why are they saying he is FAT

every one tells me nixon is massive .... and that he weighs as much as a 3 yr old etc ...

i thought he was fine , he has a healthy yummy diet and eats a wide range and there isnt much he wont eat ....

he is the only one who doesnt get juice or choc wafers or sugar on their weetbix in our mums group ,

he eats heaps but they are all good stuff .. has 3 meals a day plus snacks ..

this morning he has banana on wholeameal for bfast and a handful of blueberries , and just now for a snack he had rice snacks ..

he is about 14mths and 12kgs ..

why do ppl say "wow hes a whopper, he wont starve" or my 3 yr old is less than him ... even doctors say something ...

i didnt think he was fat , but now im worried he is .... because he is constanly eating , but i think its a growth spurt combiend with walking that is making him hungry ... but so often i get comments on my lil man im starting to think i am "abusing" him by feeding him too much

he gets 2 full fat milk bottles a day , probably 400 mls , 600 mls all up if you inclue youghurt ...

so what do i feed him now ??? what does a 14mth eat ? other than what im giving him ???

im and sick of ppl telling me im doing something to make him big ... he is in a size 1 and it fits fine ....

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums.../size/big/cat/

Lea - he looks fine to me!!!!!! He might be just a "big boy" and that is normal for him. I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think, can't expect to please everyone!!!! I always have people pick Aricyn up and go.. woahhh.. he's so heavy... and he's just under 10kgs at nearly 12 months. He's been this weight for a few months now, but I don't see a problem with it? I don't see a problem with a 14 month old being 12 kilos, as long as he is getting around and not suffering for it and is a "normal" little boy (normal for him, not to anyone else's standards) I wouldn't be too concerned. Go with your gut. Do what you think is right for him, not right for anyone else. :-)

Oh for goodness sake, I just looked it up on our Child Health record (http://www.health.vic.gov.au/childhe...hart_boys3.htm) and according to the chart, he's just into the 75th percentile (or just over the 50th percentile).

So to me, that means he's just fine.

I've been worried about Pip, and found this site to be very helpful: http://www.health.vic.gov.au/nutriti....htm#tipsheets cause I'm scared of feeding him solids!

you're his mum, you know what happens, and provided he's not obese - and in that case your MCHN will have something to say about that! - then what other people think is immaterial.

Keep up the good work hun :hug:

ETA - just looked at the photo, he looks fine!!!!

Your son is just fine. I have twin boys and one is bigger than the other and has always been since birth. People would always comment on how Jordy must eat all Xaviers food when in actual fact Xavier was always and still is eating more than Jordy. Its just the way Jordy is and I tell him he is a hunk of spunk and I love him to death. Just tell everyone to get stuffed and mind there own business.

Oh please don't worry - he is fine.

I LOVE a big chubby baby, my gf has a very solid little boy, I love grabbing and squishing him. I can't get over how heavy he is.
I'd take it as a compliment, he is healthy and strong and that's what we all want!

My baby is around 10.5 kgs and he's only 7 months old. He was fully BFed till 6 months and now on only a few solids (he doesn't like food). Just rice cereal, potato, sweet potato and zucchini.

He's just a big boy and yeah, he looks fat, but he's just BFed most of the time so it's obvioulsy the way he's meant to look.

12kgs at 14 months sounds fine to me! At this rate, my baby will weigh a lot more than that at that age LOL. People always just have to comment :roll:

bah!! dnt listen to them lea he looks like a healthy little boy to me... Asha is 3mths now and she weighs almost 6kgs no one ever says she looks really big until i tell them how much she weighs ppl get fixated on numbers when if their healthy it really has nothing to do with it...
the dr did once comment that asha was a big girl but she is within her healthy weightrange so we dnt worry about it.. his diet sounds great dnt worry about it :)

he sounds like a healthy little boy to me.

My GFs girls were all 12-13 kilos at their 12 month checkups, well up there on the charts, and all of them by the time they were 3 are petite little girls.

I used to get the same with Alex as he was that weight at that age and now he's slimmed out with how active he is he now weighs 15.5kilos. I wouldn't worry about it. I know it's hard not to and it's upsetting when ppl say something but he's fine.

He doesnt look fat and as someone else pointed out, his weight is very normal for his age.
My bub is actually around 12 kg now and he is only 8 months old! He too isn't fat, he is just really tall. And as you say, he is eating a healthy diet. Kids shouldnt be on a calorie restrictive diet.

Also I think there is a difference between saying a bub is big and saying he is fat. Having a big healthy baby is something to be proud of and I am sure that is all they mean to say. :)

Oh, please don't doubt yourself! People say stupid things.
My DD is a fussy eater and is fairly small... She's getting better, but there have been times I've worried that she's not eating enough and/or whether she might get sick etc. How wonderful it would be to have a child that likes food and eating!
I think you must be doing a wonderful job feeding him those lovely nutritious fresh foods. He is a lucky boy to have such a caring mother. Keep up the good work :)

Dont worry, he looks great to me. my DD is 13months and weighs just over 11kgs, heaps of ppl call her chubby and say "oh u feed her well dont you?" but she has a great diet she only ever drinks water and loves her fruit and vegies. thats the way she is and shes healthy!

