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I wanted to know how many people on here have been survivers of cancer?
How many of you have had a scare with cancer and it's turned out to be ok?
How did you stop thinking about it 24/7?
Most of you know "and care" where I am at with this and I am looking for other life stories!
Good and the bad are fine, I just want to know how you coped with it!!!!
Soul - my godfather had lymph cancer - he so bad he was told he would have about 6 months. He got soooo sick, he lost so much weight he was like a skeleton.
Well, its about 15 years later and he is stronger than ever, with 2 beautiful kids!!!!
My half brothers step mum had breast cancer - and lived for another 20 years.
My best friends dad had bowel cancer - and got over that.
Sending you lots of strength, and big hugs
Soul, I can't offer you much advice other than a huge hug for you and to know you are in my thoughts and prayers but also to let you know that my mother had skin cancer and breast cancer (both of which were caught early before spreading) and is fine and my dad had aggressive prostate cancer and is now as healthy as can be (cancer wise that is) - so yes they have both beaten cancer. I also have a friend who had ovarian cancer who is also now fighting fit. Again huge hugs for you but just wanted to let you know there are people who have received appropriate treatments and are now fighting fit.
catrion wow they are amazing people! It surely wasn't their time hey!
jaspen, more great heart warming stories!
Sadly my loved ones being my nan and pop both died from cancer so i haven't any good experiences of the disease yet.
Sometimes I am glad cancer has not got a tongue, although there are tongues that are just as diseased as the disease itself!
I am more scared of what they are going to have to cut away in my mouth!
Hi Soul
I would be happy to talk with you at any time, however I am not sure if I have beaten cancer yet but my last scan was looking good. I will have a better idea after the 24th when I have another appointment with my oncologist. I have put on 20kg in 4 months so not everyone looses weight.
Soul - its def not your time baby, you seem way too full of life!
my nanna had bowel cancer.. she had part of it removed now 8 years later she is great!! she is 83 and still works at her local vinnys;)!!
my aunty had melonomas and had them removed but sadly she has been told she may have bone cancer:(!! going thru all the tests now and i hope she dosent!!
big hugs soul!!:hug:
Oh Alan I get tears just thinking about what you have been through, your definately a inspiration to many if not all of us!
I get the feeling I won't be around here much longer, the forum I mean , so will pm you my addy and would like to hear your journey.
catrion, I hope so, I really do?
soul,
my MIL was diagnosed with breast cancer and the dignity with which she conducted herself was an amazing thing to watch. Everytime I saw how brave and strong she was, I was moved more than I can describe. She does not have a husband or partner, just my DH as far as family goes, yet never once complained, never once seemed to feel sorry for herself, and never once made any of us feel like she was a burden.
And guess what? She had an op which removed the lump, and she had radiation therapy. It's been a few years now and she is feeling great. So there is hope, despite the fear of the unknown. Look after yourself.
My FIL had a 20 year battle with cancer.
It begun in his kidney, then he had 2 brain tumours.
He was a fighter that's for sure.
soul, my aunty discovered she had cancer in her nasal passage about 7 years ago, she went through alot of chemo and radiation and a bit of surgery, (none of the surgery effected the way she looked physically)She did spend a bit of time in hospital and she now has to have constant checks as they had fears it would spread etc, but the cancer is now stagnet(or not growing) and she has been in remission for a bout 18 months.
xoxox
I understand how your MIL felt, my hubbie and family have no idea how its starting to scare me. I wear my brave mask not to scare my babies, I wear a mask daily not to scare my hubbie, I wear a mask constantly just so my loved ones believe that I believe it's all fine!
Sushee, your description of you MIL is inspirational. It's amazing how some people can face adversity with dignity and courage and still think of others when they could be excused for focusing on themselves.
I guess it would look much better for me not to talk about it, but I can't talk about it with my family.
I too have had relatives who have survived cancer. I've also had a scare before with having a lump in my breast, luckily my biopsy came back clear, and I hope the same is for you. Gooduck!
Thanks cailin for your words to me. Oh I had no idea you had a scare too. Well God must have needed you here, for your babes too!
Anyway, I think I have talked about it enough, I am sorry for looking like a sook, I am just "Petrified"!
It's my daughters birthday tomorrow need to concentrate on her special day!!
I think its very understandable to be upset. Not something I'd wish on anyone, I hope the time goes quickly between now and when you find out, and I hope its nothing but good news. I hope tomorrow goes well for your daughter!
Half my mouth is being cut away regardless of what the lump is, and that alone is scary. I shouldn't whine though as there is worse of than me right! I don't want to look selfish now!
