bfp:

Keep your chin up! :hug:

Celsie. xoxox

p.s. Those HPT's who claim you can test one week before AF is due... most don't register even a faint :bfp: till at least 12 DPO!!!

hi nonie,

I know how u feel hun, i have the same disappointment every month, it like Celsie said the ttc journey is quite emotional and hard @ times, but there are forums like the TTC forum where u can get alot of support and advice. I have only been joined up since late sept this yr and i have found some lovely ladies who dont mind giving me advice and sometimes puttin my worried brain at ease.

Hope u have a :bfp: soon and i :pray: that u will have a lil bubs real soon. GL!!!

Take care!!!

thanks heaps for ur support guys i really need it atm...
interesting celcie about the HPT thing u have given me a little bit of hope so thanks for that...

I bought mine from Lullaby Conceptions and I got my first faint :bfp: at 9DPO. But, that isn't normal. I guess bubs wanted me to know he/she was there. LOL But that's still way past a week before AF was due. I honestly think they say that just to sell HPT's. :hug:

Celsie. xoxox

mmm i am at estimated 7dpo lol guess i was a little hopefull doing a test

It is disappointing isn't it. How long have you been trying? Just remember also that a couple with no fertility problems still only has a 20% chance of conceiving at each ovulation time. So that is a one in five chance. Which in real terms means it can take up to five months for a couple with no known fertility problems to conceive when trying. It is a hard concept to get used to especially since we all spent our teens thinking if we had sex just once without contraception we were sure to get caught out!! Murphy's Law hey! So don't lose heart yet. Good luck with your efforts.

Couldn't have said it better myself Poppy. The other thing I found out was it can take your body up to six months to stop attacking your partners swimmers! Me and a lot of girls found the 5 - 6 month mark magic! Good luck!!!

Celsie. xoxox

7dpo is still very very early sweetheart - so dont give up on that hope just yet. Usually 10dpo is about the earliest you will get a bfp.

I have always resisted doing any HPT until at least AF is due, simply because I have always found it a little easier to have AF show rather than getting a -ve result on HPT. Of course everyone is different but the problem with HPTs is that they can be wrong and can upset you unnecessarily. I know of a few people who didnt get BFPs on HPTs until even a few weeks after AF was late.

Good luck though and hope you do get your bfp soon.

Hey nonie

7dpo is really early to test...I think Fertililty Friend did a study on over 90 000 charts and only found 10% of women (who were actually pregnant) got a BFP at 10dpo...

It is so hard getting BFN when you so desperately want to see the second line...but hang in there...like someone said to me on a thread the other day...grieve, pick yourself up and try again...

And it's still not over til AF arrives...

Take care!

yeah i am like begging my body lol my af yet but alot of crampy feelings... i try to reassure myself that u can get those when ur pregnant but my positivity is wearing out coz i am generally a pretty negative person lol anyways fingers crossed for all of us waiting ay...

I agree, inplantation can happen anywhere from day 6 to 10 mine didnt until day 10 so put the evil pee stick away pls!!

Shazz.
xx

hmmm am feeling more and more like AF is coming the cramps and the emotions arghh stupid AF

I also agree, 7 DPO is way too early to be taking HPT's and get an accurate result. I had a beta done with my DD at 10 DPO which came back negative and didn't get a positive HPT until 17 DPO.

Also cramping can be a sign of pregnancy as well as impending AF. As they say it's not over until the witch arrives, don't give up hope just yet.
x

Hey nonie,

Mate i am in the same boat, i too went a done i hpt on 6dpo and 8dpo and both times i got neg, and i am still crying and carrying on today, i though with all the fertility drugs and the injection i really though this month was it, as i had never been on fertility drugs before and felt so confident and so sure this was going to be it, i am due for my period this saturday the 11th nov and i truely believe i am going to get them, i have every sign of them coming:angry: but my family are still trying to keep my hopes up as they keep telling me my period isnt here yet and i could of tested to early, but i just have this feeling that i am not pregnant,

so please dont think your alone:hug: i am always here if you even need a chat it looks as though we are at the same stage

just think if we both get our period, then we just have to concentrate on next month and we can vent to each other:p hopefully it wont be long and we will both get:bfp: you never know could be this month, cos neither of our periods are here yet

Noni - it's so tough, isn't it? You really, really want to be pregnant so getting a BFN is so disappointing and disheartening (I went thru it all last cycle). You have every right to feel crappy about it all and good on you for having a vent.
For what it's worth, I felt like AF was coming for weeeeks when I was preggo with Gab. I did a HPT at 13DPO and the line was still relatively faint so I probably would have got a BFN at 7DPO.

