Scared..

Heya all,

Have a doctors appointment in an hour just wondering what ppls views are to stress me till then.. I had spotting yesterday afternoon and then had a very small amount of brown bleeding when wipeing after the loo (sorry if thats too much info). Then this morning I started bleeding very heavy like a really heavy period and was bright red but it is now starting to go away and there was no pain at all during this time other than the chest pains I caused myself stressing..

I told the dr surgery and as I was crying on the phone they were the only ones who would fit me in today but didn't seem too overly concerned as I have no pain and its not so bad now

Just feeling really alone, I know this is going to sound really pathetic but I really wish my mum knew I was preg and was with me today to comfort me, DP can't get away from work I told him not to try because the last thing we need is for him to lose his job over what could be nothing..

Hi CelticMoon

Huge :hugs: for you. I hope that everything is OK. Bleed in pregnancy sometimes is OK, alot of ladies have had this and had perfectly healthy babies.

I hope the dr can give you some answer and hopefully get you in for an U/S to know exaclty what is happening. Is there no way that you can tell someone close to you, so yo have someone there with you?

Hi CelticMoon,

Try to stay calm and perhaps think about sharing the news with your mum? We always worried about telling people before 12 weeks but personally I chose to tell people who would support us if something was to happen.

It's only a suggestion, but could help ease the stress on yourself and your partner. Hope everything goes ok at the Dr. Big hugs.

Good luck

I'm gettin an emergency u/s for 'threatened miscarriage' and possibly admited to hospital if there is no heartbeat to have it removed... feel really numb right now, he said its a slim chance it survived..

Oh Celtic
I'm hoping for the best for you. :pray: When's the u/s? Can you get someone to go with you?

Ultrasound is at 3.50 I'll be staying at my new house im currently in the process of moving into which doesnt have a phone line or internet will be a long night... They said if theres no heartbeat thats it but I didn't think it started till 6 weeks so maybe they won't know for sure?? Wow hows that for wishful thinking and denial hey..

Best of luck Celtic :hugs:
I will be thinking of you and hoping for the very best :crossfingers:
Let us know how it goes...

Thank you may not be on till next week sometime, thanks for the support and encouragement

Hope everything goes well for you, it does seem a bit early to say if there's no hb then there is no hope as I had an us with DS at 6wks and there was no hb but there was a yolk sac and polar body which they said was the beginning of a healthy pregnancy. Maybe ask the sonographer about these. Fingers are crossed for you.

Celtic - i hope everything works out for you. Have you had the u/s yet?
I had similar thing, went and to the first dr in Melbourne that could see me (i was ment to be flying from Melb to Perth when it happened) and he told me that it was a m/s as well. I panicked. But, when i finally got an u/s done, everything was all ok. baby was there heart beat was going strong. I was 5 weeks and 2 days. They did an internal u/s which showed the baby. Tell your mum, or someone, to be with you today.
I have been where you are now, and you need someone to lean on.
Big hugs to you, and will be thinking of you.
If you want, read my journel - see link. Tells about my day in Melbourne. Password pebbles email chelby2@optusnet.com.au
Good luck

Good luck Celtic, hope everythis is ok

Celtic - I hope everything is OK. It may be a lil too early to have a heartbeat, I thought it only came at 6wks? Let us now as soon as you can how everything is going.

I'm thinking of you CelticMoon - I know you probably wont see this until next week. Sending you good vibes anyway - hoping you get back to us with good news.:pray:

Hey all,

I went to a friends house of mine they've kindly allowed me internet access to update you all. The ultrasound person (very technical lol) said it looks like implantation bleeding and that part of the uterus almost has a "bruised" look to it up above bubs. They couldn't hear a heartbeat but there was a flicker that she said was 90% sure was a strong heart beat she wanted to give me an internal but I said I'd prefer to just see how I go and come get another u/s in a week or so.

She showed me the sack, the yolk and the flicker she also took measurements and showed bubs to be 5 weeks and 3 days which is what it is spot on! lol (ticker is a day out i think because of timezones).