Cailin, once again thank you!
soul, i was diagnosed with Non Hodgkins lymphoma just over 2 years ago - 3 months after i was married!!!! cancer is a horrid thing to be diagnosed with and i hated almost every step of my life for almost a year!!!
i had 6 months of chemo which started as soon as i was diagnosed - and i had almost 4 months of tests (extremely painful procedures) and an operation to find out what my "lump" was!!
i got through it my staying positive and cheeful - well on the outside - i had the whole brave face thing too!!
the night my hair started falling out i completely lost the plot and wanted to give up = and had more dayd like that!!
i ahd to go on medication to put me inot early menopause so that i still could have a chance of havign children. i also developed a condition called neutropenia in which i had to haev a needle adminsited by my DH every second week (after chemo) which made every bone in my body hurt so bad that i woud cry if i was cuddled - so i pulled back into myself - buti realised that i would never get thru it if i didnt have a positive attitude and stayed as happy as i could!!
yes there are very hard days that i felt liek crawling into a corner and cry - so i did - then i was better and could regain my strength and continue fighting!!
to this day i am abotu 26 months clear - and wil have a scan after i have my little miracle.
i continue to need scans every 3 months - and will have scans for as long as i live to make sure it has gone and stays that way!!
i send you all the strengt that you need - but its ok to haev mini melt downs - they enable you to stay grounded and regroup to continue the fight!!!
please contact me if you need i am more than happy to help if you need - even if its a shoulder to sook on!!!
i always have it in the back of my mind i catch myself feeling my neck where my lump was removed.. thats human nature - it also lets me know what i have to be thankful for!
you sound like a very strong person - keep your strength!!
youll get thru it!!
Lisabear, will do, will do! I really seem to be making myself look quite selfish on here with speaking about it as you can see lol, I get all nervous before we even know the verdict. I do know though that they have to cut alot of area just to get to it, thats a fact! so will pm you and pick your brains on it.
By the way, whoo hoo for a beautiful baby about to enter the world!!!
Soul, I don't think you are looking selfish at all! You are in a place right now that is downright scary and terrifying and you are allowed to be scared and think out loud, it's only to human to wonder about the "what if's".
I know I was lucky with my breast lump when it was removed, but I was terrified all the same. I put my op off for almost 18 months, I just didn't want to know anything, I was absolutely $hit scared of leaving my beautiful 18 month old girl.
I didn't tell DH how I was feeling, I was trying not to be too melodramatic and all that.
No matter how bad things are, I think there will always genuinely be people who are 'worse off' than us. You're allowed to feel selfish and feel like 'poor me', because without those low moments, I believe you can't have and truly appreciate the highs.
Thinking of you soul..hugest hugs..
Nic
Thats exactly how it feels nic!
Wow the members of BB sure do have words of wisdom and love for others!
Only giving back what you have given yourself so many time soul :)
Nic
Having a lump is very scary. I have had breast lumps & the first one was the scariest. I had an u/s and a needle biopsy to see and luckily it wasn't cancer. But the time between finding the lump & the final diagnosis was so hard.
I hope that you can have a good day tomorrow with your DD & not worry too much. Stay positive.
Chloe, just wanted to add that my MIL is one of the strongest women I know. The only thing I've ever heard her complain about is that her hair hasn't grown back as thick as before the radiotherapy. Lol! I know how distressed DH was to find out that his mother was ill, and I know it was on her mind as she got her will in order, but to look at her you'd never know it. She was strong for her son at a time when it probably should have been the other way around. I wish she'd talked about how she was feeling more, but she was just incredibly selfless - Charlie was only a few months old and she wanted to celebrate life, not mourn it. Thinking about her at that time makes me puddle up all the time.
Sorry soul it's a little OT but I had to share.
PM away!!!
i went into my appt the week after surgery so scared that i couldnt sit still - i was shakign and all gittery, i was thinking the worst from the very beginning!!! everybody around me kept saying dont worry dont worry - but how can you not? with cancer so prevalent in our society how can you not think it!!
all you need to focus on it the light in your heart and yes, accpet that you may have beent hrown a curve ball, but its for a reason!!
surgery is so scary but you know what - you need it to figure out whats going on.
and thanks!! im scared about becoming a mum, but my dh and i havebeen thru cancer, we can do this parenting thing :)
christy, exactly!!!!!!!!!!!! SO TRUE!!
It's ok sushee you can go of topic! Thanks for pointing out what a strong mil you have!
My doc told me to talk about it as its unhealthy to let it eat at me. Shoudn't bottle up all my emotions I guess, if I am worried then I am worried and have plenty of support so why not use it. I am not going to be a martye just so I don't upset my family. This is a journey we are all taking so they need to hear me talk about it. Thanks girls who have said talk about it, you right its a lot healthier to get my feelings out than hold it all in just to save my hubbies feelings. Its me goin through this scare more so than him. So we will talk tonight him and I!
I sat here feeling so bad for sharing and there were some words that made me think I am being weak talking about it, but after a long hard think about it, I should not feel guilt for wanting to let my family in, they need to see I am only human and do suffer and have emotions too. I don't ask of them for anything, just to listen. I don't think I am asking for to much.
Hey Soul - my aunty had ovarian cancer and she has been clear for a couple of years now.
Something I wanted to mention - I have weekly acupuncture for fertility stuff, but the guy I see also specialises in cancer-related treatment. We were discussing this one day as a work colleague's sister had just been diagnosed with breast cancer and I wanted to know if he did cancer-related stuff.
He told me that he did, and in the case of having cancers removed, having acupuncture and chinese herbs prior to as well as after the op can be beneficial, as well as during stuff like radiotherapy etc.
Sending you big hugs and happy thoughts xo
Oh soul,
I hope I didn't make you feel like you were weak. Everyone copes with these things in different ways, and you have to embrace what feels right for you.