Partners view on DTD while Pg

WARNING PROBABLY TMI!!!

I've heard of men going a little off sex while their wife/partner is pregnant. I've heard of men complying with whatever the partner wants but my partner, literally, all of a sudden.... how do I say it..... has become a kinky, horny sex machine who wants it all day every day!!!!

I've even heard of pg females geting this way during the second trimester but the partner????

It was about 5 or 6 weeks where I didn't want him to touch me at all, I was too dizzy and sick to want to DTD but things have been back to normal for quite awhile now. In the last 2 weeks he has been talking about wanting to do all these different .... semi-outhere things. We work for the same company, separate offices in the same building and if I get one more IM to 'be in my office in 10' I think I'm going to throttle him. It's not that I don't want to but there is only so long I can listen to him talk about it and only so many times I can do it. I don't want to seem disinterested because I'm not. In fact the change is good.... but just not so extreme!!!

I understand he thinks being pg is sexy. I understand because I am more confident nude then I was before, I think I look better pg!! But this is just OTT.

He would never push me to do anything and I don't feel pressured at all, he has just told me about them, I just find it..... interesting to see how he has changed in that aspect and wondered if it happened to others.

hi smudgie!

Well we were DTD i would say every 1-2 days especially in 2nd trimester!
DH loved it and i was much more into it when preg with all the hormones racing!

The only time DH didnt want to is from about 36 weeks when i was having shows! lol.... didnt want to go where that came out! hA!

I would say it is normal and hey go for it!

:lol:My husband is like that normally but since i've been pregnant he's been even more crazed than usual.I actually didn't think it was possible for him to have a bigger sex drive but apparently it is:lol:
I can empathise with u ,i really can.It can b frustrating & start to get annoying when they never leave u alone:rolleyes:
Try & talk to him about it if u can ,just say what u have said here ie: that it's not that u don't want to & it's great but..... & come to a comprimise ,other wise u will end up feeling frustrated & upset that he wont let up .Just making a suggestion based on personal experience:)

BTW I'm talking about dtd every 1 to 2 days but maybe twice on that day & he still wants more (in the office, on the beach, in the car, at the movies, whereever he can think of which has been unlike him previously)...... I think its fair to say, it hurts after awhile :lol:

As I got bigger the more scared DP became! He was scared bub would get hurt or something.

Maybe he wants to get his 'experimentation' out of the way before bub arrives? He might be worried that being parents will change your time and sex drive?? Or he just thinks you're the hottest thing on earth!!! :lol:

You guys are lucky!! Just when I've never felt so attractive, DH seems to think the opposite. Was the same in my first pregnancy too! Rather frustrating.

I have to go with some of the other girls smudgie. I think DH is scared of me at the mom, and there is still a long way to go. We have always had a great sex life, but now, not so. It disappoints me a bit because im worried DH isnt attracted to me so much now im big. But i think he is just scared.
Sounds like you have one horny man!!! Ha, i have no idea how you are going to slow him down! Try enjoy the fun :) its going to be much harder after bubba arrives!
Mel

DH used to worry that he'd hurt the baby too :rolleyes: I had to re-assure him that he wasn't packing a dangerous weapon down there rofl.

:lol: That's funny Dachlostar:D
Btw Smudgies mum,i'm hearing u hun,like i said my DH is like that normally except he wouldn't wait for 2 days,he wants it every day,everywhere ,all the time!
Sometimes it's just like:rolleyes: again!! He says i should b pleased he finds me so attractive:rolleyes::lol:

My partner ALWAYS wants to DTD and honestly i have not got the energy. If i have energy he is lucky but normally i ask him if i can massage him instead.. (his back nothing kinky!!).. Then when i am almost asleep he asks me again. He counts the days inbetween, Apparantly its up to 8 (my bad) but i am so exhausted even thinking about it makes me more tired.
He understands and promptly goes to sleep. Mind you it is now 8.10am and i have been up since before 5am, he is still in bed. No wonder i am so tired!

Dp has always been liek this if he didnt get it for like a day he would be sooking.
i have not had the 2nd trimester erge liek everyone and books have said. TMI alert.
Everytime dp comes near me i am that constipated or need to fart and a few times we have dtd i have been liek just hurry up cause i dont wanna fart lol.
he is startin to just give up cause he is sick of being turned down i feel really bad but i cant do anythign about it.

My poor DP never go anything when we found out I was pg with DD. For 7 months he was on his own. I had a stitch in my cervix and didnt want to do anything that would jeopardise the pg.

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You guys are lucky!! Just when I've never felt so attractive, DH seems to think the opposite.

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Same. Although he has said it's not that he finds me unattractive it's more that his paternal feelings of protectiveness are extending to me and the baby and he had trouble feeling 'sexy' thoughts.

So after me being tired and ill in the first trimester, then me being super horny and him not into it the second trimester... I'm now in the third trimester and he's come around after seeing how much it hurt me but now it doesn't feel good to me anymore! *sigh* Needless to say we haven't DTD much during this pregnancy :lol:

Ren - my DH may well have the same feelings as yours, but he has been either unable or unwilling to articulate what exactly the issue is. Last time round I tried to persuade him to DTD when I was a week overdue, to bring on labour, and he declined (not that I felt like it either, so I was secretly relieved!). Oh well, at least he's not the only one...

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Ren - my DH may well have the same feelings as yours, but he has been either unable or unwilling to articulate what exactly the issue is.