Dr was so nasty he said i may as well skip the u/s and book myself straight into hospital and get an abortion I was so numb driving there and then the ultrasound lady (who was awsome) said all was pretty much fine and she'd seen it before and to just keep an eye on things.

She even printed out a photo for me! I just sat in my car looking at it and burst out crying I didn't realise just how much I wanted this till today

So hopefully all will be well she said the next two weeks will be the determining factor whether bubs clings on alright or not so fingers crossed its going to be the hardest two weeks of my life.

Sorry about my poor punctiation and grammar I'm trying to type as fast as I can as I can't stay on too long it's a bit rude lol

Love and hugs and thank you so much everyone I was so heartbroken I'm going to rip into that dr next time I see him I'm so angry!! Least it prepared me for the worst I spose..

CelticMoon

CelticMoon, I'm glad to hear that things are looking better. Fingers crossed for you.

That Dr sounds horrible!!!

I had tears in my eyes reading your story, will be thinking of you

Celtic Moon,

I was so worried for you when I read your inital post. Thankyou so much for replying so quickly. I said a little prayer for you and your bub, so I'm so glad to hear that things went well for you today.

I know how scary any blood can be, and how you realise for the first time just much you really want the baby.

Good luck.

CelticMoon - it is great to hear that everything is going ok and that the u/s lady was really great as well. The beginning of pregnancy is the most important - you have had a lil scare now but you have to be positive and try not too worry too much (i know, easier said than done!) be positive and things will work out. :hug:

Celtic Moon - am so glad everything turned out ok for you!

Hi there,

I know exactly what your going through and i experienced the same thing at 6 weeks. I had bleeding, spotting and cramps but after the ultrasound they said they could see a sack and suggested i come in again for another ultra sound at 8 weeks i worried for another 2 weeks and at 8 weeks we saw a heartbeat. I am still getting a little bit of spotting and cramping and i am at 11 weeks. Good luck today i am thinking of you

Yippee!! Thank God Celticmoon :hug: :happyforyou: :confetti: :dance:

I was thinking about you last night and hoping for a great result. Congrats on your little pic. Check out mine in my ticker if you want to see what bubs will look like in a week or so. I too had bleeding and cramps last week and spent a worried night waiting until my scan. They couldn't find any reason for the bleeding but saw a strong heatbeat. I've since had very minor dark bleeding since the initial bleed and it still worries me. I think it may be a bit of period type bleeding which I've heard is possible. But I just keep wishing for Squishy to stay sticky. I've already told him/her off for stressing me out. lol

It is one of the scariest times waiting and hoping and your dr was a a$$hole for talking to you like that. I know that they have to be realistic but a bit of compassion doesn't go astray. Change your doctor perhaps, to one who is a bit more understanding.

Good luck and take it easy for the next few weeks.

Celtic - I bet that picture is going to go a long way over the next 2 weeks in helping you visualise your little bubba growing stronger every day. I'm really glad to hear about your u/s, that technician sounded so lovely and reassuring.

Celtic, Muski and Kate - sending :stickyvibesgirl: to you all.

I am so glad the u/s lady was lovely specially since the doctor was such a pr#ck to you. Fingers crossed everything goes well for you. I really would tell your mum as it would be good for you to have the support.

Hey all,

I finally have a phoneline and dialup at the new place only took a week of cancelled telstra techies but now I'm not so isolated! lol.

The dr I saw was the only doc in the town I was in (not where I live) to have a spare appointment available. Another dr who is a trained ob from the same surgery rung to talk to me today he was so nice and listened to what I said, the u/s lady had said and went through it all with me.

He said next week I need to get my HBG (I think that's right, the preg hormone) levels re-checked and a referral for another u/s in two weeks time. He said it can happen and that there is no pain and its mostly stopped (tiny bit of spotting still the u/s lady said from the looks of it i'll probably have that for another few days) that all will probably be well. I told him I didn't take the internal but we saw the flicker but didn't hear anything on the normal u/s, he said that was perfectly normal for a early 5 week bubz and sometimes they don't hear it till week 7 or 8 depending(if you don't have the internal). I told him what the other doctor told me and he said he was known for being a bit insensitive and he would have "stern words" for me to him about it all.

