Today we welcomed our son into our home

Strange title I know but today we have finally put the urn of our precious son ~Thomas Nicol~ on display in our home.

Before now I wasn't ready & it has taken me 8mths & 2weeks since we welcomed him into our lives & said goodbye to him to be fully comfortable to have his urn displayed in a place where I can see it all the time.

I'm sure some will be uncomfortable with it on display once they realise what it is but that is their problem not mine. I love & miss my little man every day & oh how I wish things had of turned out differently.

Kirsty, Thomas is right where he is meant to be. *hugs* to you on what is a very special day.

Kirsty, huge hugs to you sweety. But also a huge YAY for this huge milestone and you being ready for ~Thomas~ to be displayed.

I'm sure that no one will feel off put and if they are then tough luck to them.

A big :hug: to you on this special day.

*Hugs* Kirsty. What a monumentus day. :hug:

That is an amazing thing to have acomplished. I am with the other girls, if people are uncomfortable with seeing your little boy, then they have the ability to leave. Your little boy is exactly where he should be. :hug:

Huge hugs Kristy on reaching this special day and time.
You are one wonderful woman and mummy and I am sure ~Thomas~ knows this (((hugs)))

Kirsty I hope this is a really special day for you all.

Sounds like a perfectly reasonable thing for you to have done, and how wonderful to feel comfortable and at peace with doing it.
Well done to you :D

Hi Kirsty,

Congratulations on finally being able to do this. I am so proud of you and you are right, Thomas is such a big part of your life, just as big as both his big brothers James and Alex. If anyone that is in your home has a problem with you honouring your sons life then they dont really love you and your family and shouldnt be in your home anyway.

Love Sarah xx

Welcome home Thomas... :hugs:

I can only imagine how difficult yet wonderful it must feel to have Thomas so near.
I am sending you all my love you beautiful strong woman... :hug:

it has all been said as well as i could have - welcome home ~Thomas~ :hug: to you Kirsty.
We have Charlotte's ashes at home too.

Hugs Kirsty. Welcome home to your little angel.

Kirsty,

Good to hear that you have your little guy with you now.
Thinking of you and sending you hugs of condolence, pride, sadness and empathy.
Little Thomas will be with you forever, in your heart and in your home.

That's great you now have Thomas' urn displayed in your home, he is part of your family and I think people will be fine with it - and if not, well it's his home so...

Caitlyn is on our sideboard in a beautiful urn and I wouldn't have it any other way. If people are uncomfortable, that is their problem. Our baby, our home.

I am so proud of you for reaching the point of welcoming your special little angel man into your visible home :hug:

One of the kinda mums lost her son late in her pregnancy and has a hand drawn portrait of him with the bronze castings. It's beautiful.

Can I ask a question, and please remove it if I am out of line at all and I'm sorry if I am - was it a hard decision to cremate your babies rather than bury them ?

Kirsty~ I am so glad to see this post from you, and it couldn't be titled any better! Your angel is now where he belongs. Sending you LOADS of cyber hugs.
P.S. Please look up and give Thomas a wink from me.

Such a huge step you have taken....I can only imagine how difficult this would have been.

Take Care. X

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Can I ask a question, and please remove it if I am out of line at all and I'm sorry if I am - was it a hard decision to cremate your babies rather than bury them ?

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I guess for us it was deciding that we weren't ready to let Caitlyn go and to bury her means that we had to leave her somewhere. DH's family offered us use of one of the family plots but we didn't want to have her in one place when we lived in another. Having her cremated means she will be with us always - physically and spiritually. We don't plan living here forever and I would hate for my baby to be somewhere I'm not. A headstone wasn't the same. Plus she was a baby ... she couldn't be left there alone.

Also, it has been healing for me in the past year to be able to hold her when I need to, have her sit on my lap when I am feeling sad, and to take to our room and sit on my side table when I need her presence close. It may sound mad but if I couldn't have my baby, then this was the next best option.

Kirsty, You should be proud of yourself and the step you have taken. It has been such a hard road and Thomas is finally at home where you can look after him and where he can look after you guys too.

:hugs: to you, my friend.

Kirsty, Congratulations on bringing your son ~Thomas~ home where he belongs with his family!!!!

Well done kirsty.. this is a huge step & an important step... as you said it is their problem if ppl have a problem with it... i am sure ppl will soon

When I ws in NICU with Alexa, a mum their had twins at 25 weeks & lost 1 after 9 days... she had his ashes in a box & carried him everywhere with her in a baby bag, with his teddy & picture... at first when I realised (she told me) I was honestly surprised & shocked, but it didnt take long for me to become comfortable with him being with us & even "looked after" him when his mum went into the unit to see his bother....

To some it may be wierd (it was to me at first), but I soon realised as will others, that it is a wonderful thing that this special little person is around in their own way & will never be forgotten!!!


Big hugs to you chicky....

mitch

Kirsty, i cant imaging losing 2 bubs like you have. I think if people are offended by your wishes then they arent worth haveing around. He is part of the family and if you wish to have him in the house as he should be then thats your decision not theirs.

I hope this never ever happens to you again and that one day you are blessed with a bub to hold and nurture for life. So sorry for your losses.:hugs: my heart truly goes out to you.

Well done Kirsty. What a beautiful and wonderful step you have taken bringing Thomas home.:hug:

Kirsty,
Your man Thomas is with his family, its such a beautiful thing to do.
Bec

Kirsty,

You are a strong woman and wonderful loving mother. Little Thomas is now safe in your home as well as your heart. Just the place he's meant to be.

My heart goes out to you.

*hugs*
Cailin

Thanx so much for all your support. ~Thomas~ has always been home but always displayed as a brown cardboard box (LOL) it is just now that I have had the strength to be able to look at his urn & not burst into tears every time I see it.

Someone asked about whether the decision to cremate our little man was easy or hard, for us it was easy. Burial never even entered the equation for my DH & I, I couldn't bear to put him in the ground & walk away, let alone go through the process of an actual funeral to walk away without him. However it still wasn't a decision made easily, & of course we wish like mad that it was a decision that we should never have had to contemplate.

Well done, Kirsty. Personally I think it's sweet... and nuts to anyone that thinks otherwise!
Thomas is a very much loved part of your family so it's only fitting that he have pride of place in the home :)