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Oh, that's my articulation for him- after many conversations and working it out :lol: It wasn't worry about hurting the baby or finding me unattractive and then we finally worked it out. I can respect that but it was hard sometimes when I'm feeling so sexy but getting naught in the bedroom.

:cryinglaugh: Dachlostar & Sassy!!!!

I don't mean to be ungrateful, so (TMI ALERT BUT HILARIOUS TOO) on Friday night I got home dtd, Saturday I sat on an icepack for an hour so once again we could dtd, Sunday I did the same thing.

I got home from work last night and was feeling a bit antsy - surprisingly, after all the deed doing on the weekend and OMG DP didn't want to do it..... the reply I got was 'I can't, I'm scared it will fall off' (I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING)

How the tables have turned :lol:..... he has chafe rash now on.... well I'm sure you can imagine. I might actually get a full nights rest this week and get some work done too. Come the weekend I'll be back in full swing roaring and ready to go, and I am sure by then he will have made a full recovery.

You girls are making me cack myself here!!!
I have the opposite problem here. This baby is the result of 10years trying and DH just feels (I am guessing) too protective towards me and the baby to DTD. I am not kidding, we have done it twice in the whole time. Once about half way through the pregnancy when I kept at him for a while, and once recently to try to bring labour on. I was feeling as though he just didnt find me attractive when I am at my most confident about my body, like ever. I eventually worked it out that it isnt about him not liking my shape at all, just not wanting to jeapardise things. I am not unhappy with the situation though as we never had a super active sex life in recent years anyhow (result of TTC for so long I think) and I just never got that second tri urge either.
Good luck girls, dont wear your bits out!!!!!

Pah. DH found me fat and ugly during pregnancy and wanted nothing to do with me. I'd have been happy with a daily jumping!

ROFL everyone - great thread. My DH is with the "give it to me crowd". I am in the "please leave me alone" group . I don't seem to have gotten any kind of 2nd tri urge... poor DH!

DP is scared of hurting the bubs.. we have had 2 m/c in the last 2 yrs.. i think its cute..

But tonight!! Hes all mine! lol


He says his sex drive has increased but he doesnt want to hurt bubs

My DP and I are polar opposites when it comes to libido - his is preposterously high and mine is virtually non-existent, although every now and again I go off like a frog in a sock and DP rejoices... The funny thing is that we are both quite 'adventurous' in terms of our proclivities (for want of a better phrase), it's just that I rarely have the urge. Pain during sex issues have a bit to do with that for me though so we have to be creative!

The last time we DTD was two days before I went into labour, and I can't remember how long before that. Although since Euan was born he hasn't gone completely neglected, wink wink, nudge nudge...

LOL - I couldn't keep my hands off DW. I think she's uber-sexy when she's pregnant, I love her pregnant figure. And I think there is also a teensy element of "get it while you can" syndrome as well.

When I was PG with DD I wanted it a few times a day every day, poor DH was trying to fight me off,lol.

In the last tri DH would get scared that we were going to hurt the baby.

This time round we havnt DTD since I found out I was PG abit before 4 weeks.

Well we have had a turn around... up til now DH has been hungry all the time and me in the leave me alone for god's sake group... BUT now that I am getting a bit peckish... he says... noooooo your about to pop, it's not right... the baby the baby!!!

There goes my chances of bringing on labour with DTD!!!!

Dh and I are lucky to DTD once a month atm and lately, it's been me giving him pleasure and me missing out because he's too tired to actually do anything much or his back is sore (from sleeping. He's not the most fit guy. Infact he's very unfit and he's put on weight which has affected his libido I think). I know he finds me sexy. I only have to snuggle up to him and he has a raging well u know. But with two toddlers, work, renos, car shopping and all in the heat, he just runs out of energy. Where as I have a HIGH libido. Very high. Always. Pg or not. It's frustrating. Even when we are fooling around, he suggests I get my "toy" out. Problem is, It's not as good, it's not the same and It doesn't bring the closeness. I've been feeling a little neglected *sigh*. Also, it's kinda hard to DTD when I have a huge belly and he's got a big one too. Logistically, it's just tooooo hard to do. I also get asthma when pg and DTD has resulted in him almost having to call 000 a few times during this and past pgcies. So maybe he's just scared of that??
Anyway, I'm envious of ur sex life. Hehehe
I'd be taking it while u can get it cause once bub is here, the opportunities go down steadily. Hehehe

My DF's libido has not changed during this pregnancy (he always wants it) - mine has. I'm often too tired or I feel uncomfortable. Many a time I've given in to him as I don't want to deprive him and I find I enjoy myself but am completely stuffed afterwards. I just had an amnio today so we will be avoiding any action for a few days just to make sure all settles.

Hi everyone... I posted a thread similar to this little while ago... My DP was willing to jump me anywhere anytime.... it drove me insane.... posted a thread for help on how to slow him down or at least help out... Not sure what make men do these things... its not like there hormones are going crazy...

If we dont DTD every 1-2 days he exagerates and says its been weeks..... He wants it at the most inappropriate times... the kinkier the better... (sorry TMI)
At a GP appointment my GP actually brought it up he was talking bout how they have 3 kids now so while i'm preg make time etc... he was like going on bout you could go hard at it and as he put it "thrash it" and still not hurt the bubs.... since then my DP saw that as a green light... now the MS is gone i dont have any excuse anymore... i say i'm tired and he says "i work 7 days and still want it, i'm sure you can manage it"

I guess when we dont get it we feel like self conscience bout the reasons why and when we get too much we still arent happy.... i'd say though i'd rather be pestered to DTD then have to beg for it...