Oh your babys big...crap on!

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Im baffled why Obs have to all say, and they have with all 3 pregnancys. 'Oh you have a big baby'. Are they trying to scare us or what?
I went through a proper Ob with DD and he said all through, gee your measuring ahead of your weeks, so naturally im started to think oh god im going to have to have a caesar to get this kid out. Admittedly she was a 9 pound bub but still that wasnt to bad.

With DS i went through the Midwives but because my blood is a bit odd i had to see the Ob there, he used to say wow its a big bub. Even though the monthly U/S never indicated that at all. I was a bit apprehensive because they say your kids get bigger in size. But he was only a 7 pound bub. Cant complain about that.

Now with this pregnancy, im seeing the same Ob through midwives for the same reason and he said yesterday, 'oh i wouldnt put you at 16wks id put you at 18' god get over yourself. I had a full bladder, im hardly showing at all and my U/S shows im actually a week behind if i go by my last MP. So ner.

I dont care either way because it has to come out so theres no reason to say such things, its the damn head that im concerned about anyway, not the heavyness.

Anyone else get that?

I was reading about this last night.
Apparently if the baby is believed to be over 8lb 13oz, it's considered a BIG baby. It's highly likely that this baby will get close to that (if not over) as Gabby was 8lbs. I know it's not set in stone but, all my Mum's babies got bigger so I am assuming the same will go for me.

This is what is said in "The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth":

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ultrasound weight estimates are so inaccurate that if your caregiver suspects a large baby, he or she could equally well flip a coin as order a sonogram.

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Interesting, hey?
Plus... what's the problem if you do have a big baby? Plenty of women birth big babies no worries!

Isn't it true that larger babies are generally stronger and actually help themselves come out whereas smaller babies are harder to push out in general? I've heard something along those lines.

I got this too right through Toby's pregnancy :rolleyes:
My OB's was doing u/s measurements right through my pregnancy that consistently said he would be 8lbs and he kept saying he was "big". What cr@p. 8lbs is the 50th percentile which (and I am not a doctor but I'll hazard a guess here :rolleyes: ) means that he is average sized.
He was born 8lbs exactly and after he was born OB was still going on about how "big" he was. It was really starting to peeve me by that point.

A few people I know think that anything over 8lbs is big so I guess it depends on the person, but really, there aint much you can do about it once they're in there - they still have to come out LOL.

I just have loads of people looking at my belly and 'telling' me I am going to have a HUGE baby.. most of them wouldnt know a thing but feel qualified to comment. All my measurements have been spot on and the mw's reckon under 8...
You just get sick of hearing oh you're huge! :rolleyes:

My mum said the same Jillian, she had big babies including a 10'lbr and not a stitch, even the midwives didnt believe her there were no stitches and would ask to check them! She said it was easier too, her theory is they do all the work themselves, pushing their way through being bigger LOL

i had a 9lb 2ozer, and apart from his huge head (40.5cm) i had no probs!! Dont know what they're going on about!! Why rely on something to give you info if its not even accurate??

God, DS2 was my biggest at 8lb 2 oz and he was the easiest hands down. My DH was 10lb 12 oz and my MIL birthed him without pain relief or stitches. She's my hero!

I weighed 6lbs exactly and mine was a very difficult and long birth apparently! I decided to start coming out but then gave up LOL! My brother was closer to 8lbs and mum swears his birth was easier.

Why are babies measured in lb? I have no idea what that translates to in kg!

Xander was 9lb2oz, and he was 4.155kg... i think its rought 2.25lb per kg?? correct me if im wrong... :)

Just cos they used to be measured in pounds and it's what people are used to.

If someone tells me the weight of a baby in kilos, I have no idea! LOL
Yet if you say it in pounds, I know what size it is. I guess it's from listening to my Mum talk about us as babies. It's just something that's hung on.
Plus... they still use pounds in the US and, well... it's in the movies etc.

When i went for an ultrasound at 36/ 37/ 38 weeks ( i had them alot towards the end) i was always petrified because the person doing the u/s would go and get other people to "check this out" because of jaykobs measurements.

Id have 4 and 5 people in there saying " wow big baby, does it run in the family etc etc" i felt like telling them all to Pee off and thanks for making me think im going to be pushing out a mini bus" god it made me mad.

(plus once he was born, in darwin, where the local babies tend to be very small, the comments didnt stop!)

Get one of those maternity tshirts made outlining the fact you dont want their opinion! lol

Kerrie - i hear you but to the other extreme. I was always told that Ella was small for dates (and it's deja vu all over again with this preg)...yet when Ella came 6 weeks premmie she was 4 pound 12! That's pretty impressive for a bub at that age - let alone one that was apparently "small for dates" the whole time.

Thats a great size - Anneliese was like that. I was made to get my dates checked, because they said Anneliese was too small, (I barely looked pg when i went into labour at 30 weeks, they didnt believe how far along i was!!) And anneliese was born 3lb 11oz at 30w4d (1680g) whereas most babies born around that time were barely 1kg...

Not as a rule, but i've found boys to generally be bigger... In my family, us girl (4 of us) were all in the 7lber region. my 2 brother - first one was 9lb 13oz, and my second one was 9lb 8oz. And us girls are still petite, whereas my borther are quite built (my 17yo bro has a 6 pack and i rippled, adn my 14yo brother is just solid, but a good solid!!)