"why are they saying he is FAT".

Why? Because they are stupid. And because they have nothing better to do than run around comparing children and living their whole lives through their kids.

Sorry, I don't ever post in these parts, but I have been really annoyed since I first saw this post and I couldn't hold it in any longer. Tell them to get stuffed and mind their own business. And do not under any circumstances waste your energy on even thinking about it. Morons. I would support any decision to smack each and every one of them between the eyes.

In fact, next time someone asks about his weight, ask them how they came to be so stupid and nosey.

Sorry. Rant over.

thank you every one .... normally this wouldnt be so trival to me , but over xmas i got so many comments on him , i heard someone call him a little fattie at our family xmas party ...

i didnt think he was fat but i know he is a big boy , but i have been doubting it lately ... especially when i hear it so much about it ...

Slyder , thanks for your rant , it made sense that ppl are just being nosey and rude , and maybe i should ask them if their weight is right for thier age ....

Kazbah , thanks for the links .. i didnt realise he was only in the 75th percentile ... i thought he would be into the 90th ....

all this kinda hit me at about 4am when i was wide awake and thinking of everything , i thought back to when dh made a comment about his tummy .... how its so round he has to slightly bend over to see his feet ..... (it was cute... but then i started to worry)

Hun, ever since I was pregnant, people have commented on Caden's size. Now I get the "is he a six month old" (he is 11 weeks old) and "wow, he is as big as my 14 month old daughter". Instead of being worried, I offer them my paediatricians phone number, because if thats the case, they need the help more than I do with their undernourished bubs!

Even at such a young age, and even in the womb, they are already measured, labeled and compared. No wonder there is so much anorexia and eating disorders in our community.

Just be happy. He looks absolutely beautiful and is obviously thriving on such a healthy diet. Even the occasional snack wouldn't hurt anyway, so dont' stress. I was soooo chubby as a bub, and have turned out pretty good. So have most of my friends.

Good luck babe!

I got the same comments about my ds even though his weight was always on par with his height according to the percentile charts (always around 98th for both.)

When he was 7 months old I actually had a paediatrition in the Childrens hospital say "this is where obese toddlers come from" to a group of students he was trying to impress. I took great offense and picked him up on it and embarrased him!

He looks gorgeous and healthy to me.
I wouldn't listen a word that people are saying. If he's eating healthy food and getting adequate oppurtunity to move and excercise then he's growing exactly as he should.
You're doing a great job - don't doubt yourself.

You poor buggers. I don't know how you tolerate such rudeness about your kids. I advocate inflicting pain on all future people who offend you.

When we eventually get there, I'm going to carry a massive stick and fight off the rude hordes.

Oh Hon, I totally sympathise. My "Hefalefalump" is constantly commented on - yet she is perfectly in proportion for her height and weight... she is just taller than average for her age.
If it makes you feel any better, a friend from Mother's Group has a boy the same age as my DD (who is a little over 10 months) and he weights apporox 13Kg already - and he is mostly BB fed. He has always been a big boy and started solids late. He is just meant to be that way.
If you feel the need to retaliate, an old high school comment pops to mind "Yes, but he can do something about his weight, what can you do about your ugliness?" ;)

MG

I believe every child is different. My baby is 15 weeks and is over 7.5kgs. He is fully breastfed and is a healthy happy little man.

You little man is not fat at all lea! Dont listen to them.

First of all, my niece is easily 12 kg and is 13 months old - she weighs about as much, or a bit more, than my DS who is 18 months. They are such different kids - she's not walking yet and DS was walking at 10 months. DS still has breastmilk as a large part of his diet, she doesn't, but still is BF'd. Neither of us care where our kids sit on the charts!
Really, you know your child is doing well, so it's a matter of training yourself to deflect the comments of these eejits :)

Hun, don't worry about it - Nixon is adorable and looks like a healthy bubba! The kids at your mothers' group are probably all malnourished from all of the crap that they eat LOL!

I have been getting the opposite - in that Euan's apparently not putting on enough weight. One MCHN will say it's fine, the next will say 'you've got to build up your supply'. Can't win, can you...

Your little man is gorgeous, and is fine.

Some people just can't live without commenting on something.... You're doing a great job, and he's certainly not fat.

Nixon is just gorgeous, and he's obviously having a healthy, varied diet. Anyone who says he is fat needs to mind their own business.

Jambin was 10kgs at 8 months old. He is sitting pretty much on the 75th percentile, same as Nixon. Those charts represent NORMAL children. Someone has to make up the top and bottom percentiles. Not everybody can sit cleanly on the 50th percentile.

My friend has a "fat" lad, he's 11m now and eats everything. He's the same size as his big brother, 18m older than him. But he's developmentally fine, he's not so fat he can't crawl or cruise (a worry before he did start crawling!), he's just hungry. But he sleeps through, so you can't complain!

DS is on the skinny side, he is a picky eater though, doesn't sleep well and is always on the go. Even jumping about in the baby carrier or my arms. Both boys are fine. Some babies are just bigger than others. You'd get comments the other way if he lost weight.

