In regards to your parenting style, what are the things that you will "Not" tolerate from your child?
I am pretty easy going with my parenting, but I will not tolerate a "Potty Mouth" from my children.
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In regards to your parenting style, what are the things that you will "Not" tolerate from your child?
I am pretty easy going with my parenting, but I will not tolerate a "Potty Mouth" from my children.
Back chatting
I hate that. It sounds ugly and makes a pretty girl looks like a tramp. If you don't like something, say it in a respectfull manner, don't back chat.
oh my two teenagers try that with me, argggggg, don't get far though!!! One look says it all! Some call it the third eye, I call it the Evil eye!
I know kids will try, and I am sure you can do your best, but if they are going to back chat they will. It's part of the growing up prosses, BUT I HATE when kids do that to their parents in public. It's just so mean and rude.
I will definatly be thinking about getting me an evil eye ;P Maybe I should start praticing with DH??
Bad manners. Not saying please or thank you, not acknowledging someone who has entered the room, eating with mouth open, destroying things that are not to be destroyed, bad language... I don't mind questions, even questioning my decisions, so long as it is done respectfully and the answer is respected. But DH has just had a huge rant that Niece refuses to say please or thank you (or even ta) and won't acknowledge anyone, makes me think she hasa hearing problem.
Lying , rudeness, sneakiness, swearing and disregard for other peoples property.
Where do i start?!! :rolleyes:
The same thats already be said but my BIGGEST is NAGGING - this drives me nuts, rolling her eyes if im telling her off for something, questioning MY decisions and yep, of course swearing.
And im another for bad manners, but i must say i have never had this problem with DD.
Evil eye worked a treat with DD until she turned about 11.
Actually i think i just dont want to tolerate her being a teenager!!;)
for me its BAD MANNERS!! i cant stand people (including adults) that cant say please or thank you!! like really how hard is it!!
working in child care its amazing how many children dont know what they are!! grrrrrrrrr (and yes the parents too)
All of the above, but also, Children hitting adults. I don't hit others why would they hit me. I also hate children yelling at me. Again I dont yell at them, they need to treat me as I treat them. I also work in childcare and so many children treat adults like dirt! It's amazing to me that a little person is allowed to get away with such things by their parents. They get a rude shock when they meet me, lol.
Same as everyone else really....bad manners, swearing, backchatting and hitting are probably my biggies.
I simply hate when the kids punch each other. I get cross when they hit but closed fists gets me going nutso,,
Looking me in the eye and still doing what I have asked them not to do,
Hitting yes, adults or kids i agree - very wrong.
I hate on that show Australias funniest home videos where kids punch/kick/jump on males in the groin (on purpose (sp?))- i really dont find this funny in anyway.
Bad manners and spitting.
Particularly the spitting, just can't handle it.
Hitting / kicking / biting - they go straight to time out for that as it's not okay to hurt people. I wont tolerate bad language either but feel bad as I slip up sometimes, so I talk with them first and if they continue on or don't apologise then I will do something about it.
Spitting and throwing things deliberately with intent to hurt.
Disrespectful behaviour, violence towards other (especially mum, dad & siblings), disrespecting belongings (there are many kids who would love what you have maybe I should send it all to them! ;)) or disrespecting others belongings. NOT listening (this is a big gripe of mine).
With regards to backchatting unless its out of rudeness I actually encourage it, for me its a form of discussion and I think providing Paris & Seth can discuss in a polite manner it will always be encouraged. Often my daughter has great pearls of wisdom and had I had the no back chat rule she would be silenced and I would miss out on the opportunity of learning from my child (which I have a lot). For example I asked her to do something for me the other day, I can't remember what it was (I was in a bad mood and she knew it) so instead she said "Mum please don't get annoyed, but I'd like you to listen to me... I can't do xyz because of xyz maybe we could xyz instead" And her reasoning was correct but in the mood I was in I could have (luckily I didn't) turned around and told her to just do as she was told when her solution was more effective than mine ;) I'm not judging here just some food for thought :)
Any sort of violence, hitting, kicking, pushing etc. Zander will be sent to his room (or somewhere else if we are out) then we will have a chat about not hurting other people. He then *must* apologise to the person.
