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Well...I am depressed!! Before bubba I weighed 55kg...NOW I'm 70!! What is with that? I realise that bub and everything else weighs alot of that but I have NEVER in my life weighed that much before...I'm pretty tall, 5'10 so everyone says that I don't look like I weigh that much, but when I got on those scales....I lost the plot. Infact I think I weighed a little more than 70...maybe 73/74!! I am really having a hard time dealing with it all. Anyone else like me?
Nina- i know i'm a bit further along than you but i hear you on feeling like a whale, i was 75kgs before i fell pregnant and now im 89kgs (at my 32 week dr appt) and it's all bub and my thighs, i'm only 161cms so i'm short and cant see past my belly anymore i gave up trying weeks ago.
Nina- i was HUGE too. it sucks hey? I put on nearly 30kg's. I ate a very healthy balanced diet, walked when i could but still stacked on the kilos. I put on 6kg's before i even knew i was UTD!
I lost 15 in the first week after she was born, and have lost another 5, so only have 10 to go!
Pre-preg i had never had any issues with my weight. So i found it really hard to cope with.
Don't worry it's only temporary, try not to worry about it too much, enjoy your new curves, they won't be around for ever. ;)
Nina..... I haven't been there (yet!) but can I just assure you that you are indeed still a tiny little thing! 55kg? Thats my usual weight and i'm only 5'1!!!!!!!!!!
Awww hun don't stress- you are growing a beautiful gorgeous baby and there is alot going on in there. Im 5'1 was overweight at 65 to being with and nearly died when I hit 80 when I was pg. I lost it all fairly quickly though but given your height, your weight sounds like its spot on track to me. I found I gained the most in the first 2 trimesters, and less in the 3rd and my key tip is- stop weighing yourself.
Look in the mirror- have a look at that gorgeous growing belly and picture that little beautiful baby getting all the nutrition and padding it needs to grow up strong. :hug:
Hun, i'm only an inch taller than you and i was 100kg when i gave birth! I was 95kg BEFORE i fell PG. Your pre-pregnancy weight was extremely light for your height, underweight in terms of BMI (17.2) You're spot on for normal just now - i'm 75kg NOW and not overweight at all. Your body is just getting your baby nice and healthy and taking on a little extra so you can BF and so on. Worry not, much of it comes off very fast and the rest of it DOES come off.
I'm guessing that you are just a naturally very lean body type and it can be so hard seeing everything change so drastically so fast, but the changes are temporary and necessary.
Be proud of your bump and curves, you're a beautiful blooming woman.
Bx
Nina - I'm 5'10" too, and weighed around 70kg when I fell pregnant, I'm up around 95kg now...so welcome to my world!!! :lol:
Aww thanks girls...I think I just needed people to tell me that it's going to be ok ;)
I seriously feel sooooo much better, thanks!
Hoobley- Your spot on about watching everything drasticly change so quickly...that is exactly how I feel. I'm a very body concious person and to go from being so light to the weight I am now, is just scary. Need to just chill out I think.
NO MORE weighing myself!
Nina,
I was excersising before i fell preg i had lost 7 kgs, i have now put that back on and added some more. I was going so well, But we did plan this pregnancy so i guess i cant really complain. I am shortish (well i think anyways) 155cms and i am up to 70kgs.
I went from 81kgs with DS2 when preg to 70kgs the day after having him. So dont stress.. It DOES come off!!
I totally know what ur going through.
Although last time i checked i hadnt put on that much (this was a while ago tho), i still look in the mirror and just go "Ohh no" and just wanna cry!! I love the preg body, but mines so much more than just preg body, theres all this fatty stuff and my boobs are just soooo huge now.
I do know that i 'Look nothing but preg" but i dont feel it, i feel a bit like a blimp really.
:hug: Nina... I know its a huge shock to the system, but I bet you look absolutely beautiful, healthy and glowing... not like a whale at all!
Because you were very light to begin with, its pretty natural that your body is going to gain extra weight during pg, for both yours and the babies health.
In my first pg (not this one) I started off around 55kg, and was 170cm (so still a fair bit shorter than you) and I managed to put on a grand total of 42+kg by the 9th month... (due to many other factors too). But anyway, you aren't going to gain as much as I did ;) , and where you are now sounds spot on and healthy.
Hi Nina, The whole body image thing is very hard to take. It is hard when you have people commenting on it (like I have, GRRRR) and we are our own worse critics too. You are not a whale. You were light to start with. I am about 166cm, weighed 61.6kg pre pregnancy and am now almost 70. I think our body puts on what it needs, I jsut hate that I store all my weight on my bum and thighs. Just keep eating healthy and exercising if you can. Try not to worry about the number on the scale. Easier said than done. Thankfully my OB doesn't weigh me and hasn't made any comment about my weight, it is just me who notices. I try to focus that it is all worthwhile and will get an amazing bub out of it.