There is nothing wrong with Nixon if he's developmentally fine (which I believe he is). The time to worry about weight gain is when you have finished growing (generally, there are execptions) but not as a baby or a toddler. What crazy society thinks we should put a baby on a diet?

Very well said there Caryn!

um thats what my first son weighed at 1... they lose the weight when they start shooting up :)

by the way my first son is now 50% for weight and 75 for height now

I don't get why people would even comment on such a young childs weight..

nixon was crawling at 5.5 months and when he was 10 mths ppl said hes not walking coz hes too big !! but he walked at 13mths and is very mentally sharp .... in my eyes (with out the doubts) there is nothing wrong with nixon ... and i feel for anyone who has a fat or skinny baby ... it is a sad world when women (and men) are extremly image concious that we have to bring the purely innocent in to it ... and then play on mothers minds an evil game that we can never be good enough if they are too fat or too thin !

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Because people today are so obsessed with weight that they will even make perfectly normal and healthy children out to be fat!!

DD1 was in a similar weight range at that age and DD2 is looking to be even bigger, she is just on 4 months and only fits into size 0!! (and she is exclusively breastfed - and i am sick to death of hearing "isn't she big!!")

Ask them how much they weigh - I find it usually shuts them up!!

*puts on helmet*

But I love fat babies soooooo much! I love those rolls, I love it when it looks like they have little rubber bands all the way down their little arms, and of course chunky cheeks!
Belle's nickname at one stage was Sarah Lee (layer upon layer upon layer) and Beth had such cankles she needed wider socks.
I love watching babies stuffing food into their little mouths and getting it everywhere, I usually comment when I see another little one earnestly attacking their lunch or if they are a boom-ba. I never mean it negatively, and when I say "wow you sure feed him well" it's a compliment, and it's always taken as such.

So please think of chubba-bubba lovers like me when you hear a comment like that, but if you really think they mean it in some sort of weird, sick, baby needs a DIET rubbish - get the stick out, I'll back you up.

totalfrog: Do you get the... what do you feed him/her bricks?? Gawd that drove me nuts

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Yep I am starting to loathe that one. I am also constantly amazed that people do not believe me when I tell them that she is 100% BF'd. I have come to the conclusion that the majority of the population, present company excluded (of course), are morons :wall:.

I get similar commetns about Sari. She is 10.5 months and weight 10.5 kgs ha ha plus she is in size 1. I think she is beautiful as is all healthy chubby yummy babies, its how they should be!

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Yep I am starting to loathe that one. I am also constantly amazed that people do not believe me when I tell them that she is 100% BF'd. I have come to the conclusion that the majority of the population, present company excluded (of course), are morons :wall:.

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:lol: I think I agree

Lea, a mummy in my mothers group has an 10 month old boy who is 12 kg. Nixon looks like a healthy happy boy and he doesnt look overly big at all - he looks just right. I dont think you have anything to worry about, and as you said it is all healthy foods that he eats. People just like to make dumb comments. Remember too that boys tend to be bigger than girls anyway. Theyre probably just comparing Nixon to their own or other babies. Or they just dont know anything at all about babies so they are just talking out of their bums trying to make themselves look like they know heaps.

Claire is 10 months and weighs just on 7 kg, and I get the opposite from people: "oh she's very small for her age isnt she? Does she eat? You need to feed her more!" and some lovely person had the nerve to say: "Oh, she looks underweight. You shouldnt starve her." People keep telling me to put her on formula to fatten her up. Something they dont consider is that I am also small, so I guess she just takes after me. BUT I know she is healthy, she eats only healthy natural foods and she just doesnt stop moving so I suppose she burns alot of energy. She isnt developmentally delayed in any way that we've noticed... I know she is on the other end of the scale, but I do know wht you mean and how frustrating it is when people mke comments abouts bubs size.

I always tell people just what Cherie said - you need big and small to make an average.

seriously, he looks great so dont stress out.

Don't listen to these people, they obviously have nothing better to talk about.

My DD3 was a chubba bubba just like some are meant to be, and she is now quite muscular with hardly any fat on her. You would rather him eat anything than be fussy like my DD2 and hardly eat a thing.

You are doing a great job and just ignore them.

Everyone tells me how big the 'little' girls in my family are, too.

Zoe is 8 and over the 95th percentile. This also corresponds with her height.

Skaja weighed 11.1kg at 12 months. She's a veggo bubba and doesn't drink cows milk, so I know that it's just how she is.

As long as he's healthy and happy, who the heck cares???

He looks gorgeous!!!

pfft! He is not fat! My DS is also 14 months old and he weighs around 14kgs. He's a tall solid boy. Nearly as tall as his big sister who is 3! I think he has more muscle than fat to be honest. He has these massive theighs and buff arms. It almost looks like he goes to the gym everyday lol!

I never thought he was fat! Don't children have a stage like that? Look at Kianna-Lee, the instant she started walking, she fell into proportion. He looks great now!

Pfft to those rude people i say!

Nixon is NOT fat or OVERWEIGHT! You're doing a great job, dont listen to what others think they know about your son.
He is absolutely gorgeous!!