He said the next two weeks are vital and that so far we have more positive signs than bad signs and to try and take it as easy as possible and asked if I felt I needed any counselling services to help me through this time which I thought was very considerate of him. I also told him about the u/s lady's kindness, the time of the appointment and what she looked like (can't remember her name) and he said he would ring her boss and give her a big commendation for her professionalism and sensitivity.

I'm still pretty scared and trying my best not to stress I just keep trying to keep myself as busy as possible it's very hard though. Keep looking at that little black blob of a picture trying to will it to be as clingying as me lol

Thank you all for the support, best wishes and sticky vibes (i love that expression!!!) everytime I feel the tiniest pain (mostly digestion) I get all tense.

I'm not glad other people have had to go through this but I am glad I'm not alone and people have had the same thing happen and have come out the other end with a healthy bubbers. And here I was looking forward to 8 months of no pads or tampons now im too scared not to wear pads incase! lol. I thought I'd have a bit of freedom for a change hehehe

Thank you all so so much *big squishy cuddles to all* it really means a lot to me and your words of support and shared experiences are really encouraging *more hugs*

CelticMoon

Hey Celtic moon

I hope everything goes ok... Big hugs..

Love meegm

i'm SO happy for you Celtic Moon that everything is looking good!! i can't BELIEVE that Dr's insensitivity, and not only that, but the total mis-information that he was giving you!! telling you that you'd have to go to the hospital and have a d&c if there was no heartbeat!! absolutely indefensive!! i'm so glad that the sonographer and OB have been much more understanding (and professional!)...

i know exactly how you feel about knowing now how much you want your baby. mine was not a planned pregnancy, but i had an emergency scan on monday because i thought something was wrong, and was so beside myself in the lead-up and it really became clear to me how much i want this baby!! the baby was absolutely fine, and i too am carrying around my little blurry photo in my handbag, and sneaking a look at it whenever no one is watching!!

good luck getting through the next week without worrying too much - and hopefully after the next scan you can relax even more!!

Thanks ella, I been getting some light cramping but been told that it can be the uterus moving and expanding and theres no bleeding now which is a good sign. It's just so weird I can't really see myself being a mum I keep thinking something bad is going to happen, and that dr really scared and upset me I just keep thinking that there won't be a heartbeat at the next scan and he'll have been right..

I'm so glad your little bubs was ok ella must have been an enormous relief! I wish the first trimester didn't pass sooo slowly lol

Glad everything was OK - can you get yourself a new doctor? He sounds awful, i wouldn't want him looking after me!

Celtic - just re read your post about your vist to u/s and what that doctor told you.
I only just skimmed it last time, jsut make sure you was ok.
But, i am completly shocked. I hope everyone that reads this take in what you have been told, and makes sure that they always always get a second opinion.
I would hate to think of how many peoples he could of told that to, that have acted on his advise. I shudder at the thought!
Hopefully you wont have to deal with him again!
Big big hugs for you. The first trim dragged on for me! But, it starts to snowball really quick once you get closer to the end. I have all my photos from my u/s, and it is so re-assuring to be able to look at them.

Thanks mum2bee I know what you mean what if some poor frightened mum-to-be went in and got that news and decided they didn't want to travel for an u/s that was going to tell them the worst and just go straight into hospital when they could of had a healthy happy baby!

He rung me friday to ask when I was going back to have a follow up u/s or if I'd made a decision to have an abortion. I said I would never have an abortion and I will see a different doctor from now on and that all has been going perfectly since then. He felt the need to remind me that the likelyhood of miscarriage raises to 50% and I still could lose it at any time AHOLE. After a brief screaming match at his insensitivity and a few darkly worded blows against his character I hung up on him and will be making an appointment with a different doctor this week sometime for a u/s for next week (more chance of finding a heartbeat that way) and see how I go.

I really do hope that anyone who has ever been in my position always goes for a 2nd opinion ALWAYS. It's another human beings life and your own health and state of mind that gets dragged through the mud by awful people like that and I could of had an abortion procedure for a baby I may still be able to carry full term!