HTH :)

ETA i spose you'll find out in about 12w hey caro??!!

I have had 5 ultrasounds now and for 3 of them Noah was measuring big for dates by 11 days, then I get the last one to look at his club foot and I asked if he was measuring big and she said he is measuring spot on to the original date and the OB told me he has a big head eeeks!! I have the fear of god in me now!

Try not to stress about it, Sarah. Remember... your body is designed to birth babies. Bubba's head is also soft to help squeeze through.
Also, OB's tend to see pregnancy and birth as something that "happens" to our bodies... not something that's normal and natural. They focus on the possible "problems" rather than the actual "possibilities" (of course... that's a general statement... I'm sure there's exceptions ;) ).
You can do it!

I will try not to stress too mch but I am planning on having a drug free birth, I just hope I can do it!

You can :) Just keep saying to yourself; "My body is designed for this" and try not to listen to the scare-tactics that the doctors try to use (unless of course there's a real medical emergency).

When I was waiting to be induced the midwives were taking bets on how big the baby was and told me they would come in to see the size of the baby regardless if they were on shift or not!!!

Would you believe that somebody who hasn't actually asked me *when* I'm due told me yesterday I'm big for my dates! I mean really ...

I'm sick of hearing my baby is small... actually, no. That's not the case (the baby is growing very, very fast and is oversize for dates). I reckon when Liebs makes a debut then the weight will be 9-10lb... doesn't really worry me. My cousin was 11lb and she was out in about half an hour, no worries. Everyone has given up measuring the "small" bump, but the other day my GP didn't believe me when I told her how far gone I was! (LOL, she had my notes in front of her and had to check.)

Kazbah, I wish at 27w gone people had noticed I was pg, let alone commented on the bump!

I just cant get over the obs half arsed attempt to measure and then tell me its a big bub. He isnt the most thorough person in getting things exact.

I dont understand how he can have my other kids recorded as getting smaller and still insist this one is big. Im hoping that this one isnt going to be bigger than DD but like ive said it has to come out and there aint nothing you can do about it. Im baffled to because id not long finished telling him my u/s was a week behind so correct me if im wrong but doesnt that indicate bub is smaller.

I have know idea what my due date is anymore, one minute its the 23rd of june then its the 30th of June then its the 1st of July. The sonographer has it at 1st of July and the hospital has it at the 23rd of June. DS #2 was a week early so fingers crossed i go early again. People with high IQ shouldnt be allowed to talk Lol.

Im not sure how the measuring thing could be accurate anyway cause there is so much blood and fluid in there so how can they really tell by feeling, kwim.

The u/s you would think would be the most accurate because the machine can acually measure the bub its self but still even that is a distorted image isnt it. I tend to follow the u/s more than ob.

Fire Fly... I read this last night and thought it was interesting:

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Ultrasound weight estimates followed by induction for suspected large baby increases the risk of caesarean without improving outcomes.
Ultrasound diagnosis of macrosomia (large babies) also hurts rather than helps. Five studies found that ultrasound predictions that the baby would be macrosomic were wrong one-third to one-half of the time. In addition, two studies looked at the effect of ultrasound diagnosis on macrosomia on outcomes. Both found that when the obstetrician believed, based on ultrasound, that women were carrying macrosomic babies, half had c-sections versus less than one-third of women not thought to have macrosomic babies who actually did.

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Got it from "The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth".

Firefly I know exactly where you are coming from!!! I was constantly told this with both my boys and yes they were over 9lbs, but why freak us out!??

When I was studying to become a Midwife, I was told to NEVER say this to a woman and after having my babies I know why. At term I was measuring 46cms with my first and 44 with my second. Everyone was saying that my babies would be massive!! Gee thanks!! It petrified me so much that my labours didnt go according to plan and I ended up with two ceseareans just out of shear fright that I would be pushing out 11 pounders! I guess I just carry my bubs all out the front?

OK my cousin is really tall & thin & you couldnt really tell she was preg & she was aged 17 at the time...
She was also a smoker & was constantly having scans done & told to quit smoking as her baby was a dangerously low birthweight as it was all a bit of a 'surprise' for her she didnt really listen to anyone & kinda walked around in a daze!!!
IN lkabour her daughter was born naturally but my cousin went into distress & began fitting in labour so my Aunt was thrown out of the room, because the baby was over 13lb! So far from the dangerously smnall birthweight!

With maddy I was told I'd need a pelvic scan as the bubs seemed to be quiet large!!! I never had the scan & birthed her at 7lb10 & then with Indah i was told it was a big bub, but my Chiro said it seemed to be an 8lber, well she was born 8lb1!

Both excatly 1 week over!!!

They have no idea how much fluid etc is in there...

See I was reassured when my ultrasound said Gab would be 8lb 11oz. I thought "Well that's good because bigger babies help to get themselves out. They are stronger".
She was 8lbs on the nose... so not far off (I guess).

But I ended up with a caeasar (not cos she was big... other reasons).

This time my doctor wants me to see a gyno to see if the baby will fit through my pelvis.
I'm gonna change doctors. What a crock!