Hang in there. I know I feel crap about my body most of the time now
Nina - Im the same height as you hon....my weight...116kg. I lost 13kg in the early stages of my pg but have slowly put it back on. To be honest...as long as your eating healthy and looking after yourself...your weight will drop back into place (BFing is the best for it)...
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I bet Joel thinks your still as gorgeous, if not more then before you fell pg hon.
Yes Nina, GET OFF THE SCALES! :D
They're not helpful, don't tell you anything you need to know, if a dr needs your weight, they'll do it themselves. Seriously, put the scales in the garage or under the house. AWAY!
- Hoobley's right, if you're used to being slim, getting larger can be a shock. You can still do things like walk to try and stay toned. I'm considering doing some very light weights because I just am NOT used to tuck shop lady arms...and it's summer so I can't hide them! :p
- Don't worry about people commenting that you're tiny or whatever. I felt like I was HUGE, and people were saying how small I was - and any comment I made on my own weight got taken the wrong way, like larger people thought I was bragging or something...I'm a very tactful person, but there was no winning when I commented on my size, so I just didn't.
- You're going to have 'fat days' when you feel like the mothership. Tell your dh to be armed with compliments and reassurance on those days, and take the time to dress well, do your hair and makeup or whatever you do to feel good. Makes a big difference!
- You could try being in denial - I'm currently wearing short shorts from Cotton On (that I'm sure dh wouldn't let me out of the house in!) and a funky tshirt. Pretend your skin is as awesome as usual, and that your thighs still look great! I'm planning on getting a bit more sun too, I'm thinking a light tan will hopefully be a bit forgiving on my legs!
- Prepare to succeed with breastfeeding. Not everyone finds this, but many people find that much of the baby weight drops off with breastfeeding. Mine did, I was very glad, and I'm hoping it's the same for this next baby too! Another great reason to breastfeed. Arm yourself with the numbers of support people if you run into trouble.
- Have a mum/sister/best friend who is willing to mind the baby while you sleep. I read somewhere really recently that getting enough sleep can help you lose weight too! And you'll have more energy to go for that walk with bub if you're a bit more fresh. Maybe invest in a hand expresser and store up a bottle during the day, so that your partner can do a night feed/change while you sleep. Eg, go to bed at 9pm, partner do the midnight feed, you're up for the 3am feed - that's about 6 hours unbroken sleep if you can make that kind of thing happen! Even if it's occasionally, it's BRILLIANT! I don't think I did it enough with this bub, definitely will with the next. :D
Anyway, that's Nelle's 'tips of the day'. :p The segment where Nelle goes completely off topic, but I hope it's helpful anyway. I'm sure you look beautiful, even on the worst of your mothership days.
Gee Wiz girls!!!!
All of you get off the scales!!
I am 5'8" and weighed my self for the first time in two years about a month ago, and couldn't believe it! 83kg!!! Wow! I haven't been that light since I was a teenager, and guess what..... I have NEVER been OVERWEIGHT!!!
Get with reality girls!
For the sake of your babies, Stop trying to be skinny!!!
:wall:
I was 73 kg with my first and i'm 173 cm tall... have had weight probs all my life, went from 93 down to 73 and fell preg on the pill... then during the pregnancy gained 23 kg's could not believe it i was devistated.... My son is now 3 and everyday is a battle to loose weight....i have PCO and docs told me to loose weight in order to concieve #2 well i tryed everything from gym, yoga, diets, starving myself.... got down to 86kg's.... Came down really sick (throwing up for week and half) and went down an extra 3-4 kg's in a week.....i thought yeah keep the vomiting comming.....
Got some tests done after the second week of vomiting morning, noon and night only to find out i was preg 9 weeks...... threw up daily till 13 weeks but still managed to gain weight...... now sitting on 90 kg...... wish i was still 73 but we cant all be skinny..... pregnancy is a beautiful thing and when your told you cant have any and you miraculasly have another one its like a dream come true.... cherish every moment and hope you all have a H & H preg
hey Lisy lee- r u going to join our belly budies may 16-31st 08????????? love to see you there.... I'm due the 19th may....
Nina, I am 5'8" and I was 74kgs before falling preggo. I have put on 19kgs so far but almost due. I feel good that I am healthy for my Maddie and not worried about it much at all. I'm pretty much all baby anyway, really out at the front.
Man it's been confronting though putting on that much weight! I just keep going up and up and up, lol!
Enjoy your pregnancy ;)
MRSR, you sound like me! But you are a little taller! Pfffftt...we should get rid of a bit when we have our bubbas!:
Ohh girls, I don't think Nina or anyone was saying that pregnancy is the time to lose weight, or try and stay as slim as usual. I truly hope I didn't come across that way - that's not healthy.
