Whats making you crazy...

People keep saying that I look so small for my dates, its driving me crazy. :mad:
I keep telling them that the sonographer said my baby is of perfect length at the 19week scan and I should feel lucky that being smaller for longer means not too long of being uncomfortabley big.
Still they say "Oh but I was heaps bigger than you at that stage" and I start getting paranoid. :angry:
She certainly feels like she is getting bigger and stronger judging by the harder kicks and different areas she now kicks in...hmm.
Anyway, what are people saying to annoy you at the moment?

dont worry Jade i was constantly told throught my pregnancy that i was small, and yes got very sick of it!!!!! even in labour was told baby was small, told when she was being weighed wouldnt be over 7lb, well she was 7lb 5oz!! so not small at all. i was just very compact only out on 11 kg which was all baby, lost 8kg inthe first week. im not a big person, so i wouldnt worry, my doctor was never worried even though i always measured behind for my weeks, just remember everyone is different.

I am only a small build and I have always had people say" you are only small aren't you, I was heaps bigger than that". This time I am getting a combination of " wow, you look pretty big for 22 wks and "gee your only tiny aren't you".
It used to annoy me now I just laugh and say"DO YOU THINK SO".
The one thing people say which is driving me crazy at the moment is" You must be trying for a girl after all those boys and my response is 'NO, I am trying for a healthy baby and that usually keeps them quiet.

Take care
Michelle

I hear ya! I was constantly told that i was small in my last preg - even by one Dr. I only put on 5 kilo's as well...i guess some of us just have a frame that holds bub more compact. It was nice to be so small but extremely frustrating that everybody had something to say about it.
What's making me crazy this preg is certain people saying "Lucky Ella's a good baby otherwise you wouldn't know what to do when the next one comes along", "Let's hope the next baby is as good as Ella", "You don't realise how much time you have on your hands until you have two"..... Oh the list goes on! GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRR :angry:

JadeTara
I have the opposite problem. People can't believe I've still got 3 months to go - they think I must be 8 or 9 months along.

I think you should just respond "Yes, I'm very lucky, I'm carrying really well."

Thanx girls, feel a bit more calm about the situation today lol must be those hormones.
Its funny what people say to you, its like they just don't think about how it sounds.
:) :)

Hey Jade.. man i get the same thing. wow you dont even look pregnant... i just smile and grit my teeth and say well i am and its the best thing carrying smaller cause im not uncomfortable or yeh i know its great and just walk away Ahh. some people should just not say anything at all really. I have now really popped out and i am 25 weeks so they are starting to notice more but still really small for my weeks, Dr says everything is just fine, thats all you got to worry about.

I've had the complete opposite. I've been told that I'm having twins. And if it's not that it's "Are you pregnant? Oh thank God because I thought you were just getting fat!" I tell you, some of my clients have got no tact!!!!!!! And then there are all of my friends who can't get over the size of my belly and how big it has gotten!!!!! So which is it? Am I morbidly obese or having twins? I give up!

LOL i was told just yesterday that i look like im carrying twins! I laughed and said i feel like im carrying twins do you wanna carry one for me???? Funnily enough i had no takers on the carrying for me. I wonder why.. As long as i have a H&H baby in 13 weeks time i dont care how big i get! Bring it on! Hehehehe

I am sick of being told I'm small! Why did people not tell me my waist was small pre-pregnancy; that, at least, is nice to hear!

However, I can tell them that yes, my bump is medically small, but my baby is slightly larger than average so I'm the lucky one. Normal clothes AND a strong, healthy baby. They were twice my size at this stage? Poor them. I'm the best. (Yup, really, really annoying me, especially when people ask me why I'm leaving at Christmas.)

Last night I got narked enough to lift my top to reveal my belly, point out that there were four inches of space at the top (yup, if I touch it I can push the skin back to the bottom of my ribs) and add that I had the same amount of intestines as the 4'11 girl stood next to me so it stood to reason that the baby can burrow inwards too. All with a friendly smile!

I assume there are three reasons people comment: they're paying me a compliment, they're being rude, or if they stop talking their brains start working (gotta love Douglas Adams!). As general people out and about haven't noticed the pregnancy, only people I know comment, so I can take it that they're paying me a compliment.

I was getting 'oh, you can't tell' - thanks, i think, but i can tell because my pants don't fit! The one that is really bothering me at the moment is 'was it planned?' or 'were you trying'. Does it matter?! All that matters is the baby is wanted. I find that question so rude - i have a number of work collegues that have asked me this (not even well known collegues). I've had to start wearing a maternity shirt at work which is the most disgusting thing you have ever seen - i feel like a fat, frumpy thing. Today i got 'that's not very flattering is it' - thank you so much, now i feel much better - people don't think before they speak i think!

