Just wasn't meant to be...

I know I haven't been around the boards lately, it is mainly because I have been so unsure about this pregnancy.

I have had spotting since about 6 weeks. An u/s should a gest sac measuring just over 5 weeks but too soon to detect a h/beat. I had a follow up u/s today to check the progress because I was still spotting only to be told I have a blighted ovum. No bubs, just a sac.

I feel very empty emotionally, poor DH just doesn't know what to say or do. I have an appointment with my Dr tmw to discuss what to do next.

Is a D&C necessary for a blighted ovum? I have be spotting heavier since having the u/s today.

Thank you all in advance for your support.

Oh Nikki sweetie I am so very sorry to hear of your pregnancy outcome> I don't know anything about blighted ovums & their treatment but hopefully someone may be able to give you an answer. I am sending huge hugs your way & am thinking of you at this difficult time.
Good luck at the Dr's tomorrow.

Hi Nikki,

Just wanted to send you a hug and some warm wishes. I'm so sorry it hasn't worked out for you.



:hugs:

Curious

Nicki -hugs to you - i am so sorry to hear that...Thinking of you and yours at this time

Found this on a google search

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Should I have a D&C or wait for a natural miscarriage?
This is only a decision you can make for yourself. Most doctors do not recommend a D&C for an early pregnancy loss. It is believed that a woman’s body is capable of passing tissue on its own and there’s no need for an invasive surgical procedure with a risk of complications. A D&C would however be beneficial if you were planning on having a pathologist examine the tissues to determine a reason for the miscarriage. Some women feel a D&C procedure helps with closure, mentally and physically.

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Hope this helps...Again my thoughts are with you...

Dear Nikki
I am so sorry that you had to go through this again. Sending big cyber hugs and thinking of you during this difficult time. I wish you much future happiness. I can't answer question about d & c sorry.

Nikki
I am so sorry that this pregnancy hasn't worked out for you, I know how much it meant to you.
Sorry I can't answer ant of your questions, just wanted to send you loads of cyber hugs and to let you know that we are here for you whenever you need to vent.
Sarah

Nikki - sorry to hear that it hasn't worked out. Look after yourself.

Nikki sorry about your loss. MY M/C was a suspected blighted ovum, noone ever told me 100% and I guess it didn't matter at the time. I did have a D&C, but I don't think that you have to. The main reason I had one was I waited a week and still nothing happened, apart from cramping and a small amount of spotting. Emotionally I just couldn't cope and had the D&C. Take care.

Nikki Im so sorry. My heart goes out to you and I hope you feel stronger soon. All the best for the future, and lots of love xoxoxo

Awwww Nikki, so sorry.

Oh Nikki - :hug: :hug: :hug: - I am so, so sorry to hear about your scan result. I really don't know what else to say. I cannot believe it has happened to you again.

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Take care and I hope you get some answers soon.

All my love,
Gabby

Awww Nikki, sweetheart I am so sorry. My heart goes out ot you, DH and Jayden. I am in tears right now. Please take it easy matey. If you ever want to talk, rant etc... you can pm me or just email me.

Re your question, I can't help you there. Myabe ask your doctor. He/she should be able to tell you whats best to do.

HUGE :hug: :hug: :hug: to you.

Loadsa Love

Nikki

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

Best wishes

Nikki, sorry to hear of your loss. Look after yourself.

Dear Nikki,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to you sweetie... please take lots of care... :hug:

Nikki, sorry to hear of your loss.

My thoughts are with you.

Take care Leah

BIG :hug: Nikki... my thoughts are with you abd your family at this time...

Please let us know how you went at the Doc's.

Love Mel

Nikki, huge hugs to you and your DH. I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss.

Thinking of you.

Angel.

Nikki, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. It just isn't fair that you have to face this again.

Hopefully you have some answers from your doctor by now. Let us know how you are doing when you are able - I will be thinking of you.

Take care. :hug:

Love Bec

Nikki, My heart goes out to you. I am fighting back tears, although I do not really know how you feel. It must feel like your heart has been torn out.

Just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and hope you got some answers from the Drs. Are they going to look into it/do some tests?

What can I say :hug:

OMG Nikki,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You poor thig. Big hugs to you.

Nikki matey, thinking of you guys at this time. So sorry. We are here for you whenever you need us.

Nikki,
So sorry to read about your loss. I hope your dr can straighten things out for you.
Fi

Nikki, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
My thoughts are with you and your family.

Thank you all SO MUCH for your kind words.

I never actually shed a tear until I start reading these replies & I become a blabbering mess. As we never told anyone except for my mum it has been hard to express my pain.

My Dr has been a real sweetheart, he said no woman should have to go thru 3 m/cs before they do any tests, so he has referred me on to have some tests done now.

Re: D&C, he said the decision was mine but if my body has not expelled the tissue in the next 2 weeks then some medical intervention may be needed. I have decided to wait out the 2 weeks & see what happens. We are not in any rush to start TTC again.

Spending BIG CYBER KISSES for all your thoughts & support

Glad to hear that your Dr is looking out for you & doing some tests. Hope you get some answers. Also hope that things work out well for you with the natural waiting & that there is no need for medical intervention.