I was just identifying with Nina, that when you are used to looking a certain way, changes in your body can be confronting.
Of course the health of our babies and our own health is paramount!
It's just getting used to a different body - with all it's beauty and flaws. Pregnancy sure is a special time, but there still are moments and days in this emotionally fragile state where the loss of shape bothers me, where I really wish I could buy those awesome shorts except that they won't fit.
I don't think to myself - ohh I'd better lose some weight. I just think 'I don't feel so beautiful today'. And everyone has those days, right?
And pregnancy isn't about beauty - but the way we look affects our self-identity, and our self-esteem. So it's still worth paying attention to, and if you're having a self-esteem issue because you don't feel at home in your new baby body, and you can do some small things (like dress well and pay attention to your hair) to make yourself feel better, then I think that's a really good thing!
So yeah...I definitely don't advocate weight loss during pregnancy, but I understand that body shape changes can take some getting used to, and if you keep up healthy eating and sensible fitness during pregnancy, then that can be helpful after the birth too. :)
I also recognise that it is good to gain weight, that a healthy bub is more important than how I look. I recognise that your body does gain what it needs, although if I stopped eating hot chips and other goodies it would be less :redface:. When you are used to looking a certain way or you have lost and maintained weight the changes when pregnant take some getting used to. Although others may see you as beautiful and glowing it is hard to feel that way sometimes. I know I have found it slightly easier now I am 'looking pregnant' and feeling bub move. That is what is making it worthwhile, feeling, bub and it is getting closer to meeting him/her and makes it easier to accept the veins on my legs, constant trips to the loo and the constipation, among countless other things. I have days where I feel crap, I have always been sensitive about my body, particularly my bum. Being told you have a big bum from age 10 will do that to you. I was so proud just the other week that my belly was getting bigger and mentioned it to my FIL, he stated that 'it looks like your bum has popped too'. he didn't mean harm by it, was just commenting (why he had to I don't know) and I shrugged it off at the time but was in floods of tears in the car. Just by being pregnant we are more sensitive and any existing issues when commented on can have devastating effects. While we shouldn't weigh ourselves and get hung up on numbers and sizes it is hard to change the habits of a lifetime. I keep asking myself who it really affects what size I am, how much weight I gain, as my hubby loves me no matter what, and this weight gain is for OUR baby. I shouldn't let the opinions of others affect me but that is more a personality thing and it is hard to change the habits of a lifetime.
Sorry if I offended anyone. It's just an issue that really upsets me.
Jess 84 I tried to join Bellybuddies but was basicaly told I wasn't welcome. I just asked a question, and was told it wasn't the appropriate place, even though everyone else was doing the same. So I took the hint and haven't been back on!
I wasn't offended Lisylee, unfortunately it isn't always easy to change the habits of a lifetime and when you have so many changes going on it can be a little overwhelming.
That's no good about your belly buddies, maybe try again?
lisy lee- havent seen you there maybe you joined before i did.....wish i knew who made you feel uncomfortable everyone in our group is really welcoming (i have found anyways) sorry bout your bad experience but please come and try again... i'll make you welcome thats for sure....
i figure your bound to gain weight during pregnancy so why worry...as long as your eating healthy then thats all you can do.... i try to get out and excercise but with another child and the lack of energy and motivation lately its difficult.... be happy and enjoy the preg i say....
Well...I would just like to clarify something!!! I am NOT going to be losing weight during my pregnancy nor was EVER entertaining the thought. I was just looking for some support.
Thanks Nelle for the very helpful tips. I dyed my hair the other day and it seriously made me feel sooo much better. I know that I am not FAT, like Nelle said, to notice that thing are changing so rapidly was just a shock and I wasn't expecting it, that is all. Thanks to all the girs that identify with me and dnot think that I am some self ritous, selfish person just worried about my looks, cause that is not what I am like after all!
Once again Rusty, I appologise for my coments.
I have been so tired and moody lately. I was way out of line.
It's just that I have family members who genuinly do have REAL weight problems, and I know what they go thru. So when I see what I interpret as some one with no weight problem at all, complaining about their weight, it makes my blood boil.
Again. Appologies. I shouldn't have been so quick and nasty.
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i read the thinner u r the more weight u will put on. i am 168cm and i was 80kg b4 preg so over weight to start off with. i am up to 86kg at the mo. i hope i dont get near 100. but just think after bubs is born u will loose most of it anyways.
Accepted LisyLee.
Pregnancy can be a bit like that...make you moody and grumpy. All it take is one little thing to set you off.
I sympathise with your family members that have genuine weight struggles as my mum has struggled to loose weight all my life. I know what hard, stressful, upsetting times they can be.
That makes sense sassy....putting on extra weight that you didn't have before the bub...that makes me feel better too.
Anyway, I had better go. Going looking for car seats with MIL today. Hope you all have a great day!