Not listening, this one gets me very cranky!
ETA: Now you mention Cai, disrespecting their own or others belongings is a big one for me too, jjust didn't think of it til you posted LOL.
bad manners and bad behaviour - from both of the children in the house (my husband and my step-son). They both get time out & things taken off them until they start to behave (I swear they just feed off each other and egg each other on).
Bad language is another no-go in this house, I have started rousing on DH to get him to watch his mouth, DSS arrives tomorrow, so I don't want slip-ups!
Not showing respect to elders. Actually not showing respect FULL STOP - that makes my blood boil.
We have rules that my step-son must adhere to when he is here, very similar ones to those he has at home (so there is consistent parenting), funny thing is that I'm stricter on a few things than his mum & her new partner are.
I agree very much, it takes a village and its just unfair to the children if each villager has their own rules. And in our house most rules apply to adults too and can be enforced by the kids ;)
Ditoo too all of the above!!
Although my 1 pet hate is when I hear kids say stuff like "Give it to me or I'll kill you!" Or "I wnat a turn or I'll smash your head in!"
Something a friends daughter used to say to Maddy when Maddy was like 3 & she was 4!
I was shocked & told my GF I'd rather have my kids swear & say Bum (a rude word to her) than threaten violence! She didnt acknowledge that violence is wrong, instead just said... She doesnt mean it!?Recently I overheard this child now 10, tell my DH, that her dad uses $100 notes to wipe his arse!
Yep they have come into a heap of money but I found that comment disgusting!
Cai - we call our group of friends "The Village" because that is pretty much what we are:
We do the same thing... :)
And Tracey IKEWYM. I remember as a child being so disgusted hearing my cousin tell her mother she hated her and wished she was dead over a 20c lollipop. At the time she didn't understand the meaning of those words and her mother never corrected her. A few years later her mother died of breast cancer and those words went through my cousin's head over and over again. And now she carries guilt with that. As a child they have no understanding but when they are older they realise what they did and it hurts then, and they also lose respect for their parents.
I can't tolerate when DS throws things at me. He doesn't do it very often and after I've had a reaction (yelling!) I go and figure out with him what's made him frustrated. After all, he's 18 months old and can't TELL me what caused him to throw something at me!
As for thank you, I would prefer he mean it before he says it like a mantra. I would much prefer to hear a thank you from a child who was actually aware that they owed their newfound happiness (for that cookie, glass of water, whatever) to my actions. I DO like to hear 'please', and if it's not forthcoming, I prompt gently. If it was asked without please and they seem confused about my insistence on the word (and it's a young child), hell, I just give it to them, it's an advanced kind of concept anyway!
Violence of any kind will not be tolerated and will be dealt with sensitively and lovingly. I've studied violence in societies before and it's a cycle that needs interrupting with love :)
Wish we were in bali more so for the Village type of parenting!
We live with my parents behind our house & I always get told by Mum that one of the kids shouldnt have this or that or whatever her latest thing to carry on about is & yet she has given it to the kid & then says...
But I am allowed I am the grandma!?? :rolleyes:
i cannot tolerate hurting others,hitting biting grr
I'm not a parent yet but I can't stand bad manners either. My nephews and niece are TERRIBLE - they have no manners at all. Never say please or thankyou, eat with mouth open - it drives me nuts. I can understand that their parents get frustrated etc but my parents had no problems teaching me good manners - if they ask for something, a simple "What do you say?" to prompt the "please" and similar when given something to prompt the "thank you" - and soon it becomes routine.
I felt a bit bad the other day, but we were at the ILs and 8 yr old nephew came into the kitchen , while myself and SIL were doing dishes, and put his empty icypole wrapper on the bench (3 m away from the bin) and walked off.. I was like "XXXX - (he turns) - that doesn't go there, can you put that in the bin please? We have enough mess to clean up without you making more" He rolls eyes, says "I don't know where the bin is" (lie) - surprisingly MIL actually says "Come on, you know where the bin is" - and he put it in the bin. Mind you it's the MIL and FIL who are partly to blame for the kids behaviour as they spoil them ROTTEN (SOOOOOO not going to happen when we have kids!!!).