The first 6 wks seemed to drag but now I can't believe its nearly wk 7 its gone in a blink I can't believe how fast it's been now! I hope it keeps up and I can charge into 2nd semester so I can hopefully start telling people yay! (Thats if the next scans are well that is)

Thanks again to everyone for their love, support and understanding it's really meant a lot to me to know no matter how nasty drs and friends can get I can still come on here and get advise, electronic comfort hugs and reassurance from such a great group of people! My love, hugs and thanks to you all!

well done for giving him a piece of your mind!! i hope when he got off the phone he had a big long think about the effect that his careless comments have on his very vulnerable patients...

yeah, for me it was the same - time DRAGGED up to week 6, but since then time has been flying! hope the next week flys by for you, and you're in looking at your baby's heartbeat before too long!!

Hi Celtic Moon, I am glad everything is going well.

I completely agree with what you said about second opinions. I went to see a GP last week and she more or less said she didnt want to see me again til i was 18 weeks! I tried explaining that i wasnt sure of my dates, but she said she wouldnt send me for a scan. Then to top it all off, i was telling her about how i was booked in to have my wisdom teeth removed in the next few weeks and she told me just to go ahead with it and not to even bother telling the anaethesist that i was pg!!!.... Long story short, i went to a different GP who was great and who is calling people as we speak to get me booked in for a dating scan :)

All the best :D

bloody hell. I cant believe that there are such insensitive gp's out there. These are the people that you are ment to turn to in times of need, illness etc, and they will do the best for you. YEAH RIGHT!
I know that the majority are doing the right thing, but, it is irritating to hear about those that are doing the wrong thing, and putting peoples and their babies lives at risk.
Good on you CM for speaking your mind. I would be putting in an offical complaint to some one about that GP. That is complety wrong of him. Horrid man.
GMS78 - you dont need to see someone that treats you as a number, put yourself and your bub first. Glad you found a better GP.
Hope you 2 can sit back and relax abit, and enjoy things from now on, without having to stress over dumb ar$e gps.

I'm glad you found another more understanding GP I wish I could find one! The medical centre I go was booked out for the next week but as soon as I told them it was a follow up for a threatened miscarriage I got put on hold and have an appointment tomorrow morning for a u/s referal yay! I'm seeing a dr I haven't seen before she's new there so I'm hoping if she's nice I can continue to see her!

I did tell the ob gp who rung me about my results about what the other dr said to me he said he'd have stern words with him but when the ahole dr rung nothing had changed so I don't think he's going to change his ways. It almost seemed like he didn't care he even said that I was young and could try again anyway so don't worry about it. That's not the point is it? Shouldn't matter someones age when there is another life in the balance, although I know a lot of drs do see it as just some cells replicating and dividing till it's time to pop.

I'm kind of glad the next lot of scans are due, but also dreading them, I don't want to go :-( but I will lol ack so nervous!

Hi Celtic Moon, i'm so glad that everything is ok. It has given me so much hope, as I am going through exactly the same situation at the moment. I started bleeding a few days ago and its still going, it is like a period, minus the cramps. However, i had an ultra sound and everything was fine. I had literally prepared myself for the worst. I'm still scared and feeling very emotional, but i'm taking each day as it comes. I cant believe how insensitive your doctor was, not to mention down right rude. However I am very a happy to hear that you are ok now.

Hayley

Hey Hayley,

I'm glad it gave you some hope sweety all I can say is to try and stay positive and if the u/s was fine then that is a awsome sign! I FINALLY found a lovely dr and she was great and told me all about bleeding in preg and how common it was and if the u/s was good then try not to stress. I know it's hard and it is very daunting I thought it was all over but like isaid it is common and everything can and should be fine *biggest comfort hugs*

Keep us up to date hun I was advised to have no caffiene while bleeding, didnt say why but thats what the dr said to me at the time

Take care and keep well hun

Phew....You have had a rough day....but you have a flicker of hope now.

Stay strong and positive....my thoughts are with you.

Jac