I know, the whole "were you trying?" thing is a bit weird. I would honestly never think of asking about that unless someone volunteered the info. What do they think you're going to say? "No, it was a complete accident and I only just found out that you get pregnant if you have sex?" Honestly...

I WISH I had the problem of being told I look small... Most conversations go like this.. So how pregnant are you, 26 weeks! Wow is it twins? OR Wow your HUUUUGE, when are due, end of Feb oh you poor thing you are going to be huge through the heat of summer..

Honestly I feel like saying to people, hey do you want to give me a positive instead of pointing out negatives and you're very common because everyone is saying the same thing. I even said to DH the other day I am so sick of being told I am HUGE. He said well you are pregnant darling.... waaaaah :crying: even he doesn't understand!

Oh and everyone ay work is now telling m I have the waddle or think they are being funny by doing an exagerated waddle when they see me coming. Give me strength please.

Right that's my whinge for the day :)

I hate the accident/trying one... luckily, very few people asked it, and only very early on, I think maybe because I didn't know for 8 weeks due to erratic cycles, which they didn't know about. However, I'm still not talking to my mother's sister for even thinking to ask it, and then not congratulating me. Rude c0w! Most girls at work knew I wanted a baby so didn't even think they needed to ask.

I hate the "you can't tell" because YES YOU CAN... I'm FAT! Nice people told me I had a bump at 12w, at 14w I wore the same dress and people didn't know... they thought I looked like that normally? (See the 12w pic on the website.) Excuse me, some of us have flat stomachs pre-pregnancy and don't like you thinking this big lump is normal!

LOL Sasha, i'll have to use that one next time - that will give them something else to think about!

The things people are telling me that I find annoying are:

-"You dont look big enough for 25 weeks"/"You are too small for 25weeks"... And these are comments coming from people who havent been pregnant, and would probably have absolutely no idea on the subject too. Thanks guys, is that your medically trainined opinion you are giving me? I know my baby size/belly size is fine as that is what the sonographers, doctors and midwives have all told me from the ultrasound mesurements and my fundal height.

-"How will you cope over summer" Erm well millions of women have done it before me, why do you question my ability to "cope" throughout the hotter months?

- Someone at work also keeps telling me; "i knew you were pregnant before you told everyone. I could see how you were really sick" Thanks for never bothering to ask if I was ok!! If you knew i was so sick, you could have offered some help!

I havent been asked if our baby was planned or not. Only the midwife asked that because it was one of the questions on the form they had to fill out about me.

I'm sick of thoughtless people saying "you have a huge rash on your face, is that from the baby?"

Well no, its called acne, and its due to hormone levels. DUH!

Even my mum said that...

i have had heaps of people ask me if it was planned, it is only number 3 baby, and i didnt think i was so old that people would assume i had finished my family! i think it is really rude and personal, but unfortunately i am not good at lying so my reply is usually ' we were thinking about it , then it happened' . they can think what they want.
before i got pregnant they were all asking if i was going to have more kids or not, again work colleagues, not close friends even. i would never think to ask people i hardly know such huge questions.
belinda

Hi girls!

It's great to hear other people are so-called 'small' in their pregnancy.

I'm almost 20 weeks and have to tell people I'm pregnant. I actually had someone squint at my belly when I told him and he said 'oh yeah - I can see a little bump'. Everyone comments that I'm small, yet my scans all point to a happy, normal sized baby!

My husband and I went to the beach two weeks ago and NO JOKE I was the skinnest girl there! Teenagers have bigger bellies than me and I'm the one with a human being inside of mine!!

I guess the nice thing is my family noticed I was pregnant at 9 weeks as they all knew my body type.

But then again I guess everyone's different and I should be thankful I haven't ballooned. When I think about it I'd rather people say I'm small than to say 'wow you've certainly gained alot of weight during your pregnancy' or 'gee your tummy's huge!! What are you having? A wrestler?'!

As long as he/she is healthy, that's all I'm worried about now!!

But yes, people can be rude when they think they're just giving their opinion. I just have to remind myself of the joy we'll be experiencing shortly, and the fact thousands of women [who can't get pregnant] would give anything to receive these sorts of comments .

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!

Just think next Christmas... the fun really begins!!!!

xxxxxxxxxx

LMAO, Angela - I know a lot of the people where I used to live are what you'd call big girls, but only seeing 3 girls skinnier than me whilst shopping at 7m pregnant had me almost dancing in the streets!

It took me until I was about six and a half months gone for people not to express dismay when they heard I was leaving work and ask why... at least now there's no hiding it. Well, or so I thought... at 33w I still had someone not realise I was pg because "well, you are sat down".