Yup! Too early girls! Often you're not really 'pregnant' until about 10dpo, coz implantation can happen that late! The 2ww is the longest thing in the world, but try to stick it out and test later on, closer to when AF is due.

I agree that those early tests are to exploit the eager ttc'ers. If nothing's implanted, there's no hormones to detect, and testing at 6 or 7 dpo is expecting a bit much of the little blasty :)

Good luck girls, I hope the wait isn't too agonising. Fingers crossed for you :)

hey guys thanx for all the support!!!!
mmy2chloe- know how u feel :( stupid AF i have evry sign of it too.... i am due on the 13th the 11th is my bday!!! fingers crossed for :bfp:'s for both of us, keep me up tp date yeah?

Hey,

How are you feeling today?? i am still the same ( every sign of them coming )

A big Happy birthday to you for the 11th your the same day as jemel ( i think ) so happy birthday to you both, just think what a great birthday prezzie for you if you get a positive My fingers and everything else i could possible cross are crossed :p

you will have to let me know how you go, come on :bfp:

*Noni*e*

Happy Birthday for Saturday, my birthday is that day too. I am on the 2ww also, and i feel like AF is coming, but you know what, she isnt here, so until she is, we need to be positive. I have heard so many women say they were positive af was coming and now they are pregnant or have a toddler or baby. So that has kept me going. Keep me updated on how you go. When is your BT? Mine is November 15th. I have no idea when AF is "really" due, im normally a 28day person, so if i go by that, it would be due around Sunday just gone. But with the drugs etc, i dont know when they will come. Lets hope they dont. :hug:

mummy2chloe- yep still feeling like they are coming :( ... i just dnt think i planned it well enough... i knew nothing about when i was fertile or anything like that untill i wasnt fertile lol damn it so it looks like we only bd'd once at the right time so i am not feeling too positive but i guess there is still hope...

jemel - hmmmm AF is due on the 13th havn't scheduled a bt yet gonna wait n c... a big happy bday to u for sat!!! fingers crossed!!!

*noni*e* Hi there, i think im definitely out of the running now. Bright red blood thismorning, and some clotting type stuff later on today. I did a HPT again, and it came up negative. AF normally starts like this, not the clot part, just the bright red, then nothing for the rest of the day, then she kicks in the next day.

sorry to hear that Jem... :hugs: to you matey...

Hey mate

hows things?? you say you think you only bd'd once around the right time, mate all it takes is one swimmer so hang in there sweetie ( easier said then done i know )

Well at least you know a little more now about your fertile days so just think if you dont get :bfp: this month, next month you will have alot more chances of bd at the right times.

Everything is still the same with me, but i am feeling a whole lot more sicker in the last 2 days, plus i was really light headed yesterday and my boob's are really sore and swollen, i have been wearing a bra for the last 24hrs as just having no support plus feeling the material on my shirts kill, my nipples are like purple so i am worried cos if i dont get BFP its going to be a killer of a Period

Its so hard not to read into any of the symptoms as i do feel sick and get sore boob's every month when AF is due but never this bad, but i refuse to get my hopes up i would rather be suprised then disappointed

Anyway sweetie, keep in touch as i am thinkin about ya

hmmm that sounds pretty positive though mummy2chloe things arent looking good for me my temp is dropping and af feels like she is well and truely on the way :(

Hey Mate,

Hows things?? sorry i havent been on for a few days as you can tell by my ticker i got AF today, was alittle upset but i knew she was coming i had done most of my crying and being angry last week but it was still hard to see them turn up today, we wont be going back for another round of clomid/pregnyl till jan/feb next year

Hopefully things are good with you, keep me up to date yeah??

hey there i was due for af this morning it now almost seven pm and not here yet but we will see ay...
bbs are much bigger today n i am heaps tired but the cramps are still there n i feel like they are coming but my fingers are crossed...

Oh Noni that is a good sign.. Have you tested???

i tested on the 11th n it said neg but af wasnt due till 13th so yeah havn't tested again coz i was kinda POAS happy there in the 2ww and i did it 4 times!!!! no joke haha stupid i know... but now i am kinda scared to do it coz of how the neg result makes u feel... i have no money to buy a test anyway so have to wait till pay day which is fri by whoch time if it hasn't come yet i will be one week overdue and i will do a test... i am so nervous... it feels like it is coming and i am checking the toilet paper every toilet trip TMI i know sorry but its true lol oh well fingers crossed...

yeah sounds like a good idea..... :crossfingers: for a :bfp: very soon... Next Sat would be GREAT!!

good luck honey, anything and everything is crossed for you sweetie, ohhhhh i am so excited for you:p