Anyone give their OB a thank you present?

Hi
Just wondering about this. I really had a great experience with my OB and would like to give him something as a token of my appreciation. Anyone else done this and if so, what did you give?
Thanks!
Smelly

gave FS a bottle of port which we had engraved, OB a pen, Pead a pen and SCN chocolates from the Choclatier
when we went back to FS 4 years later, he remembered what we had given him and commented on how nice it was
definataly they appreicated it and were chuffed
odette

Not my OB, but I gave the midwives a card & chocolates, & one that really helped me, I have her some choccies too. :)

Yep I love my OB and bought him a really nice expensive bottle of red, and gave the midwife a box of chocolates and a huge bunch of gladiolas! I also gave my OB receptionist a box of choccies. I also sent thankyou cards to my OB with a photo of him and Cooper!

I think if they are a really great OB/FS/Paed the it does not hurt to show your appreciation, just like any field of work.

My biggest problem will be what to give him this time! He did comment that it was a fancy bottle, so maybe get him another one of the same???

I never gave mine anything, but I was not happy for my delivery to end in a section.

He is a great Ob just didn't cut it for me. But I will go back to him if I decide to opt for a section again, but I would really like a vbac.

I plan on giving my Ob a pressie and his receptionist too. I have known them for over seven years now, and they have done so much much for me, apart from this pg. Yes, we do pay him a large fee, but that's cos you HAVE to IYKWIM? I think a pressie shows that you are truly grateful for their care. Having been a dental nurse for 10 years I know how nice it is when a patient gives a gift, or even just sends a card to show their appreciation. It really makes your day!

So what to give......I was thinking along the same lines as the other girls. Keep the ideas coming though!

I never did I feel bad now, but I was not happy with him as I ended up having a section and that is what I didnt want.

I gave my midwife a hand made thankyou card and abig box of chocolates cause she was fantastic!

Hotmumma, don't feel bad at all! If I wasn't happy with his care at the end of the day, I wouldn't be giving him a present either! I guess it depends on if you think the section was really required, or if he jumped the gun a bit. Either way, no one expects a present, so don't feel bad about it.

Hi all, from doing research on OB's myself it looks like the best thing you can give an OB is a lovely letter explaining why you were happy with their service. It's nice for them to have up around their office (if you agree to it) so that other mums-to-be can get a good idea of what they can expect from the OB.

On a different note - the OB that delivered me sent my mum a gift on my first birthday!! It was a card that wished me a happy 1st birthday and had a personal note from the OB recalling the birth and how much of a hurry I was in. My mum always talks about it and stuck it in my albulm - she was so chuffed that he had remembered her and had gone to the trouble to send a card! He was a well know and well respected OB on the Gold Coast for many many years and apparently sent them to all his mums and bubs!

I'm sending the midwives a Thankyou card with a pic of Natalie on it - when I eventually get my act together, LOL.

Well, it looks like most people gave alcohol (or chocolates). As a non-drinker myself, I wouldn't know where to start when it came to giving a bottle of wine. But thanks to everyone who has replied so far. Keep those suggestions coming!

As for whether or not to even give a gift - I agree with sezjm: since the service was excellent and I was really happy with my care I'd like to give a gift because I can. I'm a health professional too, and when patients have given me thank you cards (one even knitted booties for my baby) I really was chuffed. Sometimes you put in a heck of a lot of hard work and rarely get any feedback that you are doing a good job. The odd thank you card can make it all seem worthwhile. :)

Hi,

I gave my ob a very nice bottle of red after each of my last two bubs, I think shes great and even though its her job it is nice to know you're appreciated. I also gave the midwife who looked after me when I had Lachlan the same as she was fantastic.

Nope, I did all the work I deserved the choccies and wine :P

He missed both births anyway.

Just chocolates and card for ob and his midwife and also my FS. I thought for a long time about something for him in particular but in the end I decided he probably had everything he needed and a nice heartfelt note from me would probably be more appreciated. Later I sent them both photos for their respective walls.

I'm a big believer in thank you notes. I think they go a long way.

I sent a card to my OB and his receptionist and a card to the midwives at the hospital. I found it really hard to let go - I kind of idol worshipped them for a while after Charlie was born

I gave friends/rels, obgyn, hospital, ivf clinic, gyn who removed my endo thankyou letters which had some photos printed on it. The gyn who did my surgery sent a lovely thank you back, saying how lovely it is that we fell preggas & he loves to hear the success stories.

No pressies though, I mean fees are high as it is, hehe.

I have gotten a big box of nice choc for midwives. We went through a public hospital so I didnt have my own ob through my pregnancy, but I also wrote a letter of appreciation for everyone inc the midwives, the two obs i had for delivery, the paed and the physio! and printed a photo of me and bub so they might recognise who its from!
I am going to go take it in to them some time soon when I get the chance!

I have always given pressies to those who helped.
When I had the girls I gave a big jar of lollies to the ward, antenatal clinic, NICU and delivery suite.
I also gave flowers to the midwife who was there for the girls' birth.
Lily was the same deal.
When I had William, we gave everyone who was involved a little pewter butterfly keyring, with hope written on the back. They all got photos and a bottle of wine and a book.
On his first birthday, I sent a thankyous to all of the people involved. Both at his birth and his death. It was important to me to acknowledge the people who were with us.

Ivy and Noah's birth saw my midwives with flowers, wine and again photos but they were good friends as well.
The ward got chockies as did one special midwife who helped me through a really hard time. Chockies too, to the NICU staff.
My doctor loves fruit and rarely gets time to eat so we gave him a big basket of fruit and chockies (as he is a sugar junkie too) wine and photos. We also gave chockies to his PA, as we often spoke to her more than we did our doctor, LOL!
Again, due to the nature of the babies birth, I acknowledged everyone involved on their first birthday.
As a midwife, it's really nice to be thanked so as a patient I like to show my gratitude.

Tiff that is lovely. I feel too that it is very important to show gratitude to those who have helped us in some way.

Fraser, in many ways I understand your feelings about finding it hard to let go. I was very fond of my FS and my obstetrician and missed them for a long while after it was all over. I think too when there has been some difficulty or struggle involved and you are lucky enough to have a compassionate carer, it can make all the difference as to how you perceive the experience.

I hand made a thankyou card and gave a box of choccies to the midwife who attended my last birth. She was such a trouper with me, and helped my planned vbac become a success so I felt she really did deserve an extra *surprise* thankyou. When I handed it over to the lady at the desk, she was really surprised and expressed that the midwife would be really touched. Sounds like it doesn't happen a lot.

For both my births we gave the midwives a huge box of chocolates to share around and a bottle of wine. They really did do over and above what was necessary.....we were very grateful. Some people treat midwives like slaves.....they are a wonderful asset , especially to the hospital i gave birth at.

Fraser I too had a hard time
'letting go "after the birth of my girls..I thought I was weird so its good to see other mums out there who felt the same.I saw my ob a few times after the birth of my girls and on my last check up to check the implanon in my arm I gave her a big bunch of flowers.They were beautiful Im lucky I have a sister who is a florist and does groovy work.I look forward to another pregnancy (not until next year though ) I think because I had such a wonderful pregnancy and birth and I really admired her for everything she did for us..My hubby loves her as well...