My current favourite is "well, it's all bump isn't it! You've not put on weight elsewhere" - where did they think I was going to get a bump? Do you get pregnant knees? Pregnant armpits? Oh, or "It's a boy. My daughter was pregnant a little while ago; I went to see her and she was washing up, one look at her backside and I knew it was a girl because it was huge." I am so glad that woman didn't guess girl for me!

Ryn - I am so glad she didnt guess a girl for you either, I mean, how rude!!
I know for a fact that I am having a boy, and yes, pregnancy has not been kind to my butt at all lol, so i dont know how she can generalise like that just because her daughters backside got bigger.
I am absolutely HUGE for 30.5 weeks,,yet have been insulted twice in the last week by 2 women who hadnt seen me in ages,,,and whilst we were talking, they wanted to know how my family was going. When I answered that my boys were getting really excited now about the baby,,,,,they were shocked, jaws dropped, and they both gave a "you are pregnant??" I mean,,,gee, did I really look like the michelan man this badly before getting pregnant??
On the flip side,,,,I have had some friends comment on how big and out front I am carrying,,,,so I just smile and tell them that it is not a baby,,, but a hippo in a tutu hehe.
I am so with you on it all MG,,,,cant win nomatter what ppl say,,,, I am either fat, or huge.

I just love how everyone has to have an opinion....and voice it LOL! I don't mind friends and family, but EVERYONE you meet has to comment!

For the most part people are commenting on how big my bump is......that's fine, I know they just like to be a part of it all, and it makes me happy to look pg. Then a girl I sort of know said to me that I haven't popped out at all.........my retort was "do you think I look like this all the time? I really hope not!" I woudn't mind if my tummy hadn't grown at all, but I mean come on, I really don't look how I did four months ago!

And then I went shopping last week and had a whole lot of people ask me when I was due. When I replied they would just stare at my stomach and say "that's a long way away". Hello?!!!!!

Wow some people can be so rude!! I wonder if they realise they're hurting our feelings? I'm not looking forward to the comments after the birth. Most of my friends are very petite and bounced back to pre-baby shape in just over a month. I'm sure I'll be getting the 'wow you're really holding onto that weight' sort of comments.

I heard Mariska Hargitay (Dt Benson from Law & Order SUV) was asked when her baby was due, and she answer '6 weeks ago'. Now that is what I call insulting!!

I think the next person who tells me I look tiny... I'll turn around and ask them when they're due!! Quick to judge - be prepared to be judged!

At the moment I am getting very frustrated when people look at my belly and say "its a boy... your belly looks pointy" or "its a girl, because the front of your belly is flat" "its a girl because your carying high" "you had bad m/s so it must be a boy" and so on...
Its so silly, because my belly shape constantly changes depending on baby's position!

I just dont get it how people think the belly shape or how bad your m/s was determines baby's sex. By the way - we chose not to find out our baby's sex when we had our scan, so maybe thats why I find it so annoying!

My list of gripes changes each week! Overall I'm quite chuffed at the whole pregnancy thing but it's mostly other people's attitudes that tick me off.

I guess it's because the little guy is sitting high up right now but for the last 2 days, my whinge is that I feel stuffed full all the time, almost like I've gone nutz at a buffet and am now suffering for it. I have to make myself eat something because I know I need to keep the food going in no mater how full I feel! -not a nice sensation!!

Another is I had a falling out with a friend a few weeks ago and one of the things that was one of the many small nails in the coffin of our friendship was his insistance on refering to my growing baby as 'the bag of meat' and how if I were to miscarry it wouldn't be that bad because it wasn't a real person yet....I suggested very strongly that this is not a view he should ever share again with any expecting parents nor women who had lost a baby....he didn't get it...I fumed.


Another is that because I'm having a really charmed pregnancy with no morning sickness, rather lovely skin, no 'bad' weight gain, etc. My DF keeps thinking and reminding me that I am as capable as ever of doing everything I used to and that he expects that I won't let the domestic stuff slide because of some lame excuse that I'm tired or some other crud like that....grrrrr

OH, I have to add. On NYE, we were at dinner at close friends' house and an aquaintence who we generally avoid due to his inability to stop making lewd comments to/about me was there. The hosts had the bright idea to seat him dirrectly opposite me. I felt quite uncomfortable having him leering at me like I was a stripper and no amount of 'evil-eye' when I managed to break his stare seemed to get the picture across. He got more and more drunk over the course of the evening and in front of his AA- cup wife made a number of loud and inappropriate comments including 2 toasts to/about my G-cup boobs. Yes, my boobs are bigger...thankyou, I had noticed!!!!!