Hope we can help in any way that you need us, we will support you no matter what.

Take care of yourself & sending loads of hugs your way.

Nikki, I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. A loss is never easy, as too many of us know, but I know how much this one meant to you.
If you need to talk, I am always around, but I'm sure you know that we are all here for you.
I think particularly with a blighted ovum other members of the family don't know quiet how to react, as in there eyes, there was "no baby". (At least that was my experience, sorry if I'm assuming wrong.) I believe however, that there was a baby, at the point of conception a new life begins and the loss is as real as any other. The dissapointment and grief is just as real as in a "normal" miscarriage, as you know. You sound as though you are being very strong, but I hope you have some support over the next few weeks.
Your doc seems to have answered your question, but I'll let you know my experience. Like you I started spotting early on. I had several scans between 5-8 weeks, all of which showed an empty sac. I was determined to avoid a D&C (as I was scared) but the bleeding got quite heavy and a further scan showed the sac was still growing. My body was hanging on to that pregnancy in spite of itself. So my doc strongly recommended a D&C at 9 weeks. I wasn't happy about it but by then I just wanted it all to be over as I was getting so stressed out.
The procedure itself was not a problem, I don't know why I resisted so much, no pain and hardly any bleeding. I guess you will make your own decision in the next week or two anyway. If you have any questions, please ask. 8-[

Lots of love to you Nikki,
Love
Layla

Nikki - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. If only I could give you a big hug! I'm glad you doctor is being so good about it all though and helping you to get some answers! Good luck over the next few weeks and remember that we are all here for you!

Hi Nikki,

I just did a user search to find you, i wondered where you were and was hoping you'd moved onto the Pregnant Boards.

I'm so sorry Nikki. So sorry. I have been away for a long while, i hoped you were pregnant, i didn't for a moment think you'd have to suffer this again.

I suffered a blighted ovum in June 2002. I didn't have a D&C, i passed the "products of conception" myself, the day i lost my pregnancy was the day i found out i was pregnant. The choice is yours, if you can't stand to wait, have it done, if you don't want to be messed about with, leave it be for a while.

I want to re-iterate what some others have said. There WAS a baby. YOu have lost a child. At the point when the sperm hit the egg, you had a little baby in there, it didn't get together enough to grow, but it was still a life. Without the spark of life there can be no sac, no ovum.

It's good that your doctor is sending you for tests. I really hope that what they'll find is that you have just been unlucky and that very soon you will be expecting a healthy baby.

Take care.

Love and a huge :hugs:

Hana

I'm so sorry nikki. :hug: to you.

Nikki, honey I'm so sorry for your loss.

I rally don't know what to say to you as no words will comfort you and your DH.
Give yourself some time to heal emotionally and physically, my heart goes out to you darlin'. Im sending you massive :hug: and kisses.xx

Nikki,

I am just so sorry to hear your sad news. My heart goes out to you. I am sending you a huge :hug: . You need to look after yourself and do what is right for you.

I had a D & C after my m/c and i didn;t really have time to get my head around the emotional impact it would have. The ob said "you are miscarrying - you must have this op NOW" (i am never going back to him cos i feel he really pushed me into it. He was also an insensitive pig on my follow-up visit so i will never be going back to him again!). So i was pregnant one minute and literally not the next minute. The shock was unbelievable.

If you choose to have a D & C, i am glad you have had time to consider the idea. Once you deal with the emotional side of it, it really may be a good thing.

All my love to you (even though i am a newbie and you don't really know me - i am still feeling your pain).
Lots of love,
Shazz xo.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Nikki. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

:hug: big hugs to you and DH Nikki.

Nikki,

Just dropping in to see how you are.

Thinking of you, and I hope that you were able to get some answers!

Love
Gabby O:)

Nikki - I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you and DH, look after yourselves.

Take Care

Deeanne

I too had a blighted ovum, but didn't realise unitl I started to mc at 11wks, the sac was about 8wk size. If I had my time again, knowing what I know now I would have had the D&C. My Dr didn't give me the option, instead I bled from the 19th Dec to the 26th of Dec (xmas day I was absolutely exhausted), and on Boxing day I haemorraged, had 2 calls for an ambulance denied as they had no cars and in their eyes I wasn't high priority. My DH drove me 35 mins to the hospital, where I continued to bleed, the skeleton staff of Drs didn't even have a light so the Dr was looking for a torch so she could look for product. I lost so much blood that after they did the D&C at 2am on the 27th Dec mind you (they were really worried to get the theatre going at that time) I spent over an hr in recovery cos they couldn't get my temp up. I prob needed a blood transfusion, but no one was around to do it so it didn't happen. It was a nightmare and one that I would never like to live through again.

I hope everything turned out well for you and that you are on your way to getting ome answers for your recent mc's. AND a blighted ovum is still a mc and don't make the mistake of saying "tThere was no baby!" cos that's not true and it hurts just as much!

Cheers Michelle

Nikki I am sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you are surrounded by understanding and loving people. I hope you get some answers from your doc.